"Hello Lola. I really like your posts on Nairaland and I have also joined your forum. Please I am 20 and a virgin. I have had several opportunities to have sex but am always afraid I will fail because I don't know how to start. Please I will be so happy if you can give me some sexual advice for someone who have no experience about sex. Thank You"
~Anonymous. 20, Oshogbo.

No 1. you are supposed to ask the question on my forum.... but that doesn't mean anything.... am not jealous... smiles..
No2. Its great you ask on Nairaland so that other gallant intelligent highly experienced Nairalanders can contribute also.
No.3. Am supposed to email this to you... but it might benefit someone here also.

So let me start by saying that the following are just my opinions and they are subjected to corrections and adjustments. But am damn so sure that after reading through, you won't bother about corrections or adjustments. So how do you have sex for the first time and make it memorable? here is my advice for the inexperience among men in this sexual game.

Some men subscribe to the theory that intercourse is meant for her pleasure. Our pleasure is guaranteed and comes of its own accord. Besides, we are simple, we have less erogenous zones and the only real form of pleasure is the orgasm, which is short and intense. Many men would not agree with these words, but most of them are true. The main pleasure a man derives from sex is contributing to her pleasure. But why does it have to be so complicated?

Many people learn about sex from their friends. The latter are all excellent lovers and know everything - in the company of men only and with the help of alcohol. The short tips they give you are usually correct, but sometimes things are more difficult to perform than they are described. Let us then take a look at some tips for the inexperienced. I will add a short comment to each trick.

”Blow in her ear ...“
This is a classical piece of advice for the inexperienced that often goes wrong in practice. The ears are very sensitive and blowing too strongly can be really disrupting. If you make sounds to go with this, you have ruined your girl’s enjoyment. Take a blow-dryer and put it to your ear. Turn it on and try to masturbate. I think you get the picture. Blowing into a woman’s ear must be handled gently, only with warm breath and not directly into her auditory passage. She may like it, but it does not work with everyone.

”Grab her boobs ... They really like it!“.. yeah.. we like it
Women really like to have their breasts fondled, but the inexperienced have the wrong picture of this. It is not about grabbing and squeezing, but petting. Especially young girls and pre-menstrual women are very sensitive to touch. So we do not knead them like dough. We do not shake them and bounce them here and there. We always treat them with one thought in mind – my child will feed here. Try to imagine it for a moment and never again will you grab a pair of breasts like a wild animal.

”I just put my hand in her panties and she was completely wet ...“
This can actually be true, except that your friend mixed up the reason and consequence. The girl was already wet because she was aroused and wanted to do it. The hand had nothing to do with it. The inexperienced should know that getting a hand through half-unzipped trousers, especially tight jeans, is not the most pleasant thing for a girl. It takes a lot of expertise to do something in such an awkward situation. If she really wants to shag, it will be better than nothing, if you cannot take her pants off for other reasons. Besides stretching her underwear, pushing the thong into her ass, pulling out some of her pubic hair and your fingers smelling nicely, you won't accomplish much.

Find the right spot, gently help her take her trousers off and then begin the finger action. Most women love freedom during intercourse. With men, it is enough to open their zipper, take it out and we come. Women feel the constriction of their clothes psychologically as well. If you did not take enough time to UnCloth her or help her to do it, this shows her you are impatient and want only your own gratification. This makes women feel used, which is one of the worst feelings for a woman!


let me stop here and allow others to contribute............

Also.... If you love the person, it will flow automatically. Just follow your instincts. That will work if you are in love with the person.... If u grab some girl on the street or you grab your Landlord daughter for test run..... instinct might not work.

hmmm


am still a virgin so i av nothin to contribute here to learm


were dem smellymouth ikpi hungerbad nd co

From me, it is flee from fornication.

Get married and have all the sex you want inside your marriage.. Decide to be pure and chaste. Even if you don't believe in God, benevolent forces more powerful than you would want to be close to you.

Illicit sex glorifies the devil. Bear in mind that sex is the strongest instrument of manipulation.

Let it flow naturally. Don't be in a haste to imitate what you see in porn. Remember that they are experienced and you're not. Most first-time guys love to try out what they see in porn movies or styles they like. Its cool, but most of those moves require a certain level of experience so don't bother trying out the "wheelbarrow" if you know you're a first timer.


And also, make sure she's very comfy. You lead and she follows so dont even let her sense a stint of shyness in you. If its possible, ündress yourself before she does. It helps to get her settled, erase her shyness and also turn her on at the same time.

falconey:


GLORY!

Yes bawse!!

Most of the time, a first time sex for the "inexperienced" can be quite frustrating and less smooth but it will get better with time.
Anxiety to perform up to par, usually comes to play but if one is able to douse such anxiety then the sex will not get too clumsy.
I should discourage you guys to take all those sexual enhancer drinks like alomo and the likes, those stuffs are killing. A good diet and regular exercise and not forgetting reducing stress levels will surely go a long way in making any man perform optimally.
Please and please forget what you watch in porn videos, sex in reality can be quite messy with sweats, bodily fluids, vaginal fluids and the likes. Don't pressurise your woman to assume unimaginable positions all in the name of sex. Most nigerian women are not flexible enough for that.

You will have muscular cramps every now and then so always try to keep fit to reduce this.

Masonic:
Let it flow naturally. Don't be in a haste to imitate what you see in porn. Remember that they are experienced and you're not. Most first-time guys love to try out what they see in porn movies or styles they like. Its cool, but most of those moves require a certain level of experience so don't bother trying out the "wheelbarrow" if you know you're a first timer.


And also, make sure she's very comfy. You lead and she follows so dont even let her sense a stint of shyness in you. If its possible, ündress yourself before she does. It helps to get her settled, erase her shyness and also turn her on at the same time.

Gbam!!

PRISTINEMUSCLES:
Most of the time, a first time sex for the "inexperienced" can be quite frustrating and less smooth but it will get better with time.
Anxiety to perform up to par, usually comes to play but if one is able to douse such anxiety then the sex will not get too clumsy.
I should discourage you guys to take all those sexual enhancer drinks like alomo and the likes, those stuffs are killing. A good diet and regular exercise and not forgetting reducing stress levels will surely go a long way in making any man perform optimally.
Please and please forget what you watch in porn videos, sex in reality can be quite messy with sweats, bodily fluids, vaginal fluids and the likes. Don't pressurise your woman to assume unimaginable positions all in the name of sex. Most nigerian women are not flexible enough for that.

You will have muscular cramps every now and then so always try to keep fit to reduce this.

Thanks.... This is worth a Million Dollar

Masonic:
Let it flow naturally. Don't be in a haste to imitate what you see in porn. Remember that they are experienced and you're not. Most first-time guys love to try out what they see in porn movies or styles they like. Its cool, but most of those moves require a certain level of experience so don't bother trying out the "wheelbarrow" if you know you're a first timer.


And also, make sure she's very comfy. You lead and she follows so dont even let her sense a stint of shyness in you. If its possible, ündress yourself before she does. It helps to get her settled, erase her shyness and also turn her on at the same time.

Thanks..... I know there are experts here..... This advice worth more than Gold

Fidelismaria:
hmmm


am still a virgin so i av nothin to contribute here to learm


were dem smellymouth ikpi hungerbad nd co

Virgin.... I sight you

lola024:


Thanks..... I know there are experts here..... This advice worth more than Gold

I'm still learning..
Thanks

Masonic:


I'm still learning..
Thanks

Even Mark Zuckerberg will say his still learning

lola024:


Even Mark Zuckerberg will say his still learning

Of course he is.. He's a geek, remember?