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4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by dammieowot1: 8:32am On Jan 06, 2017
Women are excellent at getting shit done. And one of the most effective ways that we’ve learned to accomplish our goals is by manipulating men into doing what we need them to do. If you want to appreciate the full strategic power of the female will, here are 4 ways that women subtly control men without the men ever realizing it…


1. Women treat men like children.

Do men sometimes act like children? Totally. But that doesn’t mean that women should reinforce that behavior by pandering to it. When a woman reacts to a grown man like he’s a seven year old, she might feel frustrated, but, in reality, she’s trying to force his hand or force the outcome that she wants.

If a woman can’t trust her man enough to let him do the grocery shopping or fold the laundry, it’s not that he CAN’T do it. (He’s a grown-up. He can.) She just wants those tasks done EXACTLY how she wants.

So rather than just leaving him to his own devices, she steps in, which, ultimately, makes more work for her and reinforces the guy’s suspicions that he can’t even accomplish basic tasks on his own.

The woman controls the situation, but prevents it from ever improving. It’s a vicious circle. Women need to realize that four of the most controlling words we can say are “I’ll just do it.”

2. Women get QUIET.

Women are ninja masters at this. If a man is frustrated and wants you to do something, normally, he’s going to just come out and say it. He might yell, he might whine, but, however he does it, men often have a hard time keeping their inner desires INSIDE. They want them to be expressed so they express them in the bluntest way possible.

Women, on the other hand, take a different — and probably WAY more effective — approach. We go silent. We stop talking. We get distant.

Women will often justify those cold silences by saying “I needed some time” or “I was processing things,” but, by refusing to engage, it leaves our men thinking “WHAT? What did I do?”

Those silences can get so uncomfortable that men quickly will do almost anything to end them. “Do you want me to admit I’m wrong? Change my shirt? Start going to the gym more? SAY SOMETHING!”

By refusing to express what we want, women make men almost desperate to comply with our wishes, if it will only mean that the silent treatment will end. It involves next to no talking and it’s staggeringly effective.

3. Women flatter men.

Flattery is a useful tool to control most people, but it works particularly well on men. It appeals to two separate but powerful aspects of being a man — that men are raised with the (unrealistic) expectation that they can do anything AND that men are rarely complimented (beyond a stoic “Good job”).

But a woman’s flattery overwhelms both of those conditions with pandering and praise. “Honey, I’m not good with technology, can you figure out this remote for me?” “Babe, can you load up the car for me? The suitcases are so heavy and you’re so good at getting everything in there!”

Granted, some of those compliments might be genuine, but it is still a form of control. The woman wants something accomplished, so she lavishes her man with praise, letting him know that he’s the BEST at doing whatever she wants done.

It’s probably not true. (She’s a grown woman. She can figure out a remote.) But the flattery is a proven way to get the man to do what she wants, so why not use it?

4. Women compare men to other men

This kind of control technique is frequently used in parenting, but it’s actually much more effective when the involved parties are older. It’s the classic “look at that nice boy” strategy. A parent might use it to shame their teenager into working harder at home or academically.

“Look at Linda’s son, he has a 4.0 grade point average and works at the nursing home after-school every day!”

The grown-up version of this occurs when a woman is unsatisfied with some aspect of the man in her life, so she openly starts making unflattering comparisons between her guy and other men in their lives.

“Bill just got a promotion… Roger is building that whole addition by himself… Rick goes to the gym 5 times a week and he loves it, never complains…”

Statements like that not only shame her man into action, but they also prey on the man’s ego. Because it’s not just simple nagging. It’s saying “this other man is CLEARLY superior to you.” That can kill a man’s sense of self-worth and drive him to fight backagainst the comparison.

These techniques are undeniably effective, but they beg the question — Is it worth manipulating and toying with a man’s ego just to get him to take his shoes off when he comes in the house?

Because being controlling isn’t always a good thing. Women need to realize that “with great power comes great responsibility” and, when possible, we should try to be open and direct with our men. Treat them like equal partners and see if you can compromise to get what you want from them.

And if that doesn’t work… control away. (He won’t even know it’s happening.)

>> http://damiblog.com.ng/4-ways-women-control-men-without-men-even-knowing/

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Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by MrRichy(m): 8:36am On Jan 06, 2017
waiting for the IDGAF crew
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by softMarket(m): 8:38am On Jan 06, 2017
They have this juju in them that when u wanna bleep them,u will promise heaven and earth...


U be like....baby I will buy u hammer jeep



. .Do u like paris? Just allow me and I will take u to paris grin grin



When the thing go hold u badly,

U be like....baby please lemme just put the mouth grin grin grin


My man, smellymouth can comfirm! cheesy

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Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by doublewisdom: 8:39am On Jan 06, 2017
That no 3 is the weakness of most men. Works all the time.
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Nobody: 8:41am On Jan 06, 2017
The second you start comparing me to some Nigga, you out bìtch grin

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Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Nobody: 8:45am On Jan 06, 2017
cheesy i have learned somethin'


angry That number3 is manipulative cheesy hehe
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by FreeSpirited: 8:46am On Jan 06, 2017
Women deny men of sex....and they come begging, like, pls just one round, pls let me just use it to scratch the opening, pls ...let me just release...oya just hold this dick grin grin grin
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by carzola(m): 8:51am On Jan 06, 2017
None of this works on me




So

Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Smellymouth: 8:55am On Jan 06, 2017
softMarket:
They have this juju in them that when u wanna bleep them,u will promise heaven and earth...


U be like....baby I will buy u hammer jeep



. .Do u like paris? Just allow me and I will take u to paris grin grin



When the thing go hold u badly,

U be like....baby please lemme just put the mouth grin grin grin


My man, smelly.mouth can comfirm! cheesy


[img]http:///media/6-06-2015/4rMAzr.gif[/img]

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Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Godfullsam(m): 9:04am On Jan 06, 2017
No woman can control me.

Ayam the boss


I run things


Nothing runs me....not even a women.
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Nobody: 9:04am On Jan 06, 2017

We run this biitch! grin
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Emodeee: 9:21am On Jan 06, 2017
the things vagina make men do, unthinkable.
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by eitsei(m): 9:24am On Jan 06, 2017
undecided
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by ouzo1(m): 9:41am On Jan 06, 2017
Smellymouth:


[img]http:///media/6-06-2015/4rMAzr.gif[/img]





Hahahahaha baba I wan send u pm abeg
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by brandydaniells(m): 9:56am On Jan 06, 2017
ILuvGummyBearz:
cheesy i have learned somethin'


angry That number3 is manipulative cheesy hehe
I hate u
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Smellymouth: 10:07am On Jan 06, 2017
ouzo1:







Hahahahaha baba I wan send u pm abeg

Nothing do u bruh.. grin
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Cholls(m): 10:19am On Jan 06, 2017
Estharfabian:


We run this biitch! grin

my sister the thing you run is your mouth tongue
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Nobody: 10:30am On Jan 06, 2017
brandydaniells:
I hate u
wink
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by greatgod2012(f): 10:36am On Jan 06, 2017
The most effective way a wife can control her husband is to be submissive to him.

Men are submission freak, if you as a wife want to get your husband to do anything for you, just be submissive to him. You'll see him putting you at the helm of his life's affairs but unfortunately, only few women know this.

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Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Nobody: 10:37am On Jan 06, 2017
Grins mischievously @ number 2. cool.
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Nobody: 10:39am On Jan 06, 2017
Godfullsam:
No woman can control me.
Ayam the boss

I run things

Nothing runs me....not even a women.

Did you just lie that nothing runs you not even a woman?
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Nobody: 10:40am On Jan 06, 2017
Emodeee:
the things vagina make me do, unthinkable.


Emodeee love, I thought you said you'll wait for me tongue.
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Emodeee: 10:46am On Jan 06, 2017
Ebayray:


Emodeee love, I thought you said you'll wait for me tongue.


i wanted to write "men"cheesy. you know i'm waiting for you, darling.
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by lilmax(m): 10:50am On Jan 06, 2017
greatgod2012:
The most effective way a wife can control her husband is to be submissive to him.

Men are submission freak, if you as a wife want to get your husband to do anything for you, just be submissive to him. You'll see him putting you at the helm of his life's affairs but unfortunately, only few women know this.


women with brains...... common sense is not really common
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Nobody: 10:54am On Jan 06, 2017
Emodeee:



i wanted to write "men"cheesy. you know i'm waiting for you, darling.

Lolz better cheesy
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by ameezy(m): 11:14am On Jan 06, 2017
MrRichy:
waiting for the IDGAF crew

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Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by UchaNwababa: 11:27am On Jan 06, 2017
greatgod2012:
The most effective way a wife can control her husband is to be submissive to him.

Men are submission freak, if you as a wife want to get your husband to do anything for you, just be submissive to him. You'll see him putting you at the helm of his life's affairs but unfortunately, only few women know this.


U nailed it, infact i need ur type in my life
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by UchaNwababa: 11:34am On Jan 06, 2017
if my woman can be submisive to me i can kill Buhari and Abubakaar Shekau for her.
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Jodha(f): 12:13pm On Jan 06, 2017
Op I don't get but the Bible clearly stated "women summit to your husband " angry angry
Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Nobody: 12:22pm On Jan 06, 2017
this silent treatment though..the most effective of them all

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Re: 4 Ways Women Control Men (without Men Even Knowing It) by Chimayo7: 4:19pm On Jan 06, 2017
Nobody

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