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Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Austin234(m): 11:16am On Feb 07, 2017 |
Madam, no offense intended, did u @ any time committed any serious offense, like abortion or murder? Check ur conscience. U should face the phobia squarely. Ur hubby may not be cause. Learn to face the world alone |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Jammiiee(m): 11:21am On Feb 07, 2017 |
But why are u ladies scared of sleeping alone I think u need to revisit the issue. Get rid of it now before it matures and resurfaces later. Because believe you me, sooner or later, you will have cause to sleep alone.what in that room. Perhaps when he travels, some functions, work etc. So try get rid of it asap. Abiagirl777: |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by MrOreo(m): 11:25am On Feb 07, 2017 |
Billyonaire:My thoughts exactly, maybe the man has been cuddling her for the past 5yrs, the guy don taya, needs his own breathing space... And I'm almost certain she won't only want him on the bed, but body contact MUST be involved too for her to really feel safe. Am I right safiya? |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Jammiiee(m): 11:32am On Feb 07, 2017 |
Try play solemn music, blues, u don't av to loud it, just at optimum decibels for u to sleep on. Or I guess u r not a music person, u don't love music? See, don't even try to go find sleep in another house, u r gradually loosing ur home by doing dt. Face the problem and tackle it. Av a feeling ur fear factor is enormous, even with ur husband fully awake in the living room. Try the option of a very good counsel also. I dnt wana apportion blames. safiya7: |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by joinnow: 11:37am On Feb 07, 2017 |
safiya7:Your phobia don pass becareful U are now hallucinating Go and visit a doctor 1 Like |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Jammiiee(m): 11:44am On Feb 07, 2017 |
I can see that ur phobia is quite enormous , u need to face the problem. If u keep running away from it, it will chase u and catch u up. safiya7: |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Jammiiee(m): 11:48am On Feb 07, 2017 |
When he is on the verge of making love with u, talk to him romantically about ur worries, he will listen. U should knw the way u get him to listen to u. He needs to help u out as well, though nt by sleeping by u every night but to find a lasting solution to ur phobia safiya7: |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by mylove4God(f): 11:53am On Feb 07, 2017 |
safiya7: This one pass fear oo. |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Jammiiee(m): 11:57am On Feb 07, 2017 |
Ppl r diff tho. I av had a penchant for horror movies since childhood and they're still my favorite anytime anyday and love to watch em mostly at night. The suspense gives me delight. Sometimes I think in trying to solve the problem, one needs to recreate that problem. If only I wr her husband, we will both watch horror movies at night then go sleep together. Meanwhile during the gory scenes I will ensure I tell her how much of acting n fake stuffs it is n perhaps we watch the making up of the videos together like someone said. I think this can also help her CrownV12: |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by slam7000(m): 11:58am On Feb 07, 2017 |
Apus: |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Sanchez01: 2:35pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
ogawisdom:Phobia knows no age. We all have one or more phobias we battle with. OP, it has nothing to do with the horror movie. As a matter of fact, the movie you watched only triggered the phobia. You should see a psychologist and also speak to a medical doctor. Quite frankly, your husband does not understand that you're suffering from Somniphobia. I suggest you ask him to go with you to see a medical doctor to ascertain the status of your health. That way, he would understand the gravity of what you're battling with. It's quite surprising he didn't know this before you guys got married. |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by safiya7: 4:39pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
Sanchez01: I never knew what I am going through even has a name. I would hv Google d it since. He knew before we got married but he simply doesn't understand how a 29year old cant sleep alone. I don't know how to explain to him again. Oh Lord |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by safiya7: 4:40pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
Jammiiee: OK I ll try this. Thanks. |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by safiya7: 4:44pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
Austin234: I have never killed anyone o, chai. Hv tried to ignore it too. But that doesn't work either. Am so tired of begging n apologising even when am not wrong, just so I can hv some one to sleep with me in the room at night |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by safiya7: 4:46pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
Jammiiee: I love music. But not to sleep with. |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by safiya7: 4:48pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
MrOreo: I am alright once he's just there in the room. I only move into his arms to cuddle wen I hv nightmares or I open my eyes n the place is dark |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by safiya7: 4:50pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
ogawisdom: I do pray. Even to go into the hallway to use the restroom with full lights on takes so much courage at night. |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by jamalnation(m): 5:10pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
Just show him dis post |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Babacele: 5:40pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
Billyonaire:u finally broke my heart. I tot with yr seeming knowledge, you would have helped the poor woman. don't we all have 1 ailment or the other? why do we have others as our doctors,guardian or teacher? |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Sanchez01: 5:58pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
safiya7:Somniphobia can be quite a terrible phobia. I have a cousin battling with it. She's married now though and her hubby knows better. They go wherever together and spend the nights almost together. There was a night she called my phone and started crying just because the hubby had engagements at the office, called her and told her he might not be coming home. It was late and she couldn't just go to him. She started calling everyone just so she wouldn't feel she's alone. It is a night to remember. She didn't sleep all through the night as she feared something would come for her when her eyes are closed. My cousin had no option than to ask one of her husband's siblings to move in with them. They are all happy now. Just try and see a psychologist to ascertain the degree of your phobia. All will be well |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Babacele: 6:02pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
safiya do you like books or e-books? can you bring a young girl to come stay with u even if temporarily as long as she doesn't stay in way when maigida wants to....? look at any Quran verse or Hadith that banishes fear and read every night , pray briefly and submit yr life to the trust of the Almighty Allah who gave you in the first place, before you climb bed. If it His will to allow something carry you after praying to him ,what can you do? Just trust Him and tell your mind it is okay since Allah and His angels are on guard. Salam. |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Nobody: 6:05pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
safiya7:Buy a television for your room. Problem solved. |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by guy1234: 8:57am On Feb 08, 2017 |
Having read all posts. My conclusion: you need 3 things: 1. Study and understand your phobia 2. Seek medical help(psychiatrist) no be only for mad ppl 3. Consult God in prayer 1 Like |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by Nobody: 9:21am On Feb 08, 2017 |
You have to overcome your fear. There is no other option. Your husband is a human being and not in this world to pander to your illogical fears. I say that you go and see a doctor and conquer your fear. It's not your husband's fault or responsibility. Leaving your marriage isn't an option either. |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by graphy24: 9:16pm On Feb 13, 2017 |
Are u a christain or a muslim try going to see ur pastor or ur imam Or if u can contact me through my number If I go to church tomorrow I would tell my pastor or his wife about u and give any of them ur number so they pray with u I attend the redeemed christain church of God. So here is my number 09022409659 |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by graphy24: 9:17pm On Feb 13, 2017 |
safiya7:Are u a christain or a muslim try going to see ur pastor or ur imam Or if u can contact me through my number If I go to church tomorrow I would tell my pastor or his wife about u and give any of them ur number so they pray with u I attend the redeemed christain church of God. So here is my number 09022409659 |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by sashishalom(f): 9:59pm On Feb 13, 2017 |
Apus: That chukky dull was so scary...dont think i can watch it again |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by joinnow: 9:15pm On Feb 15, 2017 |
joinnow:A Psychologists and psychiatrists Cos you are having both Somniphobia and visual hallucination. Visual Hallucinations People have reported seeing animals, innate objects and people not present. They may see ‘ghosts’ or ‘angels,’ and some involve quite complicated scenes or bizarre situations. Causes Disability. Those with very specific sensory problems like blindness or deafness often experience hallucinations. People who go deaf often say they hear voices. Similarly, those who have had limbs amputated experience "phantom limbs" with all the movement, even pain, experienced. Severe physical illness, such as brain cancer, or kidney or liver failure, or later-life dementia, or alcohol-related delirium tremens. Severe psychotic disorder, such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and schizophrenia. Those who have experienced PTSD often experience flashbacks. When they hear certain sounds or detect certain smells, they are instantly transformed back to times of trauma—war or accidents, for example—and may have powerful flashback hallucinations of particular events. In times of great stress and mourning, some people hear reassuring voices that calm their senses. |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by enuk80(m): 9:49pm On Feb 15, 2017 |
d first time make I go see nairalanders give better advise because she said mature advice and perhaps because she be newbies, nobody blast her but me o must blast her..op, ur case is spiritual now lemme school you...when you were into courtship with dis man u called ur husband, u never made him understand the things you like......you never took ur time to study dis man because all u wanted is to be among ladies who are married and this I called badwagon effect.I believe there is something ur husband sees in you that makes him turn the parlour into his bedroom..lets forget maybe he likes watching TV or any other TV programmes...I guess u disturb ur husband most time that makes him nag...unshould learn to be on ur own..forget how it used to be that years when u were in school and even at home...u need to grow up because u sound like a teenage girl who just jump into marriage without taking her time to find her idea man..let assume dis husband of urs went for vacation and you guys have house boy in d house, so u will call d house boy to come sleep beside u because u can't sleep alone...I bet u will destroy ur msg if something like dis comes up in d future...you guys need proper counseling before things get out of hand...like I said, there is more to why your husband is sleeping in d sitting room irespective of d TV programmes.. d best |
Re: Help ! I Am Afraid Of Sleeping Alone. Husband NEVER Listens by victorking: 10:02pm On Feb 15, 2017 |
Safiya7 Wow! Cant believe an adult still has the fear phobia but seriously you need to handle your fear not ur husband. i used to be so afraid of the dark that i cant walk in dark places or sleep in dark places till i heard a message from Pastor Chris about fear. All i did was to command that fear to leave me and it did. Righy now even darkness fears me and i have slept at d beach alone severally and in weird places just to get inspiration. The fear is wat you should deal with. |
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