i have been going out with this girl for four years now all of a sudden her ex now came back to the picture first i was not bothered but he calls her like 20 times a day and i now ask her wats goin on she said notin and accused me of not trusting her,time came that she started going out and answerinhis calls wen i am around,then on valentine day she said she was going home to spend it with her mom since her moms birthday is 15 feb,not nowing she went to spend the val wit her ex.wen she came back she coudnt hide it anymore and told me she has gone back to her ex,i was heartbroken and felt betrayed after all the efforts and time i have spent in the relationship.to cut the long story short after like 5 months she now came back crying and begging for forgivenesss sayin she has realised her mistake sayin she still loves me,some of her friends came to beg on her behalf.i still love her but and still considerin takin her back but anytime i think of the betrayer my heart becomes harden,who knows she can still do it again.guys i need your advice and opinion here

Yes she can. It's hard to trust a girl like that.

She will do it again but i bet as a guy if u take her back each tim eyou rememeber ds,u will dislike her sort of and the will not make the rship to last.
Tell her to give you time that you need a break.If the  break can heal the wound,then take her back but if the pain remains,tell her to go.
The earlier the better.New yr is coming please anythg disposable shld go with the year.

abeg throway that kind woman. a dog will always go back to its vomit.

The fact you asking means u thinking about taking her back wrong move, let that woman fly away like the pigeon she is

She is a dog
plz allow her to go and continue digging what she berried at the backyard
i know is hard but try dont think about her but if u think u can coupe with her, then 4give her cuz no one is above mistake u must commit one 2morow.

igotalk:

The fact you asking means u thinking about taking her back wrong move, let that woman fly away like the pigeon she is

exctly wat's in my mind!

smooooooth:

abeg throway that kind woman. a dog will always go back to its vomit.

that's just the fact. O boy no dull yourself

ask yourself if you can trust her again cus there is no point going bck to her if you can't trust her and since she has done you wrong d first time its going to be hard for you to trust her

" poster, hope you're clear on fellow Niralanders Advice.

nikkykay:

She will do it again but i bet as a guy if u take her back each tim eyou rememeber ds,u will dislike her sort of and the will not make the rship to last.
Tell her to give you time that you need a break.If the  break can heal the wound,then take her back but if the pain remains,tell her to go.
The earlier the better.New yr is coming please anythg disposable shld go with the year.

true talk

well there is more to this story
why did she come back to you?

she was dissed by her ex and she knew you have a soft spot for her,do away with her,it will never be the same again,trust me, u need a fresh start.

She will do it again and your mind will never be settled. you will always wonder when she doesn't answer your call, you will always resent her and most of all you will be the laughing stock of your town. tell her and her friends to go back to where ever they showed up from and leave yo alone or better yet tell her the only way you will take her back is if you have sex with all her friends that came to beg for her.

People don't change, Really

dryx007:

i have been going out with this girl for four years now all of a sudden her ex now came back

Four years and an ex can still take her away from you!

@poster,
u know hard at all.

coolier:

Four years and an ex can still take her away from you!

Either the Ex was so gud! or dryx007 was so BAD!

guy u dont need her back for
no reason,
let her go abeg

Guy you better lock your heart and swallow the key. If there is one thing I can bet on, I bet that you are so gentle to the girl or do most of the things she want you to do during the four years of relationship with her because I see no reason why she comes back to you if she knows that you are a kind of person that takes no shit. She will be afraid to even meet you on the road.

Anyway if you persist of taking her back, you are on your own. Next time she break your heart, I hope you will still be able to access www.nairaland.com because it might be out of service, then you will end up accessing www.objland.com. Na there your life end.

omega25red:

She will do it again and your mind will never be settled. you will always wonder when she doesn't answer your call, you will always resent her and most of all you will be the laughing stock of your town. tell her and her friends to go back to where ever they showed up from and leave yo alone or better yet tell her the only way you will take her back is if you have sex with all her friends that came to beg for her.

victorazy:

She is a dog
plz allow her to go and continue digging what she berried at the backyard
i know is hard but try dont think about her but if u think u can coupe with her, then 4give her cuz no one is above mistake u must commit one 2morow.

Guy, i feel your dilema but please, jowo, du Allah, biko, DONT TAKE HER BACK!

What makes you think she's come to her senses? what if the Ex RE-COMES again?

Dont be left in the lurch, I can understand if you still have feelings for her, ITS NORMAL but in you own interest, let that relationship[b] have no part 2![/b]

I did the same![b][/b]

CRUCIFY! CRUCIFY! CRUCIFY!

there r always atleast 2 sides to a story.

@ OP, take suggestions, think well, before u make ur decision. it is ur life and nobody else's.

she's been with u four years and this happened just once or mayb more, i dont condone her actions at all, but all the same think and weigh the advices u get.

u know her more than anyother person here advising you,

so bro, do not be in a hurry

we all make mistakes, but we do not throw the bath water and the baby away cos the water is dirty!, take ur time and make ur decision.

Read luke 6 verse 31
the answer is there


just as you wish that men should do to you, do to them likewise

EmerGine UrseLf in Her sHoes,

guy nu no beat am black n blue?

pls help me tell her to phuckk lost!

Let that girl go! Take this adviis. You will heal wit time and find a deseving woman, and u will be hapy u let her go. Please dont take her back. I tel u dis from experience.