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I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by AsianEye: 4:39am On Apr 01, 2017
My bf and have been dating for almost 5months and we have been living together for over 1 month.. He is a nice guy but his character traits are really getting on my nerves. He is an igbo and i am asian.. He used to be sweet when we started dating(honeymoon stage i guess) but now he has changed.. we are both loyal(i believe). i try my very best to make him happy, try to impress him so he could love me more like the way i do.. i would clean, cook(2-3times a day)i cook nigerian, american, mexican, chinese and other sort of dishes, wash his clothes by hand, go buy the groceries, touch his back before he sleeps(on demand), do the dishes, pick up his clothes on the floor, give him a massage whenever he complains about leg pain after a soccer game and others.. Sometimes he would rather wait for to be home or to wake up so i could prepare food for him.. I really pamper him like a big ass baby.. I would forget about myself to make sure his own food and others are done for him despite the tiredness. I wish to be his wife, i seriously do love him so much.. He is not spontaneous, he is not thoughtful, he careless about how i feel.. I am not asking for too much, i just want to feel appreciated.. Money and sex are not the way to show a woman that you love her.. I expect a nice treatment, maybe a surprise breakfast, flowers, a dinner date, a massage after a long day, a deep conversation.. Just those little romantic stuff you know.. Whenever he sleeps, he would ignore/forget everything around him.. He gets so mad when i disturb him while he is asleep.. sometimes we girls just wanna play.. come on! He takes a nap always.. Last night, when he was going out to see friends, i told him to come home early so we could teach me about the bible but he didnt come home early and not even a message to let me know about it.. And when he came home, he went to bathroom to smoke and he knew im asthmatic but he decided to do so.. I woke up at 2am and cough and couldnt sleep again till now(11am).. And we had a fight.. I always cry and ask myself why.. He says im not an understanding person but how and what should i do again? I just want his time.. sometimes i just want him to be with me till i fall asleep.. I always talk to him about what is happening but he would be quiet and never want to try to find a solution because he feels he has never done anything wrong.. He is so cultural because he keeps on saying "im a man, youre a woman.. In my culture it doesnt happen like this and bla bla bla".. "Our women are submissive, they listen and bla bla bla".. And he always tells me "ever since we started dating, i don't go out with my friends anymore".. He said im a control freak, i get angry easily.. He says "i wont change even though im married, no woman can tell me on what to do".. i get so sick of that.. Its like im the only person that is trying so hard to make it work but why not him.. I let him to go out but don't leave me alone way too long get home with the alcohol smell.. He priorities his chit-chatting with friends more than me. It drives me crazy... Im trying to swallow all the bitterness, yes we fight because i just dont feel its right.. After fighting, he will be okay on the next day but just for less than 24hrs. He says i talk too much.. Thats not the case, i just wanna speak out and tell him how i feel.. But yet he doesnt wanna let me go.. What should i do please..
Re: I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by HARDDON: 4:56am On Apr 01, 2017
One word: clingy!
You are choking him.

Soluzion?

move out of d said apartment. You guys aint married yet to b living togeda.

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Re: I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by jopretty(f): 6:14am On Apr 01, 2017
Babe, the signs are boldly written, you just do not want to believe it. He won't walk with you down the aisle so I suggest you make up your mind to leave him and move on.
Re: I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by QueenSuccubus(f): 6:39am On Apr 01, 2017
grin


ASIAN eeehn?


If I were u, u better leave his ass...u do not deserved this kind of treatment. Do not wait until u both lose respect for each other and don't wait till he physically abuse u...


Lemme call my bestfriEnd SMELLINGANUS to give u more specific advice grin wink
Re: I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by dingbang(m): 6:48am On Apr 01, 2017
Invite him to Nairaland let's hear his own side of the story
Re: I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by lovelygurl(f): 7:40am On Apr 01, 2017
Poor guy. You are being clingy jeez!
Re: I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by Divay22(f): 8:00am On Apr 01, 2017
What shocked shocked shocked shocked
Wash,cook and the rest and living in same house with him,He has seen you so well (what we'll call see finish) It gonna hurt but you have to leave his apartment,you are already playing the role of a wife,but as much as you'll love to really be his wife,Have some values for yourself.....

Just move out,you can check up on him but staying with him he just doesn't see you as a priority but just an option....
Re: I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by SmellingAnus(m): 8:26am On Apr 01, 2017
QueenSuccubus:
grin


ASIAN eeehn?


If I were u, u better leave his ass...u do not deserved this kind of treatment. Do not wait until u both lose respect for each other and don't wait till he physically abuse u...


Lemme call my bestfriEnd SMELLINGANUS to give u more specific advice grin wink

Boo you only invited me here to wish I had someone like her and also wish I could also be there for her most times she needs me... There is no way I will not treat this type as a Queen and I will give her my mumu button... I thought I was here to advise but I ended up feeling somehow for not having someone like her where we could both be fools to each other... Infact, I will safely give her my password, atm pin and anything that is suppose to be secret.... Infact she will be my next of Kin... grin Lol... But I am serious... It's so easy to have my mumu button but so difficult to know that what matters to me more it's the little things...

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Re: I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by QueenSuccubus(f): 11:37am On Apr 01, 2017
SmellingAnus:
Boo you only invited me here to wish I had someone like her and also wish I could also be there for her most times she needs me... There is no way I will not treat this type as a Queen and I will give her my mumu button... I thought I was here to advise but I ended up feeling somehow for not having someone like her where we could both be fools to each other... Infact, I will safely give her my password, atm pin and anything that is suppose to be secret.... Infact she will be my next of Kin... grin Lol... But I am serious... It's so easy to have my mumu button but so difficult to know that what matters to me more it's the little things...


She said she's ASIAN boo... grin
In her story, she's the type of a girl that every man's dream..she's very submissive in her relationship but still her man has no satisfaction embarassed
Re: I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by SmellingAnus(m): 11:55am On Apr 01, 2017
QueenSuccubus:



She said she's ASIAN boo... grin
In her story, she's the type of a girl that every man's dream..she's very submissive in her relationship but still her man has no satisfaction embarassed
she is not every man's dream... She is "MY DREAM WOMAN"... SHE IS THE DREAM WOMAN FOR PP kiss kiss kiss
Re: I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by QueenSuccubus(f): 11:57am On Apr 01, 2017
SmellingAnus:
she is not every man's dream... She is "MY DREAM WOMAN"... SHE IS THE DREAM WOMAN FOR PP kiss kiss kiss



grin


Hahahahahahahah....That's good boo..let's find ways to know her. U cud be her HERO, saving this broken hearted girl... grin

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Re: I Do Not Know What Is Happening To Our Relationships And I Am So Confused.. by SmellingAnus(m): 12:19pm On Apr 01, 2017
QueenSuccubus:




grin


Hahahahahahahah....That's good boo..let's find ways to know her. U cud be her HERO, saving this broken hearted girl... grin
grin grin cheesy cool cool cool grin

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