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Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:58pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Holywizard: Lol.....u have Edo midnight service drones watching you...no try anything funny o |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by kolaish(m): 2:59pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
laudate:Good write up no doubt. But that is your experience and what I have written is the little experiences I have gathered over time. Wait a minute, the question is: why going through the stress of all you have written when you can actually have it easy marrying from your tribe. My marriage is over 16 years now and I have less stress training my children the way I want because my wife is from my tribe. I am a businessman and rarely stays at home, so if I married from other tribe, how will my wife who supposedly does not hear my language train them in my mother's tongue and vice versa. All of our social functions are just a stone throw away and not thousands km away. Again, remember traditions differ, I followed a friend to Ogoja for his in law burial, we saw hell because of the demand of the community before they bury the old man (my friend was totally annoyed and regretted marrying from them, I have to pet him in most cases). 2 Likes |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Holywizard: 3:10pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
myking95:let's see sha |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Holywizard: 3:11pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
myking95:are they that bad? |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nicho118(m): 3:13pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Holywizard:ok, u don enter |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Ngokafor(f): 3:16pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
ElsonMorali: ...smh!!..'you are sure majority of Igbo ladies on this forum either have yoruba husbands or fiance or they wish to marry one' indeed ....The amazing thing is that you actually believe this from the bottom of your heart..weird indeed. 3 Likes |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Holywizard: 3:20pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Nicho118:like seriously she is generally good. we are still serving though but de level she is making plans for the future is very scary. |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Graccccccccy(f): 3:27pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
henryhemon:Poor confused soul. One isn't a bigot based on what they believe. Next time, just say what you support and not try to violate the opinion of others. I ain't responsible for your misfortune, simpleton! |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nicho118(m): 3:33pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Holywizard:it's good o..but don't break her heart...if u do. hmmm na God fit save u |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Kellibae(f): 3:53pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
ElsonMorali:Wel im different here... words cant remove a hair from me as long i kno wat the person is saying are lies.. BTW How does my own opinion make me an ethinc bigot.. Afteral igbos are more open to intertribal marriage dan anyother tribe in nigeria. Which u kno very well 4 Likes |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by laudate: 4:07pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
kolaish: So you believe there is no stress marrying from your own tribe? Na wa, o! Every marriage has its own peculiar challenges, demands and stress, whether you marry from your own tribe or not. Like I said before, language, cultural and ethnic difference can be resolved with wisdom, understanding & empathy. If your wife is from another ethnic group and cannot understand your language, what stops you as a man from getting an elderly relative from your side to live with you and teach your own children your language? Or you can take them to your hometown regularly for short breaks and holidays, so they can get used to the language. Distance can no longer be used as a barrier, because now there are various modes of travel from airplanes to ferry services and even rail, in some areas. As for the experience your friend had in Ogoja, accept my sympathy. Obviously, his own spouse who hails from Ogoja had failed to familiarise himself/herself with the customs and demands of their people, especially when it comes to burial rites. And he/she had also failed to inform your friend on what to expect from their people. This was caused by a lack of communication, tact & diplomacy on both sides. Every community and ethnic group has their own peculiar burial rites, customs and demands which varies from one place to the other. Even if your friend had hailed directly from Ogoja, do you think he would not have found it difficult to meet the cultural demands of those people? |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Raincolour(f): 4:12pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Noneroone:hmm. Smh. The world has developed beyond this o. With thriving interracial marriages now, you are there still protesting over intertribal marriages! Nigerian marrying a fellow Nigerian o. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by kolaish(m): 4:28pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
laudate:Yes, I agree with you. But, honestly, I have relative peace in my marriage. That is not to say that others who married from other tribe does not enjoy same. But, I can only advice someone based on what I have experienced and see others go through. That is why I will always say "Marry from your tribe" Imagine the teacher asking your child from which tribe are you? Then your child will say, my father is a yoruba man but my mother is from Igbo/hausa. Why not save the stress. Even the prophets that are of old (Abraham, Isaac and Jacob) married from their tribe, So, what is my problem if I cannot marry from my tribe. |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Noneroone(m): 4:29pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Raincolour:but the world has not developed to a stage where a Igbo can be a governor of lagos or vote their choice candidates without being asked to drown in lagoon? Hypocrite. 1 Like |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 5:15pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
missKiffy: Its obvious miss Kiffy. You need not ask, you already know. |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by ElsonMorali: 5:49pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Kellibae: If I tell you my own life experiences concerning this issue you'll be totally amazed. Trust me I've had a girl's family ostracize her because She was dating me, a Yoruba guy, an "_ngbati _ngbati". Lol. Just don't open that can of worms. Some things are better left unsaid. 1 Like |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by ElsonMorali: 5:58pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Ngokafor: What's weird about the truth? Why do you think your guys call us "Yoruba demons"? To scare the likes of you from forming alliances with us. Why else? Anyway If you accidentally find yourself falling for a "Yoruba demon", don't fight it dear. It's a sign of wonderful things to come. 1 Like |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Jetleeee: 5:58pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Just look at the watery Yoruba replies on this thread. Smh. These guys put me to sleep No wonder these thugs drag y'all on the ground.. God save una say I no quick see this thread. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by AreaFada2: 6:15pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
laudate: I agree with almost all you wrote. But despite increasing inter tribal and inter ethnic marriages, the vast majority still marry within. I can only talk of the experiences of those I know. Not of those I do not know. My submission never claimed to be a scientific position. Centuries ago, when most people still lived and died within one village or a small geographical location, my ancestors already married from faraway tribes. Aunts married outside in the 1950s already. My observation of unsuccessful inter tribal marriages mostly fall within the past 15 to 20 years. And strictly only females marrying men of other tribes. As for women we married from other tribes, it has been phenomenal success. Especially Igbo women. |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by midfinger(m): 6:46pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Ugosample:U claim to be Igbo ?I agree ,show me any of your comments in this forum that indicates in the affirmative. |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by henryhemon(m): 7:04pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Graccccccccy: Between us who looks misfortuned? Please stop making foolery of yourself. |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by ideology(m): 7:48pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
as good as this sounds, it is a wrong advice ElsonMorali: 3 Likes |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by missKiffy(f): 9:06pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
obikirinoni:So am guessing she's Yoruba and you are Igbo |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by FemiFimile: 9:16pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
mmsen: Africans dont love each other, for goodness sake they were the only race that sold their people to the white man. Let us not pretend, our tribalism is worst than Europe racism. I know people that hate a certain tribe but want a wife from the same people they hate. Soonest, she bears the wrath of his hate. (flogging with belt, demanding meals, ironing and making tribal hate comments about her tribe, making hate tribal jokes) 1 Like |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by mmsen: 9:26pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
FemiFimile: What are you talking about - Europeans were slaughtering each other for hundreds of years. Did the Germans and other Europeans not put European Jews into concentration camps? Did they not kill their fellow Europeans before that because they did not practice the right brand of xtianity? It's unfortunate that you know such people but it is evident that you don't know much about the rest of the world or human history. |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Ndiofe: 9:32pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
ElsonMorali: U and I know age is a factor otherwise, none of dem will agree to mix with "dirty oily cowardly genes". There comes an age whereby a woman will hurriedly follow just about any man that propose marriage. U have advertised and shouted from the mountain about ur obsession for igbo people and also their women. U are very easy for our girls, u present no challenge wat so eva, u are ready, willing, waiting and dieing for igbo. Other scenario na money matter. (financial marriages) |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by henryhemon(m): 9:40pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Noneroone: Do you know a certain Nwabueze in Lagos state? Now can that even happen in the southeast? Southeasterners are bias more than you can think of bu let's not go there. |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Ugosample(m): 10:34pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
mmsen: Oga forget that thing Africans were slaughtering themselves too through those centuries. Europeans at least admit that some of theur actions were wrong and they try to atone eg the reparations and other things Africans on the other hand have committed worse atrocities against each other, refuse to atone for it, and ecen see nothing wrong with it. Sudan? Nigeria? CAR? DR Congo? Even the current attacks in South Africa against fellow Africans. Forget that thing, the guy you quoted has a big point. Africans don't love each other, And believing otherwise is self delusion The endless catfight amongst Africans on Twitter is just a microcosm of the thing What am i even saying sef? Even this thread is an evidence go to politics section on this forum and see too Africans have to change for us to progress |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Ndiofe: 11:04pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Ugosample: Rwanda never happened in his twisted mind. Let us not even mention Biafra. In his mind Europe sold their brothers to African as slaves. Denial is the worst from of delusion. White men will tell u that he has a slave fantasy, that is y he prefers black women, becos bleeping dem makes him feel powerful and dominating.(fetish) Yoruba men should tell us wat exactly is their case, becos we know dey hate igbos already. 1 Like |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 11:15pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
missKiffy: You shaa want me to say it. In her words, Hell noooooooooooo |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Ugosample(m): 11:18pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
Ndiofe: Point of correction tho that your last statement is a hasty generalisation that is not correct Some of them could be mumu sha But not all Yoruba people are like that tho. That's it. I grew up in a multicultural environment, so I'm talking based on that |
Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 11:22pm On Apr 18, 2017 |
This thread should be the Dilemma of Yoruba- Igbo Inter- tribal Marriage. As you can see them above me spreading their hatred for each other. Believe me if violence should break out between Igbos and Yorubas, it will be too bloody cos out of the abundance of your heart you guys have been typing rubbish on nairaland. I have even been drawn to the mud a few times. Why Hate people so much. |
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