I know the males would say am being disrespectful but am just asking a sincere question. I have come across threads where people like, among others find it insulting for a man to carry a woman's bag or to help with doing the dishes. So, like I said earlier on,my question is honest. I don't mean to offend anyone or group of people. This question is mostly for the ladies. Please, be honest, IS IT A MUST TO WASH YOUR HUSBAND'S OR YOUR BOYFRIENDS CLOTHES?

Hmmmm trick question. For a boyfriend, no way. For the husband well we will be sharing the house work anyway so yes I could do that .

Yes, if u don't who would, his mum? provided the children are still 2 young, it's madam's work aight.

@mannylex-you say it like its a must do affair. I have come across guys on NL that have big ego's and most of them feel a woman should do everything for them but just can't carryout a request by their ladies without having to whin about it to everyone on nairaland. To be honest,I don't think it's a must. I am not saying a lady shouldn't do it attimes oh. Most men are very disrespectful,the moment you start,they treat you like a slave. Believe me, I have seen it happen, though not to me.

Ladies of these days never cease to amaze me.lol

Dem no born am well make she no wash my cloth.

I dnt think that this has 2b debated miss! Not just wash bt straighten them as well. U gals must do works r: preparing serving my meal, washin my clothes n d children own, good house keeping etc be warn 4ur own good! Hv u 4gttn,b4 we married u, u use 2ask,honey, swtie, , wat can i prepare 4u, where r ur dirty clothes so that i can wash them? Now,u r asking if those r rly ur work? May God help us.

safeact:

I dnt think that this has 2b debated miss! Not just wash bt straighten them as well. U gals must do works r: preparing serving my meal, washin my clothes n d children own, good house keeping etc be warn 4ur own good! Hv u 4gttn,b4 we married u, u use 2ask,honey, swtie, , wat can i prepare 4u, where r your dirty clothes so that i can wash them? Now,u r asking if those r rly your work? May God help us.     

If to say it's not almost New Year ehn. . . . .rubbish!!

@topic, It's not compulsory, whatever works for you.

if its with a washing machine no problem - is it not putting his clothes in the machine and then wash. if it is with my hands then pigs will be flying b4 that happens - do i wash my own with hand let alone his own. ha ha very funny

@safeact,you're talking like a #*%&*. Who used to ask her man if she should wash his dirty clothes and all that rubbish that came out of that your tube I mean your mouth? Maybe your confusing me for your gf. Just relax ok,I don't want your head to continue touching as the new year almost begins.

@chiogo, if not because nwyr, u would v slapped me? Abi. Y r u gals nt in d church sef? Let me get u and poster there with these ur topic! Happy new yr shaa. Lol

@safeact,so a girl shld turn 2 ur slave cos she's married 2 u,@ poster,boyfrnd is optional dats if i feel lyk,husband i tink its my duty as a gud wife.dat dsnt min he wnt share in d house chores sha.

@freecocoa,nw u no its ur duty? Løok,d man is meant 2b tired after d day's work! Him coming 2start doing all those domestic works again is not accepted even in d bible. Nobody is saying, d wife shld b a slave. Look, if d gal is good, we no when to come in!

Mannylex:

it's madam's work aight.

In what century are you? We are in the 21st century.

No

@safeact - what's your angle? Is it that your wife would be a housewife so she won't have to work also? It's as if you're still confused.

@ poster,
if he insist please do it 'cus i had a close cousin who lost her fiancee 2 months to their wedding because of this same issue. it wont cost you anything to do your husband's laundry, would it?

Ebonyeyes:

Hmmmm trick question. For a boyfriend, no way. For the husband well we will be sharing the house work anyway so yes I could do that .

Hope you are joking about sharing the house chores with your husband? now i can now see why marraiges of nowadays end up in early divorce unlike the days of our parents. Well i trust you can't try such with an ibo, hausa or south-south man. trust me i know what i am talking about.

talknafree:

@ poster,
if hw insist please do it 'cus i had a close cousin who lost her fiancee 2 months to their wedding because of this same issue. it wont cost you anything to do your husband's laundry, would it?

Hope you are joking about sharing the house chores with your husband? now i can now see why marraiges of nowadays end up in early divorces unlike the days of our parents. Well i trust you can't try such with an ibo, hausa or south-south man. trust me i know i am talking about.

its not compulsory, i do my hubby's laundry rarely, like when i wanna be extra nice bcoz he wants his clothes washed a certain way and i don't have time to remember how he wants every single thing done, and moreover its just sticking the clothes in the washing machine, so he does his laundry and i do mine.

if the man has been washing his clothes b4 he met his wife/gf, wats the big deal doing it himself.

no. would be nice if she does though

@poster do u know wat it takes 2 be a GOOD WIFE, a CARING nd LOVING MOTHER?
If u do, u won't be asking such question,

@dammit-it's not by washing a man's clothes that a woman is considered all that. It's not like I said I would never do it. If his ego is too much,I would let his ego do the washing.

^^^LWKM.

But cmon ladies u do laundry beta dan us guys just as u do cooking to so let us focus on our strengths rite?

@confuse abt wat? Ok, u r d making me 2b cönfuse! Dnt ever ask dis qtn 2d hearing of ur bf. Dnt b a nagging lady. We wl undrstnd wen u r stressed up in d house so that we wil compel u 2do it that day, bt nxt day. Just no it wil b there 4u until wen u r fully ok 2cöntinue d house work 4rm whr u stopped! , hahaha, u signed 4it! aint u? So rlax n stop ask if 1st jan is d beginin of a new yr! Welcom 2 our world. No quarel, u r my frnd u no?

Safeact, am thankful that it's not every man that think's like you. If you like,be expecting everything from her.Maybe later,you tell her to always prostrate whenever she sees you. I said you are confused because of the previous posts and threads you have been creating.

i cant believe the ladies are saying they cant wash, for ur information its ur DUTY as a wiffy

Its the wife's duty to ensure the husband's clothes get washed.
How she goes about this is entirely her business; she may tell the man to wash his own clothes, use their washing machine, use her hands, get someone else to do it. As long as the washing gets done, its part of the package that comes with being a wife.
I will not do this for a bf but will gladly do it for my husband, infact I will derive pleasure from it.
This is my opinion and my plan for when I get married.

@hbabe, tell 'em baby, tell 'em. Your maturity never ceases to amaze me, ur pragmatic responses are wonderful. Your hubby will enjoy in every ramification(u know what I mean na). @coolier, am not in the 21st century, i'm in the 956BC, don't make me start this new year on a bad note, can't you give ur responses without asking obnoxious questions. @poster, I love treating ladies well, cos I grew amongst ladies, so I know their feelings, so a washing machine will be there in the house, but on the basis off there not being a washing machine, my wifey just has to do it, take for instance ur friend/husband's friend/ur mother/father/in-law/pastor comes to visit then meets u in the parlour watching TV and then asks of ur hubby, how will u feel when you say he's washing his clothes, i'm sure if this case should arise, u may even end up saying he's resting, justifying the fact that it ain't right. (Quod erat demostrandum). Not withstanding, I would definitely assist my wife in house chores, and also in the kitchen, (am a very good cook). My view of this topic is limited to husband and wife not boyfriend and girlfriend(I won't let my girlfriend wash my clothes, even if she tells me she wants to do it)

@hbabe,u are the african queen we are talking about,wife material,u just lively up my new year.2010 gbosa for uuuuuuuuuu.

its not compulsory to wash his clothes but you can be doing that for the love you have for him.

No it isn't but it doesn't mean I wont do his laundry at times. It also doesn't mean that he won't do his own laundry. Some men are picky about how they want their clothes done and also ironed. Some men rather wash your own clothes and iron them for you!
House chores aren't meant to be shared but does go a long way when the man helps out often.

Who does laundry and who doesn't has got nothing to do with being a good spouse. People can be so fickle minded! There are other things that are more important than cloth washing.

@chika98-you are so right. This is the kind of response I've been longing to hear.

@poster,my threads can cönfuse me, u no? Thank im nt d önly persön kicking against it. Though, u r good gal bt u no wat? Some shallow minded ladies might take it serious, so we v 2shout now 4their own good! @hbabe, v nt seen u 4 a while now,op d xtmas celebration does not want 2deprive us of ur potentials? I v always said it that u r d diamond in here! Pls Nls, permit me 2say that i v fallen 4dis chick, i just hope she is stl a virgin! Hahaha. Dnt mind me jare. My heart breaths 4u! @dman, so u follow me d feel hbabe? Dnt drag her with me, u no u r my frnd? Looo, ol