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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:30am On Aug 16, 2018
toluine56:

Even when you can help with even 5% of the said sum, you'll outrightly say you don't have, is that what you're telling us?
why should you send your children to 425 k school with another person money?
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:50am On Aug 16, 2018
helpyom:






Sorry bro what makes you feel i don't assist people I think you could check back on all my post here dear I have siblings in medical sch i atleast send little money from the little stipends am being paid to get textbooks and other school material even send little money to them when they so beg me for such help not that i have enough am managing

Meanwhile am a rotaract I contribute and donate to the the poor we most times visit these less prievelege ones and do sanitations.I feel helping someone is beyound ones willing power to do i don't have that mentality that it should be uncle's responsibility but atleast he was helped to be whr he is now what's wrong helping others in little ways to be like him.
so he should work for 2 years and give you 8000 euros while ignoring his children and wife for 2 years because he signed contract with your father

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:52am On Aug 16, 2018
helpyom:










I never told him to help me study in Australia I know too well Australia is expensive,we talked and chatted like family then in university days untill I told him about helping me with the project money of #90,000 for the research on my white albino rat am to feed and house for the project then in my finals my uncle didn't chat with me again.


I send warm regards/greetings during festive periods he still don't reply me.

The last time he replied me was last year September when I finished serving and posted my Nysc outfit and certificate on Facebook he liked the post and replied inbox telling me congrats.

But I tried telling him all I passed through in sch and started up chat about further studies he didn't reply anytin till now.

Meanwhile I sometime blamed my self for certain decisions I made way back then in school.

As for the Turkey u mentioned dear there's no sch in Europe ,America with such practical experience I wouldn't love to go, all I yearn for is just a 1year degree in Pgd with my best and the last chance given to me i hope to be on top of my game to secure a masters scholarship.


2.For funding it ain't easy for me with my grade 24th Dec to 2nd Jan I was off duties I was indoors althrough i used that period to apply scholarships both for graduate diploma scholarships and Undergraduate scholarship for developing countries it wasn't easy no positive response some actually were partial school funding which I didn't push further some requested admission first applications is all about money.

I knw I try alot about all these the fact he is my uncle and one time was helped by someone let's forget my dad helping him too,God didn't come down from heaven to help him he only uses our fellow humans to bless our hustle.

I only came online to ask this not that my uncle is not doing well he is ok.

Little help sometimes can go a long way to our life sucess
how do you know he is OK
What is the rat eating 90 k Kwa
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:53am On Aug 16, 2018
Saintsquare:
Good question, there are other countries with moderate tuition and cost of living in Europe, its not by force to go OZ knowingly that will cost fortune.Let's agree he is not willing to help but
avoiding and blocking her from reaching him is just pure wickedness. Some mentioned even if it a small amount just to show concern won't kill the uncle fa
if 20 people are always calling you to ask for money what will you do? Or you think you're the only one?
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:56am On Aug 16, 2018
AdeAdeAA:


Don't mind those uncles. Last year August I got admission to study in Finland and I went to tell my uncle that I already have 1.5m but due to increased exchange rate I needed 1m to make it 2.5m because 6720euros is required to be in ones account to get Resident Permit(RP). Uncle told me not to worry that I should go ahead and apply for RP that he will give me the 1m since I'm going to return it after I got my RP. Naso I go buy health insurance, pay processing fee only for my uncle to tell me that he doesn't have money, not even 500k I was begging him that I already booked appointment, to cut the long story short I was denied RP due to insufficient fund. Meanwhile this my uncle is in the US visiting his children as I dey type and this same person stayed with us when he lost his parents. Anyway I have moved on.

My advise to the OP is to move on with her life, if you are determined to study abroad you will. Forget about uncles or aunties anybody that will help you will do so even if it is a little amount just to show that he/she want to help.
so he owes you 1 million because he stayed in your house and he should not visit his children because you want to travel out
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:58am On Aug 16, 2018
Saintsquare:
I'm so sorry for your bitter experience, you see some people are just plain wicked, they will lead u on only to ruin it all later,I'm sure you would have looked elsewhere if he had told u he couldn't help in the first place.Some Africa mentality is that don't help other family members so that yours will remain as champion of the family.Even if he can't help the op,ordinary 100$ as application fee won't kill him na
but now this one's uncle has made it clear that he can't help you're all here saying he is wicked. Is it not better lead you on and enjoy the praise for awhile? If you've worked for 100 dollar before you will not think we'll giving it away to a fool without a plan
Nonsense
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 12:03pm On Aug 16, 2018
londoner:



Op, how much does your uncle earn?
quality just fucking quality. Shoulda led with this
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 12:07pm On Aug 16, 2018
Colouredgirl:
Ignore all this people saying your uncle doesn't owe u anything...esp if he's rich..I had an uncle like that,he never helped anyone to secure a job,he was in the position to do so..now..he's wallowing in poverty cos he lost everything along the line...he even calls to send recharge cards and all..but me and my siblings do the best we can for him..cos of his kids.they don't deserve to partake in their father's shortcomings. If your uncle is rich Luke u said..he ought to help you..best wishes!..don't give up
why does he owe her. Why doesn't dangote just share all his money since he is rich
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 12:08pm On Aug 16, 2018
Saintsquare:
Its sad how people love to see others suffer when helping cost almost nothing, I just smh when read some people's comment.
since it costs nothing why don't you help or why don't they help themselves shebi it costs nothing
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 12:12pm On Aug 16, 2018
helpyom:






I Know too well he has lots of properties here in Nigeria and he also work as a Project manager to an Ngo over there not married either.
that's not the question you were asked?
Do you know if he owes bank loan for those properties?
They asked you simple question you cannot answer
If he earns 1 million but his bill are 2 million how do you expect him to help you before himself?
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Colouredgirl: 8:56pm On Aug 16, 2018
Lol..
MIKOLOWISKA:
why does he owe her. Why doesn't dangote just share all his money since he is rich
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 9:22pm On Aug 16, 2018
Colouredgirl:
And this your dangote example make sense for your eye like this...if you are In the position to help,help..it's only becomes nauseating when this people feel they are entitled to it..sometimes people seek help genuinely and not because they feel entitled..my uncle consciously flaunts his wealth in our faces..not like he helped and we came calling for more..he never helped.this guy had like four mobile phones,he told us face to face..he's isn't interested in helping anyone..look at him today.he lost his job,he's diabetic,no money,nothing..
makes plenty sense
he doesn't owe her lkke dangote doesnt
ur uncle said he wont help and u are ranting online,thats the very definition of pestering entitlement.iz it by force.is it your money.you too make it then dash every member of your family d moni and see where you will end up
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Colouredgirl: 9:30pm On Aug 20, 2018
.all of us will 'be alright las las
MIKOLOWISKA:
makes plenty sense
he doesn't owe her lkke dangote doesnt
ur uncle said he wont help and u are ranting online,thats the very definition of pestering entitlement.iz it by force.is it your money.you too make it then dash every member of your family d moni and see where you will end up
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 10:41pm On Aug 20, 2018
Colouredgirl:
Ode so for your mind dangote doesn't help people.what has anything got to do with entitlement..yall just misuse the word entitlement...all of us will 'be alright las las
ode stop begging
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by gracechellar(f): 2:42pm On Mar 04, 2019
extwoo:
So if your relative travel out, they don turn automatic millionaire abi
Very good question. Like they dont have their lives to live also....mtcheeew

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