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Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 2:10pm On Apr 16, 2017
My mums brother is in Australia for 11yrs a masters holder in an NGO doing well no family member he's helping am a university graduate graduated 2yrs ago and served being doing a menial job as hospital pharmacy assistant i have always wanted to travel to countries like Cananda,Australia,usa,germany but i seem not oppoturned its been my desire to go and study pathology for graduate diploma and Physician Assistant/ immunology & vaccines for masters being that i was frustrated by my Hod then in sch to sleep with him before i could graduate this led ,me graduating with a 3rd class.

i have vision for studies seriously need help nobody to even help me to travel out to achieve this dreams even if it takes me working my ass off for 1/2yrs to send my self to sch there i dont mind,worst is here in Nigeria no work even someone determined to hustle this hard and make the money can't even see any talk of saving i have tried little saving up to 40k just wondering how long its going to take me achieve this dream i intend achieving all these before 30yrs am 26yrs meawhile i got admision at age 19yrs due to all my encounters with my pervert sch lecturer made me graudate at 24.

i cry each night seeing this dreams fade away i have dreams but i can't i don't know where help comes from i wake every night praying and crying to God sometimes i would think no hope on my side.




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For people bashing at me i accept and ingest all you throw at me you wouldn't know how it feels with the rate of unemployment over here only the poor with such dreams can testify and know how it feels like.

2.I never said money over there falls from the tree or easier thought based on the bills paid over there am all about remembering loved ones at home based on the fact life ain't easy.

3.Brothers and sisters I told u all about my dreams and visions in the research/medical industry my situation sometimes make me cry but I refuse giving up.

Am a 3rd clas graduate of Pharmacology therapeutics by circumstance but with vision and goals.

Prospective visions/goals
Pgd:Pathology /Pharmaceutical Quality assurance
Msc:Immunology & vaccines/Physician Assistant

4.Brothers and sisters talking about me going to Ecowas country am all about those programs and gaining knowledge practically also hustling /working to help my self in school.


I believe it will end in praise for those bashing at me thank you,I hope to be back on this thread in years to appreciate.

FOR 3RD CLASS holders with visions please don't give up.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by extwoo(m): 2:14pm On Apr 16, 2017
So if your relative travel out, they don turn automatic millionaire abi

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by escalux(m): 2:17pm On Apr 16, 2017
your uncle is not your father, You don't know what he is facing over there. People will always believe when once you're abroad all is well with you, my advice: Whatever thing your parents can't do for you don't think it's anybody's obligation to do it for you because they also have their own problems.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by littlewonders: 2:21pm On Apr 16, 2017
The world is a big place for each and every one of us to have a personal race. Bear your burden, no be person dey help you remove bae undies.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Davash222(m): 2:21pm On Apr 16, 2017
helpyom:
i was frustrated by my Hod then in sch to sleep with him before i could graduate this led ,me graduating with a 3rd class.

Story!!

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 2:24pm On Apr 16, 2017
This Op think say Yankee or Abroad nah Iyana Ipaja where Bros fit close eyes send money.

He has "aloro" problems man...Let him settle them first.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 2:31pm On Apr 16, 2017
My sister in Europe help us alot... She has built a house for my parents and established stores for my sisters as well and she's presently planning to take me to Europe, we are almost done with the paper. It varies

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 2:31pm On Apr 16, 2017
escalux:
your uncle is not your father, You don't know what he is facing over there. People will always believe when once you're abroad all is well with you, my advice: Whatever thing your parents can't do for you don't think it's anybody's obligation to do it for you because they also have their own problems.





Someone that has 2 big warehouse in lagos built any other lands even what he post online doesn't seem he's not doing well in all am saying atleast little help matters hence u chat up with him he reads the message and not reply next he blocks u.meanwhile if my parents are doing fine i wouldnt even bother him i believ in self made i hustle real hard but the issue of no jobs and no help seem to make one feel sad cry

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 2:38pm On Apr 16, 2017
Op your uncle owes you Nothing,


you better think of what you can do for your uncle and not what your uncle will do for


is it your father who sent him abroad that he has to pay back


self entitlement will limit your potentials

.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Destined2win: 2:47pm On Apr 16, 2017
Just let him be. Some people are lIke that.

But there is a way you can show him something; by being successful. Just pray to God and he will send you a helper.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Wisebird22(m): 2:47pm On Apr 16, 2017
my dear it always look greener on the other side bt looks might b deceptive...my case.i hav an anti who lives in europe,she has sponsored 6 of my cousins but only 2 used d opportunity the other 2 just collected d moni and enjoyed themself,she confided in me that she knew 2 of them wer nt in skol bt she continued to send moni to them for 4yrs and dt she kept three jobs so that she could meet up wit d demand bck home.rite nw she no d ansa anybody again so would u say she is wicked?mayb he had tried helpin sum1 in the family out and d person acted funny so dt psn game spoil the whole ticket.....

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 2:50pm On Apr 16, 2017
Archaa:
Op your uncle owes you Nothing,


you better think of what you can do for your uncle and not what your uncle will do for


is it your father who sent him abroad that he has to pay back


self entitlement will limit your potentials

.



My dad contributed little for him before he left the country for his fares then he was doing well.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by blackylola(m): 2:53pm On Apr 16, 2017
Archaa:
Op your uncle owes you Nothing,


you better think of what you can do for your uncle and not what your uncle will do for


is it your father who sent him abroad that he has to pay back


self entitlement will limit your potentials

.
I see another heartless uncle to be... Is it normal to ignore your relatives because its not their father that sent u abroad

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by doubletroublmum(f): 3:22pm On Apr 16, 2017
Hm i live abroad and we tried to bring my brother and nephew to Europe. Both showed laziness and poor interest, expecting everything on a golden plate, even stealing money meant for visapreparations. So we gave up on helping them, cause we struggle here too, only in a different way.

Living in Europa doesn't mean plenty of money to waste.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 3:30pm On Apr 16, 2017
blackylola:
I see another heartless uncle to be... Is it normal to ignore your relatives because its not their father that sent u abroad

Self entitlement has robbed a lot of peeps that they only lazy around for so long but only comes to terms when it was too late


talking from experience

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A friend graduated from school further waisted extra ten years and not even searching for any job cus his four biological brothers stays abroad and was spoiling him when he was in school



It became too late when he realises they have all faced their families over there

.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by greenmonk: 7:25pm On Apr 16, 2017
My sister be careful about abroad oo so that u won't end up in the hands of human traffickers given that you're female. Continue your justle and look for small scale business to do while you search for employment.

A lot of our brethren over there hide when they meet Nigerians who are on business trip due to the type of job they do.a

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Uyi168: 7:34pm On Apr 16, 2017
Falacy of hasty generalization..moreover,its just u,no one owes u anything

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Uyi168: 7:34pm On Apr 16, 2017
no one owes u anything..its just u..

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 8:30pm On Apr 16, 2017
Uyi168:
no one owes u anything..its just u..







I know no one owes me anything but it really hurts so bad if I had a good job am doing do you think I will be hissing all night the unemployment rate is high like it just kills dreams.

No job me I hustle real hard even little i get still help my siblings,This my uncle shows off this his wealth this my said uncle is my mums immediate bro i keep wondering well I keep hoping on God someday.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by bayocanny: 9:48pm On Apr 16, 2017
Sorry Op, that's life. "Familiarity does not compell mercy". Don't wait for an uncle to help u, you can do it you've got the zeal and determination to succeed. Everything we imagine is real and dreams do come to pass.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by bayocanny: 9:52pm On Apr 16, 2017
helpyom:




My dad contributed little for him before he left the country for his fares then he was doing well.
Forget, it has become a story. Face your hustle, the little sum you have try and use it to get a passport. Pray to God to pave a way, in no time things will fall in line just don't give up.
I'm also in your shoe

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 11:24pm On Apr 16, 2017
helpyom:




My dad contributed little for him before he left the country for his fares then he was doing well.

Get that "I am entitled" mentality off your head if not you will continue to struggle and not succeed until you take your last breathe.

I am not against family members helping out if they want to and if they don't leave them and find your way.

Your uncle doesn't have to help you. He is not obliged to.

This is why Nigeria is the way it is now. We all believe that the most successful in the family should be able to help others (CARRY THE LOAD OF THE WHOLE FAMILY)-and this mentality of ours kinda leads to laziness because we spend 70% of our time complaining of one family members or the other and 30% looking for a way out. I call it "playing the victim syndrome".

Imagine a case where this uncle of yours did not travel but is in Nigeria suffering with you. What will you do then? your answer is your way out

Stop looking at your uncle for help. FIND YOUR OWN DESTINY

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by lionlee216(m): 3:37am On Apr 17, 2017
OP, dont be annoyed if he refused to help you. No one owes you anything. Keep hustling

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by igho003(m): 7:55am On Apr 17, 2017
Justice96:
My sister in Europe help us alot... She has built a house for my parents and established stores for my sisters as well and she's presently planning to take me to Europe, we are almost done with the paper. It varies
bros which country she dey becus europe no gt moni

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by martinsfm(m): 8:33am On Apr 17, 2017
Bros when I saw this thread topic, I just wanted to come and say what you said, thank you, I can now leave FTC for that matter.
extwoo:
So if your relative travel out, they don turn automatic millionaire abi

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by martinsfm(m): 8:37am On Apr 17, 2017
I actually have a cousin that works with the office of queen of england, shes british tho, by birth, spent most of her life there, I no even get her number not to talk of asking for money or to come over there, I didnt die, her mama and mine na d same moda and father ooo

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Electroweb(m): 9:14am On Apr 17, 2017
Justice96:
My sister in Europe help us alot... She has built a house for my parents and established stores for my sisters as well and she's presently planning to take me to Europe, we are almost done with the paper. It varies

This your sister in Europe, has she built a house for herself in Nigeria? Which country is she in Europe?
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 10:35am On Apr 17, 2017
Op try to forget him and keep hustling, thank God u are not lazy and keep your head up. Don't mind all those bashing you,he who wears the shoe knows where its pinches.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 2:21pm On Apr 17, 2017
Op people abroad help this back home far to much, that is even the problem.

Anyway, what is it exactly you are expecting your uncle to help you with? I mean in your own clear words.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by johnnyvid(m): 3:00pm On Apr 17, 2017
Op I read and read your story and I shake my head. See that's how life is. Try and get your passport and apply for the school you want. After that pray to God for more helper on your behalf. That's how life is. It is only God that will help not man. A lot of people are in your shoes but they didn't give up in their dreams. Move on in your hustle and succeed. It is very challenging but God will make a way when seems there's no way.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 3:19pm On Apr 17, 2017
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This your sister in Europe, has she built a house for herself in Nigeria? Which country is she in Europe?

She is a citizen in Norway she has been there for 13years now and yes she has built her house.

When the person is your relatives it's somehow difficult to help but if its your biological brother or sister its easier however my sister has tried her best to the extent of renting an apartment for my father's second wife and her children. Like i said it depends on individual families

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