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|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 12:57am On Apr 25, 2017|
I think things have changed now sef. I stand to be corrected though. A year ago one Kogi guy wanted his sister in-law to do a diploma in nursing in Australia. The guy stopped the process because they asked for almost 50k in his account for fees and proof of fund.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 7:19am On Apr 25, 2017|
WellEndowed:People on this forum have helped peeps they never seen in there life with either monetary gift or employment.The uncle never made it there without somebody helping him too,who knows maybe if the op dad had not helped him he would still be in naija.... No one is even telling him to send her large sum of money but I'm sure he can decide to stand for her as sponsor, that alone means something. I don't know how people justify wickedness nawao
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|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 7:42am On Apr 25, 2017|
Sorry bro what makes you feel i don't assist people I think you could check back on all my post here dear I have siblings in medical sch i atleast send little money from the little stipends am being paid to get textbooks and other school material even send little money to them when they so beg me for such help not that i have enough am managing
Meanwhile am a rotaract I contribute and donate to the the poor we most times visit these less prievelege ones and do sanitations.I feel helping someone is beyound ones willing power to do i don't have that mentality that it should be uncle's responsibility but atleast he was helped to be whr he is now what's wrong helping others in little ways to be like him.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 8:20am On Apr 25, 2017|
He stands as her sponsor? Do you even know how much is required to be in the sponsor's acct? What if he hasn't got that all that money?
Ok he agrees to "stand for her as sponsor"/he doesn't have to give her a large sum...who then pays for her school fees? Where will she get thousands of dollars to pay her fees assuming the uncle decides to be "her sponsor in paper only?
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by moonraker(m): 8:27am On Apr 25, 2017|
Young lady, you have alot to answer for. Your story does not add up....A war had started because of your thread.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 8:28am On Apr 25, 2017|
I never told him to help me study in Australia I know too well Australia is expensive,we talked and chatted like family then in university days untill I told him about helping me with the project money of #90,000 for the research on my white albino rat am to feed and house for the project then in my finals my uncle didn't chat with me again.
I send warm regards/greetings during festive periods he still don't reply me.
The last time he replied me was last year September when I finished serving and posted my Nysc outfit and certificate on Facebook he liked the post and replied inbox telling me congrats.
But I tried telling him all I passed through in sch and started up chat about further studies he didn't reply anytin till now.
Meanwhile I sometime blamed my self for certain decisions I made way back then in school.
As for the Turkey u mentioned dear there's no sch in Europe ,America with such practical experience I wouldn't love to go, all I yearn for is just a 1year degree in Pgd with my best and the last chance given to me i hope to be on top of my game to secure a masters scholarship.
2.For funding it ain't easy for me with my grade 24th Dec to 2nd Jan I was off duties I was indoors althrough i used that period to apply scholarships both for graduate diploma scholarships and Undergraduate scholarship for developing countries it wasn't easy no positive response some actually were partial school funding which I didn't push further some requested admission first applications is all about money.
I knw I try alot about all these the fact he is my uncle and one time was helped by someone let's forget my dad helping him too,God didn't come down from heaven to help him he only uses our fellow humans to bless our hustle.
I only came online to ask this not that my uncle is not doing well he is ok.
Little help sometimes can go a long way to our life sucess
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 8:43am On Apr 25, 2017|
WellEndowed:Good question, there are other countries with moderate tuition and cost of living in Europe, its not by force to go OZ knowingly that will cost fortune.Let's agree he is not willing to help but
avoiding and blocking her from reaching him is just pure wickedness. Some mentioned even if it a small amount just to show concern won't kill the uncle fa
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 9:00am On Apr 25, 2017|
Most European countries is tuition free HOWEVER it is a requirement for her to have a lump sum amount(thousands of Euro...Germany for example) in her acct in the country that she wants to study in...enough money to last her for the first year.
Where will the money come from?
My point is he is not obliged to help her. If he wants to good, if not then what's the case here? He blocked her? How much of a pest was she?...shes going to come back now and say she only contacted him once in a blue moon
Why not advise her to save the little Naira she has and start something in Nigeria?
Years ago I enrolled in a course in Europe. We had to have a minimum of 7k euros in my acct. That money must be in the acct.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 9:07am On Apr 25, 2017|
WellEndowed:Germany ke ,where she wan get 8k euros,lets look at the Baltic countries, they are moderate compared to the likes of Germany and other west eu countries. The op would need to go back to the drawing board and work out a plan if she's keen on traveling abroad, my beef is just for that uncle who is stingy like Union bank horse.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 9:09am On Apr 25, 2017|
She cannot travel without funds. She needs money. The uncle is not stingy. You don't know him apart from what the OP posted here
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 9:15am On Apr 25, 2017|
WellEndowed:Yes she needs money to perfect her travel plans ,the uncle should let her know he can't be of help to her in anyway instead of running away lol ...some uncle self
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by moonraker(m): 10:03am On Apr 25, 2017|
This is IT right here... I said the same thing here and i was bashed, lol foolish everywhere
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by AdeAdeAA: 10:18am On Apr 25, 2017|
Don't mind those uncles. Last year August I got admission to study in Finland and I went to tell my uncle that I already have 1.5m but due to increased exchange rate I needed 1m to make it 2.5m because 6720euros is required to be in ones account to get Resident Permit(RP). Uncle told me not to worry that I should go ahead and apply for RP that he will give me the 1m since I'm going to return it after I got my RP. Naso I go buy health insurance, pay processing fee only for my uncle to tell me that he doesn't have money, not even 500k I was begging him that I already booked appointment, to cut the long story short I was denied RP due to insufficient fund. Meanwhile this my uncle is in the US visiting his children as I dey type and this same person stayed with us when he lost his parents. Anyway I have moved on.
My advise to the OP is to move on with her life, if you are determined to study abroad you will. Forget about uncles or aunties anybody that will help you will do so even if it is a little amount just to show that he/she want to help.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 10:33am On Apr 25, 2017|
AdeAdeAA:I'm so sorry for your bitter experience, you see some people are just plain wicked, they will lead u on only to ruin it all later,I'm sure you would have looked elsewhere if he had told u he couldn't help in the first place.Some Africa mentality is that don't help other family members so that yours will remain as champion of the family.Even if he can't help the op,ordinary 100$ as application fee won't kill him na
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by tobiasbeecher: 11:01am On Apr 25, 2017|
moonraker:The highlighted part of your comment doesn't make sense because I never said such and I never insinuated it. That is the figment of your imagination. The unhighlighted part has answered my question.
moonraker:Again, the highlighted part of your comment has answered my question and the unhighlighted are just irrelevancies and your personal insinuations that don't have any connection to what I asked. I never assumed that and I never advocated for that.
moonraker:Another irrelevant comment that doesn't have any bearing to what I'm saying. Can you point out from my post where I made such submission?
moonraker:The first highlighted is what I have been saying, so what is all these about? I will overlook your insult.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by GetUmad: 12:42pm On Apr 25, 2017|
And if he says the emboldened he'd strike more chords and eventually be quoted.
I understand the OP perfectly, I was once in the op's shoe, the only difference is I never held it against anyone cos I understood early enough that they're not indebted to me, regardless of how we could have been instrumental to their achievements. You people need to notice the bone of contention here, it's palpable from every words the op is putting together. That's where I don't agree with him/her. OP keeps making reference to how the Uncle too was helped. The op might want to vehemently argue this, but it's obvious the bone of contention is "refusal of the Uncle to help despite being helped when he needed one". Agreed, he was helped. If the op's dad hadn't "helped" (whatever that means and however significant or otherwise that might have been) the Uncle, someone else would have. Whatever is meant to be would be. Wherever you're destined to be, you'd be even if no one agrees to help when it matters, help would come in another way and another form. The OP would definitely get to where she is destined to, with Uncle's help or not. She should just never give up on her dream, with Hardwork and prayer he/she would pay the Uncle a surprise visit one day wherever the Uncle is, then it'd now be a tussle between the two , that is, the Uncle and the Uncle's very conscience,which is a function of if he was deliberately unhelpful or not.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 12:44pm On Apr 25, 2017|
GetUmad:I understand you perfectly
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by GetUmad: 1:09pm On Apr 25, 2017|
Saintsquare:Let me gist you a story. Had a cousin that travelled late 80s, he was doing quite well, at least according to our assessment. He later invited his siblings over. Another cousin was staying with them all along. When that one finished school, he lobbied and beseeched them for help since he could not get a job. He was neglected and was literally turned into their house help back here in naija for their mum since he had always stayed their and was helping out even b4 he went to school. The anger and frustration made the guy to struggle on his own and gather money to get a house of his own and then hustled again to process his travelling. All along no one knew. He went there, after some months of settling in, he called them with Yankee number that he'd like to pay them a visit. According to him, they were not just shocked but embarrassed . He eventually went and out of shame they started talking about how they passed through some things, how they wanted to help, how US wasn't easy at a point in time. The guy I'm talking about now is balling. He's got cars here for Uber, doing his personal house project supervised by his wife before she went over . He's invited his wife over and he's working with their govt their.
The OP too can achieve that to even spite the Uncle. But one thing I would repeat is, don't ever think anyone owes you anything even if you are solely responsible for whom they are today.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 1:15pm On Apr 25, 2017|
GetUmad:Quite a story,if you look at my argument, its not about him bringing the op abroad but his hanky panky attitude.The op just need to go back to the drawing board and think of a way of achieving her goals ...
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 7:13pm On Apr 25, 2017|
Yes because the fees alone are often over 30,000 Dollars. Then the extra 18,000 or so.
It is not small change or easy for someone to earn that money, it takes years. If he has children or plans to it is THEM he should be saving that money for. He actually has a responsibility to do that before some niece in Nigeria.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 7:20pm On Apr 25, 2017|
Op, how much does your uncle earn?
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 7:25pm On Apr 25, 2017|
i really don't know
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 7:35pm On Apr 25, 2017|
There are many Nigerians studying in Turkey because of lower fees.
There are scholarship opportunities worldwide.
Your uncle has said no which is his right. Work out a plan b.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 7:36pm On Apr 25, 2017|
Okay, what are his bills?
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 7:46pm On Apr 25, 2017|
Op you applied for scholarships between 24th of December and 2nd of January?
That's just over one week. If your grades are preventing you from scholarship opportunities maybe you should think about something other than study.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 7:50pm On Apr 25, 2017|
Just stand in as her sponsor? sponsor of what? And please explain what that would involve.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 7:57pm On Apr 25, 2017|
I Know too well he has lots of properties here in Nigeria and he also work as a Project manager to an Ngo over there not married either.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 8:04pm On Apr 25, 2017|
i even subscribed to those schorlarship mails that i use in applying any that comes out i see alot and i apply the ones that don't require much funds from me i can send u list of schorlarships have applied. Even lately was able to get one in germany that could get me but the money for germany blocked acct i don't have anyone to help or is it mastercard i applied have tried all that my problem is fund for blocked acct if am going to europe.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 9:28pm On Apr 25, 2017|
The question was what are his bills.
So, what are his bills?
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 9:30pm On Apr 25, 2017|
Well why not look into something else that is within your means? Or countries that have lower fees but offer scholarships? In other words cut your coat according to your size/pocket or look beyond education at this point.
By the way, may I ask what lead to the one in Germany blocking your account? I don't understand what you were saying about MasterCard.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by AdeAdeAA: 10:02pm On Apr 25, 2017|
I guess she means MasterCard Foundation Scholarship, it's a fully funded scholarship but it's usually merit based and lots of exams and essays to write.
For Germany she needed above 8000euros to be blocked in an account in Germany, although the money will be hers but she will only have assess to it when she gets to Germany and the money will be pay to her to her account every month.
I suggest she tries other small countries in Europe like Estonia, Czech republic, Austria, Poland etc. with low tuition fee.
|Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by tobiasbeecher: 10:04pm On Apr 25, 2017|
WellEndowed:And do you know him to conclude that he is not stingy?
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