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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 10:27pm On Apr 25, 2017
londoner:


Well why not look into something else that is within your means? Or countries that have lower fees but offer scholarships? In other words cut your coat according to your size/pocket or look beyond education at this point.

By the way, may I ask what lead to the one in Germany blocking your account? I don't understand what you were saying about MasterCard.




maybe u can help me search for cheap country that can helpout on my carrer pathway i have searched not at all


Look beyond education at this point??
I desire to go further am all about the impacts i will make in life through my research .

3.No i didnt say germany blocked my account said german embassy will request for a atleast 8000euro blocked acct before issuing visa to me i saw a feeding/housing scholarship that i can secure in germany but the blocked acct is my only problem.

4. Mastercard??
is a scholarship for students from developing countries of which they carter for everything i applied didnt get that i saw alot of scholarships most of scholarships are either partial/full time scholarship some even require u pay an application fee before they consider anything.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 11:01pm On Apr 25, 2017
op you need an overall estimate from the application fee to settling down in the country you wanna go,when you do this then you can work towards it .
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 1:21am On Apr 26, 2017
tobiasbeecher:

And do you know him to conclude that he is not stingy?

You have to read between the lines to understand that statement of mine
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 1:24am On Apr 26, 2017
moonraker:



Gbam angry angry

This is IT right here... I said the same thing here and i was bashed, lol foolish everywhere

You can't call someone you don't know stingy. Read the OPs long response to one of Londoner's post. Few times the uncle made contact, the OP is busy whinging to him how it hasn't been easy for her and how she would like to further her studies.

This man hadn't chatted with you for a long time and when he finally congratulated you started the whole help me out talk

Let me even find the post and quote here

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 1:27am On Apr 26, 2017
helpyom:










I never told him to help me study in Australia I know too well Australia is expensive,we talked and chatted like family then in university days untill I told him about helping me with the project money of #90,000 for the research on my white albino rat am to feed and house for the project then in my finals my uncle didn't chat with me again.


I send warm regards/greetings during festive periods he still don't reply me.

The last time he replied me was last year September when I finished serving and posted my Nysc outfit and certificate on Facebook he liked the post and replied inbox telling me congrats.

But I tried telling him all I passed through in sch and started up chat about further studies he didn't reply anytin till now.

Meanwhile I sometime blamed my self for certain decisions I made way back then in school.

As for the Turkey u mentioned dear there's no sch in Europe ,America with such practical experience I wouldn't love to go, all I yearn for is just a 1year degree in Pgd with my best and the last chance given to me i hope to be on top of my game to secure a masters scholarship.


2.For funding it ain't easy for me with my grade 24th Dec to 2nd Jan I was off duties I was indoors althrough i used that period to apply scholarships both for graduate diploma scholarships and Undergraduate scholarship for developing countries it wasn't easy no positive response some actually were partial school funding which I didn't push further some requested admission first applications is all about money.

I knw I try alot about all these the fact he is my uncle and one time was helped by someone let's forget my dad helping him too,God didn't come down from heaven to help him he only uses our fellow humans to bless our hustle.

I only came online to ask this not that my uncle is not doing well he is ok.

Little help sometimes can go a long way to our life sucess
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by tobiasbeecher: 10:52am On Apr 26, 2017
WellEndowed:


You have to read between the lines to understand that statement of mine
There is nothing in between your lines that supported your conclusion. if there is, please point it out to me
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by genuineone: 11:08am On Apr 26, 2017
helpyom:
My mums brother is in Australia for 11yrs a masters holder in an NGO doing well no family member he's helping am a university graduate graduated 2yrs ago and served being doing a menial job as hospital pharmacy assistant i have always wanted to travel to countries like Cananda,Australia,usa,germany but i seem not oppoturned its been my desire to go and study pathology for graduate diploma and Physician Assistant/ immunology & vaccines for masters being that i was frustrated by my Hod then in sch to sleep with him before i could graduate this led ,me graduating with a 3rd class.

i have vision for studies seriously need help nobody to even help me to travel out to achieve this dreams even if it takes me working my ass off for 1/2yrs to send my self to sch there i dont mind,worst is here in Nigeria no work even someone determined to hustle this hard and make the money can't even see any talk of saving i have tried little saving up to 40k just wondering how long its going to take me achieve this dream i intend achieving all these before 30yrs am 26yrs meawhile i got admision at age 19yrs due to all my encounters with my pervert sch lecturer made me graudate at 24.

i cry each night seeing this dreams fade away i have dreams but i can't i don't know where help comes from i wake every night praying and crying to God sometimes i would think no hope on my side.




Edited:
For people bashing at me i accept and ingest all you throw at me you wouldn't know how it feels with the rate of unemployment over here only the poor with such dreams can testify and know how it feels like.

2.I never said money over there falls from the tree or easier thought based on the bills paid over there am all about remembering loved ones at home based on the fact life ain't easy.

3.Brothers and sisters I told u all about my dreams and visions in the research/medical industry my situation sometimes make me cry but I refuse giving up.

Am a 3rd clas graduate of Pharmacology therapeutics by circumstance but with vision and goals.

Prospective visions/goals
Pgd:Pathology /Pharmaceutical Quality assurance
Msc:Immunology & vaccines/Physician Assistant

4.Brothers and sisters talking about me going to Ecowas country am all about those programs and gaining knowledge practically also hustling /working to help my self in school.


I believe it will end in praise for those bashing at me thank you,I hope to be back on this thread in years to appreciate.

FOR 3RD CLASS holders with visions please don't give up.


Dear op, I have been following this thread silently for long and you truly deserve the help of your uncle. This world is a world of benefits, it is also Clear that we all serve God to derive some physical and spiritual benefits from Him. Don't worry about the character of your uncle, people are like that in this world, I have also been treated in that way by people I have helped. Till now, that doesn't stop me to help people, I can even borrow to help because I know that all is vanity at the end. But most people doesn't keep that in mind. Even Jesus said (Matthew 5:42 Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away). Helping and giving people should be normal to us. I am sure God is taking you to a greater height, and when you get there give to all that ask from you and do not turn your back to those that will borrow from you. STAY BLESSED IN JESUS NAME.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Colouredgirl: 12:07pm On Apr 26, 2017
Lol

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 12:21pm On Apr 26, 2017
Colouredgirl:
Ignore all this people saying your uncle doesn't owe u anything...esp if he's rich..I had an uncle like that,he never helped anyone to secure a job,he was in the position to do so..now..he's wallowing in poverty cos he lost everything along the line...he even calls to send recharge cards and all..but me and my siblings do the best we can for him..cos of his kids.they don't deserve to partake in their father's shortcomings. If your uncle is rich Luke u said..he ought to help you..best wishes!..don't give up
Its sad how people love to see others suffer when helping cost almost nothing, I just smh when read some people's comment.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by ttmacoy: 12:21pm On Apr 26, 2017
the point she is making is where it is clear someone is living beyond their means she will say no e.g. I know last month you spent money on unnecessary party, or bought an expensive car then you come and ask me for school fees, I will say no because you obviously don't have your priorities straight.

If it's a different case e.g. maybe I know you fell on hard times but are usually responsible financial I will be more inclined to help rather than someone who spends irresponsibly then expects me to contribute to his child's schools fees every year.

toluine56:

Even when you can help with even 5% of the said sum, you'll outrightly say you don't have, is that what you're telling us?
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by toluine56(m): 12:27pm On Apr 26, 2017
ttmacoy:
the point she is making is where it is clear someone is living beyond their means she will say no e.g. I know last month you spent money on unnecessary party, or bought an expensive car then you come and ask me for school fees, I will say no because you obviously don't have your priorities straight.

If it's a different case e.g. maybe I know you fell on hard times but are usually responsible financial I will be more inclined to help rather than someone who spends irresponsibly then expects me to contribute to his child's schools fees every year.

I don't understand you.
You're typing off point.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Seajae: 5:37pm On Apr 26, 2017
I've been reading all the comments on here and I'm gonna just leave the op with a few words.
1. Your uncle may or may not owe you shii but there's a way you'd go about it and he might just decide to help. You have to at least show him that you're willing to support or contribute to your plight ces nobody would just wanna use his hard earned money to single handedly sponsor you to the Oz.
2. I always tell myself this, "If you expect people to invest in you then you have to be willing to prove to em that you have something to offer (save up something no matter how little, write an English proficiency test, make enough research about travelling to Oz and hit him up again with relevant information this time).
3. I came out with a 3rd as well but I never blamed anybody for that but me. Go back and think deeply how and what you can do to sway your uncle and let him know that if he decides to help you won't be a liability or make him regret it.
Last but not least, YOUR UNCLE DOESN'T OWE YOU SHII
Goodluck in your future endeavors

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 6:16pm On Apr 26, 2017
Seajae:
I've been reading all the comments on here and I'm gonna just leave the op with a few words.
1. Your uncle may or may not owe you shii but there's a way you'd go about it and he might just decide to help. You have to at least show him that you're willing to support or contribute to your plight ces nobody would just wanna use his hard earned money to single handedly sponsor you to the Oz.
2. I always tell myself this, "If you expect people to invest in you then you have to be willing to prove to em that you have something to offer (save up something no matter how little, write an English proficiency test, make enough research about travelling to Oz and hit him up again with relevant information this time).
3. I came out with a 3rd as well but I never blamed anybody for that but me. Go back and think deeply how and what you can do to sway your uncle and let him know that if he decides to help you won't be a liability or make him regret it.
Last but not least, YOUR UNCLE DOESN'T OWE YOU SHII
Goodluck in your future endeavors







i have ielts academic test result i took it last year november, i have german A1 result as well i took it 2015 June/July geothe institute lagos bro.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 7:33pm On Apr 26, 2017
Colouredgirl:
Ignore all this people saying your uncle doesn't owe u anything...esp if he's rich..I had an uncle like that,he never helped anyone to secure a job,he was in the position to do so..now..he's wallowing in poverty cos he lost everything along the line...he even calls to send recharge cards and all..but me and my siblings do the best we can for him..cos of his kids.they don't deserve to partake in their father's shortcomings. If your uncle is rich Luke u said..he ought to help you..best wishes!..don't give up






thanks its well
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Seajae: 8:11pm On Apr 26, 2017
helpyom:








i have ielts academic test result i took it last year november, i have german A1 result as well i took it 2015 June/July geothe institute lagos bro.

My dear I know exactly how you feel trust me, but the only effective advice I can give you is to raise a certain amount, if your family has land you could sell it and add what you have. Then you can contact your uncle again and let him know you have something to contribute to the table. Then he'd be a monster to not know your zeal is fire.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 10:44pm On Apr 26, 2017
helpyom:





maybe u can help me search for cheap country that can helpout on my carrer pathway i have searched not at all


Look beyond education at this point??
I desire to go further am all about the impacts i will make in life through my research .

3.No i didnt say germany blocked my account said german embassy will request for a atleast 8000euro blocked acct before issuing visa to me i saw a feeding/housing scholarship that i can secure in germany but the blocked acct is my only problem.

4. Mastercard??
is a scholarship for students from developing countries of which they carter for everything i applied didnt get that i saw alot of scholarships most of scholarships are either partial/full time scholarship some even require u pay an application fee before they consider anything.

Did you not see the links I put here are and the advice? You have the internet and you are still asking me to help you search cheaper countries using the same internet ? People here have given you advice just use it.


You say you want to make an impact through 'research' ? So you can't look beyond education?

Seek out companies funding research then if that is what you want to do. Work on getting yourself where you need to be to apply for your scholarship.

Or choose a different pathway.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 10:52pm On Apr 26, 2017
Op there are lots of posters here who believe you should be helped no matter how small I'm sure if you set up a 'gofundme' page they will all contribute their small part to your cause. The page is specifically for funding personal endeavours like yours.
Let's see if they will put their money where their mouths are.

You can Google search the site online.

Best of luck.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 2:43am On Apr 27, 2017
londoner:
Op there are lots of posters here who believe you should be helped no matter how small I'm sure if you set up a 'gofundme' page they will all contribute their small part to your cause. The page is specifically for funding personal endeavours like yours.
Let's see if they will put their money where their mouths are.

You can Google search the site online.

Best of luck.




thanks if that's the advice you could give even though i know and hear a lot about go fund me,had to wake up one day to write down all that here seeing how frustrated i was. I wonder what could make you think i should forget that my study goals.

You say you want to make an impact through 'research' ? So you can't look beyond education?.......Just this line should give me a prayer topic this midnight.

i hope to be back on this thread in some yrs time by God's grace to rejoice and help people like me with goals.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 5:24am On Apr 27, 2017
escalux:
your uncle is not your father, You don't know what he is facing over there. People will always believe when once you're abroad all is well with you, my advice: Whatever thing your parents can't do for you don't think it's anybody's obligation to do it for you because they also have their own problems.

And that's all there it to it.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 5:35am On Apr 27, 2017
justwise:


You made a lot of false assumptions that lead me to wonder if you have ever worked and earn an honest living either home or abroad.

I concur.

We're back to the old unsound assumption that folks overseas are swimming in a sea of money.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 5:35am On Apr 27, 2017
GiantParrot:


Repeat this over and over again:

1. Nobody fvcking owes me anything, except he/she is my parent!
2. Nobody fvcking owes me anything, except he/she made the choice to adopt me!
3. Nobody fvcking owes me anything, except it is obvious to both that person and me that he/she is in my debt, and I expect repayment!
4. I do not really know people's financial situations, all I have is assumptions about their welfare! And even if I know their true financial situation, they do not fvcking owe me anything, except 1,2, or 3 above hold!
5. I will not expect my relatives/friends/whatever abroad to do menial jobs and send money to me! I will kill all sense of entitlement to other people's resources!
6. The world/universe/government does not give a sh1t about me, they only owe me when I pay my taxes! I will find my way in this world even when the odds are clearly stacked against me!
7. I am responsible for the choices I make, and I will take personal responsibility for my failure and progress!


The sense of entitlement on this thread is nauseating!

I agree.

Truly and outstandingly shocking.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by salford: 5:48am On Apr 27, 2017
escalux:
your uncle is not your father, You don't know what he is facing over there. People will always believe when once you're abroad all is well with you, my advice: Whatever thing your parents can't do for you don't think it's anybody's obligation to do it for you because they also have their own problems.
Some Nigerian parents overseas send there children out to take up walmart jobs or babysitting before they clock 18 so that they understand how hard it is to save money abroad. There is no free dinner for obodo oyinbo.lol
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 8:11am On Apr 27, 2017
helpyom:





thanks if that's the advice you could give even though i know and hear a lot about go fund me,had to wake up one day to write down all that here seeing how frustrated i was. I wonder what could make you think i should forget that my study goals.

You say you want to make an impact through 'research' ? So you can't look beyond education?.......Just this line should give me a prayer topic this midnight.

i hope to be back on this thread in some yrs time by God's grace to rejoice and help people like me with goals.

I didn't say forget your studies I said look beyond, there is a difference . Have it as a goal to reach in the future when you are in a better financial position.

You have heard about gofundme which is actually for matters like this but you took it no further? Why is that? I don't understand that.

You have people here who seem to be all for contributing to others. Maybe it's not just talk and they will contribute.

I know life can be frustrating but to create a thread to incite people to criticize your uncle and all those abroad was not the right way to go.

I'm not one to side with people who simply feel entitled to the fruits of someone elses labour, although I do hope you are able to reach your goals.

Best of luck to you.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 8:15am On Apr 27, 2017
EgunMogaji:


I concur.

We're back to the old unsound assumption that folks overseas are swimming in a sea of money.

Lol exactly, when most are swimming in bills.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MMotimo: 5:22pm On Apr 30, 2017
tobiasbeecher:

What a write-up! I must say I gained one or two thing from what you wrote, Kudos! But we should endeavour to help when we have the means to help, some people are just wicked and selfish to help others. Once again, nice stuff.

"one or two things" is enough for me and makes the epistle worthwhile, thank you
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:14am On Aug 16, 2018
tobiasbeecher:

Then if you're being overwhelmed by all these bills, I wonder what you're still doing over there? Why can't you bring your azz back to Nigeria?
For christ sake, the girl said the uncle is doing well and was helped somehow by her father, so why can't she be disappointed with such uncle when she knows he has the capacity to help out? You mustn't be a millionaire or make all the money abroad before you can help.
how do you know he has capacity to help her.
Do you think it's only 1 person disturbing him.
Do you know if he has returned the help her dad gave which is all he owes by the way. How e take comcine anoda pesin pikin?
Him no go take care of him own pikin because him broda epp him. Nonsense entitlement mentality. No go enter farm ye hear
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:16am On Aug 16, 2018
tobiasbeecher:

So all these rants are just for you to tell her to go and ask politicians for money? Abeg swerve, we know your type
so you rather chop anodaperson moni dan collect your money stolen by politician. I see your level of wisdom
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:18am On Aug 16, 2018
toluine56:

Best and most reasonable comment so far.

What's the exchange rate of dollar to naira?

#10000 now sef is about $35 and that's me being moderate. Now if you staying abroad doing the most menial job and can't help ur people back home even with as little as #35 even if its once in a year, then forget it its either you're selfish, greedy or you don't just care about others. I have a relation abroad (not blood o) and she sends little cash once every year. I still grumble about the amount, but deep down I still appreciate it cos I know it ain't easy. This is someone with four kids and also schooling herslf. Call a spade a spade, there's absolutely no excuse for not helping no matter how little once you're abroad and I'm basing my argument on the exchange rate.
you think 35 dollar is easy to make or save. Why don't you do menial job in Nigeria and make the 10k since its easy

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:19am On Aug 16, 2018
toluine56:

Best and most reasonable comment so far.

What's the exchange rate of dollar to naira?

#10000 now sef is about $35 and that's me being moderate. Now if you staying abroad doing the most menial job and can't help ur people back home even with as little as #35 even if its once in a year, then forget it its either you're selfish, greedy or you don't just care about others. I have a relation abroad (not blood o) and she sends little cash once every year. I still grumble about the amount, but deep down I still appreciate it cos I know it ain't easy. This is someone with four kids and also schooling herslf. Call a spade a spade, there's absolutely no excuse for not helping no matter how little once you're abroad and I'm basing my argument on the exchange rate.
you think 35 dollar is easy to make or save. Why don't you do menial job in Nigeria and make the 10k since its easy also they not your Parents, they don't owe you sheet
And most important, you think you're the only relative? How many will they send to. 10 times 35 every month is 350 dollars. Where will it come from. Very lazy yoot
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:26am On Aug 16, 2018
Saintsquare:
When all those yeye uncle wan carry girlfriend and her family enter money go dey that time,op sha take am easy...
so make konji kill am make him no marry and born pikin cos your papa born you without plan?
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:30am On Aug 16, 2018
toluine56:

Even when you can help with even 5% of the said sum, you'll outrightly say you don't have, is that what you're telling us?
why should you send your children to 425 k school

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