Bhola:

I have not signed on Nairaland for a minute, but I had to for this.

This is what I don't understand. How two grown people, can date for four years and then end up breaking up, because one party said "no" to a marriage proposal. People, people, wake up. Getting married, dating, courtship, it is not just time to look pretty and have sex. It is time to know each other. You don't need to write exams to find out if the girl or guy you are with, will be your better half. It is quite easy. It is called, read slowly, COMMUNICATION, just like IICE pointed out. Really, what do people do when they are dating? What? You don't talk? How will anyone get a NO response on the most important question? That still baffles me. It just shows a lot of people don't have a clue what to do in a relationship.

Ok, to the topic at hand. Tell your friend, to contact me, I have a ton of friends that want to get married. I hope he is in Nigeria. Just kidding. I don't even know what to say. I have always said it and I'll keep saying it, we choose the way we want to live our lifes. I am so sure, 100% sure, I can even bet my six-digit salary on it, that he saw it coming or felt it. People just choose to ignore things.

If she does not want to combine marriage with career, finds it hard to hang around the guys family, does not get along well with the guy's friends. Me think, she is not a wife material. He should cry over it for a sec and move on. There are indeed better people.

I think I need to write a book on relationships. It is getting really sad.

GNature:

Thanks oo Miss Oprah Winfrey abeg, help me tell demm oo. You have said it all

Bhola:

Thanks, Gnature. Not seen you here in a long time, but I have not been here too.

Bhola:

Just telling it the way it is, no need to sugar coat it. Time people realize that their happiness is determined by them and them alone.

Rhea:

People,

I know a lot of you did not see this coming. The latest from this broken relationship is that the girl may have realised she made a mistake, thus could be making moves for a comeback. However, the guy is now playing hard ball.

He's actuallybeen heard saying that he isn't ready for another relationship just yet (probably trying to heal the scars of the last one). His answer to his ex's comeback plea has been a resilient and unflinching NO.

Is this guy heartless or did the girl get what she deserved?

More comments anticipated.

Actually i expected that! Its the usual tory. Where are the gals who stick to their guns? Actually i think he wasn't heartless. They have broken up, he's not willing to go back to her, that is his right regardless of how we feel or don't feel.