One of the biggest challenges single Christians face is dealing with sexual lust and temptations. It is even harder if you have been sexually active before. Once you have tasted it and enjoyed. You want more!
IT IS NATURAL TO GET SEXUAL URGES.
God creaated us as sexual beings . But when those feelings rise up, you can't just jump into bed with any person unless that person is your lawful spouse .
THE BIBLE HAS CLEAR GUIDELINES ABOUT SEX.
"so put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust and evil desires " col 3 vs 5. So fornication is not on the agenda. Then what are you supposed to do to control those feelings that sweep over you from time to time?
Well there are a few things you can do. I hope you will find this list useful in helping you put your lustful desires under control.
Today I talk about the first one and on subsequent Sundays ,I will bring the others.
1. DON'T HAVE UNNECESSARY MEANINGLESS RELATIONSHIPS.
Loneliness can make you form relationships just for the sake of having someone in your life. It's frustrating when you need a hug and don't have anyone to hold you. Or maybe you need an encouraging word when you are feeling low.
Loneliness can drive you to start dating. You get to know each other. He likes you and you like him.
The only problem is he's not serious about commitment. He says he is a Christian. Yet he doesn't see anything wrong with having sex. He justifies it by telling you it's okay to try it out to see if you are compatible. You really like him and you have been without sex for a long time.
He knows how you feel. So he tries his best to play play on your vulnerability. If you are not careful, you could give in. After all, you want to please him. And you don't want to lose him. Even though you know the relationship is going nowhere.
Is it worth giving up your treasure for a few moments of pleasure? Men like that will leave after they have had their ration. They will move on to the next female victim.
2.REMEMBER THAT YOUR BODY IS A TEMPLE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT.
Treat your body with respect. You are meant to keep it pure. Don't do anything with it that will make you feel guilty or disgusted afterwards. That usually happens when you have sex with someone you are not supposed to. You wake up the next morning full of regrets. When lustful thoughts over flood your heart, remember that the holy spirit lives within you. It's a bit like knowing someone's always watching you. That someone is God. If you have got the fear of God in you, that's enough to help you overcome sexual lust. Also every time you have sex with someone, you are forming a spiritual soul-tie with that person. It goes even deeper than that. When you have sex with a man, you are also having sex with everyone he has had sex with as well.
3. MAKE COVENANT WITH GOD THAT YOU WILL KEEP YOUR BODY PURE.
Sometimes the only thing that can keep you in check is a vow. Enter into a covenant of purity with the lord if you are single and if married vow not to UnCloth before any other person that is not your spouse. God respects our vows. When you are in such a covenant and you know the grave implications of breaking them, you are focused and disciplined.
4.DON'T CONFUSE LUST WITH LOVE
Lust and love are closely related. You could easily mistake one for the other. As a Christian, you are not supposed to have sex until you are married. So, if you are not sure if it's lust or love, you should wait anyway. if it's lust and you didn't give in to temptation, the feelings will pass. And if it's love, your love will grow stronger and over ride your lustful desires. God's definition of love is in 1Corinthians 13:4-8
5.TRY NOT TO PUT YOURSELF IN SITUATIONS WHERE YOU WILL GET TEMPTED.
It's easy to get tempted if you in a relationship. It could start innocently. You are sitting close to each other, cuddling. He strokes you, then you kiss. The next thing passions starts to run high. Unless you are strong, you could easily give in to temptation. But if you find yourself in that compromising situation, leave the room. Or better still, go home. If the person is at your place, ask him or her to leave you.
God will never you in a position where you are not able to handle temptation. But you have to play your part, and resist temptation with every fibre of your being.
Till next Sunday .meditate on this.

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op this misleading...on a Sunday morning

How do you deal with lust. I know marriage does not cure lust. If it does. Adultery will not be rampant as it is and on the rise.

WhistleB:
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I have done that

All this just to defeat sexual lust. what if I don't want to defeat them. nko?

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All this just to defeat sexual lust.
what if I don't want to defeat them. nko?

then it is not for you. it is for those who really want to defeat their lustful desires