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Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by cloud9usher: 6:36am On Jun 15, 2017
I agree, here are my reasons why its not really worth it forgiving a woman who cheats:

Before a woman allows a man sleep with her, the below two reasons are responsible:

1- She is cheap and promiscuous, a lady who is naturally a prostitute doesn't need any reason to sleep with any man whom she want to sleep with.

2- She has developed some level of emotional attachment to the man she allowed to sleep with her, a lady whom has high standards and is not a prostitute must have developed some level of feelings for you before she allows you sleep with her, be it by accident or on purpose.

That said, you can see that from these two reasons, when you find a woman cheating you better let her go, because she is either a prostitute (which you should thank your God for exposing her real self to you) or she has already developed feelings for the other guy, don't ever fight for a woman when she developed feelings for a new guy, your actions would only annoy her further, a woman's mindset is wired in a way that she would feel more intoxicated by the new feelings she is feeling from the new guy and your actions would be seen as some sort of disturbance.

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Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by Toks2008(m): 6:38am On Jun 15, 2017
praise1705:
it's not cheating till you put a ring on it, or you take the relationship to the next level.

you keep playing bf n gf and expecting either party not to try else where after which he/she would be discarded


LOBATAN!

But it becomes insane if you start allowing Peter, Emeka,Kunle explore that place just because you are keeping your options open o.
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by frenzyduchess(f): 6:39am On Jun 15, 2017
Shout out to my ex, May the ladies you cheated on me with infect you with std and hepatitis now that I have gone out of your life after forgiving the dude twice, bloody Casanova, I hope he dies of disease

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Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by praise1705(f): 6:42am On Jun 15, 2017
Toks2008:


LOBATAN!

But it becomes insane if you start allowing Peter, Emeka,Kunle explore that place just because you are keeping your options open o.

what does LOBATAN mean?

how about letting funke,elemu and chidera exploring that place also.

a lady or man should set his priority right and not hopping from one partner to another

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Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by PrickGetSize(m): 6:42am On Jun 15, 2017
Why is there too much emphasis on love and relationship? Once you are able to tell yourself that they're not meant to last forever you'll realize how overrated it is.

Give free fvcks to whom it may concern and you won't worry about cheating or being cheated on.
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by Nobody: 6:43am On Jun 15, 2017
this post is so on point, most apologies that come after being caught is not because they are truly sorry cos they certainly would have continued if they were not caught

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Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by ImaIma1(f): 6:45am On Jun 15, 2017
Nice write up. The part that got me though was the caught partner apologizing. The apology might be because he or she was caught. It would be more believable if the cheating partner confessed on his or her own.

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Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by Toks2008(m): 6:47am On Jun 15, 2017
praise1705:


what does LOBATAN mean?

how about letting funke,elemu and chidera exploring that place also.

a lady or man should set his priority right and not hopping from one partner to another

Lobatan means you look so lovely...

Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by ogbedor1(m): 6:48am On Jun 15, 2017
Una hear say mary cheat on bro Jossy? Kai fyn sumwia go sleep.. Cheating ko cheetah ni
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by PrickGetSize(m): 6:56am On Jun 15, 2017
praise1705:


what does LOBATAN mean?

how about letting funke,elemu and chidera exploring that place also.

a lady or man should set his priority right and not hopping from one partner to another
So, it's good for a lady to keep several boyfriends and hope that one of them puts a ring on it before discarding the others?
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by praise1705(f): 6:59am On Jun 15, 2017
PrickGetSize:

So, it's good for a lady to keep several boyfriends and hope that one of them puts a ring on it before discarding the others?

so it's good for a guy to keep several gfs and use them as he pleases and chooses anyone that he heart desires abi?
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by darlingnuel(m): 7:08am On Jun 15, 2017
Toks2008:
importexpert do you really want to know why people cheat?

It's because humans bith male and female crave for variety and only the very disciplined and God fearing person will not cheat.

And for people like me and many others who hate cheating on their spouse,the surprising twist is that we can still cheat if we put ourselves in a compromising situation with someone we are sexually attracted to.

Lastly I would say that many decent guys and ladies cheat because they are married to someone they are not sexual attracted to.

You know how it is...I love beautiful b**bs but I got married to a lady whose upper chamber I'm not too cool with and yes I married her because as they say...a good character is better than a beautiful body...and then I marry the character but when I see a babe out there with that sexual qualities I want it will take God's grace for me not to at least want to have a go at it....in like manner some ladies have that picture of their dream guy in terms of physical attributes and a lady once told me that if she ever marries a fair complexion ed man,she must cheat with a black guy and she eventually married a dark skinned guy and she remained faithful till date.

The act of cheating is complicated and there is no way it can be unraveled but one thing I just want to say is that everyone should ask him or herself..."what can I do to avoid cheating" once you have the answers...strive towards that direction.

For me,even if my wife has angelic character without the type of physical sexual traits i want,it will take the grace of God for me to remain faithful to her but if she has those features...she will beg me to cheat on her....i'm very visual and whatever is pleasing to my eyes pleases my soul.
This is the realest deal. Very technical. Been thinking along this line as an effective cheating control method.
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by PrickGetSize(m): 7:10am On Jun 15, 2017
praise1705:


so it's good for a guy to keep several gfs and use them as he pleases and chooses anyone that he heart desires abi?
If you ask for my personal opinion I'd say yes; I believe in having random sex and never keeping a particular partner as 'special one'. Sex is a gift of nature, explore and cherish it with variety of people to your satisfaction.
But if you ask me based on conventional standard, it is one-man-one-woman at a time. I don't really understand the logic for that, and it sucks.
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by IamEmem(m): 7:11am On Jun 15, 2017
DeadPresident:


That's what your mother said yesterday when i wanted her to swallow my sperm

Your father could have prevented this disaster with a simple condom or withdrawal from your mother's expired pussy. You see your father got no sense, so don't be like your father. Idiot.
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by Pdazzle01(m): 7:16am On Jun 15, 2017
nice piece
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by Jman06(m): 7:17am On Jun 15, 2017
tetula123:
for me I feel 95percent of people in a relationship cheat.. so what's the use leaving who you with for someone else,when the new partner is going to end up doing same..
This is so not true! A good number of people out there don't cheat. Only irresponsible people cheat.

The problem is that most times people don't like to date/marry those that would be loyal and faithful to them, due to some baseless reasons that hold no water.

For instance, a lady would reject a responsible guy who isn't living a fake lifestyle and be running after an irresponsible lair who's able to tell her what she wants to hear and not what's the reality. Yet after marriage she expects honesty from the same guy.

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Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by sammhi(m): 7:18am On Jun 15, 2017
The first part to being faithful is to be faithful to yourself . After tasting many different men or ladies , do you think you can just stop because you are now married ?
So the first step is : Be a virgin till marriage .That is secret to being faithful .

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Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by lyricalz(m): 7:26am On Jun 15, 2017
DeadPresident:

Naturally dumb and ignorant people are the the ones who would cheat on their partners

I hating cheating

Cheating is very disrespectful and shouldn't be forgiven

What are you looking for​ that you can't get from your partner ??

Why not break up with your partner and go have sex with whoever you wanna have sex with ??

This is why i hate people, most of them don't have a functioning brain

Don't be surprise that this one is also a good cheat. Comes here to start forming Mr. Holy.
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by TheRealestGuy(m): 7:28am On Jun 15, 2017
praise1705:
it's not cheating till you put a ring on it, or you take the relationship to the next level.

you keep playing bf n gf and expecting either party not to try else where after which he/she would be discarded


Now this is real talk. People do not want to accept that times have changed.

Like 9ice said on Brilla FM last night, we can't find women like our mothers in this generation.

It's the social media age, the new age cheesy
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by Nobody: 7:30am On Jun 15, 2017
DeadPresident:

Naturally dumb and ignorant people are the the ones who would cheat on their partners

I hating cheating

Cheating is very disrespectful and shouldn't be forgiven

What are you looking for​ that you can't get from your partner ??

Why not break up with your partner and go have sex with whoever you wanna have sex with ??

This is why i hate people, most of them don't have a functioning brain
thanks bro.... I always tell my friends about cheat and they tag me as the good and loyal guy... Well i'm ohkk with the name because i hate cheating with passion..

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Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by gboyetade: 7:31am On Jun 15, 2017
Opinion withdrawn
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by tetula123(m): 7:33am On Jun 15, 2017
Jman06:
This is so not true! A good number of people out there don't cheat. Only irresponsible people cheat.

The problem is that most times people don't like to date/marry those that would be loyal and faithful to them, due to some baseless reasons that hold no water.

For instance, a lady would reject a responsible guy who isn't living a fake lifestyle and be running after an irresponsible lair who's able to tell her what she wants to hear and not what's the reality. Yet after marriage she expects honesty from the same guy.
i didn't say everybody, but mind you he/she ain't cheating is because you have not caught him/her, first hand experience all the relationship I have been, I end up finding out they all cheated.
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by Melian(f): 7:37am On Jun 15, 2017
You could have been me. You spoke my mind so no need writing again.

DeadPresident:

Naturally dumb and ignorant people are the the ones who would cheat on their partners

I hating cheating

Cheating is very disrespectful and shouldn't be forgiven

What are you looking for​ that you can't get from your partner ??

Why not break up with your partner and go have sex with whoever you wanna have sex with ??

This is why i hate people, most of them don't have a functioning brain
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by Jman06(m): 7:45am On Jun 15, 2017
tetula123:
i didn't say everybody, but mind you he/she ain't cheating is because you have not caught him/her, first hand experience all the relationship I have been, I end up finding out they all cheated.
You have just been unlucky to be meeting the wrong people. Perhaps your experience may boil down to my earlier assertion that we tend to fall for the wrong people who know how to lie themselves into our hearts with words or by flaunting their fake bodies.
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by iamHighDee(m): 7:46am On Jun 15, 2017
True talk. Plus there's this annoying notion that every guy cheats. I'm a guy and I've never cheated in my life whenever Im in a relationship. Two girls I've dated have cheated on me and I made a decision not to get serious with anyone anymore. All I wanna do is make money, adopt two beautiful boys and have fun.

importexpert:
Note

What I’m going to share below will benefit singles the most but can easily be corroborated by married folks here.
And also, this post is not written in list format. The reason is that I wanted to build the conversation properly.
If you are okay with this, then read on.

If you take a close look at the relationships around, you will readily agree with me that at least, 60% of people who are in a relationship cheat in one way or the other. This practice is gaining more grounds with less offensive names like “side chicks” and “side guy.” What this means is that if the “main chick” or “main guy” misbehaves, such a person can easily be fired and the “side person” will be “promoted.” It sounds a bit funny, doesn’t it? Maybe it is, but this trend is widespread already.

Unfaithfulness may be accidental if it happens just one time. But should it occur more than once, it is no longer an accident’ it is a decision. A partner who cheats always has a reason for doing so. Apart from the reason which is selfishness, a cheating partner hopes you will be ridiculously stupid enough not to find out. You may, therefore, agree that cheating is not merely an act of disloyalty; it is equally an insult to your intelligence.

So, what is the major reason why you should not tolerate anyone who cheats during dating or courtship? Because whoever cheats has a high tendency of being unfaithful in marriage. Before you argue the previous statement, read on a bit. When anyone cheats on their partner during dating, it often starts as mere fun. Soon enough, this act of fun degenerates into a habit. Such a person would then find it difficult to be content with just one partner. And if there is anything you should know about habits, it is the trusted adage which says, “bad habits die hard.”

Now, someone asks, “what if you caught your partner who apologizes with deep regrets and tears?” Well, remember I said earlier that there is a difference between those who cheat once and those who do so repeatedly. I would say anybody could find themselves in the situation likely to result in infidelity. No one is perfect. Some uncontrollable circumstances may lead some into it while others would still be strong enough to say "no." Those who engaged in it once possibly made a mistake and learn from it to avoid a re-occurrence in future. It is a bit understandable, and such is forgivable. Remember, no one is perfect. We all have limits to the strength of our character and two persons do not have equal amount of strength.

But if that person has been in that act more than once, it was not an accident. Or better still, “it was not the work of the devil.” That partner is merely apologizing not for doing wrong but for being caught. It is better to end the relationship immediately. Anyone who is unfaithful in a relationship for a certain period is really smart. They may deploy such smartness to convincing (or confusing) you to stay and forgive, but it is better you forgive and leave. You need to remind yourself that you deserve better.
Once again, someone may say they will quit such habits when they go into marriage. Don’t fall for that scam! Marriage will not take away the allure of cheating or disable the tendency to be unfaithful. In fact, marriage does not automatically make anyone a new creature.
If you ever find out that your partner continually cheats, don’t be so blinded by love and hope they would change in future. No, they would not change. They would just become smarter in covering their tracks. Life is too short to be unhappy in marriage because if infidelity. Save yourself the pains to come and let them go. There are still faithful people out there who truly deserve you.

Enough said.
So, what do you think?

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Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by Bowwow11(m): 7:59am On Jun 15, 2017
anyone who cheat in a relationship can also kill instead of cheating u quit d relationship
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by kiddapunk: 8:17am On Jun 15, 2017
Homeboiy:
So far she dey gv me pussy Bleep wen in need


I gat no proble m



no naija babe is a saint
[b][quote author=Homeboiy post=57523407]So far she dey gv me pussy Bleep wen in need


before you go get sense my brother,,e fit don late oh
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by zynzyn(m): 8:18am On Jun 15, 2017
Mimzyy:


This is the second time that I have come across your thread and tried to hit my phone thinking there's an insect there angry

Same here. Haba!! Be like say e wan buy new phone for all Nairalanders! grin
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by bush112(m): 8:24am On Jun 15, 2017
especially girl
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by zynzyn(m): 8:25am On Jun 15, 2017
frenzyduchess:
Shout out to my ex, May the ladies you cheated on me with infect you with std and hepatitis now that I have gone out of your life after forgiving the dude twice, bloody Casanova, I hope he dies of disease

shocked undecided cheesy shocked .Oh boy see venom!!!

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Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by clemzy4christ: 8:31am On Jun 15, 2017
I read some people up there say they can forgive cheating, well individual differences. But the truth is that it will be better for u to forgive and move on with ur relationship especially marriage because that alone can brake ur home and can also take u to hell. I do tell my friends if u want to cheat in marriage just know that hell will accommodate u. God doesn't permit sexual relationship outside marriage so wether u do it and cheat or do it faithfully u are on d same line, my concern about the whole story is that cheat in marriage is a sin and hell awaits husband or wife cheater. As for singles like doing it, the greatest consequences of having sex outside marriage is what should be looked at not just d cheating.
Re: Why You Should Never Tolerate A Cheating Partner by tetula123(m): 8:31am On Jun 15, 2017
Jman06:
You have just been unlucky to be meeting the wrong people. Perhaps your experience may boil down to my earlier assertion that we tend to fall for the wrong people who know how to lie themselves into our hearts with words or by flaunting their fake bodies.
nah,i hear and read things,its not just me, like I said earlier on, you have not caught them hence you don't know, pick your boyfriend/girlfriends phone be crazy enough and scoop her WATS app messages as well as facebook..Reply me later

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