[quote author=DeGuyNxtDoor post=57909387]hmmm...I see it all bro, I made up my mind never to do such as a kid tho, I just needed to be sure there are pple like me out there.
:::-- There are millions like you who abstain from smoking, drinking alcoholic and non alcoholic, caffeinated and free girls. They snack on fruits, and drink water as the only liquid to quench thirst and hydrate. Your risk to self induced sickness and diseases is very infinitecimal. You are cool more than your friends and brother.

WORLDPEACE:


Smoking and drinking are cultural habits, I guess. In the north-west, because of Islam, smoking is more common than drinking. You know drinking alcohol is "haram" in Islam. Most of the guys I know up there smoke, and few girls too. In the South generally drinking is more acceptable than smoking. I've noticed that in the South-south people smoke more than in the South-west. A smoker friend from the south-south once complained about how more difficult it is to get cigarette in the south-west compared to the south-south.
In all of these cultures though, women don't smoke or drink like men.

That's interesting. What do you mean by women don't smoke or drink like men? Are you referring to frequency or what?

I prefer smoking to drinking. Some drinkers are obnoxious when drunk

Tahrah:
None

impressive.. how about alcohol?

stupid question

Op weed is healthy


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It will give u the opportunity to deliver the message ur ancestors forgot before their death which will help in averting being scammed by native doctors of spiritual problems since u already know what they know.

also weed is just green herb that has been dried hence very nutritious

Don't join them pls. To be a man is not by what you eat or drink. My ex gf left me because I don't drink alcohol and go out for party. Learn from my upload below.

DeGuyNxtDoor:
Good morning everyone, I would just head straight to the point here.

I happen to be a person who does not find smoking even the said harmless shisha fun. I hate it so much that I advice my friends to stop it when they do it in clubs. I also hate drinks as well, be it alcohol, beer or the popular kerewa hard drinks. I can at least settle down with malt as I don't take fanta, Pepsi, coke and the rest of the sugary drinks


Now my problem is my friends, they indirectly insult me over this, even my own brother did too, saying I look too soft cos I'm not doing weed or shisha at least which is harmless, that I'm not man enough physically. Its become persistent that its starting to worry me and I just wanna hear someone say I'm doing what's right and not wrong...

I'm not tryna show/say I'm a Holy person but I just don't like it. Is this normal? Are there guys like me out there?

as for drink, i see nothing wrong with taking 1 or 2 bottles of beer anytime you feel like.

This post sha made frontpage..
Person no smoke oh
Person smoke oh
All of us go still die.
Fvck this.

When a man comes of age so many things pops in may be the op is still growing up cus you hardly see a senator who is not into one or two .

DeGuyNxtDoor:
Good morning everyone, I would just head straight to the point here.

I happen to be a person who does not find smoking even the said harmless shisha fun. I hate it so much that I advice my friends to stop it when they do it in clubs. I also hate drinks as well, be it alcohol, beer or the popular kerewa hard drinks. I can at least settle down with malt as I don't take fanta, Pepsi, coke and the rest of the sugary drinks


Now my problem is my friends, they indirectly insult me over this, even my own brother did too, saying I look too soft cos I'm not doing weed or shisha at least which is harmless, that I'm not man enough physically. Its become persistent that its starting to worry me and I just wanna hear someone say I'm doing what's right and not wrong...

I'm not tryna show/say I'm a Holy person but I just don't like it. Is this normal? Are there guys like me out there?

Yes, of course there are guys like you. I've experienced same from guys and ladies too. As a matter of fact, some ladies erroneously take me to be a ''playboy'' and find it difficult to believe that I'm not one. My love and regards for God has enabled me to currently neither drink, smoke nor womanize. I don't have many friends because many young men or ''guys'' aren't like me. Ones that get a hint of my way of life end up desserting me.

Take note: You cannot significantly make a difference in your life and generation if you're just like everyone else. Hence, you must be different! Well, the journey hasn't been easy but Christ Jesus daily keeps panel-beating me to optimize my time here on earth. If you don't have Him now, then you need Him! I've made tremendous progress and recorded successes in diverse aspects of my life. Those around me are beginning to take notice of this product of God's pruning process. Unknown to them, there is much more to come. And I'm already preparing my box of testimonies that I would unfold to the world, all and sundry, on that day to God's glory. So dear friend, count it as a privilege (and not a flaw) to be different in this case.

Maxi112:
impressive.. how about alcohol?

No

DeGuyNxtDoor:
Good morning everyone, I would just head straight to the point here.

I happen to be a person who does not find smoking even the said harmless shisha fun. I hate it so much that I advice my friends to stop it when they do it in clubs. I also hate drinks as well, be it alcohol, beer or the popular kerewa hard drinks. I can at least settle down with malt as I don't take fanta, Pepsi, coke and the rest of the sugary drinks


Now my problem is my friends, they indirectly insult me over this, even my own brother did too, saying I look too soft cos I'm not doing weed or shisha at least which is harmless, that I'm not man enough physically. Its become persistent that its starting to worry me and I just wanna hear someone say I'm doing what's right and not wrong...

I'm not tryna show/say I'm a Holy person but I just don't like it. Is this normal? Are there guys like me out there?

Peer pressure. You are normal. In fact you are the real man, I don't do those stuffs too. If the pressure is too much, change your friends to those that ll make you feel comfortable

Lionessza:






The nicotine patches worked for me plus I changed some of my daily routines . Lol @ sounding like the head of the house , I was asking my other cousin last weekend when she will stop coz her voice is starting to sound scary , she's like never . With regards to weight gain, damn I ballooned in a short period of time myself but quickly made morning jogging my new habit. Lol @ being angry all the time. I know that feeling. Getting irritated by just about anything or anyone

Wena, which nicotine patches are the best? Which ones did you use? I don't wanna piss away money on something that won't help. Those things are EXPENSIVE at chemists. No wonder people would rather continue smoking than buy them because with that money, you could buy a carton

LMAO @ the voice thing. Mine scares me too in the mornings. It's so raspy. I'm not looking forward to the mood swings at all. I'll have to get a subscription of mood stabilizers because I'll go insane for sure without them. That one week was an eye opener for me. I was RAGING to the point of insanity. Ever been so angry to the point where spit comes out as you speak? That was how it was. I couldn't reason, plus I was fat, which made me even angrier

ZarZar:


That's interesting. What do you mean by women don't smoke or drink like men? Are you referring to frequency or what?

I prefer smoking to drinking. Some drinkers are obnoxious when drunk

I'm talking about ratio of men to women who do in the population. I tried cigarette and weed a couple of times in my early 20s but I did not enjoy them enough to continue and get hooked. I did not want to enjoy them, I guess.

You're my kind of man �������

WORLDPEACE:

I'm talking about ratio of men to women who do in the population. I tried cigarette and weed a couple of times in my early 20s but I did not enjoy them enough to continue and get hooked. I did not want to enjoy them, I guess.

Oh OK, I get it.

Lol, you did the right thing. It's not a nice habit. Do you drink?

You're doing what's right, and not wrong!

Like someone said, dont allow peer pressure make you do things, you wouldn't wanna do.

There are actually guys like you out there. Change your circle of influence, and you'll find them.

Kayceenaz:


Yes, of course there are guys like you. I've experienced same from guys and ladies too. As a matter of fact, some ladies erroneously take me to be a ''playboy'' and find it difficult to believe that I'm not one. My love and regards for God has enabled me to currently neither drink, smoke nor womanize. I don't have many friends because many young men or ''guys'' aren't like me. Ones that get a hint of my way of life end up desserting me.

Take note: You cannot significantly make a difference in your life and generation if you're just like everyone else. Hence, you must be different! Well, the journey hasn't been easy but Christ Jesus daily keeps panel-beating me to optimize my time here on earth. If you don't have Him now, then you need Him! I've made tremendous progress and recorded successes in diverse aspects of my life. Those around me are beginning to take notice of this product of God's pruning process. Unknown to them, there is much more to come. And I'm already preparing my box of testimonies that I would unfold to the world, all and sundry, on that day to God's glory. So dear friend, count it as a privilege (and not a flaw) to be different in this case.

cc: DeGuyNxtDoor

Well there's nothing bad in drinking, so far u drink responsibly, but it's hard to socialise with a man that doesn't drink.

femi4:
Peer pressure. You are normal. In fact you are the real man, I don't do those stuffs too. If the pressure is too much, change your friends to those that ll make you feel comfortable

there is nothing like peer pressure, it's the op wish if he decides to take or not, I have friends that take weed, when they offer I decline and they respect that, but we are still good friends.

DeGuyNxtDoor:
Good morning everyone, I would just head straight to the point here.

I happen to be a person who does not find smoking even the said harmless shisha fun. I hate it so much that I advice my friends to stop it when they do it in clubs. I also hate drinks as well, be it alcohol, beer or the popular kerewa hard drinks. I can at least settle down with malt as I don't take fanta, Pepsi, coke and the rest of the sugary drinks


Now my problem is my friends, they indirectly insult me over this, even my own brother did too, saying I look too soft cos I'm not doing weed or shisha at least which is harmless, that I'm not man enough physically. Its become persistent that its starting to worry me and I just wanna hear someone say I'm doing what's right and not wrong...

I'm not tryna show/say I'm a Holy person but I just don't like it. Is this normal? Are there guys like me out there?

let me break it down for you,smoking is an habit....a bad habit,it destroys your internal organs and makes you unhealthy.go to general hospitals and ask for the ward where they keep them and you will know nothing is cool about smoking and alcohol.dont waste your life bro,stay healthy and enjoy this one life you were given to live.

suny247:
as for drink, i see nothing wrong with taking 1 or 2 bottles of beer anytime you feel like.

nothing wrong mehn, especially with elders.

DeGuyNxtDoor:
Good morning everyone, I would just head straight to the point here.

I happen to be a person who does not find smoking even the said harmless shisha fun. I hate it so much that I advice my friends to stop it when they do it in clubs. I also hate drinks as well, be it alcohol, beer or the popular kerewa hard drinks. I can at least settle down with malt as I don't take fanta, Pepsi, coke and the rest of the sugary drinks


Now my problem is my friends, they indirectly insult me over this, even my own brother did too, saying I look too soft cos I'm not doing weed or shisha at least which is harmless, that I'm not man enough physically. Its become persistent that its starting to worry me and I just wanna hear someone say I'm doing what's right and not wrong...

I'm not tryna show/say I'm a Holy person but I just don't like it. Is this normal? Are there guys like me out there?

. Never ever start, u're more than man enough. when repercussions come who will suffer it?

DeGuyNxtDoor:
Good morning everyone, I would just head straight to the point here.

I happen to be a person who does not find smoking even the said harmless shisha fun. I hate it so much that I advice my friends to stop it when they do it in clubs. I also hate drinks as well, be it alcohol, beer or the popular kerewa hard drinks. I can at least settle down with malt as I don't take fanta, Pepsi, coke and the rest of the sugary drinks


Now my problem is my friends, they indirectly insult me over this, even my own brother did too, saying I look too soft cos I'm not doing weed or shisha at least which is harmless, that I'm not man enough physically. Its become persistent that its starting to worry me and I just wanna hear someone say I'm doing what's right and not wrong...

I'm not tryna show/say I'm a Holy person but I just don't like it. Is this normal? Are there guys like me out there?

dude be thankful to God for hating the bad habits, i am battling alcohol myself, trust me if you want to be responsible just don't indulge, at first it will seem controllable but in the long run it is a terrible burden. if u can see into the minds of your friends, trust me they want to break the habit, the habit is bad, it is compulsive and annoying.

DeGuyNxtDoor:
Good morning everyone, I would just head straight to the point here.

I happen to be a person who does not find smoking even the said harmless shisha fun. I hate it so much that I advice my friends to stop it when they do it in clubs. I also hate drinks as well, be it alcohol, beer or the popular kerewa hard drinks. I can at least settle down with malt as I don't take fanta, Pepsi, coke and the rest of the sugary drinks


Now my problem is my friends, they indirectly insult me over this, even my own brother did too, saying I look too soft cos I'm not doing weed or shisha at least which is harmless, that I'm not man enough physically. Its become persistent that its starting to worry me and I just wanna hear someone say I'm doing what's right and not wrong...

I'm not tryna show/say I'm a Holy person but I just don't like it. Is this normal? Are there guys like me out there?

This right here, that you just typed is my predicament. I just dont take their words seriously anymore when they start it. You are no less of a man bro!

ZarZar:


Wena, which nicotine patches are the best? Which ones did you use? I don't wanna piss away money on something that won't help. Those things are EXPENSIVE at chemists. No wonder people would rather continue smoking than buy them because with that money, you could buy a carton

LMAO @ the voice thing. Mine scares me too in the mornings. It's so raspy. I'm not looking forward to the mood swings at all. I'll have to get a subscription of mood stabilizers because I'll go insane for sure without them. That one week was an eye opener for me. I was RAGING to the point of insanity. Ever been so angry to the point where spit comes out as you speak? That was how it was. I couldn't reason, plus I was fat, which made me even angrier

I used a product called Nicorette , it has both patches and gums and I used them both. My cousin used them too but they didn't work for her and she started swearing at me that I made her waste her money loll.



Loll @ plus I was fat, I know that could piss off anyone lol. To be honest I also had to take some mood stabilizers for about two weeks coz I couldn't concentrate on anything and I would easily fly into a rage for no reason, it was like I was going mad. I wonder how junkies cope without their drugs . Now I'm a coffee junkie , I guess i replaced one addiction with another.

It is total foolishness to use the process of smoking and drinking(alcohol) in pointing out a man's capabilities.

DeGuyNxtDoor:
Good morning everyone, I would just head straight to the point here.

I happen to be a person who does not find smoking even the said harmless shisha fun. I hate it so much that I advice my friends to stop it when they do it in clubs. I also hate drinks as well, be it alcohol, beer or the popular kerewa hard drinks. I can at least settle down with malt as I don't take fanta, Pepsi, coke and the rest of the sugary drinks


Now my problem is my friends, they indirectly insult me over this, even my own brother did too, saying I look too soft cos I'm not doing weed or shisha at least which is harmless, that I'm not man enough physically. Its become persistent that its starting to worry me and I just wanna hear someone say I'm doing what's right and not wrong...

I'm not tryna show/say I'm a Holy person but I just don't like it. Is this normal? Are there guys like me out there?

Very well br. I don't drink, don't smoke. I am strong, alive n well. I look 7yrs younger than my age. Am a karate blackbelt! I cud go on! I love me like ds!

I hate smokers because i can't stand the smell,i can't recall when i took alcohol, absolutely no to womanizing
because i gain nothing from all this so i have no reson to keep such life style as a hobbie,when you're addicted to is not easy to get out from,
if this will clasify me as a no man i must accept with good faith.

OP, you are not mingling with the right people.

You may have this virtue (yes its a virtue) of not indulging in the bad habits of smoking and doing alcohol. But, if you continue with this your company, you will not like what will result.

Quit, or you will be unable to win them, but join them...

You don't womanize too abi? that's my kind of man

bjhaid:
there is nothing like peer pressure, it's the op wish if he decides to take or not, I have friends that take weed, when they offer I decline and they respect that, but we are still good friends.

Did your friends tell you that you are not a man?

Did they tell you that you are too soft?

Did they tell you that you are missing?


What you have above is what is called Pressure and they do it often according to the OP.

If he's not under pressure, he won't bring the topic to Nairaland. The best way out is to change his inner circle friends ad see them less.

I have friends too that drink and smoke but we are not "that kind close"