IamZod:
OK guys let's talk about this issue a bit, Now as an individual, I find it really beyond my mental understanding as to why someone would hold on to a hurt that happened in the past for so donkey long, spanning over a reasonable number of years

Now I understand that such hurt could be devastating, probably a torturing break-up that left your heart in shambles or even something more sinister than that.
Now I know this might be controversial as most people wouldn't want to agree with my topic saying it is gender specific, **as any of the gender could be hurt and **find it hard to let go.

Now in as much as I would agree with the Asterisk first line, I think the latter is quite understandable. Why you may ask?

Experience have showed me that ladies find it tougher letting go of past hurt than guys would. As a guy, and as most guys here would certainly agree with, guys don't really pay much details to ill feelings, You offend your friend, you sincerely apologize and the next moment, you guys are cool as the famous Tom and Jerry carton character. Lol.

But its pretty tougher for the ladies, and so I ask why is this so?
Is it because they are more emotional in nature and act by the dictates of such emotions, be it love, anger or hate!! etc.

Even if this is true, I still can't decipher enough reasons as why one would keep a grudge so terribly long...
If you feel due to the hurt you can no be friends with the person, why don't you just let it go and be free especially when the person have sincerely apologize for his mistakes!
I mean you guys were once lovers, or friends.
You could still be cool with each other and still lead your different lives.
There's so much to look forward to in the future than whining over a past hurt that should have long been buried 6ft below.

Letting go is a sure way of being free and forgiveness isn't something we just do for others but for ourselves too, because when we forgive, we let go and truly attain peace.

sekxy:

gossip don deh hungry you abii

IamZod:

Lol. Not really.
But what's your view on this.
I like to be enlightened

Ermacc:
That is because men are more stressed mentally than women. the thought of other things erases the memories of hurt faster.

sekxy:

as you said it's nature.

but it doesn't really exist on my part..may be it also depends on individual differences, ,cos av got male friends that behave like women in terms of holding onto things for long

IamZod:

You see it as an individual thing right? And trust me I know guys can be that too.

Piiko:
Very true females are less forgiving I remember cheating on a female I was asking out with her best friend in 2009, till date she hasn't forgiven me it was her best friend that owned up about what she told her friend I just could not phantom why this chic that I would speak to endlessly on the fone wouldn't take my call any longer. On Friday I ran into her at a grill, she still had that frown and even though I was at a distance a friend of mine kept asking about the frown that the female from across the table had, she still won't pick my calls to date, but it's been too long, Loretta move on, forgive and forget I know I hurt you

Nma27:
Clap for yourself.

IamZod:


Speaking for myself .. I think I'm pretty forgiving the only time I never let go if it's got to 3 counts of fuckery even if I forgive just know it will never be the same .. ( but that hurt will be a constant reminder no to Bleep with such fuckery ) most women in general never forget things Guys tend to brush it over ..
OK, so I can summarize he point by saying, that ladies tend not to easily let go because the hurt would be a constant reminder as at not to give a Bleep again.
Am I right?

Splinz:
By general assumption, women are the weaker vessels (in fact, God said so too) and this fragility span both the physical & emotional side of their lives.

As rightly observed by you, this nature seems to make them more vulnerable to heartbreak & betrayal. Also, the longer time it takes to heal their wounds.

All in all, some men too sometimes share this nature, but not as predominantly as women.

Piiko:
Very true females are less forgiving I remember cheating on a female I was asking out with her best friend in 2009, till date she hasn't forgiven me it was her best friend that owned up about what she told her friend I just could not phantom why this chic that I would speak to endlessly on the fone wouldn't take my call any longer. On Friday I ran into her at a grill, she still had that frown and even though I was at a distance a friend of mine kept asking about the frown that the female from across the table had, she still won't pick my calls to date, but it's been too long, Loretta move on, forgive and forget I know I hurt you

IamZod:

Hmmm., this is deep.
Did she agree to your proposal before you slept with her friend.. But you bad sha o. Lol

Victornezzar:
When will u pple be creating threads on how to make money while dating

greyboy5000:
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Victornezzar:

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greyboy5000:
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Victornezzar:

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greyboy5000:
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Piiko:
No she didn't she was busy forming hard to get her friend met me and liked me instantly she's married with a kid now I liked adventures when I was younger

Victornezzar:

It went in a kakatwa and splufic mannner
my sis be come bk