I'm just noticing that my girl friend of a year plus a few months is boring and frustrating. Before now, we had always had great times talking on phone. We spend lengthy durations on phone, discussing different issues which i always engineered. I just realised lately that, my girl is not creative, she can not come up with any gists. If i decide not to talk, that's how the silence will remian with the credit burning. i'm finding her so boring now and, don't look forward to her calls again.

please house, how can i correct this before my heart gets dettached from her. she's the only girl i'v ever loved sincerely and looking forward to marrying. Her attitude and lack of what to say is getting unberably irritating. she would say she doesn't know to say.

Leave her na

You are obviously past the stage of 'have you eaten?' and 'I miss you'... welcome to the real stage.

Maybe she is also going through a trying phase, some people talk less during such periods or she is getting uninterested.

@op,



#talk true, that new girl in your area called biliki dey burst your head now abi ..

U have to take things easy with her, may be she's going tru hard times, u never can tell. More so u should always lead a conversation be it call or chat, I believe with time, she will adjust. My opinion though.

Maybe she isn't a great conversionalist over the phone

Give her a little space or plan a unique getaway, somewhere you guys have not visited. Try something new or exciting with her

just do things in a diff way biko......if u see dat shes not saying anything u bring up something and am sure she will not keep quiet wen u bring up a gist

Trash! Trash!! Trash!!!

Just say the truth n shame the devil,you have your eyes on another girl...

Give yourself some time off. The magic will be back.

Bro no be by force naw, if ur antenna is'nt recieving signal again, just change it. meanwhile nairaland mods tink say dem dey do me, Na una Papa no be me...

zeenaman:
I'm just noticing that my girl friend of a year plus a few months is boring and frustrating. Before now, we had always had great times talking on phone. We spend lengthy durations on phone, discussing different issues which i always engineered. I just realised lately that, my girl is not creative, she can not come up with any gists. If i decide not to talk, that's how the silence will remian with the credit burning. i'm finding her so boring now and, don't look forward to her calls again.

please house, how can i correct this before my heart gets dettached from her. she's the only girl i'v ever loved sincerely and looking forward to marrying. Her attitude and lack of what to say is getting unberably irritating. she would say she doesn't know to say.

Is like wat m going through too ....even I tell her say another bae de come visiting she go jst B like hmmmmm....feeling disappointed I go jst end d call......but such girls are really committed

rerhji:
Is like wat m going through too ....even I tell her say another bae de come visiting she go jst B like hmmmmm....feeling disappointed I go jst end d call......but such girls are really committed

you are a genius. she's very committed. i think i will have to accept that side of her. she's perfect in other areas

Does she call u on phone or chat u up?

If you are the only one doing the calling and the talking then know that she dosent fancy u that much

Bro, naturally, ladies would always leave guys to take the lead. Meanwhile, if she's an introvert and you are an extrovert, they I think you should think twice before going ahead with any form of marriage with her.

Bro, naturally, ladies would always leave guys to take the lead. Meanwhile, if she's an introvert and you are an extrovert, then I think you should think twice before going ahead with any form of marriage with her.

She is gradually slipping away from you, when the communication reduced, just know that she has found another guy and looking for a way to dump you.

Just free her matter...

Unless she is an introvert but then introverts are open and comfortable talking to people they love.

dacblogger:
Trash! Trash!! Trash!!!

Just say the truth n shame the devil,you have your eyes on another girl...

You have a point here, when they find another woman, they start finding fault in every Lil thing.

Macgabe:
Bro, naturally, ladies would always leave guys to take the lead. Meanwhile, if she's an introvert and you are an extrovert, they I think you should think twice before going ahead with any form of marriage with her.

I disagree with you, introverts and extroverts make good husband and wife, you are busy talking and she is listening to you.

Introverts are the best to marry, their calmness is needed in marriage.

Bro u are not alone in the matter. I've been dating my girl for some months now.. My case is different from urs in the sense that i have always known that she is like this.. . So i talk about it with her.. We joke about it and it has helped. I'm an introvert as well but sm1 has to be the lively one in d rel.

I suggest yu try to be more creative in ur conversations and as far as she is ready to learn nd continue d rel u guys are good to go

zeenaman:
I'm just noticing that my girl friend of a year plus a few months is boring and frustrating. Before now, we had always had great times talking on phone. We spend lengthy durations on phone, discussing different issues which i always engineered. I just realised lately that, my girl is not creative, she can not come up with any gists. If i decide not to talk, that's how the silence will remian with the credit burning. i'm finding her so boring now and, don't look forward to her calls again.

please house, how can i correct this before my heart gets dettached from her. she's the only girl i'v ever loved sincerely and looking forward to marrying. Her attitude and lack of what to say is getting unberably irritating. she would say she doesn't know to say.

talk 2. her abt ZEE WORLD SERIES e.g saloni..king of hearts etc n tank me later

OP, sorry.

. . . believe

pocohantas:
You are obviously past the stage of 'have you eaten?' and 'I miss you'... welcome to the real stage.

Maybe she is also going through a trying phase, some people talk less during such periods or she is getting uninterested.

How do u scale through this real stage?

Op, I hope you're not looking for excuse to leave the girl sha.

You said she's always been like this, its not like she changed, so there's nothing new, she's just not a great conversationist. There's also a possibility that she doesn't like the long talks or doesn't enjoy them with you, but have been enduring it in order not to hurt your feelings. Hope you don't strike up boring conversations?

You can try to get her to come around whatever the case. You guys must have one or two interests in common, try gearing your talks towards those.

Also, when you talk, try not to talk about yourself. Ask her questions with room to elaborate. That way she gets to talk more.

Then, try to talk about your future, goals and plans and ask her opinion. Let her talk about hers as well, gives you some insight on where she stands with you.

Good luck

LorenzoWisdom:






talk 2. her abt ZEE WORLD SERIES e.g saloni..king of hearts etc n tank me later

King of heart

Rorachy:
I disagree with you, introverts and extroverts make good husband and wife, you are busy talking and she is listening to you.

Introverts are the best to marry, their calmness is needed in marriage.

Please, relate that with what the OP posted. He was fed up with being the lead everytime they gisted so wanted the lady to take up the role for once but she couldn't. This is exactly how it's going to turn out in marriage and hence the tag "boring wife"!!!

mofeoluwadassah:
just do things in a diff way biko......if u see dat shes not saying anything u bring up something and am sure she will not keep quiet wen u bring up a gist

So woman cannot bring up gist?

Rorachy:
You have a point here, when they find another woman, they start finding fault in every Lil thing.

Up there you said she is slipping away, now you say he has found another woman. Which one is it, baby? Is Nairaland confusing us?