Benita27:
When they have nothing going and feel marriage is the next big thing to alleviate them of poverty, what do you expect?.

that's why I said marriage is not an escape from poverty

lefulefu:
ehn?

ehn again

Talk2Bella:

thanks

u welcome

Talk2Bella:


the one lying down got married at 18

yes same thing
It is like enrolling a 12year old into the university
Now except the 12year is extraordinary in every way to include emotional and physical maturity
That situation is just going to be a recipe for disaster

These ladies clearly did not have the luxury of choosing the men they wanted to settle down with, hence the nagging

Talk2Bella:


we learn from other people's mistakes

There are so many people around me to learn from don't need to watch a video of losers to learn

Why the Bleep can't they take responsibility for their lives and their own mistakes. Why are they cussing out men in general? I know a lot of good men so I don't need bitter ladies to learn shit from

Benita27:
When they have nothing going and feel marriage is the next big thing to alleviate them of poverty, what do you expect?.

wow
These is the best comment you have made since I joined nairaland

skarlett:


There are so many people around me to learn from don't need to watch a video of losers to learn

Why the Bleep can't they take responsibility for their lives and their own mistakes. Why are they cussing out men in general? I know a lot of good men so I don't need bitter ladies to learn shit from

I totally get your point, no matter how useless someone is, he\ she can be used as an example

sunshineG:
wow
These is the best comment you have made since I joined nairaland

That doesn't mean men shouldn't be responsible.

These women are bitter and bitterness does affect mindsets. No one has a full picture of what really happened in these marriages we have the women's perspectives. There is no right age to get married but what pushes some into marriages is fear , circumstances and poverty. Some take a gamble hoping that things will work out and for the better part that gamble does pay off . But not always. It's not luck that makes marriages/relationships work it's effort, work, commitment and trust. That does not mean once you get married you stop growing as a person. When things stop working what else do you have to fall on? Life is about balances and checks relationships are no different.

Benita27:
That doesn't mean men shouldn't be responsible.

yes I know, being responsible is for the sake of one's self , it has nothing to do with others

Benita27:
When they have nothing going and feel marriage is the next big thing to alleviate them of poverty, what do you expect?.

Brava, well said.
A mindset that still prevails unfortunately.

MissRaine69:
These women are bitter and bitterness does affect mindsets. No one has a full picture of what really happened in these marriages we have the women's perspectives. There is no right age to get married but what pushes some into marriages is fear , circumstances and poverty. Some take a gamble hoping that things will work out and for the better part that gamble does pay off . But not always. It's not luck that makes marriages/relationships work it's effort, work, commitment and trust. That does not mean once you get married you stop growing as a person. When things stop working what else do you have to fall on? Life is about balances and checks relationships are no different.

a lot of sense

sunshineG:
yes I know, being responsible for the sake of one's self , it has nothing to do with others

In marriage you've got to be responsible to your wife and kids but that doesn't mean women should depend solely on their spouses.

Benita27:
In marriage you've got to be responsible to your wife and kids but that doesn't mean women should depend solely on their spouses.

yes I understand but it is more imporatant for the husband to respondible for his own sake

A responsible man commands the respect of his family members and the society, while an irresponsible man is seen as a loser by both his family and the society

sunshineG:
yes I understand but it is more imporatant for the husband to respondible for his own sake

A responsible man commands the respect of his family members and the society, while an irresponsible man is seen as a loser by both his family and the society

I get it.

i just wish the man go rush her with kids like how aboki's rush their wife's

vizkiz:


I didn't talk about flat stomach, I talk about not knowing how to take care of themselves. If you watch the video you will understand what I meant.

I know you are trying to be savage with your comments but not getting my message actually makes you stupìd. Yes my mum doesn't have a very flat stomach but it is flat for a woman above 50.

Those ladies in that video are below 45 and look at how irritating the video looks.

Before you quote people next time, make sure your brain is not still in your anus.

Shut up! What do you know about flat tummy?

the problem is that you lot don't know how to be wife no more. You can't cook better food, can't clean the house, our children are tourning into prostitutes and criminals while you seat watching film and gossiping

Their life, their problem.
I got married at 22 because I was in love and he was very ready and I have no reason whatsoever to regret it till date.
My husband isn't perfect neither am I but we understand each other, I respect him and he respects me too.
Nothing wrong in getting married 'early' as a lady if you're mentally mature for it.
My opinion.

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Talk2Bella:
I fear who talk say marriage no de fear am.. (Isabella)

I have written severally about marriage, how it is an institution and not a home of restitution, marriage is a graduate school where if we choose we can decide to go for Masters and PhDs, it is a process of learning, what I'm I trying to say? Marriage is a continuous study where we learn everyday and also have patience with our teachers, in this case our spouses

I have seen so many people ( women especially) jump and rush into marriage due to pressure, money, envy, spite, or she just wants to be a MRS. It is worse when you see an 18 year old lady fantasizing about marriage, using Amara Kanu as an example, she is amongst the 1% early marriage will work for, she has sense, patience, charisma and a good tolerant husband.

I was with four ladies yesterday who had something in common, they'd gotten married too soon, too early and two of them have been chased out of their homes while the other two hate their husbands with passion, one of them is the breadwinner so she says her husband had no say in their home.

The lady lying down was sent out or her husband's house after he got rich, she gave birth to two boys before she was sent packing, before she was sent packing the husband impregnated a woman older than she was and brought her home, this older woman has kids who she in turn brought to her new husband's house lol.

The other lady has just one girl, while the one screaming she hates men has four kids, she says she hasn't enjoyed sex for one day that the husband only has sex with her to impregnate her.

The other lady says she doesn't respect her husband anymore so she does with him as she pleases.

They were all trying to convince me how men are scum and shouldn't be handled with soft hands, in my heart I wept, my father wasn't scum to my mother, my brother isn't scum to his girlfriend, no man has ever treated me like scum, how do I convince these Women that they have a share in the blame too? I sat there consoling these ladies crying, look at me in my 20's consoling women old enough to birth me.

Marriage isn't a do or die affair, I have heard mockery statements about how Ibo women don't marry early because they like to hustle and make money, but these early marriage traits are rampant amongst Ibo women, it is a thing of pride to see their daughters get married early and also give birth early, this doesn't mean only Ibo women are guilty, far from it, it has become a general issue; it might have worked for our ancestors but we live in different times now.

One day my mother said to me " Ifeoma 30 is the right age for a woman to get married" in my heart I said what's she talking about now, but today I can see it, most ladies aren't mentally matured enough to look after themselves not to talk of getting married.

My heart aches when I see children from broken homes, I was a product of one before my parents got back together and then my dad died, I do not wish single parenthood on any child, except death was the case. These women haven't seen their kids for long because their husbands won't allow it, they can't go to court because they aren't educated, they were chased out like common thieves and other women brought in.

Education and skills acquisition remains the best legacy, always have a backup\breakup plan because no one knows tomorrow. Marriage isn't a source or income, be financially free and independent. See where these women live, they don't have a dime to their names and no skills to support themselves.

I hope someone learns from this, I tried to convince them not all men are scum but their minds are made up, I fear for the husband of that lady who hates men I hope he amends his ways so we won't read a gory story about a wife murdering her husband.

Watch


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8WFESpEUv2Q

http://www.talk2bella.com/2017/08/i-hate-men-says-this-lady-who-got.html?m=1

Isabella Ibeji.

You took permission from them and yet one of them is showing her pubic hair in the video. Be careful o.

emmpire:


You took permission from them and yet one of them is showing her pubic hair in the video. Be careful o.

she was showing where she had a caesarian operation

skarlett:
I didn't watch the video tbh, why should I waste my mb watching someone's failure

smiles hun

Brooke60:
Respect woman and consider your mum with big tummy before you attack ladies .
Not untill now. did not know you have one

Cheers 2ur stup!d!ty. Its in you.

Benita27:
When they have nothing going and feel marriage is the next big thing to alleviate them of poverty, what do you expect?.

. Actually, this is the problem with many ladies. They get into marriage because of their selfish interest. I have always said the only relationship that work is that relationship both parties see each other as complements and not the other way round. In the event it doesn't work out as expected, hate is the result. Financial/ mental independence is important for both parties.

Brooke60:
Respect woman and consider your mum with big tummy before you attack ladies .
Not untill now. did not know you have one

if u have notin to say.shut up

Benita27:
When they have nothing going and feel marriage is the next big thing to alleviate them of poverty, what do you expect?.

Exactly. Plus they look gross and sound semiliterate.

Marriage is over rated lol.

Check my signature and order for your car parts today.

vizkiz:


I didn't talk about flat stomach, I talk about not knowing how to take care of themselves. If you watch the video you will understand what I meant.

I know you are trying to be savage with your comments but not getting my message actually makes you stupìd. Yes my mum doesn't have a very flat stomach but it is flat for a woman above 50.

Those ladies in that video are below 45 and look at how irritating the video looks.

Before you quote people next time, make sure your brain is not still in your anus.

What of Nigerian Men with big bellies. They are taking care of themselves abi.

And I'm sure you are extremely well kept yourself. Because people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

You can put your pictures up for Nairaland to judge.

pocohantas:
So, when are we going to talk about the good marriages?

She doesn't have to murder her husband, she can separate from him. There is provision for separation...

I know there are bad marriages, but Nigerian women need to stop this playing victim. Grown ass women will fall for societal pressure, enter into a marriage without back up plan...endure all sorts of emotional, verbal and physical abuse, have multiple kids for the same man that's a scum...Who is the greater scum now?

Same old story. Men must be tired of all the labels...

Women should start looking out for themselves, no one can love you like you.

This is the most reasonable comment I have ever heard from a woman.u are great and will have a happy home