i dont really know if too much confidence on the part of a man is a turn on to ladies. but when it comes to ladies being too confident, and what men have to say about that, i'd say that its definitely a big turn off . yes you heard me . being too confident does not come without its share of disadvantages...

for one, i've found that more often than not, ladies that are too confident have the tendency to act cocky...(i work with girls so i know) where i work, there are these three girls who according to what i have observed, are the most confident among the others. and out of the three, only one seems to have an atom of respect, the other two are more likely to disrespect you than they are likely to respect you

Another thing about them too confident ladies is that they always have a lot of female friends who cheer them up even when they act stupid, so they tend not to care whether they step on your toes or not. they are carefree, they do not like to be controlled!

now, when it comes to relating with them, well, i find two of them repulsive then somehow, i like the other remaining one who is respectful. so am more likely to relate to non of them to be on safe side. doesnt mean that am afraid of them either. i just think its best to avoid them. so dating or marrying anyone of them is definitely out of the question. And trust me, most men would most likely thread my part.

So my advice to ladies is this, tone down on the excess confidence because you dont really need it. We men love ladies who would massage our egos we love to be in control, and we definitely want peace to reign in our family when we eventually get married. we want peace of mind and we want a woman who would respect us as long as we respect ourselves. it does not matter the number of women you attract with ur unbashedness because you aint going to marry ur fellow woman after all, you are going to settle with a man, and that man demands respect from you!

Thanks

Actually I like confident ladies
I love being challenged all the time
So, I will encourage my girlfriend to challenge me
I have always done my best work under pressure

sunshineG:
Actually I like confident ladies I love being challenged all the time So, I will encourage my girlfriend to challenge me I have always done my best work under pressure

Exactly.

You are looking for a lady you can intimidate abi.
Why are you so scared of confident women?

A confident woman will always represent you.

Ha!op are you for real?

Rorachy:
You are looking for a lady you can intimidate abi.
Why are you so scared of confident women?

A confident woman will always represent you.

not scared of them. am talking about extremely confident ladies here. those that can smash your car when you get on their nerves. but i have a question for you. do you as a woman like xtremely confident guys likely to get physical & brutal with you when you mess with them??

Prettythicksmi:
Ha!op are you for real?

sure. i switched to my laptop just to type this so am serious. plus it been a while since i created a thread last

There's a big difference between being confident (which is a good thing) AND being disrespectful, unnecessarily confrontational and condescending.

The former has more to do with knowledge, conviction and principles mixed with respect. While the later has all to do with low self-esteem as a result of years of being treated as subhuman.

Our societal values does little to emphasize on the struggles, pains and discrimination of our women. Heck, whenever anyone of them get a little chance to break free....they over do it.

Rorachy:
You are looking for a lady you can intimidate abi.
Why are you so scared of confident women?

A confident woman will always represent you.

you dont even sound as confident as the kind of girls am talking about, i can intimidate you if you are only as confident as this your write-up

There are men who love ladies who can challenge them, have a mind of theirs and also have their back anytime...
Such ladies produce successful men.
I just feel you're either intimidated or don't like females challenging your authority.

Nuzo1:
There's a big difference between being confident (which is a good thing) AND being disrespectful, unnecessarily confrontational and condescending.

The former has more to do with knowledge, conviction and principles mixed with respect. While the later has all to do with low self-esteem as a result of years of being treated as subhuman.

Our societal values does little to emphasize on the struggles, pains and discrimination of our women. Heck, whenever anyone of them get a little chance to break free....they over do it.

well, somehow i have to disagree with you sir lol. these girls am talking about do not have low self esteem. they are too confident that they get disrespectful occasionally, often without knowing it.

Rorachy:
You are looking for a lady you can intimidate abi.
Why are you so scared of confident women?

A confident woman will always represent you.

the boy is suffering from inferiority complex. ..don't mind him

Ebuka2016:

sure. i switched to my laptop just to type this so am serious. plus it been a while since i created a thread last

Bros go and sleep,you don't know the meaning of confident.Does being confident is the same as arrogant or not being submissive to ones husband? U must be high on cheap weed when creating the thread.

Ebuka2016:
i dont really know if too much confidence on the part of a man is a turn on to ladies. but when it comes to ladies being too confident, and what men have to say about that, i'd say that its definitely a big turn off . yes you heard me . being too confident does not come without its share of disadvantages...

for one, i've found that more often than not, ladies that are too confident have the tendency to act cocky...(i work with girls so i know) where i work, there are these three girls who according to what i have observed, are the most confident among the others. and out of the three, only one seems to have an atom of respect, the other two are more likely to disrespect you than they are likely to respect you

Another thing about them too confident ladies is that they always have a lot of female friends who cheer them up even when they act stupid, so they tend not to care whether they step on your toes or not. they are carefree, they do not like to be controlled!

now, when it comes to relating with them, well, i find two of them repulsive then somehow, i like the other remaining one who is respectful. so am more likely to relate to non of them to be on safe side. doesnt mean that am afraid of them either. i just think its best to avoid them. so dating or marrying anyone of them is definitely out of the question. And trust me, most men would most likely thread my part.

So my advice to ladies is this, tone down on the excess confidence because you dont really need it. We men love ladies who would massage our egos we love to be in control, and we definitely want peace to reign in our family when we eventually get married. we want peace of mind and we want a woman who would respect us as long as we respect ourselves. it does not matter the number of women you attract with ur unbashedness because you aint going to marry ur fellow woman after all, you are going to settle with a man, and that man demands respect from you!

Thanks

This load of crap belongs in the blue trash can.

Overconfidence (too confident lady/person) isn't a good attribute no matter the gender of the person that possess it. Intellectually and Literally, they knows everything but understand almost nothing. Wittily, they're too clever by half but never clever. It gets worse when you meet one that equally possesses boisterous personality.

A confident lady sure pass.

Huee:
There are men who love ladies who can challenge them, have a mind of theirs and also have their back anytime...
Such ladies produce successful men.
I just feel you're either intimidated or don't like females challenging your authority.

how can a disrespectful person produce a successful person?? how can a goat give birth to a rat did you mean to say that such ladies produce equally wayward men . well, honestly i dont like females challenging my authority but when it happens, i really dont take it personal.

LordKO:

Overconfidence (too confident lady/person) isn't a good attribute no matter the gender of the person that possess it. Intellectually, they knows everything but understand almost nothing. Wittily, they're too clever by half but never clever. It gets worse when you meet one that equally possesses boisterous personality.

A confident lady sure pass.

you understand where am coming from

I don't think confidence is the problem.Its good for your wife to be confident.
The issue is when her confidence affects her submission to you as the man.



Confidence is a plus any day.

Lol... the ladies go soon turn this thread to feminist campaign... being confident is not bad but being confident without brain is worst... and we know d ladies dey are always doing things to d extreme.. Meaning.. d one's with brain are really good but the one's without brain are as dumb as hell.. jst saying..

Benita27:
This load of crap belongs in the blue trash can.

my post and the sense it makes is too big to fit into that small trash can sweety

Ebuka2016:

my post and the sense it makes is too big to fit into that small trash can sweety

You've got some serious insecurities. Work on that, and stop assuming everyone would have to come down to your level 'cause you have a dick.

chivic:
I don't think confidence is the problem.Its good for your wife to be confident.
The issue is when her confidence affects her submission to you as the man.



Confidence is a plus any day.

thats exactly what am talking about man... Today, one of those girls i mentioned was asked to do something as little as just maintaining a good posture by a waaaaaaaaay older lady, she just kept looking at the woman i kept wondering oo. nnaa mehn, an averagely confident lady is just good to go abeg because most of them are respectful and even if they try to disrespect, you can get them to do exactly what you want somehow as a more confident guy.

Ebuka2016:

well, somehow i have to disagree with you sir lol. these girls am talking about do not have low self esteem. they are too confident that they get disrespectful occasionally, often without knowing it.

Bro, I can authoritatively assure you that most people (male or female) who are disrespectfuly confident have very low self-esteem born out of fear or a long period of subjugation.

.....and a few get theirs from being lied to by their parents since childhood of how they should come first before others regardless of the situation.

I guess the later is what you are trying to describe.

Benita27:
You've got some serious insecurities. Work on that, and stop assuming everyone would have to come down to your level 'cause you have a dick.

anyone can feel insecure for various reasons excluding the topic on ground. so if it so happens that am insecure about a woman disrespecting me, it doesnt make the other insecure pple better than me. you obviously dont get my post. and the way you reacted to the post means you need to work on your emotional maturity .

Nuzo1:


Bro, I can authoritatively assure you that most people (male or female) who are disrespectfuly confident have very low self-esteem born out of fear or a long period of subjugation.

.....and a few get theirs from being lied to by their parents since childhood of how they should come first before others regardless of the situation.

I guess the later is what you are trying to describe.

hmmm...

Prettythicksmi:
Bros go and sleep,you don't know the meaning of confident.Does being confident is the same as arrogant or not being submissive to ones husband? U must be high on cheap weed when creating the thread.

bro read what i wrote up there!. i said that from what i have observed, ladies who are too confident have the tendency to be less submissive and cocky . what is there to argue about? nawa for some pple oo. you no understand post you talk say person wey write am dey smoke weed.

Ebuka2016:

anyone can feel insecure for various reasons excluding the topic on ground. so if it so happens that am insecure about a woman disrespecting me, it doesnt make the other insecure pple better than me. you obviously dont get my post. and the way you reacted to the post means you need to work on your emotional maturity .

All right, I'll work on my emotional maturity based on the crap you just wrote for mediocres to consume but do me a favour, guys such as you who find others intimidating are a turnoff.

Ebuka2016:

bro read what i wrote up there!. i said that from what i have observed, ladies who are too confident have the tendency to be less submissive and cocky . what is there to argue about? nawa for some pple oo. you no understand post you talk say person wey write am dey smoke weed.

Mtchewww seriously most pple on this thread don't really understand your post, u mixed up everything. Read all the comments bro.

Prettythicksmi:
Mtchewww seriously most pple on this thread don't really understand your post, u mixed up everything. Read all the comments bro.

my post is straight forward bro

Benita27:
All right, I'll work on my emotional maturity based on the crap you just wrote for mediocres to consume but do me a favour, guys such as you who find others intimidating are a turnoff.

the same way ladies like you who get tensed up easily are a big fat turn off . if i find someone as intimidating then it means that the person likes to intimidate pple. you dont even understand the kind of women am talking about here. how do you feel when a person is jealous that you are the center of attraction and want to just take it from you? now the problem with them is that they dont want you to relate with them; they talk down on you, etc. then you leave dem alone and go to other pple, they try all possible means to make sure you dont get those pple's attention. abeg is dat one not a turn off when they are wallowing in their own attention, they push you away, and when you are enjoying ur own attention, they still want to steal the show. this is just one of their many problems.

I have a friend who kept on complaining how her guy is over confident and unromantic. On further enquiry, I discovered the guy has done nothing wrong, just that she couldn't bend him the way she wants.

Ebuka 2016:

you can get them to do exactly what you want somehow as a more confident guy.

This you post confirms you're like my friend. Looking for who to bend and manipulate. If the lady isn't disrespectful, then I don't get the topic. Disrespect is a character flaw on its own and I also won't be with a guy who won't give me hundred percent respect.

When Nigerian men can't bend you the way they want, they call you less submissive. When Nigerian women can't bend you the way they want, they call you unromantic.

[quote author=sunshineG post=59608389]Actually I like confident ladies
I love being challenged all the time
So, I will encourage my girlfriend to challenge me
I have always done my best work under pressure
[/quote
One day she will handle u well nd u knw wats nxt