Divorce is one subject I don't like talking about but the truth is that not every marriage will work out. In more cases than not, the breakup comes with bitter feelings and hurt.

It gets more complicated when there are children involved and a very common situation is having the partner who got custody of the children (in many African cases by means of abandonment) badmouth the other parent.

If someone makes you feel hurt, of course it is going to get to you but what's more unfortunate is how we handle the hurt.
The children are forced to fill the space left by the other partner and in the new bond created, so many bad things are said to these children.

"Your mum is a bad woman who abandoned you here and ran away when things were tough"

"Your father is a wicked drunk of a man who did not care about us"

But then if we really cared about these children and we really wanted to show them love, would we be telling them things that can crush them psychologically and literally have lifelong effects on them?

Please let's think about it.

Someone hurt you, turn that hurt into love energy for your children and don't raise them disturbed.