zeal500:

this buiz is 4bettr4worse.

There's absoluting nothin u can do but to pray dt change set in on him  dt he returns to d man u once had.

on d other hand check your sf,  your tongue,manner of approach2issues,do u brag wtout noticing it etc, ask your sf wht r d qualities of a gd wife and hence thick dos u'v  n dos u don't,  

If u r satisfied dtu hv 99.3% or wht i call pass mark 68.2% then keep striving 4 excellence and live him to faith cos wht goes up must surely come down.

He will change though no smoke wtout fire but change he must cos u hv2shown him dt u r better off than those he strives 4

n above all stop complaining and showing dt u r getting weak and giving up,

Gd luck but know dt your cross is urs n nothing more cos no cross bigger than u will ever come your way which means dt u hv been weighed b4 giving d task which is managing your husband

wumiabo:

This is really sad, but i will tell you as Christ said that "they that will live Godly in this world will suffer persecution". Any woman that will be rich and independent and still be married must go through what you are going through. I know exactly where the problem is from because i have experienced it first hand. It stems from your being hard working and having your own money. All his reactions and actions are connected to that.

I am doomed, please help!!!! I have reached a cross road don’t know what to do cos am losing my mind. My marriage is a living hell and everything have turned upside down. My husband has become so distant, though we live in the house we are so far apart,
There is total breakdown of communication between us and he doesn’t ever see anything good about me. Even when I try to please him he said it’s pretense,

He cheats on me big time; I see love text messages from different women on his phone over 10 ladies at a time, infact chasing women has become a hobby to him, he insults me, slave me, He locked me at home from attending a friend's child dedication last sunday all my plea fell on deaf ears. I have tried to have discussions severally with him but doesnt even wanna hear me out., I try as much as possible to show understanding in every thing but he just over look. He spends more time outside than at home, I practically beg him to spend time with me and the baby. He run shift at work and our time contradicts but the little time we have to spend together he finds one or two excuses to leave home… sometimes he sneaks out of the house without telling me.

When I try to inquire why he has been treating me like poo he says am rude and I don’t respect him and I ask in wot way cos I really want to live peacefully, he should table my wrongs so I can make amends…. all he says is I don’t respect and trust him…… am really confused here. I told him that I want to earn his trust once more and cant just trust him blindly cos I don’t know him anymore…. He is so different from the man I married and to say we dated for 4 yrs and got married barely two years ago, I ask myself was I so blind that I didn’t see the handwriting on the wall or wot

He is so jealous of my little success……he wants me to always crawl up to beg him for every thing. I work I really don’t depend on him, infact I pay my school fees otherwise I would have long drop out. Rather than us working together he competes with me. Mid last year I told him I wanted to open a super market and he said ok, I tried carrying him along he never showed much interest, I drew an action plan and started executing one by one, he never 4 once ask about the progress made I even ask him to borrow me money he refused, now he see that the business is about taking off, to my amazement he has started searching for a shop to start his, I said lets do this together and expand later, he said he want to start his own. Since then he has been thwarting all my efforts to start. I have put in all my life and have borrowed from my office but he is just frustrating me.
He sees that I am very enterprising and he is threatened that I might be richer than him.
He doesn’t display maturity in handling issues.

I am doomed, please  help!!!! I have reached a cross road don’t know what to do cos am losing my mind. My marriage is a living hell and everything have turned upside down. My husband has become so distant, though we live in the house we are so far apart,
There is total breakdown of communication between us and he doesn’t ever see anything good about me. Even when I try to please him he said it’s pretense,

He cheats on me big time; I see love text messages from different women on his phone over 10 ladies at a time, infact chasing women has become a hobby  to him, he insults me, slave me,  He locked me at home from attending a friend's child dedication last sunday all my plea fell on deaf ears. I have tried to have discussions severally with him but doesnt even wanna hear me out., I try as much as possible to show understanding in every thing but he just over look. He spends more time outside than at home, I practically beg him to spend time with me and the baby. He run shift at work and our time contradicts but the little time we have to spend together he finds one or two excuses to leave home… sometimes he sneaks out of the house without telling me.

When I try to inquire why he has been treating me like poo he says am rude  and I don’t respect him and I ask in wot way cos I really want to live peacefully, he should table my wrongs so I can make amends…. all he says is I don’t  respect and trust him…… am really confused here. I told him that I  want to earn his trust once more and cant just trust him blindly cos I don’t know him anymore…. He is so different from the man I married and to say we dated for 4 yrs and got married barely two years ago, I ask myself was I so blind that I didn’t see the handwriting on the wall or wot

He is so jealous of my little success……he wants me to always crawl up to beg him for every thing. I work I really don’t depend on him, infact I pay my school fees otherwise I would have long drop out. Rather than us working together he competes with me. Mid last year I told him I wanted to open a super market and he said ok, I tried carrying him along he never showed much interest, I drew an action plan and started executing one by one, he never 4 once ask about the progress made I even ask him to borrow me money he refused, now he see that the business is about  taking off,  to my amazement he has started searching for a shop to start his, I said lets do this together and expand later, he said he want to start his own. Since then he has been thwarting all my efforts to start. I have put in all my life and have borrowed from my office but he is just frustrating me.
He sees that I am very enterprising and he is threatened that I might be richer than him.
He  doesn’t display maturity in handling issues.

Please help cos am about calling it quit but want to be sure I am not making a mistake

snub him for a long time. do as if he never existed.
stop reading his texts
stop bothering him. if he chases u out of d house, go look for a relation and stay wit, whether his or urs.

Dearie, there is only one solution and that is, PRAYER.
If u still lov your husband, take the situation to God in prayers.
I have seen worse situation than yours before, yet with fasting and prayers God touch my husband's heart, n God also increased my wisdom for d right attitude to succeed in marriage.
If u leave your husband and marry another man, what do you then do when the same situation arises? Do you divorce him too??
More so, there is always that time in most marriages, when u feel like OMG, i have had enof n u wanna give up, but God gives u d strength to wanna go on.
I understand your pain, but take your Husband to the Lord in prayers n u will see what the Lord can do.

Good Luck!