larimo:

@damysa, you are taking 'here' post too seriously as though it reflects some reality cos you are suggesting so. i hate to say this but do you know this person and is there any truth in what he/she is saying? Remember that its only the truth that can completely heal your marriage. God bless

jennykadry:

Are you alright? How old are you? how do you expect her to react? some lunatic came on here asking her if her husband is the father of her child,how do you really expect her to react, laugh? how will your mother for example feel if someone asks her if her husband is your father?how will she feel? knwing that shes never cheated on him, how will your wife feel if someone asks her if you are the father of her kids?jubilate?girate? and laugh?why on earth wouldnt she take the post seriously, are you sick or just plain stupi.d? So cos someone came here telling rubbish tales you already think she knows the poster right? May truth give you brains

eediot

larimo:

@jennykadry, sad sad sad. its so immature and irresponsible of you to insult someone you don't know because of what he/she said. isnt there room for silence when you consider something unimportant or ridiculous? may God forgive you for your comments.
@damysa, i wish you the best. thats d intention.

You are intimidating him. I also think you only assumed to know him before your marriage you did not really know him but its not late.(You started hating him after your giving birth)[/b]I'll try to be very objective as I do not see any reason why you are asking for an advice when you know your problem.
Fine he might he has lost his mind, he has lost track about life, [b]but please tell us is that baby his?Don't U think he discovered something about you that made him loose the expectation he had from you infact he now sl**ps with U forcefuly like he is in a revenge mission, don't you see its like one night stand has taken hold of him.
You are successful but why not allow him be the man of the house since he wants to(and he is), minimize bringing business and career talk to the bed for now until he finds it interesting, go back to the way you both were before and few months into your marriage when you worshiped him and allowed him buy you most of the things you needed even though you had the money.
Did you make jest of his background joking? Did you joke about his pe**is to be small to his face? Did you tell him / anyone that he doesn’t satisfy U?
Did you tell him about your past affair which involved your corporate life? Do you have one? No reasonable man tells a half lie to the wife to her face like urs is doing, allowing you see the name saved and still telling U the text is a mistake. You are a female you could have gotten bacteria infection from any toilet
Find about his work problems without telling anyone there U are having issues and discus it with him(not letting him know U know).He might be a subordinate at the office and U are making him one at home by the way U treat him for some time now.
Did you refuse bosom feeding your baby when she was young and if U did how long, were you selfish at any instance? From all I can tell of him he is a sentimental type (this is not wrong because this is your marriage, if he does not have right to criticize you in whose marriage does he have right to?)
I think you fight more with him than talk, you tell him what you want to do than ask for permission to(why not lock up that supermarket and bring the key to him in the bedroom, ask him for permission to  open a joint a/c for your children, talk about joint investment when U see his finance can carry it not when you want it.
Open up to him on your finance(maybe you listen much to ladies who advice against, he is him not any other man and you have to understand what he appreciates same way you expect him to appreciate you and do what you like and do that)
This is your marriage Honey and the right to win or lose is in your hands, anyone here might advice otherwise but its your home not mine, we all have challenges but we handle them that is why we still have a home(a lovely one),
Submit to him and bring him home(when a man/woman misses his/her way out there, we go back to the last known point, that’s what we teach our kids, and if they aren’t there, U wait there if they know the drill, if U feel they don’t U keep a notice there and go all the way searching.
If U do not take care of this your way reasonably, (if U move out)  give it 40yrs and come back to see that it was not about intimacy, U both lost it some place and needed to find each other.
You will forever be a failure if you think you are rite but cannot solve the problem, and if your being right  isn’t solving it, put urself in his shoes, you will know what to do.
We are Africans, solve your problem, those countries with marriage councilors all other have highest no of divorce cases.He has not beaten U (that means he adores U)& if He has he regrets every minute of it…would cry apologizing the day U find him as a lovely wife would
Find your man Dear

This man likes been treated/pampered like a baby sha.

nepele:

bournvita I was thinking that already but this is a public site so i don´t wanna share my story to everybody.Someone can recognise me so i don´t wanna take any risk.

nepele:

bournvita can i answer you thru email?

nepele:

I am so happy to see this topic.

Analytical: I´m so touched to read your advices.I am having a hard time with my husband and i realy don´t know what to do.I would appreciate so much if you have time to hear my story too.May I ask if you have any email where i can post my story?

God bless

Damysa:

I am doomed, please  help!!!! I have reached a cross road don’t know what to do cos am losing my mind. My marriage is a living hell and everything have turned upside down. My husband has become so distant, though we live in the house we are so far apart,
There is total breakdown of communication between us and he doesn’t ever see anything good about me. Even when I try to please him he said it’s pretense,

He cheats on me big time; I see love text messages from different women on his phone over 10 ladies at a time, infact chasing women has become a hobby  to him, he insults me, slave me,  He locked me at home from attending a friend's child dedication last sunday all my plea fell on deaf ears.

Damysa:

@Jennykadry, sorry didnt come back early y'day, was so busy.

hmmmm!!!! my marriage have in 'cloud 10' lately and I thank God I came to Nairaland.
things are moving faster than I expected. our communication has greatly improved and his committments to the family has been awesome. he spends good time at home unlike b4, he's getting more and more responsible for us as 'his children'.
Tells me where and what he does, calls when he is delaying outside, provides for the home without me asking etc.
It's as though we are just knowing each other kinda.
I really didnt do much talk but actions and suddenly things started falling into place. was thinking of talking to him about his attitude to my surprise he changed all by himself.
Last saturday he said he has missed staying home for a long time and just fuelled the generator and stayed home althrough the day hmmmmm was very surprised, kept asking myself if this is for real?

We now joins me in prayers like we used to do. He's just been very loving and u bet am having the best time ever.
Have suspended my biz 4 now, just watching and being a good wife, supporting every of his moves.

This man likes been treated/pampered like a baby sha. I hope for better days

To all who contributed I say thank u.

To all whose advices hve helped me, I appreciate u. I wanted to refrain from mentioning names but can't just forget people like ANALYTICAL(wish I knew u in person), ogamadam, ninapha, chaircover, apocalypse, SAlady, Jennykadry, Grpcaptain, outstrip, beejaei, sistawoman, Nikkygal and so many others I cant remember now, thank u for saving my marriage, May also meet u at the point of your needs. AMEN

Analytical:

Yes! Love is one of the best things in life, nay, the best thing!

Hear from the horse's mouth: