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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 1:47pm On Feb 21, 2018
Inkredible:


grin what if she is the one falling heads over you nko? Like you are in possession of her mumu button.

Fear of these go still dey?

Make Una give us better reasons abeg.. wink

That mumu button go scarce oh....Personally, i think British people are very proud and i don't mean that in a bad way. It's just the way eg....SW looks down on hausas as illiterates! In my experience, i think, Brits generally have a superiority complex, so will probably need to be a big time person to attract or impress a Brit...Very handsome, great personality or be a footballer rich! or celebrity...Otherwise, maybe you are the one who will be the mumu and profess your undying love, probably because of visa and end up being the 'Houseboy". I think, other Europeans, except for Germans and maybe French, are less proud and more likely to date you or fall in love easily, Indian or Pakistani....those ones will not even look at you, as their family will easily frown on you as a black person. The family usually arrange marriages, no matter how much they might like or love you.

But, what do i know, i've only been here 1 year! I had a 1 night with a 37yr old Romanian divorcee and i think she felt she was doing me a favour. I wasn't into it, she was just disturbing me and i was trying to be polite! And the blacks i try to hook up with on Tinder and other dating websites are extremely proud, even more so than whites.

So, if you no fine, no money, and not a celeb. You might save yourself headache and get a wife in Nigeria who will love you like Superman for bringing her out of Africa

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by spacyzuma(m): 3:54pm On Feb 21, 2018
Geetrix:


That mumu button go scarce oh....Personally, i think British people are very proud and i don't mean that in a bad way. It's just the way eg....SW looks down on hausas as illiterates! In my experience, i think, Brits generally have a superiority complex, so will probably need to be a big time person to attract or impress a Brit...Very handsome, great personality or be a footballer rich! or celebrity...Otherwise, maybe you are the one who will be the mumu and profess your undying love, probably because of visa and end up being the 'Houseboy". I think, other Europeans, except for Germans and maybe French, are less proud and more likely to date you or fall in love easily, Indian or Pakistani....those ones will not even look at you, as their family will easily frown on you as a black person. The family usually arrange marriages, no matter how much they might like or love you.

But, what do i know, i've only been here 1 year! I had a 1 night with a 37yr old Romanian divorcee and i think she felt she was doing me a favour. I wasn't into it, she was just disturbing me and i was trying to be polite! And the blacks i try to hook up with on Tinder and other dating websites are extremely proud, even more so than whites.

So, if you no fine, no money, and not a celeb. You might save yourself headache and get a wife in Nigeria who will love you like Superman for bringing her out of Africa

GBAM GBAM GBAMMEST!!! grin

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 4:10pm On Feb 21, 2018
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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Aphrodite007(f): 4:14pm On Feb 21, 2018
NosoChic:


Hmmm. ...I usually don't like generalisations as there are good and bad people in every race. But to a large extent, our cultural differences can be a divide.
The one of your mother becomes my mother and she may have to call her Mama/Mum. As simple as it may sound,not all will understand it. So if you jam person wey go dey call your mama by her first name. No vex!

Marriage to them may also not be stick in there till it works- once she's not happy she'll not fake it oh.There is no role of a woman oh, so you should dust up your domestic skills!

There have a good attraction to us as we sabi work. We are also very ambitious and it may just be fulfilling a fantasy to some.

That said, if you meet someone whose head is very calm, hardworking, well exposed,won't mind coming to Africa to stay...and you genuinely are in love with the person please go ahead.

It's a bit better for we African women in biracial marriages although hubby complains I can be LOUD around my 9ja peps.

Your last sentence though! grin grin

My hubby keeps asking how me and my Nigerian friends hear ourselves when we are discussing, apparently we yell aggressively at each other grin

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 4:17pm On Feb 21, 2018
UKmigrant:
Trust me, you can hold the mumu button of white britico girls if your game is tight grin

A naija guy I know is about to marry one, she is 23yr and a graduate, super hot too. When it comes to the game of love, some people win, while some lose.

Even for naija, no be every girl go gree for you na!

Like i said....i gave my opinion...N aperson wey dey wear shoe dey know where he dey tight am....If it were so fantastic, and i don't have anything against inter-racial relationships! , every black person would only date the other race!

Personally, i'm a simple man....I like big bum...it comes first for me, and it doesn't have to be too big, As long as it's not a straight, flat wall

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 4:21pm On Feb 21, 2018
Geetrix:


Like i said....i gave my opinion...N aperson wey dey wear shoe dey know where he dey tight am....If it were so fantastic, and i don't have anything against inter-racial relationships! , every black person would only date the other race!

Personally, i'm a simple man....I like big bum...it comes first for me, and it doesn't have to be too big, As long as it's not a straight, flat wall
Badt guy, give your life to Christ cheesy
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Aphrodite007(f): 4:24pm On Feb 21, 2018
Geetrix:


That mumu button go scarce oh....Personally, i think British people are very proud and i don't mean that in a bad way. It's just the way eg....SW looks down on hausas as illiterates! In my experience, i think, Brits generally have a superiority complex, so will probably need to be a big time person to attract or impress a Brit...Very handsome, great personality or be a footballer rich! or celebrity...Otherwise, maybe you are the one who will be the mumu and profess your undying love, probably because of visa and end up being the 'Houseboy". I think, other Europeans, except for Germans and maybe French, are less proud and more likely to date you or fall in love easily, Indian or Pakistani....those ones will not even look at you, as their family will easily frown on you as a black person. The family usually arrange marriages, no matter how much they might like or love you.

But, what do i know, i've only been here 1 year! I had a 1 night with a 37yr old Romanian divorcee and i think she felt she was doing me a favour. I wasn't into it, she was just disturbing me and i was trying to be polite! And the blacks i try to hook up with on Tinder and other dating websites are extremely proud, even more so than whites.

So, if you no fine, no money, and not a celeb. You might save yourself headache and get a wife in Nigeria who will love you like Superman for bringing her out of Africa

British Nigerian/Nigerian British girls are something else! I keep hearing complaints about them. I had a Nigerian friend that just kept dodging all the British born Nigerian girls cos he said he didn't have energy for their drama. As much as English girls are quite materialistic and lazy (my hubby told me this one), I don't think the British born ones are any better. Na hear say o, nobody should come and beat me!

As for why a lot of men prefer to marry Nigerian born women, I think its pretty obvious. Other than the fact that there will not be culture differences (which can be extremely stressful to overcome, trust me), a Nigerian born will be humble and grateful to the husband for the move abroad. At least for one year, she will pamper and cater to the man. Also, if she is not aware that the UK Laws favour women, she will cope will a cheating/abusive man. Finally, Nigerian born women have seen a lot of suffering, they will happily work to support the family rather than leave the man to work alone, or happily stay back home and watch the kids.

I am not generalising ooo!

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by wonlasewonimi: 4:31pm On Feb 21, 2018
Geetrix:


That mumu button go scarce oh....Personally, i think British people are very proud and i don't mean that in a bad way. It's just the way eg....SW looks down on hausas as illiterates! In my experience, i think, Brits generally have a superiority complex, so will probably need to be a big time person to attract or impress a Brit...Very handsome, great personality or be a footballer rich! or celebrity...Otherwise, maybe you are the one who will be the mumu and profess your undying love, probably because of visa and end up being the 'Houseboy". I think, other Europeans, except for Germans and maybe French, are less proud and more likely to date you or fall in love easily, Indian or Pakistani....those ones will not even look at you, as their family will easily frown on you as a black person. The family usually arrange marriages, no matter how much they might like or love you.

But, what do i know, i've only been here 1 year! I had a 1 night with a 37yr old Romanian divorcee and i think she felt she was doing me a favour. I wasn't into it, she was just disturbing me and i was trying to be polite! And the blacks i try to hook up with on Tinder and other dating websites are extremely proud, even more so than whites.

So, if you no fine, no money, and not a celeb. You might save yourself headache and get a wife in Nigeria who will love you like Superman for bringing her out of Africa
I think you got it the other way round. Oyinbo will fall in love with you even if you are cleaning the street and when she's tired she won't pretend she would fall out.

I have seen cases of female top executives married to security guards and they are happy to show them off.

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Inkredible(m): 4:55pm On Feb 21, 2018
NosoChic:


Hmmm. ...I usually don't like generalisations as there are good and bad people in every race. But to a large extent, our cultural differences can be a divide.
The one of your mother becomes my mother and she may have to call her Mama/Mum. As simple as it may sound,not all will understand it. So if you jam person wey go dey call your mama by her first name. No vex!

Marriage to them may also not be stick in there till it works- once she's not happy she'll not fake it oh.There is no role of a woman oh, so you should dust up your domestic skills!

There have a good attraction to us as we sabi work. We are also very ambitious and it may just be fulfilling a fantasy to some.

That said, if you meet someone whose head is very calm, hardworking, well exposed,won't mind coming to Africa to stay...and you genuinely are in love with the person please go ahead.

It's a bit better for we African women in biracial marriages although hubby complains I can be LOUD around my 9ja peps.

Thanks for this. So, it's safe to say it's all about their character and upbringing then.

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Inkredible(m): 5:00pm On Feb 21, 2018
Geetrix:


That mumu button go scarce oh....Personally, i think British people are very proud and i don't mean that in a bad way. It's just the way eg....SW looks down on hausas as illiterates! In my experience, i think, Brits generally have a superiority complex, so will probably need to be a big time person to attract or impress a Brit...Very handsome, great personality or be a footballer rich! or celebrity...Otherwise, maybe you are the one who will be the mumu and profess your undying love, probably because of visa and end up being the 'Houseboy". I think, other Europeans, except for Germans and maybe French, are less proud and more likely to date you or fall in love easily, Indian or Pakistani....those ones will not even look at you, as their family will easily frown on you as a black person. The family usually arrange marriages, no matter how much they might like or love you.

But, what do i know, i've only been here 1 year! I had a 1 night with a 37yr old Romanian divorcee and i think she felt she was doing me a favour. I wasn't into it, she was just disturbing me and i was trying to be polite! And the blacks i try to hook up with on Tinder and other dating websites are extremely proud, even more so than whites.

So, if you no fine, no money, and not a celeb. You might save yourself headache and get a wife in Nigeria who will love you like Superman for bringing her out of Africa

Lmao! Your finishing line is badass!! grin grin grin
The respect no go dey ordinary I swear. Sha, na make person no go carry karashika for naija. The type wey to follow you come up then leave your behind for an oyibo man.
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Inkredible(m): 5:05pm On Feb 21, 2018
Aphrodite007:


British Nigerian/Nigerian British girls are something else! I keep hearing complaints about them. I had a Nigerian friend that just kept dodging all the British born Nigerian girls cos he said he didn't have energy for their drama. As much as English girls are quite materialistic and lazy (my hubby told me this one), I don't think the British born ones are any better. Na hear say o, nobody should come and beat me!

As for why a lot of men prefer to marry Nigerian born women, I think its pretty obvious. Other than the fact that there will not be culture differences (which can be extremely stressful to overcome, trust me), a Nigerian born will be humble and grateful to the husband for the move abroad. At least for one year, she will pamper and cater to the man. Also, if she is not aware that the UK Laws favour women, she will cope will a cheating/abusive man. Finally, Nigerian born women have seen a lot of suffering, they will happily work to support the family rather than leave the man to work alone, or happily stay back home and watch the kids.

I am not generalising ooo!

This is the gospel!!! Thumbs up

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Inkredible(m): 5:12pm On Feb 21, 2018
UKmigrant:
Trust me, you can hold the mumu button of white britico girls if your game is tight grin

A naija guy I know is about to marry one, she is 23yr and a graduate, super hot too. When it comes to the game of love, some people win, while some lose.

Even for naija, no be every girl go gree for you na!

Na how long the "gaming" go last na? This na marriage we dey yarn about o.

He gon soon tire to keep up the game when him don marry am and she too go begin think say oboy no love am again, then BAM!! She walks..
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by NosoChic: 5:29pm On Feb 21, 2018
Inkredible:


Thanks for this. So, it's safe to say it's all about their character and upbringing then.

It's all about the individual-to a large extent and also about You!...But Shine your eyes wella, so you don't end up with a bum who only waits for your paycheck.

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 5:49pm On Feb 21, 2018
wonlasewonimi:

I think you got it the other way round. Oyinbo will fall in love with you even if you are cleaning the street and when she's tired she won't pretend she would fall out.

I have seen cases of female top executives married to security guards and they are happy to show them off.

A typical Nigerian or African man will have ego issues....No matter, even if he's married to Beyonce!

You think he will be happy?! Which kind of exec be that one....Its him that will be doing all the childcare, cleaning the house etc...If he Bleep up, na the door! That's a typical one oh....except, he's a happy woman wrapper like Tobi, how many do you know! He will cheat on her on every opportunity and he won't be able to exert he's dominance....there's a guy at my workplace...He suits this description....He always used to encourage me to date the oyinbos...Till he started telling me how he has to do childcare, take out the trash, all the time....When he visits Africa, they leave all the work for him....I bought garri for him from an african shop and ovaltine, the wife did not let their daughters drink it!

Anyway, different strokes for different folks....As i said, i'm a simple man, if i see Oyinbo with big bum that likes me, me sef go enta
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 5:50pm On Feb 21, 2018
Inkredible:


Na how long the "gaming" go last na? This na marriage we dey yarn about o.

He gon soon tire to keep up the game when him don marry am and she too go begin think say oboy no love am again, then BAM!! She walks..

I think you heard that Eboue story abi??
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 5:54pm On Feb 21, 2018
I think Black British will probably adapt better, but we that are from Africa...not sure it will be easy, except you are very lucky. But i guessmeeting a wife from Nigeria too that will be rib of your ribs is also God's grace. Especially, when things like finance, family and culture come into play. Except if your sex game can solve any problem or irregularities in the relationship. Sex is a drug like no other

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 5:56pm On Feb 21, 2018
And if you are ready to forget your own family too...lol
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Inkredible(m): 6:53pm On Feb 21, 2018
Geetrix:


I think you heard that Eboue story abi??

Yeah. I read it sometime ago.
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 8:31pm On Feb 21, 2018
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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by fatima04: 8:35pm On Feb 21, 2018
Inkredible:
ASDA.

I honestly don't know how to shop. cry

I go begin write list carry dey go. angry


Even if u write list ehn, u won't follow it. Toooooo many options and varieties of that particular thing on your list.

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 8:38pm On Feb 21, 2018
UKmigrant:
From my little experience, the whites might even be easier to date than the black British for an African guy because you already know what to expect.

The problem is you don't even know by which standard to relate with the black British girls. Some of their parents' ideals are deeply rooted in the African culture. You tend to expect their African sides to show sometimes and if you're not getting enough of that, it bring conflicts.

Many of the highly ducated black British girls that I have met or heard of, prefer to date/marry white guys grin

So sad, i think oyinbo ( abroad born ) blacks look down on their African race inhabitants

Sometimes, when you're talking, they act like they don't even understand you, eventhough you're speaking English, lol....the proper oyinbo go understand, but them, they be looking at you somehow....so disppointing

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by fatima04: 8:40pm On Feb 21, 2018
Inkredible:
Abeg I wan hear from Una wey Sabi pass me.

Why e be say most naija people wey dey here go just run go naija find wife?

Not like it's bad, don't get me wrong. What's with the fear of the "white woman"?

I read the "be careful of the white ladies" in most articles of dudes in the abroad.

Why is this so?

Cultural difference for 1 and also oyinbo can be in love with u dis minute and realise dre is 1 high school mate that is her soulmate and she can't live with regret. Lobatan

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 8:51pm On Feb 21, 2018
fatima04:


Cultural difference for 1 and also oyinbo can be in love with u dis minute and realise dre is 1 high school mate that is her soulmate and she can't live with regret. Lobatan

Especially after she smells you use toilet for the first time!...lol

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 8:54pm On Feb 21, 2018
Again, look at Tiger Woods and his oyinbo wife. I don't tolerate cheating sha, but the guy got caught, see as she provoke, divorce , wan bankrupt the guy....VS Beyonce and Jay Z...lol....ANyway, if you're very rich, there are slim chances your Nigerian wife will leave you because your pecker can't stay one place....not endorsing cheating sha
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 8:54pm On Feb 21, 2018
Seal and his wife, also divorced
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Aphrodite007(f): 9:07pm On Feb 21, 2018
Geetrix:


So sad, i think oyinbo ( abroad born ) blacks look down on their African race inhabitants

Its when you're talking, they won't even understand you....the proper oyinbo go understand, but them, they be looking at you somehow....so disppointing

Swear down! One of my school children, first time I met her, I saw her surname and was excited that she was Yoruba (fellow Nigerian in a 90% white uni),

I said “wow! Kemi Bode, you are Nigerian!”
She said, “No, I’m Cynthia, I am British!”..
I confuse.
I pointed out her surname
She then said, “Oh, yeah, my dad and mum are Nigerians”..

I almost fell down laughing grin grin. I don’t blame her for disowning us sha!

Funny, She was the only nice British Nigerian, the other ones didn’t even bother to mingle. We, the akpurukas, gave them space.

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Aphrodite007(f): 9:12pm On Feb 21, 2018
Geetrix:
Seal and his wife, also divorced

Not all white women are bad, same way not all black British women are bad. The only thing is to be careful that you aren’t a meal ticket and to be a responsible man- Why on earth should you cheat on a woman you claim you love?!

Also, if you love a woman, helping her cook and clean wouldn’t be hard- this is where Nigerian women differ from white women, we know how to do house girl work sotey the Nigerian husband would forget that women are the ones that are meant to be pampered! cry

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by NosoChic: 10:16pm On Feb 21, 2018
Geetrix:
Seal and his wife, also divorced

All these examples you're giving. At the end of the day, it really falls down to the individual.

I know so many African men who went back home to marry their wives. When some of the women arrived and saw that the system here supports women- they stopped tolerating some of the things they were just managing before from their husbands oh.

In typical African fashion, the husband say their eyes don tear -women wanted a divorce. A particular couple, the man kept on hanging on as the woman was pregnant -only for her to put to bed and we saw a black-asian baby. LOL!

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 10:58pm On Feb 21, 2018
NosoChic:


All these examples you're giving. At the end of the day, it really falls down to the individual.

I know so many African men who went back home to marry their wives. When some of the women arrived and saw that the system here supports women- they stopped tolerating some of the things they were just managing before from their husbands oh.

In typical African fashion, the husband say their eyes don tear -women wanted a divorce. A particular couple, the man kept on hanging on as the woman was pregnant -only for her to put to bed and we saw a black-asian baby. LOL!

Is this for real??

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by NosoChic: 11:05pm On Feb 21, 2018
Yes oh...A scorned woman -Is a scorned woman! Race / skin colour got nothing to do with it.

No be Jeremy Kyle oh!

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by DisGuy: 12:44am On Feb 22, 2018
Inkredible:


grin what if she is the one falling heads over you nko? Like you are in possession of her mumu button.

Fear of these go still dey?

Make Una give us better reasons abeg.. wink

Nothing wrong with actually dating anyone as long as its genuine and you are not taking advantage of the other person. When I see a 'freshie' uncle and an Oyinbo woman, the first thing that comes to my mind unfortunately is - Papers/benefits

There are so many Naijas/Africans all over the country i don't understand the whole traveling to village to get a wife thing, but seems some men like someone to be indebted to them

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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Inkredible(m): 12:59am On Feb 22, 2018
DisGuy:


Nothing wrong with actually dating anyone as long as its genuine and you are not taking advantage of the other person. When I see a 'freshie' uncle and an Oyinbo woman, the first thing that comes to my mind unfortunately is - Papers/benefits

There are so many Naijas/Africans all over the country i don't understand the whole traveling to village to get a wife thing, but seems some men like someone to be indebted to them

Lols. But this is not the USA where I presume it's relatively hard to get ur Citizenship.
Most of the "fresher" uncles came on a good visa that in no distant time, they getting their ilr and citizenship noni. Plus, they getting paid well.

So issue of papers/benefits is really not factored here.

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