You have been dating a lady 4 to 5 years +, all of a sudden, she breaks the news that she is getting married and like play, she dumps you without thinking twice, you begin to call her devil and all bad names. Let's face reality, every woman have her biological clock at the back of her mind and she will never choose ur love over her bio clock. She is still with you 5 years+ because she hasn't come across that man that can fit in your gap. No man, including you will like to be with a lady whom her bio clock is very near. She may not say anything about marriage to you because she doesn't want you to see her as being desperate but she has her friends and fams whom she is confiding into about the new man and his proposal and advices /pressures are flowing in from these 2 directions, all of them are pointing at one thing "to leave you and get married". If you really want her, do the right thing, taking a little step towards commitment will give her hope than mere dating. She loves you no doubt but her bio clock is more important.

Any sensible lady whose biological clock is ticking isn't supposed to be in relationships that isn't heading anywhere, if she wants to get married. This is the mistake these ladies make. You see a 35 years old woman doing boyfriend. Meanwhile, she desperately wants to get married. What's she doing boyfriend for?.

@op.Then what point are you driving at

Benita27:
Any sensible lady whose biological clock is ticking isn't supposed to be in relationships that isn't heading anywhere if she wants to get married. This is the mistake these ladies make.

Correct sis

yes a Lady shd be married off at d earliest time possible

a lady should be married at the age of 18 or 21

18 meaning her life isn't heading anywhere because her parents don't have money to further her education.

21 because she just graduated and her education is over.

if you get married early your kids might grow up and leave house then you begin school again, it's possible, and if you have kids early you won't look old rather than stop school and take care of kids

Biological clock ko, geographical clock ni

E be like sey dis one boy friend don date her for 5years and no sign of marrying her.

Benita27:
Any sensible lady whose biological clock is ticking isn't supposed to be in relationships that isn't heading anywhere, if she wants to get married. This is the mistake these ladies make. You see a 35 years old woman doing boyfriend. Meanwhile, she desperately wants to get married. What's she doing boyfriend for?.

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Absolute well said!

Benita27:
Any sensible lady whose biological clock is ticking isn't supposed to be in relationships that isn't heading anywhere, if she wants to get married. This is the mistake these ladies make. You see a 35 years old woman doing boyfriend. Meanwhile, she desperately wants to get married. What's she doing boyfriend for?.

You have to do boyfriend before you do husband

Abegi!!! Ladies pls forget all dis biological clock bullshit nd go out dere nd make moni. Only lazy ass ladies who wants to escape poverty will see marriage as her top priority..

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IAMSASHY:
You have been dating a lady 4 to 5 years +, all of a sudden, she breaks the news that she is getting married and like play, she dumps you without thinking twice, you begin to call her devil and all bad names. Let's face reality, every woman have her biological clock at the back of her mind and she will never choose ur love over her bio clock. She is still with you 5 years+ because she hasn't come across that man that can fit in your gap. No man, including you will like to be with a lady whom her bio clock is very near. She may not say anything about marriage to you because she doesn't want you to see her as being desperate but she has her friends and fams whom she is confiding into about the new man and his proposal and advices /pressures are flowing in from these 2 directions, all of them are pointing at one thing "to leave you and get married". If you really want her, do the right thing, taking a little step towards commitment will give her hope than mere dating. She loves you no doubt but her bio clock is more important.

Tell me how you expect to be taken serious when all you go about dating bad boys who doesn't see themselves commited to one woman. You won't date responsible men that are ready to wife you. Biological clock ko. . biological wrist watch ni

AlexandriaToria:

Does he exhibit trait of a playboy/ badboy?.

Does he aspire to make it in life?

TheManofTomorrow:
Does he exhibit trait of a playboy/ badboy?.

Does he aspire to make it in life?

He isn't a bad boy or a playboy. He loves his profession and that's what I don't like. Honestly I am ashamed of it and that's the problem. I can't introduce him to my circle cos I know they would give me the look I'll give someone else. I don't want to cross this over to 2018. That's why I need answers now.

y do u tink u won't b happy wt hm? Is it bc he is aggressive?, do u no dat a guy cn b very nice bt he is stl d type dat can easily beat d hell outa u wen provoked?_dat doesn't make hm a bad person, Al u need do is 2 avoid tins dat wl bring problems, u dnt talk back wen he is angrily scolding u rather u iron tins out wen he is calm, no matter Hw bad a guy is, dere is stl a lady out dere dat wl study hm, leav happily wt hm and stl tag hm d best, nobody is perfect, we al hv dat one bad attitude somewhat in us.

AlexandriaToria:
I won't lie, I am sometimes shallow and there are some things that can never be okay with me. For example, I don't like uniform men and I don't see myself as a wife to one. So i am currently dating one. It's that bad that I have never even introduced him to anyone and the one person I told, I lied about his job. It's like I am dating down. He is sometimes aggresive
I actually like him but can I risk marriage with him? I feel like I am never going to be happy in the marriage. You know I am asking because I can't ask a friend.

I just came to tell you tha marriage is greatly overrated. Bye

IAMSASHY:
y do u tink u won't b happy wt hm? Is it bc he is aggressive?, do u no dat a guy cn b very nice bt he is stl d type dat can easily beat d hell outa u wen provoked?_dat doesn't make hm a bad person, Al u need do is 2 avoid tins dat wl bring problems, u dnt talk back wen he is angrily scolding u rather u iron tins out wen he is calm, no matter Hw bad a guy is, dere is stl a lady out dere dat wl study hm, leav happily wt hm and stl tag hm d best, nobody is perfect, we al hv dat one bad attitude somewhat in us.

You saw how I tried to paint him bad by using his flaws. That's not the main problem I have with him. It is his job. I don't like it. I am ashamed of it. I can't even admit it to myself that he is a uniform man. I don't want to marry someone who is a uniformed man(soldiers, DSS etc).

AlexandriaToria:


He isn't a bad boy or a playboy. He loves his profession and that's what I don't like. Honestly I am ashamed of it and that's the problem. I can't introduce him to my circle cos I know they would give me the look I'll give someone else. I don't want to cross this over to 2018. That's why I need answers now.

I still don't get why you are not to ashamed of marrying him. Is it because of his profession?. Is it because he is uniform? Or is it became he is aggressive or just because you think your so called friends will not validate ur choice and mock you. I still don't get if the problem is with him or you thinking u have to meet ur friends spec of a man.

saying he luvs his profession, does dat mean he hardly call or chat u? For al I no, wen u really luv sumone, being busy is neva an excuse, hv u tried talking to hm abt it? Sometimes, we may hurt sumone wtout realizing it, talk 2 hm and see if dere wl b changes b4 u draw ur final conclusion u

AlexandriaToria:


He isn't a bad boy or a playboy. He loves his profession and that's what I don't like. Honestly I am ashamed of it and that's the problem. I can't introduce him to my circle cos I know they would give me the look I'll give someone else. I don't want to cross this over to 2018. That's why I need answers now.

Mhmm

TheManofTomorrow:
I still don't get why you are not to ashamed of marrying him. Is it because of his profession?. Is it because he is uniform? Or is it became he is aggressive or just because you think your so called friends will not validate ur choice and mock you. I still don't get if the problem is with him or you thinking u have to meet ur friends spec of a man.

I hate uniform men but I am dating one. No matter how much I try to see if I would enjoy marriage with him, it comes out negative. Yes he is not someone I would date on a normal day but I am now. He talks about our future together but I really don't want one with someone who works in the DSS. Yes I am that shallow. He is someone that if given an iPhone, he would sell it to get a cheaper one. I want my kids to go to the best of schools and have the best of life. Just tell me how to break up with him for real because I have broken up with him many times so he doesn't know when I am serious.

oh I see,u no he cnt quit his job bc of u, since u dnt like his job, let hm go den, dis is d first tin u shud hv considered even b4 dating hm, nt everyone likes uniform pple, a frnd of mine quited her relationship bc of dis same uniform stuff and blive me, d guy in question is d type evry woman wl like as a husband, bt my frnd wl rather die dan marry hm, we all hv choices

AlexandriaToria:


You saw how I tried to paint him bad by using his flaws. That's not the main problem I have with him. It is his job. I don't like it. I am ashamed of it. I can't even admit it to myself that he is a uniform man. I don't want to marry someone who is a uniformed man(soldiers, DSS etc).

AlexandriaToria:


He isn't a bad boy or a playboy. He loves his profession and that's what I don't like. Honestly I am ashamed of it and that's the problem. I can't introduce him to my circle cos I know they would give me the look I'll give someone else. I don't want to cross this over to 2018. That's why I need answers now.

Babe, is he a police officer Talk to God about it, if you love him, its not a decision you can take on urself alone.

IAMSASHY:
saying he luvs his profession, does dat mean he hardly call or chat u? For al I no, wen u really luv sumone, being busy is neva an excuse, hv u tried talking to hm abt it? Sometimes, we may hurt sumone wtout realizing it, talk 2 hm and see if dere wl b changes b4 u draw ur final conclusion u

He is actually okay when it comes to commitment and we are in a long distance relationship now. I just don't like his job and he is never going to leave it. I am ashamed of it. I even cheated and I told him so that he could break up with me but no he is "fighting" for the relationship. I want out, but I just want to be able to feel good after doing it, that's why I need someone to see reasons with me here

izaray:
Babe, is he a police officer Talk to God about it, if you love him, its not a decision you can take on urself alone.

He works in the DSS. I can't even introduce him to my friends and we have been going out for over 8 months.

IAMSASHY:
oh I see,u no he cnt quit his job bc of u, since u dnt like his job, let hm go den, dis is d first tin u shud hv considered even b4 dating hm, nt everyone likes uniform pple, a frnd of mine quited her relationship bc of dis same uniform stuff and blive me, d guy in question is d type evry woman wl like as a husband, bt my frnd wl rather die dan marry hm, we all hv choices

Thank you for understanding. I can go ahead then. Thanks

AlexandriaToria:



I hate uniform men but I am dating one. No matter how much I try to see if I would enjoy marriage with him, it comes out negative. Yes he is not someone I would date on a normal day but I am now. He talks about our future together but I really don't want one with someone who works in the DSS. Yes I am that shallow. He is someone that if given an iPhone, he would sell it to get a cheaper one. I want my kids to go to the best of schools and have the best of life. Just tell me how to break up with him for real because I have broken up with him many times so he doesn't know when I am serious.

You said you like him but you are not happy with him. There is no guarantee you will be happy in marriage if nothing changes in the relationship. True there is no perfect guy but you sure aren't comfortable with him. What exactly do you like about him for you to consider dating him in the first place?

he cn nt quit his job bc of u, dnt do anytin u wl regret later, marriage is nt like relationships dat u cn easily go in and out, dnt marry sumone u cnt boldly stand in public and introduce as ur hubby, dnt marry sumone u wl b cheating on later due 2 one reason or d other. If truly u wish 2 break wt hm, no need 4 hide /seek games, I blive u both ar matured, go straight to the point and tell hm it's over, if he insists, get ursef an engagement ring and tell hm u hv accepted someone else's proposal.

Wen uniform pple truly luvs, dey cn kill 2 protect dia own, be very careful

AlexandriaToria:


He is actually okay when it comes to commitment and we are in a long distance relationship now. I just don't like his job and he is never going to leave it. I am ashamed of it. I even cheated and I told him so that he could break up with me but no he is "fighting" for the relationship. I want out, but I just want to be able to feel good after doing it, that's why I need someone to see reasons with me here

AlexandriaToria:


He works in the DSS. I can't even introduce him to my friends and we have been going out for over 8 months.

Wow...If its

that bad, then let him go..But i will advice you to be very careful on your actions towards ur suitors...i have a friend that is still single,

when she was 25/26, suitors were coming asking her hand in marriage, but she was seriously turning them down, and when i tried

advicing her to choose one and go into a short relationship with the person, just to have a little clue of his character, i was instead seen as a misleading friend.. She will be 33yrs next year, and no man is coming her way anymore. Goodluck my dear.

TheManofTomorrow:
You said you like him but you are not happy with him. There is no guarantee you will be happy in marriage if nothing changes in the relationship. True there is no perfect guy but you sure aren't comfortable with him. What exactly do you like about him for you to consider dating him in the first place?

He told me his profession before dating but I actually thought he was lying. I don't know why I like him. I don't even know if what I feel is love or infatuation.