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Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Nobody: 9:02am On Nov 20, 2017 |
I’m taking a mental health break as I was at risk of breaking down and making a fool of myself Retreating from society Until January 2018 Just taking time to see where my life is going and come to terms with mums death But I’m worried because some of my friends may be worried and wondering where I am (I deleted Facebook, changed my number etc no one has access to me) Also, because I have not been going to socials people may think I am not a good friend as they were there for me when my mother died |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Nobody: 9:14am On Nov 20, 2017 |
You gotta stop being hard on yourself. I don't know what really happened but secluding yourself from the outside world with the wrong motive isn't a great idea. You should do it to gain strength from within and not to get depressed.... More depressed |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by khome(f): 9:29am On Nov 20, 2017 |
Shey u are d first person wey him family go die. Yeye |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Oyindidi(f): 9:30am On Nov 20, 2017 |
faridaije:You will hurt yourself more.. Sorry about your mum |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by AlexCk: 9:33am On Nov 20, 2017 |
Nothing wrong in taking a break/breather. As long as u doing well, and a few friends know u good too(incase u are worried about their worries about u). khome:. No one has the same psychologically factor, to help ease up the pain of losing someone. U should be more considerate ma'am |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by BluntBoy(m): 9:34am On Nov 20, 2017 |
faridaije: Is that why you want to bleach your skin Talk to me. What really is the problem? |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Nobody: 4:23pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by iamJ(m): 4:26pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
Oyindidi:advisor |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Nobody: 4:31pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
khome: Such an insensitive statement...... @faridaije. loosing a parent is not easy, but life must continue.... God will give you the strength to continue..... stay positive, even if you must take a break, don't cut yourself off from everybody. |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by walepackage(m): 4:38pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
faridaije:first and foremost, sorry for the loss of your mum.May her soul rest in peace.Alienating yourself from the social world will breed individualism,and if persist for long can manifest to suicidal thought,dementia and some other psychological trauma.You can decide to change circles of friends,but replace it with other new ones,that makes you more social being and well groom to absorb more shock ahead. |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by khome(f): 4:48pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
crankey:Insensitive or not. She just have to accept her mum is no more. Why keep away frm frnds for so long? What does she wanna think of her life to d extent of staying alone for so long? |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by khome(f): 4:53pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
faridaije:You better take it easy, try to get yourself togtr. Engage yoursf, and be lively. My dad is late and i knw wt u are going tru 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Nobody: 5:34pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
please take it easy, dont be too hard on yourself, going to isolation wont solve any problem, it might only get things harder. this is when you need ple around you so that you wont feel lonely. It is well with you and your family. faridaije: |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Nobody: 7:02pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
khome: What is more painful losing mum or dad be honest |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by ojun50(m): 7:08pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
u very very selfish nd wicked to yr friend's. u better move oh. sorry for d lost |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by ubunja(m): 7:21pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
u dont need to be stressed to delete Facebook. that site is the sewage of the world.good riddance. take your time and rest.if they are real friends they will wait till u are ready to reappear. good luck 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by ubunja(m): 7:25pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
faridaije:it depends who u were closest to.who played a more personal role in your life. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Nobody: 7:26pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
faridaije: Those that matter, don't mind and those who mind, don't matter. Do whatever you need to do. It's not being selfish it's being self -full. We all need it sometimes. When you come out the other side they'll understand why you did and needed to do what you did. Everything will be fine and all is well with you 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by khome(f): 7:42pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
faridaije:Who are u closer 2? |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by thestevens: 7:56pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
Hard truth is that you can't change what happened, just got to pick up the pieces of your life and move on and pray that your find rest with God, above all look for a bible believing church and attend and try to study the Bible once or twice a day. |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Nobody: 9:12pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Stevengerd(m): 9:22pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
In life nobody forces anyone..Do watever u like. |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Alezy(m): 9:31pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
khome:you who are you closer to? |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by khome(f): 9:59pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
faridaije:Dad |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by khome(f): 10:01pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
Alezy:Leave me alone jor |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Alezy(m): 10:04pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
khome:answer Jor, just wanna know she. |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by khome(f): 10:12pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
Alezy:Dad |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Alezy(m): 10:14pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
khome:cool....does he know this fact? And why ur dad? |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by khome(f): 10:17pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
Alezy:Yea,he knew. He tells me bout bible,life... |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by Alezy(m): 10:20pm On Nov 20, 2017 |
khome:knew? He is..... Don't know if am right but don't wanna specify. Guess u already know what am trying to ask. Check ur mail |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by RAFIC(m): 12:38am On Nov 21, 2017 |
khome: This is harsh. People deal with such things differently. Some cry, others act like it never happened, others laugh and play... ur message is clear but it could be said more nicely for such a delicate situation. A loss is a loss and is always terribly painful. I haven't lost an immediate family member but I've lost some close ones from my extended family... it's not the same but I can only imagine how terrible it can get as it draws closer to home. Take care OP but isolation may not be the best answer. If u really want to, at least inform some close friends of year decision. They can always be of help |
Re: Am I Being Selfish? Please Advise Me by khome(f): 6:54am On Nov 21, 2017 |
Alezy:He is late. Is that what u re thinkn? |
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