A very good looking friend of mine keeps asking for money, card and other stuff. I always say yes, simply because I can't say no to extremely good looking people (I know, stupid me)
We met in my university fresher days (we're still in the same school but in different departments)
He never calls me (I do all the calling), I hung out with him last month and footed all the bills. I feel like he only remembers me when he needs something material (like now he's asking to transfer him some cash to take his chic out).
I care for him but
I don't want to ever feel used.

Simply define your "relationship" in very clear terms. Teach him how you'd like to be treated. Don't assume anything with a human being. You may be pleasantly surprised to discover that he's not attracted to you with respect to romance. And, if that is the case, count yourself lucky. Many got to realise this fact when it became too late!

jamariwolf:
A very good looking friend of mine keeps asking for money, card and other stuff. I always say yes, simply because I can't say no to extremely good looking people (I know, stupid me)
We met in my university fresher days (we're still in the same school but in different departments)
He never calls me (I do all the calling), I hung out with him last month and footed all the bills. I feel like he only remembers me when he needs something material (like now he's asking to transfer him some cash to take his chic out).
I care for him but
I don't want to ever feel used.

And why can't you say "No?" is he your crush?.

kimbraa:
And why can't you say "No?" is he your crush?.

he's dark-skinned and fine as helllll, with bright eyes, pointed nose and pink lips (you know how Muslim guys can be fine right?) You just can't say no. Not crush tho

No, he isn't using you...he is only making use of you.

Oops, they mean the same thing.

LordIsaac:
Simply define your "relationship" in very clear terms. Teach him how you'd like to be treated. Don't assume anything with a human being. You may be pleasantly surprised to discover that he's not attracted to you with respect to romance. And, if that is the case, count yourself lucky. Many got to realise this fact when it became too late!

just friendship tho. Thanks [img]https://media./media/sbXNx4gwx1Lhu/giphy.gif[/img]

He's using you my dear


Put this to a test, say NO just once and check out his reaction

Tell him to his face, he doesn't know he is using you.... I used to do the same too until she told me

jamariwolf:
he's dark-skinned and fine as helllll, with bright eyes, pointed nose and pink lips (you know how Muslim guys can be fine right?) You just can't say no. Not crush tho

He's, look how you described him. You've not brought yourself to terms with it.

A friend in need is a friend indeed.


You can ask him for sex when you are in need.

kimbraa:
He's, look how you described him. You've not brought yourself to terms with it.

I don't know for real. Imagine you send someone 200 naira card, ask him to call you and the call lasts for only 20 seconds and suddenly he says he want to use the card to flash other people before ending the call. Yeah this just happened now.
I think I'd delete his number and move on.

Hmmmm

this guy don come again

jamariwolf:
I don't know for real. Imagine you send someone 200 naira card, ask him to call you and the call lasts for only 20 seconds and suddenly he says he want to use the card to flash other people before ending the call. Yeah this just happened now.
I think I'd delete his number and move on.

Ur hot oo....is he blind?

Interesting.

Zykod:
He's using you my dear


Put this to a test, say NO just once and check out his reaction

Exactly,u see the more reason we say ladies are confused,she doesn't even know exactly what is going on btw them

Martin0:



Exactly,u see the more reason we say ladies are confused,she doesn't even know exactly what is going on btw them

Martin please leave me alone. You're cracking me up seriously

jamariwolf:
I don't know for real. Imagine you send someone 200 naira card, ask him to call you and the call lasts for only 20 seconds and suddenly he says he want to use the card to flash other people before ending the call. Yeah this just happened now.
I think I'd delete his number and move on.

You need to check ur heart and understand what u feel for him.
For me I will say u love him deeply and u doing it based on how attracted you are to him..
His looks is probably where your love lay's on him..
So I will best surggest you seat out and correct yourself on ur feelings for him..

You re not making a mistake on him either but just seat back and see what exactly you want,is it his looks,or his love?

Martin0:



You need to check ur heart and understand what u feel for him.
For me I will say u love him deeply and u doing it based on how attracted you are to him..
His looks is probably where your love lay's on him..
So I will best surggest you seat out and correct yourself on ur feelings for him..

You re not making a mistake on him either but just seat back and see what exactly you want,is it his looks,or his love?

there's def an attraction, she doesn't know what it is, maybe he's a spare tyre, a Plan C

Zykod:



there's def an attraction, she doesn't know what it is, maybe he's a spare tyre, a Plan C

Maybe

No u are using urself

It's clearly written and obvious that he's not into u but serve as his ATM machine. Even if he's ur crush, u just gonna end up being his side chic. D best is to define ur relationship with him.

Ewoooooo,,,,OP MUST BE UGLY OHHH

jamariwolf:
just friendship tho. Thanks

sense Is Far From You... Are You Male Or Female? You Just De Switch Gender anyhow...

He is not using u...but u are his ATM machine......always despensing....grow brain oooo

welcome to the FRIEND ZONE.
it hurts doesnt it.
do u like the taste of your own medicine?

ubunja:
welcome to the FRIEND ZONE.
it hurts doesnt it.
do u like the taste of your own medicine?

Kikiki @ Ubunja !

I jejely asked u 'bros abeg wetin be Ur time'...Nd u stretch Ur wrist towards my face..u wan show me Ur watch ni abi u wan use am pluck my eyes komot...look at Ur damnnn watch nd tell me the time ahannn...watch wey no get long hand and short hand Aw I wan take sabi time...

Bk to u Sister op .....just kwantinue to send him the money...Ur reward is in heaven....

jamariwolf:
A very good looking friend of mine keeps asking for money, card and other stuff. I always say yes, simply because I can't say no to extremely good looking people (I know, stupid me)
We met in my university fresher days (we're still in the same school but in different departments)
He never calls me (I do all the calling), I hung out with him last month and footed all the bills. I feel like he only remembers me when he needs something material (like now he's asking to transfer him some cash to take his chic out).
I care for him but
I don't want to ever feel used.

This is exactly what girls are doing to guys on daily basis

jamariwolf:
A very good looking friend of mine keeps asking for money, card and other stuff. I always say yes, simply because I can't say no to extremely good looking people (I know, stupid me)
We met in my university fresher days (we're still in the same school but in different departments)
He never calls me (I do all the calling), I hung out with him last month and footed all the bills. I feel like he only remembers me when he needs something material (like now he's asking to transfer him some cash to take his chic out).
I care for him but
I don't want to ever feel used.

You ave innocently become his cash cow...Let em know that you gat stuff to do with yah cheese ehn,that you ain't his school mother... I hate when some guys display that sorta greed mehn,it shud be 50-50 not 99-1. daz all

i like seeing posts like this,it means we guys are getting wiser everyday.you're used to using guys so now that you've been beaten to your game by a pro,it is paining you....i can only but laugh

jamariwolf:
A very good looking friend of mine keeps asking for money, card and other stuff. I always say yes, simply because I can't say no to extremely good looking people (I know, stupid me)
We met in my university fresher days (we're still in the same school but in different departments)
He never calls me (I do all the calling), I hung out with him last month and footed all the bills. I feel like he only remembers me when he needs something material (like now he's asking to transfer him some cash to take his chic out).
I care for him but
I don't want to ever feel used.

He is not a real man, and you are being used, yes stupid you, you love the packaging more than the content of the product. How would you feel if you bought sardine and realized that there is pure water inside. Pray tell me, which REAL man, sabi beg another man for money , talkless of begging a woman, who probably was given the money by another man, another fellow man. Nnah mehn, some men stupid but some women stupid very very well. So, because the guy is handsome, you just be issuing him none refund credits ? You guys are making men poor, by not pushing them to the walls.

Anyway, I was just passing and making stupid comments as I move around and around on my journey through life. Do not be offended.