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Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by GoldCircle: 11:16am On Dec 23, 2017 |
If your story is true, then That isn’t a brother but the devil living with you. You even talk like a small boy. See your home is broken now. Keep housing him and paying the rent for him so he can increase his number of concubines. You will soon become his foot stool. After eating and having his sex romps he will soon begin to ask you to clear the room and wash the dishes. Please grow up and be a man! 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by pocohantas(f): 12:12pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
kimbraa: Most of them are like that, once it involves their wife and family members...the wife takes the bullet. OP,enough has been said. Pls, reconcile with your wife...not like you should go insulting your people, but apply wisdom. 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by orangb: 1:43pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
Newboss:No, it isn't. You just haven't met the one yet. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by Sterope(f): 1:46pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
There is nothing you do that would ever right. Your family will come around sooner or later. It is good to compromise but you should draw a line when it starts affecting you regardless of whose ox would be gored. Take charge of your life, be a MAN. It is your job to protect your wife. Find a way to get back your wife and child. If your family does not respect you or your wife, it is not going to start now. Learn to be firm. deleSayo: |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by Joshchi(m): 1:58pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
deleSayo: This is the most annoying and shallow statement I have read today. Common man! Your brother has not done you any favours, rather he has destroyed your family and you're here wondering what your family will think. Well done sir! 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by edimolu(m): 6:05pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
@delesayo I try to put myself in your position, i must say i understand what you must be going through, it is sad, nevertheless, you seem like a responsible man, and for that some persons might think you soft and dumb, but in all entirety i think you're the opposite.... First off, i am impressed with the fact you have'nt turned your back on your family and still hold them in high-esteem, afterall family is family...i noticed in your writeup your brother seems to be the only one conversing with them, you should change that.... Now you know where the problem is and you got to fix that, no one but you holds the cards, only a nitwit would believe you have not tried, your brother's blatant disregard for your happiness is quite distasteful, he is a snake and must go.. Your wife leavingbisbtge least of your problems, the day you tell your wife your brother is gone is the day your pain ends!, so until you fix that, let your wife be!...... |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by pattybf(f): 7:06pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
Hmmm! Everyone is telling op to go n apologised to his wife to come back, when he's not even man enof to keep her. If I may ask, what exactly will change when she comes back? This man is a weakling n his family is jealous of his wife's background. She accepted d bro, hoping to get to d hearts of other family members but they r bent on destroying her. She has done d most sensible thing n she must never return to dat hell, called marriage! She deserve better. Imagine, accepting ur bro turning ur home into a brothel sef, ur family has no principles! Life is too short for all these trouble! 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by pattybf(f): 7:24pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
Blonchilli: I wish I cld give a hundred like for dis! |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by pattybf(f): 7:37pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
ImaIma1: D bolded reminds me yrs back when my sis accommodated my bro for months in her one room apartment ( both single as at then). He just came into town n needed a place to stay to sort out his accommodation issues. He got a flat after some months. When d sis opted to move wt him, he refused n said he needs privacy! 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by natasha: 8:14pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
The fact that you choose your brothers comfort over your own son, the first seed of your loins, your only surviving seed....you ll rather have him experience the trauma of a broken home over "what my mother will say" "what my siblings will say" speaks volumes of ur character. If i was your wife, i will forgive you But will NEVER return to u 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by Blonchilli(m): 11:43pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
pattybf:Much obliged |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by Ranchhoddas: 7:32am On Dec 24, 2017 |
eyinjuege:One month? If na me na 24 hours I go give am. If he like make he go sleep under bridge. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by DonOms(m): 9:07am On Dec 24, 2017 |
deleSayo, from your narration, it would seem that you have always been faced with a choice which required picking one and leaving the other. I read your other thread too and it's the same situation - pick one, leave the other. These two choices would either, and inevitably so, leave you estranged from your family but give you a happy marriage OR make you lose your marriage and keep a conceited and selfish family that care less about you. Unfortunately, you chose to sit on the fence through your inaction, forgetting that indolence would make you lose both ways. And you sure have - Family doesn't still care about you even though you may have lost the wife they so resent, and you may have actually just lost your marriage. Loss on both fronts. Doing a careful risk analysis early on should have informed you to take action instead of keeping quiet. See, you will most likely never, I repeat NEVER, win the affection of your family no matter how hard you try, even if you kill yourself for their sake. But for a woman whom you confessed love to and declared here 'is the best thing that ever happened to you,' should you let her go just like that? "Wisdom is profitable to direct." Enough people have told you the right thing to do on this thread and I needn't echo their voice as you already show reluctance to act. The only thing I'll tell you is, "do what you should have done from the start to make you truly happy - whatever that is. For in the end, that will matter the most and you'll be filled with less regret." 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by Babacele: 12:40pm On Dec 24, 2017 |
deleSayo:log in back emotionally if you still love her but with a price- a serious one at that because it is a bit difficult to make a woman refall in love when her heart is out. But don't you worry it is still possible provided a 3rd party has not occupied your space. Your inability to safeguard her home she was co-building with love and care; financially and emotionally pissed her off. While the hell of a brother was desecrating everything sacred in your matrimony , you neglected the only and the most important deity - love- and were worshipping fears,indecision, bias and others' perceptions about what they are least qualified to judge. where was there judgement to have raised a person like your bro in the first place given their busybodiness about your wife / her background and not necessarily her character? The price is to define all the boundaries around your marriage and keep all intruders far away , go beg your wife and prove to her that you would henceforth safeguard una home. Make sure she and her mother! are convinced in their hearts that you are genuine. To prove to her your seriousness and commitment to making the marriage work, send Mr leech out immediately. Tell me why your other siblings don't wanna see him? So the ball is your court. Forget what she is saying angrily out of the frustration you pushed her to but rather concentrate on winning her heart back. Make sure you visit her more often now than before and spend more time with her. And who says you can't keep late nights there, help out with chores , sit next behind her in the church and embarrass her with a new commitment that is grand and sincere? Truth is you still love her , and she does too. Oh forgot to tell you to pray to God too! Merry Xmas. 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by Eketem: 1:32pm On Dec 24, 2017 |
You are a silly man, what do you want us to tell you? Your wife is my kind of woman, spineless man. Marry your brother 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by queenfav(f): 2:51pm On Dec 24, 2017 |
Please sit your agbaya brother down and calmly tell him to leave.Your wife is pissed and has every right to be! From day 1,you should have set the ground rules for your brother. It's what you allow that continues. I can't blame your wife's family at all, maybe now you will wake up and see clearly! You have not acted like a man at all. Sorry bro, but it's the truth! Get your brother to move out and go get your wife. I pray you don't lose your home anyways. |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by Nobody: 2:59pm On Dec 24, 2017 |
deleSayo:Is he 12? Move out secretly and leave him and his things in the house. |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by bitchcrafts: 3:12pm On Dec 24, 2017 |
Wow. You ought to have changed it for your bro since his 2weeks ultimatum lapsed. Your brother gotta leave NOW Ykno. Then, find how to get your woman back ASAP! DAFUQ! |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by ovalrose(f): 8:24am On Dec 25, 2017 |
Everyone has just said what I would have said in this situation, so I'll summarize with, a word is enough for the wise. |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by gidjah(m): 9:59am On Dec 25, 2017 |
Hmmmmm you took this out of my mouth Dr, why should a man get this weak? His wife won't even honor him at home since he has refused to give her were she rightly belongs in his home. His elder brother too is a demon, married and yet brings ladies into his younger bros house who is married too? I expected the younger brother to confront that behavior and condemned it out rightly. But he seem too weak thus messing up his wife before his brother. I understand younger brothers are not permitted to look up their elders in the face even during scuffles,But his elder brother meant evil for him and his family as a result only sterned confrontation would have settled that situation. kimbraa: |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by MARKone(m): 12:04pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Broda the fault is yours, and I do not blame your wife for the action she took. If you still want your family together, better go in your knees and beg ur wife and in-laws, do that as send your brother away. |
Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by mastermaestro(m): 1:18pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
deleSayo: You deserve to be single with this your sissy, mouse nature. I feel like resetting you with a slap. 2 Likes
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Re: Marriage Palava part 2 by egopersonified(f): 2:43pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
You have to give your wife reasons to respect you. Respect breeds love. Is it the family that dislikes your brother he is still sending those messages to? If you can't face him, give him one week notice, after that time elapse and he is still there, once he leaves the house that day, pack his things in front of the house, lock the place up and go stay in a hotel for two days. I won't be surprised if your brother breaks those locks and moves back in. And you won't do anything about it. 1 Like 1 Share |
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