LivinaPatrick:
I think she is confused

GraGra247:
Op, I don't want to say that you are slowpoke number one of 9ja. A lady that plainly told you she doesn't love you anymore, she even has a boyfriend and you continue to spend on her and mess with her.

Now you're even contemplating visiting her on Xmas to sleep with her in absence of her boyfriend?

You're mumu never do?

Infact, you need Charlie boy

blackmann:


So r u saying he shouldn't sleep with her if the opportunity presents itself? If it were me, I would grab it with both hands and give her a shagging she won't forget in a hurry. Me thinks OP is just hurt nothing came out of all his efforts and I don't blame him. These modern era girls are like that.

@Op, if the girl offers herself to u, pls no dull urself.

chigoizie7:
Today is 1st January, tell us, did u go? And what really happened ?







Btw, I have told girls times without number. That I might change my mind on things I said I won't do. But trying to cajole me? Hell no, I am never going back in my words. If u like call me jerk or call me whatever u like, even stingy. Na u sabi.

dimejisulaiman:


Let me summarize it for you incase you didn't get the gist...I went to see her on xmas day, we agreed to talk out our differences, we met a few days later and she wanted me to go back to treating her the way I used to but she wanted to move on to another person, I told her no, she got pissed and blocked me from her whatsapp account.

chigoizie7:


Kudos, my only pain was that u didn't fucccck her.

dimejisulaiman:


Same here dude. same here. And it's not that I didnt have the chance to. I just didn't at that moment, and she was grateful I didn't take[b] advantage of her weak moment[/b].

dimejisulaiman:


Let me summarize it for you incase you didn't get the gist...I went to see her on xmas day, we agreed to talk out our differences, we met a few days later and she wanted me to go back to treating her the way I used to but she wanted to move on to another person, I told her no, she got pissed and blocked me from her whatsapp account.

dimejisulaiman:


Let me summarize it for you incase you didn't get the gist...I went to see her on xmas day, we agreed to talk out our differences, we met a few days later and she wanted me to go back to treating her the way I used to but she wanted to move on to another person, I told her no, she got pissed and blocked me from her whatsapp account.

dimejisulaiman:


There's this girl I met sometimes last year. We became instant friends and along the line we grew close. i would say we did fall in love with each other for a while, but something serious came up that caused a big rift between us and we had to stop what we were trying to build between us. I still hoped that with time, we would still visit what we were trying to do, but it became clear to me that she didn't want us to continue. We decided to remain friends. Or so I thought.

Over the next few months, I tried to rekindle the feelings we had for each other, but she kept squashing my efforts. Still, she kept insisting I do the things I used to do for her. One evening, we had a small arguement. She then asked me bluntly the way I've been acting, it seems I still love her. I told her yes, I still do. I asked does she still have some love for me? She said NO, that she had killed her love for me a long time ago. I felt used. I felt she drove a dagger in my heart. She immediately noticed the change in my demeanor and tried to apologize, but I told her it was okay.

I left her and went home. I decided right there and then that I wouldn't be as nice to her as I used to. I stopped doing the things i usually did. It's not like I cut her off totally, but I didn't allow her to have her way with me on things I used to let slide.

She noticed these and started complaining. One evening, she told me she wanted to do something financially. Usually when she asked me for help I would not hesitate, but this time around I told her she would find someone to help her. That's when she let loose. Saying that she noticed I've changed ever since she told me she doesn't love me anymore, that since that night I've been acting weird. Is that how a man's love for a woman waxes cold? I asked her how does she expect me to feel? I'm not her boyfriend and she already has someone else. Why doesn't she ask him? i told her I can't continue to do things for someone I know cannot be mine. She got upset and called me a jerk, saying I don't care about her anymore, blah blah.

Recently she sent me a message. She said I'm no longer her hero, that she didn't know I was this way, etc. I'm like this girl's looking for someone she can push around. I'm no longer that guy. She's like i'm too proud, I have an inflated ego about myself, etc, and she doesn't want to see me again. I said fine. There's nothing i can do about that now. You're with someone else.

I've not seen her for a while now. Today she sent me a Whatsapp message sayig she wants me to come to her house for xmas. I'm contemplating not going. Her boyfriend graduated and moved out of state, and I think she needs someone to hold her this festive period.

blackmann:


So r u saying he shouldn't sleep with her if the opportunity presents itself? If it were me, I would grab it with both hands and give her a shagging she won't forget in a hurry. Me thinks OP is just hurt nothing came out of all his efforts and I don't blame him. These modern era girls are like that.

@Op, if the girl offers herself to u, pls no dull urself.

dimejisulaiman:
Ee wa gbami l'owo babe yi oh!!! See me se wahala. Na by force to be in the friendzone? Werin dey do this babe sef?

Incase you are all wondering what i'm ranting about, na this same yeye girl. I don tell m say make we move on from what all happened, but she still no wan gree. From my perspective, she still wants me to treat her like I used to (splash the cash), but doesn't want to give anything in return. She wan chop clean mouth.

I've told her I can't do the things I used to do for her anymore. she took it personal, calling me all sorts of names, but I just stood firm. Communication between us dwindled a lot. I was fine with that. I took everything as my loss, swallowed my pride, and decided to move on with my life.

Recently I've been chyking this new girl. So far, I've played my game slow, not wanting to make the same mistake I made with the other girl. You can imagine my surprise when the other girl(the one the whole story is all about) left me a long winded note in my mail. I read it and till date I am still fuming. I won't bore you with the details, but the gist is she said I was unbelievable, that I could stoop so low as to toast her "friend", that I used to be her "big brother", that the angel in me disappeared the day she said she no longer had feelings for me. She kept on referring to the day I told her to take my account off the gym, and that for my information, I caused her "boyfriend" to break up with her and she's now boyfriendless. I should not bother trying to explain myself to her cos she would cause a scene and embarrass me in front of everybody if I do. I was like, ee wa gba mi. Na by force?

I didn't even dignify her note with a response. Now she sent me a text over the weekend, requesting my help. I just dey shake my head since.