ibkayee:

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I'm very well dear


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Acidosis:


I'm very well dear


Welcome back from nowhere

Great to hear

Thank you

azraeljaheel:


Thank you so much ma'am

Really sorry about the inconveniences I might be causing you.

Got a quick question...
Do I reach out to my mum? Someone told me last night. . That I need to forgive myself(forgive myself for someone else's carelessness) before I could genuinely forgive her. .


I see individuals with their families and I feel my heartache (would call it envy)

The main issue now is that, I. Still wondering why you seems to be alone on earth

Your dad must have left your mum, that's story for another time

What is wrong or what happened between you and your mum that you guys don't check on each other

What exactly is the issue because with this kind of solo life

I don't know how you will raise a family without you and your family having a good relationship

What I mean to say is, if you want to marry now and the girls family insist on seeing your parents or either of uoir parents, what will you tell them

Forgiving your mum means something went wrong along the line

So tell me what really happened

And let's see if it's something that can be sorted out

Between you, your dad and your mom, no one is checking on each other

What is the cause of this dysfunctional family

Stories like this keeps one wondering if there was love in the first instance. From your narration, your sister hated the man first, due to the fact he didn't do a white wedding. I don't get? Is paying of brideprize not the ultimate anymore? Did they not discuss this before now?

Your sister moved on with the marriage, but nursed that hatred for him. See, hatred is a high order of wickedness waiting to manifest in the physical. There's no way your sister will not have dealt with the husband since the hatred was just after their traditional marriage. So, the hatred for her husband wasn't just about financial ability

It was same job the man has before your sister married him he still have, except he lost his job but you didn't explain that part. So, if a man finds it difficult to secure a good job but the wife, to God's glory, has a decent job, should there be an issue? Couple with your sister's hatred for the man, she might have been dealing with the man psychologically, physically and in other aspect. This is while men tends to work harder cos most woman can hardly handle success without oppressing their husband

Now, be sincere, since your sister is the breadwinner of the house, do you think she'll ever be loyal to her husband throughout their stay?

Now, you didn't state actually the man's wicked act, but it was obvious your sister dealth with him, or should I say, your sister oppressed him with wealth. The man had no access to her finance, she started building her own houses (two at a go). Then organized boys to through him out.

This life has a record...

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If the characters of this story is reversed, would you still stand on your ground?

I've been an advocate against Domestic Violence. I've written against it in different platforms.

Injustice somewhere is a threat to justice everywhere.

Why organising boys to take him off the house when she could report to the police station or better still, go to court and file for divorce?

This story clearly shows the lady was maltreating the husband from the start and couple with her financial ground, she then has more power. If you dig dip into this story, the wife's colleagues at work Will also be mocking the man.

A man don't get jealous of his wife success if she don't flaunt and use it to crush his ego. My wife is financially better than I do. But, I can tell you, her growth was a testament of my effort to seeing her attain the highest height in her career. I did this because, she's just too humble...

frozen70:



OK, uptil now the husband wants only the two of them to settle their issues without involving their families

But the wife insist on both families to come and listen to what led to the separation

I've learnt that in a relationship, there's no way anyone outside that relationship can understand the issues. Everyone will say things in their favour.

In my culture, for traditional marriage, your sister will return the brideprize, which is always a token and not the thug thing. That in itself is an assault. If I'm the guy, I'll run for my life.

Maturity is the ability to accepting that yes, I have failed here and there, let's fix it. Both of them can fix it. Personally, I don't call people into my relationship. They too have theirs, even more than yours, but because you let out yours, you're now the headline.

Both of them are matured enough to settle their differences and move on

frozen70:


The main issue now is that, I. Still wondering why you seems to be alone on earth

Your dad must have left your mum, that's story for another time

What is wrong or what happened between you and your mum that you guys don't check on each other

What exactly is the issue because with this kind of solo life

I don't know how you will raise a family without you and your family having a good relationship

What I mean to say is, if you want to marry now and the girls family insist on seeing your parents or either of uoir parents, what will you tell them

Forgiving your mum means something went wrong along the line

So tell me what really happened

And let's see if it's something that can be sorted out

Between you, your dad and your mom, no one is checking on each other

What is the cause of this dysfunctional family

I used to be this happy dude growing up but life dealt with me I can't comprehend

Over 7 billion beings on earth I still odd like I am by myself

I find myself talking to myself

We have people who made it out there without their parents and I wouldn't use that as an excuse for my failure in life


I got a kid already marriage ins something that might not happen with me (scared of commitment)
Kid's is with her mum's parents. They won't give me access to her (story for another day)

So many things went wrong between mum and I. As a kid who did almost 4 months in the incubator guess she never expected zilch from me

Mum don't care about dad vice versa

Dad is married to someone else and nd mum got a partner already

Good afternoon

azraeljaheel:



I used to be this happy dude growing up but life dealt with me I can't comprehend

Over 7 billion beings on earth I still odd like I am by myself

I find myself talking to myself

We have people who made it out there without their parents and I wouldn't use that as an excuse for my failure in life


I got a kid already marriage ins something that might not happen with me (scared of commitment)
Kid's is with her mum's parents. They won't give me access to her (story for another day)

So many things went wrong between mum and I. As a kid who did almost 4 months in the incubator guess she never expected zilch from me

Mum don't care about dad vice versa

Dad is married to someone else and nd mum got a partner already

Good afternoon

Check your account, I just send to your account with the name frozen

frozen70:


Check your account, I just send to your account with the name frozen

Bless you ma'am

I pray the flood gate of heaven opens unto you.. you didn't just feed a depressed soul.. you fed a generation

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I should really have a reason to be grateful. . But the question is who should I be grateful to? (Most people would say, be grateful to God. A god who never have a shiii about me)

if indeed that her husband was behaving like that,then he deserves it...a man is known by taking up responsibilities not only cumming and multiplication

azraeljaheel:



Bless you ma'am

I pray the flood gate of heaven opens unto you.. you didn't just feed a depressed soul.. you fed a generation

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I should really have a reason to be grateful. . But the question is who should I be grateful to? (Most people would say, be grateful to God. A god who never have a shiii about me)

I give God the glory

azraeljaheel:



I used to be this happy dude growing up but life dealt with me I can't comprehend

Over 7 billion beings on earth I still odd like I am by myself

I find myself talking to myself

We have people who made it out there without their parents and I wouldn't use that as an excuse for my failure in life


I got a kid already marriage ins something that might not happen with me (scared of commitment)
Kid's is with her mum's parents. They won't give me access to her (story for another day)

So many things went wrong between mum and I. As a kid who did almost 4 months in the incubator guess she never expected zilch from me

Mum don't care about dad vice versa

Dad is married to someone else and nd mum got a partner already

Good afternoon

It is well
Braze yourself and move on

azraeljaheel:



Bless you ma'am

I pray the flood gate of heaven opens unto you.. you didn't just feed a depressed soul.. you fed a generation

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I should really have a reason to be grateful. . But the question is who should I be grateful to? (Most people would say, be grateful to God. A god who never have a shiii about me)

how much did she give you?
Lucky guy

I've taken my time to observe if there was physical abuse, and the answer is NO!

If the man was the breadwinner and threatens to frustrate the woman, would she have called thugs to chase him away?

Very few women will still stay humble in marriage as breadwinners.

You rightly said that your sister started nurturing evil against the man because He said he's not gonna wed her in the church. Was there money to do wedding?

He's now lazy, broke,wicked and jealous because your sister provides.


Advice to the men out there:

Work very hard to fend for your family and pray you don't marry ppl like her sister

My take in this as a bachelor is that I will never ever dream of marrying any Lady... Nooooo..it doesn't Worth it.A man will suffer get married.. Establish the wife so as to contribute her own quota to to the family upkeep... Funny enough when the man is no longer buoyant the woman WL forget all the man's contributions to the family... She WL automatically change the narrative.. And start maltreating the man.. The society WL also join her... The children WL also join her...the man is completely left to his devices.... Even if the man trained the children to the highest level the moment the man become insolvent the woman WL start her maltreatment.. And no one WL listen to the man...... I mean marriage doesn't Worth it...when am ready I WL just adopt two children just to help humanity.. Not as an insurance against old age....

Now xray the story from the Lady... U discover to ur greatest chagrin a fundamental problem created for men in form of marriage. A man u called ur husband who gave birth for ur children.. U had the temerity.. The audacity. To invite touts to come ur home and threw his belongings out of his home....and paradoxically people here are making fun of such nightmarish situation... You as a man put yourself in the man's shoes... Ohhhhl let's just be human and fair..women in most marriages are monsters...and the society are abating it...the sooner the society realized that men are really suffering home and begin to do something about it..the better the world WL be..

frozen70:


I give God the glory

Good afternoon

I hope this week gives you all that which your heart have ever craved for
Amen

Thanks again for Saturday

azraeljaheel:



Good afternoon

I hope this week gives you all that which your heart have ever craved for
Amen

Thanks again for Saturday

You are welcome

azraeljaheel:



Bless you ma'am

I pray the flood gate of heaven opens unto you.. you didn't just feed a depressed soul.. you fed a generation

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I should really have a reason to be grateful. . But the question is who should I be grateful to? (Most people would say, be grateful to God. A god who never have a shiii about me)

Pls don't say that.
Frozen70 sha sent you something, didn't she?
What if it was God that used her to reach out to you?

Longest time bruv...
How far?
Are all d digits still da same?

dayleke:


Pls don't say that.
Frozen70 sha sent you something, didn't she?
What if it was God that used her to reach out to you?

Longest time bruv...
How far?
Are all d digits still da same?

I wish he knew that the same God asked me to gift him

frozen70:


I wish he knew that the same God asked me to gift him

Thank you.
Exactly my point.

frozen70:
My sister has separated from her husband because for 16yrs of marriage,she has gone through depression.

From the very day of their traditional marriage, after few days he told her he won't wed her and because of that she started nursing bad feelings about her husband.

He is so lazy that he believe that he can't kill himself to feed his family.

As God will have it she was progressing in her place of work and was running the family with 3 children successfully, with time the husband became jealous of her and because he has an I don't care attitude towards her, she made sure the husband has no access to the money she is marking, rather she was building houses in her husband village and a duplex some where in Lagos.

At a stage the husband told her he will kill her. Mind you she is the one paying the house rent they are living, school Fee's of children, medical and feeding

When she discover that the husband is displaying more of his wicked act because they have issues almost every day, he told her that he will frustrate her.

Finally she organized some boys and they came and drove the husband away from their house.
Since then she is no longer depressed and also stop falling sick.
Pls house what advice do you have for her.

frozen70:
My sister has separated from her husband because for 16yrs of marriage,she has gone through depression.

From the very day of their traditional marriage, after few days he told her he won't wed her and because of that she started nursing bad feelings about her husband.

He is so lazy that he believe that he can't kill himself to feed his family.

As God will have it she was progressing in her place of work and was running the family with 3 children successfully, with time the husband became jealous of her and because he has an I don't care attitude towards her, she made sure the husband has no access to the money she is marking, rather she was building houses in her husband village and a duplex some where in Lagos.

At a stage the husband told her he will kill her. Mind you she is the one paying the house rent they are living, school Fee's of children, medical and feeding

When she discover that the husband is displaying more of his wicked act because they have issues almost every day, he told her that he will frustrate her.

Finally she organized some boys and they came and drove the husband away from their house.
Since then she is no longer depressed and also stop falling sick.
Pls house what advice do you have for her.

i can help
are u lightskin?
do u hav yansh please?
wot size?
and was the weight?