blackmann:

Well said bro. Such girls are desperate and can use any method to get guys like this back, even their bodies.

wavemasta:

@OP, remember I told you in your original post that you weren't a fool for loving her, and that you did what any guy should do for someone he loves.
And the fact that it backfired didn't matter, because love was always the right thing. Now see how God has repaid the woman. She came back and is kneeling down asking for your forgiveness. This happened because your own side and conscience was clear. That woman will never forget you and its gonna be hard before she finds someone like you.
Abeg forgive her o, and then move on with your life.

I think this goes without saying, but make I just yarn am just in case, DO NOT TAKE HER BACK, SLEEP WITH HER (No matter how tempting), or anything else.

Just free her, and move on.

Cheers bro!

eazyman:

@Thanks bro, we dont even talk on phone, let alone see, not to talk of even coming to my place or worst still SLEEP WITH HER. IMPOSSIBLE! I have since moved on. She did call several times, send txts how she's missing me so much bla,bla, that she hasnt made luv since, etc. ALL THOSE DECIEPT DONT MOVE ME ANYMORE.

justwise:

Tell her to use part of that your money she went away with and get herself rampant rabbit.

Rita4NL:

You better take her back.The devil you know is better than  . . . . .
If you fall in love with anoda girl,do you know what she will do?

eazyman:

@ Rita
I know her very well, thats why i even told her blood brother that i know her much more than he knows her.
Its not the first time she's kneeling down begging me, she just wants to have me for keeps while she continues with her escapades__ you know some girls now when they gather to chat, some will be bragging on strategies in deceiving guys, including crocodile tears,etc but it failed her this time around.
If it was just cheating on me and she was honest about it then i wouldnt be that hurt, i could have forgiven and accepted her back because i know sometimes Poo happens and some GIRLS can be vulnerable to words of men but for her to have the effrontery to reward me so wickedly after all my good to her by making up her mind in the first place to carry out her dastard act is what i cant stomach, that means she never truly loved me all those while but was only camouflaging. She saw a big opportunity and decided to do away with me which means if i got married to her as i planned to she could as well wake up one day and sell off my house and go her way!
The shocking part is that this is someone who wouldnt wanna hurt a fly because of me because she has acted as if she'll die if she doesnt hear from me or see me in a day but i only got to know recently that she's been sleeping with her EX while we were dating untill he travelled out.
Another shocking part was that it was barely a week after after forgiving her and accepting her back for cheating on me earlier with a different guy aside her EX that i discovered the mails she exchanged with her EX.
I forgave her then because i thought she was really remorseful as begged me for months, even her brother and sister also appealed to me on her behalf, but now that the worst had happened there's nothing more to say to guarantee anything again! So this one is not about the devil you know again oh!!

breathless:

Poster, I can imagine w u felt wen she left, but u know wat? your life just git better. U av moral duty 4 forgive her, tho u may not neccesarily tell her.

No matter wat, Pls, Pls, Pls, no take am back o. she`ll not end wt her beggin u wt her brother 2 beg. infact expect more emissaries (she might even bring PreSICKdent Yar`Adua 2 beg on her behalf). I`m hoping u`ve trull moved on becos your dream woman is just around d corner waiting to love u endlessly. All d best

blackmann:

Dude, i can see u've made up your mind abt this girl. That's the spirit. i hope this will make u wiser when dealing with ladies. Some ladies out there think men are fools when they show their luv and care for them and they tend to want to misuse that opportunity. they go about telling their "chat mates" that they've found a mugu who will do anything for them whenever they want, and if they mess up, once they beg and cry a bit, you will forgive them. but once things start happening your way and u decide not to listen, they start acting the victim of circumstances. it happened to me once. don't make her fool u if she comes again crying and begging.

Tatase:

I think you should forgive her BUT I don't think you should get back together with her at all. She's grabbing and obviously deep down, has no respect or compassion to have done what she did. Forgive her because its the right thing to do and she's asked and humbled herself, PLUS you've moved on anyway. But let it just end at accepting her apology, you don't owe her anything more than that. Continue to move on with your life jare.

eazyman:

.  Woman palaver isnt my problem now,

ursa:

@poster

Please do not get me angry! You brought your issue on NL and many had no reasonable/useful advice for you.

You wrote to CBN and House on the Rock and their advice saw you through your trying period.

Now the storm is over and you come back to NL?

Just go back to CBN and House on the Rock with this success message and stop behaving like the 9 lepers in the bible.

But God really love you sha. My own is that you should forgive her!

eazyman:

Wonders will never end!  After doing her worst to me and then writing me a letter on valz day that  she's quitting our 2-yr relationship, the full story here: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-399786.0.html
She came begging last week, I was at the hospital for some injection because i was down with malaria when her brother called me that he seriously wants to see me, since he couldnt talk on phone i told him to meet me at the hospital, but i was surprised he came with his sister (My EX gf) and when i asked him his mission he told me his sister has been disturbing him to come beg on her behalf, i was angry and told him that i'm ok now and its over a month already that she should go ahead and marry her EX since she sold off my investment of about N700k obviously to garner enough money to travel out to meet her EX as seen in the emails she was exchanging with him, that means she didnt love me as she has always said, as she wanted to eat her cake and have it, maybe the trip abroad backfired and she wants to come back to me the "DUSTBIN" who would accept any rubbish just because i so much loved her.
I told him i have learnt my lessons now and i'm much wiser now, so as i was about entering my car which was packed by the roadside, she came and knelt down by the roadside there, i was so angry so i got out of the car and left her there, the brother came saying i should tell her to stand up because she is deeply sorry now, but i said all those pretence dont move me anymore as i'm wiser now because i know her sister more than he does, i told him i can also kneel down here by the roadside if he feels kneeling down here is a big deal, infact i knelt down briefly in front of him just to prove to him there's no big deal there as those pretence dont work on me anymore. Thereafter i left.
I think she has began seeing the effect of the law of KARMA already, its funny how SOME GIRLS could act, they will wanna eat their cake and still have it. I've moved on already and i'm much wiser now, i'm focused on my job and myself for now.
Just wanna thank everyone including those who strongly criticized me and those who stood by me in my most horrible moments, God bless ya'll. I'm much better now. I know God will provide the right person at the right time.

na2day?:

i wont even have her for a friend(with ppl like her 4 a friend, who needs an enemy) talkless of a gf or wife. if i know any of my friending trying to date her, i will give them fair warning, DATE AT your OWN PERIL!

lurvy:

@Poster, i took time to read your previous post,take heart because its quite pathetic what that girl did to you, i'm happy you are better now since you've moved on, she is already getting her reward. just take your time and open your eyes next time, always love with your head and not your heart.
Dont worry, God will provide you with someone who is truly meant for you and who will truly love and cherish you.
I tried sending you a cheerful text but its still pending, seems your number isnt available.

lurvy:

@Poster, i took time to read your previous post,take heart because its quite pathetic what that girl did to you, i'm happy you are better now since you've moved on, she is already getting her reward. just take your time and open your eyes next time, always love with your head and not your heart.
Dont worry, God will provide you with someone who is truly meant for you and who will truly love and cherish you.
I tried sending you a cheerful text but its still pending, seems your number isnt available.

ferhyntorlah:

Again, no mata her tactics, dnt tak hr bak. Lt hr cal al hr famly menbrs evn aged granny, dnt giv hr a chance. Evn if she invits your frndz or/and famly, dnt ansa hr. Al na demo. Learn 4rm your mistaks n mov on. D erors ar meant 2 mak u wisr and strngr.
4rm your 1st thread, Ifunayam said exactly was she's going via nw. If u cnt remembr, go bak 2 read it, probably pag2/3. She said a wrd of Prayr 4 u n it cam 2 pass. Dat shws dat wrds ar powrfl weapns.
So I implor u 2 cultivat d habit 2 sayg gud thinz 2 yorsf as rgds d knd of woman 2 marry. Dnt lt wat peopl say get 2 u as per fndg a gud wif. Mr, der ar stl sum gud 1s out der, jst b patient, watchfl n prayrfl. Sum dnt appear as shiny as Gold, dy ar WRAPPED n u nid patience 2 unwrap dem. Dnt b carrid awy wit physicl appearnces. Looks cn b DECEIVING!
Takia, Ciao.

na2day?:

i wont even have her for a friend(with ppl like her 4 a friend, who needs an enemy) talkless of a gf or wife. if i know any of my friending trying to date her, i will give them fair warning, DATE AT your OWN PERIL! 

susanamand:

Hi Easyman,

i have been following others write up from the break point to this and let me just say this, i know it hurts most especially when the one you love breaks your heart. She did a wrong think no doubt but please find a place in your heart to forgive her, fine things happened the way it happened, it kind of an eye opener to you, if not u won't believe such happen.


If we won't eat yam because of the oil at least we will eat oil beacause of yam, we can't throw away the baby with the bath water, To err is human to 4give is divine.



Am a woman, it hurts but forgive her and carry on with your life " Sooner than you think love will locate you, Its not he that willet or he that runneth but it is of the lord that showeth mercy, for every thing that happens in life is for a purpose. the lord definitly have something in store for you.


take care

susanamand:

Hi Easyman,


You have not forgiven one when you have not confronted the person one on one to say i have forgiven u. Am actually talking from experience, let me tell u this i have an aunty who said so many things to me while i was still growing up and learning how to make hair in her saloon, i was hurt because 1. i loved her then 2. The words she said really hurt because it was coming from my own blood and i vowed not to forget that word or forgive her, so many years has passed and i still carry on like that, many professis has been pronoun to me that isomebody offended me and am yet to forgive that person, but deep down in my heart i have forgiven her because most of that words made me strong and made me to see challeges as one of those things that will surely come but i have not told her one on one that i have forgiven her, which is what i ought to do to truely forgive her but i can't and its kind of affecting me emotional and spiritually.

So my dear young man, even if not seeing her you can at least call her on phone and forgive her, tell her she hurts you but all this same you have forgiven her. cause if she had to do anything to hurt her self it still boils down to you because you never forgave her. She is sorry, not every girl will come back to say am sorry because some believes is a game. pls do forgive her and u will be glady you did.

"To err is human and to forgive is divine, shits happens plsssssssssssssssss. we are band to be hurt by the least person we expect, but what goes around comes around. You will set your self free and her if you forgive.

Take care