JudgementHammer:
Both u and ur guy share all d blame. The other girl has no blame at all. What was the aim and purpose of ur relatnshp(both of you) before he met d girl. Was it to lead to marriage? If not you're just being possessive for only God knows what.

However jealousy is a normal psychic response even in an undefined relatnshp. If youre desperate for ur guy, u either go d lion way of confronting the other girl to stay away from ur boifriend, even if ur bf vex and everything scatter, you have fought the necessary fight of faith.

Or you go the serpentine way of tracing them till u meet them in an uncompromising position, then you'll unboderedly walk to them and let them know u saw them then you evaporate out of his life with dignity and respect. You can as well snap or video them and show him to hear what he has to say first then split.

RuthDaniels:
At emboldened? Why does she have to confront the lady? A cat fight? so she would bag the 'fight over a guy' label? Is the guy a kid to be fought for? Moreover you acknowledged the fact that the other lady has fault so I see no reason why she should be confronted. It is between LadyG and her boyfriend.

The lady doesn't have to go through all those stress to prove something she already knows, this isn't some criminal case is it? . A clear talk between the partners will do.

Ladyhippolyta88:
If you don't trust each other how can it work.In my opinion there is nothing wrong having the opposite sex as a best friend while dating.She may know more about him than you do probably because they have been friends long before dating you.Learn to trust him and stop having those fears although they need to draw a line.

RuthDaniels:
No honey, you did no wrong! Don't be emotionally blackmailed. It is obvious those two are dating. I would have said your boyfriend might be unaware of this fact, Yes sometimes guys carelessly/unconsciously starts relationship they don't mean. But then his reaction when you confronted him shows he knows it too. A guy who is serious about you will never pick a fight with you because you express your fears. The cinema thing? come on! Even a dummy knows that isn't right.

Girl, you have been replaced! If you still want him, fight again . Tell him your mind the worst that would ever happen is to break up, but then you wouldn't be living in pains. Stand your ground Woman!

maclawrence02:
it seems you did not understand the op this has nothing to do with trust just imagine your boyfriend taking another girl out on a valentine's day and you feel it's kul, I'm not surprised cos from the way you are talking you will leave your boyfriend and go out with another guy on a valentine's day and feel it alright.

JudgementHammer:
Both u and ur guy share d blame. The other girl has no blame at all. What was the aim and purpose of ur relatnshp before he met d girl. Na marriage or just campus yoriyori.

If youre desperate for ur guy, u either go d lion way of confronting the girl to stay away from ur boifriend, even if ur bf vex and everything scatter, you have fought the good fight of faith.

Or you go the serpentine way of tracing them till u meet them in an uncompromising position, then you'll unboderedly walk to them and let them know u saw them then you evaporate out of his life with dignity and respect.

But there's a third way which is to just ignore them for peace sake at this early stage before exam time, else your Fs go line up for result.

LadyGazelle:

I can't fight the girl cos i don't think any guy is worth fighting for, plus engaging in a fist fight cos of a guy is a big no. And I don't have power to fight

We don't go to the same school, and even if we did i won't waste my time trailing them.

Ladyhippolyta88:
If you don't trust each other how can it work.In my opinion there is nothing wrong having the opposite sex as a best friend while dating.She may know more about him than you do probably because they have been friends long before dating you.Learn to trust him and stop having those fears although they need to draw a line.

LadyGazelle:


There's no way to fight, he told me that he won't stop talking to the girl. That I should be greatful he's telling me about her. That if i keep insisting, he'll keep talking to her without telling me

Sigh... I think you have a lot to loose in the relationship more than your boyfriend. You probably love him more than he does. Dude knows this and he is taking advantage of that. Are you in a military relationship? Is he an authoritarian? why are you so timid?

When I typed fight , I don't mean attack him or the girl. I meant have a lengthy and possibly heated conversation with your boyfriend. Tell him you can't take it anymore, make him see reasons with you. Stand for your right as a girlfriend. That's if you want to be with him and be treated like a girlfriend.

But if you want to remain with him, and be "greatful" to him for treating you like a kid, honey worship him! kiss his fingers for picking another lady over you. Let him take her to the cinema while you roll up in a blanket. afterall you are being "greatful"

Lady, the choice is yours. The truth remains no lady deserves to be treated the way you are being treated in a relationship!

ultimate77:

My friend! Will you just run out of this room? You just saying trash.. Dint you read where she said [color=#000099]"SHE ASKED HIM WHAT THEY WOULD DO ON VAL. HE SAID HE'LL BE GOING TO SEE A MOVIE WHAT HIS BEST."that's
Arrant nonsense and unacceptable, what insolence! What rubbish besty is that?
Is he in his right senses at all? A female besty taking the place of your bf and you are spewing trash... Are u too actually OK?

My dear, if u can't gather guts to tell the guy he should date that his besty jus gather it and tell him then walk away.
Believe me, he might be screwing that besty or whatever u called her. Imagine your mum buying a total stranger school uniform instead of you. That's very bad. In short, pm me let me give u more things to do. [/color]

RuthDaniels:
No honey, you did no wrong! Don't be emotionally blackmailed. It is obvious those two are dating. I would have said your boyfriend might be unaware of this fact, Yes sometimes guys carelessly/unconsciously starts relationship they don't mean. But then his reaction when you confronted him shows he knows it too. A guy who is serious about you will never pick a fight with you because you express your fears. The cinema thing? come on! Even a dummy knows that isn't right.

Girl, you have been replaced! If you still want him, fight again . Tell him your mind the worst that would ever happen is break up, but then you wouldn't be living in pains. Stand your ground Woman!

Ladyhippolyta88:
I wrote my opinion so don't try insult me.If you must address address in a polite way and not insult yourself oya come and push me out mtcheww.

LadyGazelle:

I can't fight the girl cos i don't think any guy is worth fighting for, plus engaging in a fist fight cos of a guy is a big no. And I don't have power to fight

We don't go to the same school, and even if we did i won't waste my time trailing them.

ultimate77:


Useless opinion to a pained lady.
... Uhrrr... I don't have to push you. You actually was political with your opinion. Are u sure u ain't even the besty.. See, stop am O. If that girl vex more than this I go vex for u

RuthDaniels:

Girl, you have been replaced! If you still want him, fight again . Tell him your mind the worst that would ever happen is break up, but then you wouldn't be living in pains. Stand your ground Woman!

Ladyhippolyta88:
Whatever now mind your business useless opinion indeed.

ultimate77:
Just stop making someone vex. That haba Na!

Ladyhippolyta88:
Who wants to vex should vex.

ultimate77:

well, your bf will soon have a besty.. And she will replace u. That's if you have one O.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Better for me.

LadyGazelle:


I've been dating this guy for sometime and early in the relationship he told me he had a new female bestie and I said okay.

LadyGazelle:
Hey everyone, I'm going to go straight to my story and I'll try to make it brief.

I've been dating this guy for sometime and early in the relationship he told me he had a new female bestie and I said okay. I told him that in most cases one of the besties ends up 'catching feelings' but he said theirs was different.

He's a student and the said girl is in his department, they're always together and all. He actually said that he's the only one she talks to in their department. Most times he's in her house and can stay there till as late as 10pm.

With time I began to complain, like this bestie knew more about my guy than i did. He told her things that he won't tell me, always hanging out with her and all that. They even end their calls with i love you.

When I asked him what we would do on valentines day, he said he was going to see a movie at the cinemas with his bestie


When I called his attention to it, that i felt his bestie was taking my place, that I felt they were getting too close and all that, he got angry. He said that he was disappointed in me, that if others accused him of dating her that he didn't expect it from me.

He said that the girl was like a sister and all that, and that it's agape love they have for each other. That I'm the only one he truly loves and all that. I had to beg and apologize for doubting him. He then said that he was never going to talk to me about her.

He tried to get me to meet her (before the argument) but I'm not really sure that I want to see her.
My question is was I wrong to tell him that I felt they're getting too close and that one of them might start developing feelings for each other?? Is it okay for a guy in a relationship to be that close to another girl? Cos as soon as i started dating him, I had to watch my relationships with other guys.