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I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Izen: 8:19am On Feb 10, 2018
Please quick one guys. I need experienced answers.

How do I nicely tell a colleague to back off? I cannot date someone who works with me for obvious reasons. I'm a lady and I'll be at the receiving end if things go south. I also do not like unnecessary office drama, tension and rumors. We work in a large organisation but we happen to be in the same department. I also tend to get jealous when I see him hanging out with other female coworkers more than necessary. I'm not sure I can deal but this guy is consistently on my case.
If I'm being honest, I'm attracted to him a lot too and would probably date him under different circumstances. But I just can't be with someone who works in the same organisation as me. I love my job too much to resign and it would be stupid of me to even do that.
He hasn't outrightly asked me out but I don't even want it to get to that point to avoid awkwardness.
So what do I tell him so as not to hurt his feelings? Thanks.

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Cherrycandy: 8:42am On Feb 10, 2018
There's no need to worry yourself over nothing

Tell him you can't date him straight up and give him your reasons why you can't

There are people that will tell you to date him because they feel nothing is wrong in dating a colleague at work afterall love can be found anywhere but you personally have your reasons and know your limits so i'd advice you to stand your ground otherwise there's every possibility that you might regret it later

Some guys aren't worth it but you can as well study him and know his kind of person first before starting any relationship with him that's if you like him so much

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by phililp(m): 9:14am On Feb 10, 2018
Its just like ur travelling on a bus for a long journey and feeling really hungry but u dont like eating in public vehicles,

U Either must manage to eat else the hunger gets worst.

Or u tell driver to stop then u go eat outside.. But the thing is if u go eat outside u might not be able to get in the bus again.

My point it..... U'hd better eat

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Jesusgirl92(f): 9:16am On Feb 10, 2018
I'm not advising you to date your colleague o but my brother married his Colleague three years ago and they are very much happy together and still work in the same organization..... They go to work together everyday...... It's a whole lot easier o my dear.... My point is, some things are worth giving a chance....

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Izen: 9:20am On Feb 10, 2018
Cherrycandy:
There's no need to worry yourself over nothing

Tell him you can't date him straight up and give him your reasons why you can't

There are people that will tell you to date him because they feel nothing is wrong in dating a colleague at work afterall love can be found anywhere but you personally have your reasons and know your limits so i'd advice you to stand your ground otherwise there's every possibility that you might regret it later

Some guys aren't worth it but you can as well study him and know his kind of person first before starting any relationship with him that's if you like him so much

Thank you. I want to give it time but the pressure from his end ehn....
It would have been so easy to resist if I wasn't attracted to him. I don't let him know I feel the same way though.
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Izen: 9:23am On Feb 10, 2018
Jesusgirl92:
I'm not advising you to date your colleague o but my brother married his Colleague three years ago and they are very much happy together and still work in the same organization..... They go to work together everyday...... It's a whole lot easier o my dear.... My point is, some things are worth giving a chance....

I know there are happily ever afters. Even my company isn't against it but I feel your brother's case is the exception as most don't end well.

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Izen: 9:24am On Feb 10, 2018
phililp:
Its just like ur travelling on a bus for a long journey and feeling really hungry but u dont like eating in public vehicles,

U Either must manage to eat else the hunger gets worst.

Or u tell driver to stop then u go eat outside.. But the thing is if u go eat outside u might not be able to get in the bus again.

My point it..... U'hd better eat

I ended up more confused than when I started.

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Nobody: 9:26am On Feb 10, 2018
He hasn't asked you to date him, so there's no way to know if he's interested in anything permanent. Its possible he's just attracted to you and craves physical intimacy with you. All this talk of office romance, the issue is the guy's maturity/character. The only difference between dating a colleague and dating an outsider is if the guy is an ass and starts revealing intimate details of your affair, it'll be to people you work with. Office romance is not jinxed to fail, it's just the proximity

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Cherrycandy: 9:28am On Feb 10, 2018
Izen:


Thank you. I want to give it time but the pressure from his end ehn....
It would have been so easy to resist if I wasn't attracted to him. I don't let him know I feel the same way though.


You are welcome

Just give it some time

Since you are attracted to him,its cool at least

Afterall people have gotten married to their colleagues at work and if it's working for them,it can also work for you

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by chigoizie7(m): 9:31am On Feb 10, 2018
Wetin u wan tell him?

Person wey never ask u out?


Confuse dimakwa

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by pocohantas(f): 9:42am On Feb 10, 2018
He hasn't asked you out, but you're already preparing answer.

Shows how much you want him.
Stop living in denial.

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Izen: 9:51am On Feb 10, 2018
pocohantas:
He hasn't asked you out, but you're already preparing answer.

Shows how much you want him.
Stop living in denial.

I never said I wasn't. I'm a very principled person so even if it's going to hurt me, I'll still do the right thing. I just want to know what to tell him when that happens because at the rate it's going, is bound to. I don't believe in hurting people feelings just because. I'm more composed when I plan ahead.
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by CHUKWUNOLOGICAL(m): 9:53am On Feb 10, 2018
then why dont u shut up
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Csami(m): 9:55am On Feb 10, 2018
You know what, you guys should just have sex and after that you'll know what you want and what he wants.

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by pocohantas(f): 9:56am On Feb 10, 2018
Izen:


I never said I wasn't. I'm a very principled person so even if it's going to hurt me, I'll still do the right thing. I just want to know what to tell him when that happens because at the rate it's going, is bound to. I don't believe in hurting people feelings just because. I'm more composed when I plan ahead.

You'll hurt your feelings too, because you already find it difficult watching him talk with other ladies. So, calm down babe. How will you na be rehearsing the speech you'll give him when he tells you his mind?

What happens if it happens?
You like him, he likes you. If he is responsible, then give it a shot while respecting office policies.

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Izen: 9:59am On Feb 10, 2018
CHUKWUNOLOGICAL:
then why dont u shut up

You don't have to be rude.
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by kokakola: 10:06am On Feb 10, 2018
This is where Friendzone is the only option.

If not, you both may just be getting free Kerewawa from each other.

"I like him but I can't date him. Can I Kerewawa him?"
Like say she go gree follow our good advice

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by CHUKWUNOLOGICAL(m): 10:06am On Feb 10, 2018
Izen:

You don't have to be rude.
sad sad sad sorry
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Odkosh: 10:07am On Feb 10, 2018
Date him, marry him. simple.
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by greencard: 10:20am On Feb 10, 2018
Date him if u can date him since your organization policy isn't against it

Leave the office drama to the office people to chew on.

After all yur eyes don kuku deh chuk ontop am, so do am and free your mind if not jealousy go kee u and u wont have a say since you ain't dating
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by yboy50(m): 11:10am On Feb 10, 2018
Izen:
Please quick one guys. I need experienced answers.

How do I nicely tell a colleague to back off? I cannot date someone who works with me for obvious reasons. I'm a lady and I'll be at the receiving end if things go south. I also do not like unnecessary office drama, tension and rumors. We work in a large organisation but we happen to be in the same department. I also tend to get jealous when I see him hanging out with other female coworkers more than necessary. I'm not sure I can deal but this guy is consistently on my case.
If I'm being honest, I'm attracted to him a lot too and would probably date him under different circumstances. But I just can't be with someone who works in the same organisation as me. I love my job too much to resign and it would be stupid of me to even do that.
He hasn't outrightly asked me out but I don't even want it to get to that point to avoid awkwardness.
So what do I tell him so as not to hurt his feelings? Thanks.
come let me fvck u

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Nobody: 11:14am On Feb 10, 2018
Listen!
Just call him that you have something important to discuss with him, so tell him that you need his advice over a "valentine gift" you can get for your boyfriend.

I'm sure he'll get jealous and try to run out of friendzone.
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Jesusgirl92(f): 11:23am On Feb 10, 2018
yboy50:

come let me fvck u
Goat!

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by ChewingStick(m): 11:36am On Feb 10, 2018
kokakola:
This is where Friendzone is the only option.

If not, you both may just be getting free Kerewawa from each other.

"I like him but I can't date him. Can I Kerewawa him?"
Like say she go gree follow our good advice

My Nigga! grin

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by deafeyez: 11:56am On Feb 10, 2018
Izen:


Thank you. I want to give it time but the pressure from his end ehn....
It would have been so easy to resist if I wasn't attracted to him. I don't let him know I feel the same way though.

You love every moment of his presence and wants him to continue treating you as special.
You now feel too attracted to him that you cant wait to go on a date with him. Its normal as d level of ur love is high.
If you dont accept and another of your colleague does, wont you hurt yourself the more?

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Jesusgirl92(f): 12:14pm On Feb 10, 2018
On a second thought, op kill the feeling.... Especially if you're both still very young and new to the organization....
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by benzion72(m): 1:29pm On Feb 10, 2018
Izen:
Please quick one guys. I need experienced answers.

How do I nicely tell a colleague to back off? I cannot date someone who works with me for obvious reasons. I'm a lady and I'll be at the receiving end if things go south. I also do not like unnecessary office drama, tension and rumors. We work in a large organisation but we happen to be in the same department. I also tend to get jealous when I see him hanging out with other female coworkers more than necessary. I'm not sure I can deal but this guy is consistently on my case.
If I'm being honest, I'm attracted to him a lot too and would probably date him under different circumstances. But I just can't be with someone who works in the same organisation as me. I love my job too much to resign and it would be stupid of me to even do that.
He hasn't outrightly asked me out but I don't even want it to get to that point to avoid awkwardness.
So what do I tell him so as not to hurt his feelings? Thanks.


Hope you are having time to socialize and be in other circles where you can hook up. This days there numerous spinster without suitors, it is a great work for Pastor for believing for husband for thier church sis lol
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Izen: 1:32pm On Feb 10, 2018
Jesusgirl92:
On a second thought, op kill the feeling.... Especially if you're both still very young and new to the organization....

Now that's the sketchy part. See why I want this to die a natural death. It's how to do it nicely that is the problem now.
Thank you.
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Izen: 1:35pm On Feb 10, 2018
benzion72:



Hope you are having time to socialize and be in other circles where you can hook up. This days there numerous spinster without suitors, it is a great work for Pastor for believing for husband for thier church sis lol

Lool. Thanks for reminding me o. Is difficult to socialize now because most of my counterparts are still trying to settle down. It makes hanging out really awkward. Trust me, I've tried. But after so many excuses, I've learnt to find solace elsewhere.

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Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by yboy50(m): 1:49pm On Feb 10, 2018
Jesusgirl92:
Goat!
u will ready enjoy my dick ooo since dat is your problem
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by tosyne2much(m): 1:55pm On Feb 10, 2018
The truth is that you are already falling in love with this guy even though you don't want to admit it. I don't think any advice offered to you will change anything.. FOLLOW YOUR HEART
Re: I Like My Colleague But Can't Date Him by Grayjoy: 2:15pm On Feb 10, 2018
If u are bent on following ur principles and believe dat u can stand it wen u see him with another lady in d office, then u can follow ur principles and politely tell him ur reasons 4 nt dating him, but if u knw u cnt withstand seeing him with anoda lady, my dear, u have to alter ur principles.

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