Hello Nairalanders! Is it appropriate to ask your potential future partner how many people he or she has had sex with before getting married to him or her? Please what's your take on this?

Its appropriate to ask buts not appropriate to expect the truth. Men aren't shy to say it including the ones they never toasted but toasted them. But if you ask a female just add 20 to any answer given, especially Lagos girls. Even cossy orjiakor will tell you she has slept with only 5 men.

Ask only if you can accept whatever he or she tell you. If he/she aren't a virgin don't expect them to tell you the absolute truth esp. the girl.

Don't ask... So you won't judge dem.. Cuz the moment you ask, it changes everything.

Olalan:
Ask only if you can accept whatever he or she tell you. If he/she aren't a virgin don't expect them to tell you the absolute truth esp. the girl.

Why do some of you just draw conclusions that virgins are saints? Do you know that some virgins now engage in anal in relationships than using the vagina?...please, Which is worse?

bobokeshington:
Hello Nairalanders! Is it appropriate to ask your potential future partner how many people he or she has had sex with before getting married to him or her? Please what's your take on this?

It's appropriate to ask but don't always expect to be told the truth as some people have loose count of body-count.

bobokeshington:
Hello Nairalanders! Is it appropriate to ask your potential future partner how many people he or she has had sex with before getting married to him or her? Please what's your take on this?

It is not appropriate. It's an infantile thing to do!

I mean, seriously? Why the hell u gonna ask how Many men she slept with?


I juz don't get this kind of mentality...

bobokeshington:
Hello Nairalanders! Is it appropriate to ask your potential future partner how many people he or she has had sex with before getting married to him or her? Please what's your take on this?

It's not appropriate. It's very childish.

Splinz:

It is not appropriate. It's an infantile thing to do!

so can't you ask your partner any kind of question

kimbraa:
It's appropriate to ask but don't always expect to be told the truth as some people have loose count of body-count.

totally agree with you. but if I may ask why would someone lie about that just because it could create another image of you

To me, if I want to marry you, ur past is ur past. let's forget about it and plan for the future.
but asking you how many men have u slept with? is crazy and I don't buy the idea.

asking ur wife/husband to be how many people they slept with and expecting the truth, mean U're mentally inappropriate.

what if u ask and she tells you 98, how will u feel!

bro 4get her past, you are her future, unless she laughed her ass out like this one

bobokeshington:


so can't you ask your partner any kind of question

Of course, you can ask questions.

However, asking for your partner's body count is akin to asking: 'Confess your sins to me'. You should know that some people are not proud of what they've done in the past, and even trying to bring back this past memories by asking certain questions, they may think, will bring put-downs if answered correctly.

So, the best bet is to try not to evoke defensiveness or shame.

QueenSuccubus:


I mean, seriously? Why the hell u gonna ask how Many men she slept with?

I juz don't get this kind of mentality...

Mentality as in how??

Yes it is, but don't expect the truth. Ask about her abortions too and tell her how many you also have done.

Ask all questions and scrutinize my friend none is stupid.

bobokeshington:
Hello Nairalanders! Is it appropriate to ask your potential future partner how many people he or she has had sex with before getting married to him or her? Please what's your take on this?

There's no question that is inappropriate to ask a partner when considering marriage with that person...

Forget that crap of "her/his past is past", some past can come back to bite your ass later in the future, asking questions will help you prepare for it when it comes...

YES. But it's hard for them to tell you the truth. Body counts matters a lot. They will start to compare you with their ex. THEY WILL THINK ABOUT THEM WHILE HAVING SEX WITH YOU. VIRGINS IS THE WAY. why do people kick against getting a virgin as a wife? What is wrong with being pure? They try to talk down on guys when the say they only want VIRGINS.

The thing is, women have more power towards sex than guys. That's why some guys care about VIRGINS. Women can have sex anything she wants. They have that power over men. This makes it easier for them to sleep around. Body count of a girl really matters a lot.