first of all, i won't advice any one to get married if he/she doesn't earn up to 180,000 naira monthly (based on currently economic situation in Nigeria).


Don't be carried away by the glamour that goes with marriages or the free fvck you will get for the rest of your life. Once children (male children especially) set in, you will know then the mess you've gotten into

Male children? What do they do?

don't be deceived by the saying 'children are a gift from God' or that 'your children will take care of you in old age.' The economic reality of the past made it easy for children to excel with ease than now. My dad got a federal job after secondary school while my mum got one too with just TcII.


Now children, both graduates and undergraduates are leeches to their parents even after crossing 25. No good jobs, 'civilization' and the media has bleeped up our mentality. We all look for quick money and become aggressive. i don't think my mum has rested properly for a day ever since she gave birth to us (4 boys, one girl).

i look at my mum's picture during her wedding and see a woman fair, gorgeous and fit. But'now she's all blown-up and weary due to stress. She hardly takes care of her hygiene (wonder why). This might not be unconnected to the fact that she gave birth to 4 boys who were pampered when the going was good.


Now the family is broke, we are now a thorn in her flesh. Now we can't fend for ourselves, we keep pushing her to her limits to get food for us and the basic necessities of life. I didn't force any one to give birth to me so they must carry their cross.

Maiconyoung:
Male children? What do they do?

they are too stubborn to handle. Imagine it, robbery, violence and all sorts of nefarious activities are associated with them. To avoid headaches, avoid that gender.

ChildOfDoom:
they are too stubborn to handle. Imagine it, robbery, violence and all sorts of nefarious activities are associated with them. To avoid headaches, avoid that gender.

Your life experience has fücked you up, twisted your thinking and got your "logic" horribly warped.

Your family problem is not everyone's problem, nor are all families out there like yours, or in the same situation.

Go seek help and stop spewing bullshit.

Tollzara:
Your life experience has fücked you up, twisted your thinking and got your "logic" horribly warped.

Your family problem is not everyone's problem, nor are all families out there like yours, or in the same situation.

Go seek help and stop spewing bullshit.

Bro. There is truth in what he said. I think he didn't present his point well enough. There are many families going through this challenge and that's FACT. The fact that you are comfortable doesn't mean everyone else is comfortable too.

Smh

There is just no correlation between d economic situation of d country and having male kids please. Its not easy, i know but d question still remains.. Wat have u done to help out in d family to improve ur financial situation? Or u just seat,cross legs while ur mum does d running round? Wake up bro... Wake up!!!

I have said it several times that over-population will choke us as long as we don't do anything about it. Over-population is not just about numbers. It is when the available resources is not enough to go round everybody irrespective of what the numbers are. We should give birth to what we can care for and not overbreeding and bringing unecessary humans to the world.

Delivar:

Bro. There is truth in what he said. I think he didn't present his point well enough. There are many families going through this challenge and that's FACT. The fact that you are comfortable doesn't mean everyone else is comfortable too.

Of course! But people should realise the world is bigger than their experiences and little bubbles of existence.

The fact that his thread is based on such generalization already destroyed the point.

[quote author=ChildOfDoom post=65192420]i look at my mum's picture during her wedding and see a woman fair, gorgeous and fit. But'now she's all blown-up and weary due to stress. She hardly takes care of her hygiene (wonder why). This might not be unconnected to the fact that she gave birth to 4 boys who were pampered when the going was good.


Now the family is broke, we are now a thorn in her flesh. Now we can't fend for ourselves, we keep pushing her to her limits to get food for us and the basic necessities of life. I didn't force any one to give birth to me so they must carry their cross. [/quote
Honestly I feel ur pains, mine I warn her not to give more than their economic strength but she refuse now she have being put on compulsory retirement, our is death yrs ago. Family pressure is just too much for her. I'm d only one working out of 7 children

There is an element of truth in this

EOOJ:
Smh

There is just no correlation between d economic situation of d country and having male kids please. Its not easy, i know but d question still remains.. Wat have u done to help out in d family to improve ur financial situation? Or u just seat,cross legs while ur mum does d running round? Wake up bro... Wake up!!!

that doesn't change the fact that they lacked family planning and did not groom us properly!

Rubbish. Between you and your mum who has more ability to make money ? Answer this question with all sincerity.

ChildOfDoom:
i look at my mum's picture during her wedding and see a woman fair, gorgeous and fit. But'now she's all blown-up and weary due to stress. She hardly takes care of her hygiene (wonder why). This might not be unconnected to the fact that she gave birth to 4 boys who were pampered when the going was good.


Now the family is broke, we are now a thorn in her flesh. Now we can't fend for ourselves, we keep pushing her to her limits to get food for us and the basic necessities of life. I didn't force any one to give birth to me so they must carry their cross.

not a nice thing to say but guess what, no one is equally forcing to continue to exist so get a knife and cut your wrist.

lastmessenger:
Rubbish. Between you and your mum who has more ability to make money ? Answer this question with all sincerity.

my mum oo. She has enough wrappers she had amassed when she was comfortable that she can sell. She also has friends to run to that she once help in the past.


Unlike me, i'm at a disadvantaged position as they couldn't set me up like other rich kid. I don't even have someone i can call when i need even 1k. Only 10k jobs are available for my kind. They're the cause!

ChildOfDoom:
my mum oo. She has enough wrappers she had amassed when she was comfortable that she can sell. She also has friends to run to that she once help in the past.


Unlike me, i'm at a disadvantaged position as they couldn't set me up like other rich kid. I don't even have someone i can call when i need even 1k. Only 10k jobs are available for my kind. They're the cause!

so what happens when your mum is no longer there?

ChildOfDoom:
my mum oo. She has enough wrappers she had amassed when she was comfortable that she can sell. She also has friends to run to that she once help in the past.


Unlike me, i'm at a disadvantaged position as they couldn't set me up like other rich kid. I don't even have someone i can call when i need even 1k. Only 10k jobs are available for my kind. They're the cause!

Your mum will not be here forever...you had better learn to stand on your own feet now!

ChildOfDoom:
that doesn't change the fact that they lacked family planning and did not groom us properly!

So you are now into d blame game abi Continue o. It's ur life.

If u like eh, dont wake up.

Delivar:

Bro. There is truth in what he said. I think he didn't present his point well enough. There are many families going through this challenge and that's FACT. The fact that you are comfortable doesn't mean everyone else is comfortable too.

i agree with you.

Your parents are at fault here for the way they brought you guys up...to be dependent on them and not being able to face the world and make lives for yourselves in a legit way.

You are here making noise about male children or do you think other male children are not doing well for themselves.

When parents spoil their children, they end up being a liability and burden to them. They think they are giving them the good things of life without making them understand what it is to make money.

Don't go using your family as a standard or yardstick because your parents failed in bringing you guys up and equipping you for the future.

ChildOfDoom:
i look at my mum's picture during her wedding and see a woman fair, gorgeous and fit. But'now she's all blown-up and weary due to stress. She hardly takes care of her hygiene (wonder why). This might not be unconnected to the fact that she gave birth to 4 boys who were pampered when the going was good.


Now the family is broke, we are now a thorn in her flesh. Now we can't fend for ourselves, we keep pushing her to her limits to get food for us and the basic necessities of life. I didn't force any one to give birth to me so they must carry their cross.

mister y are u plp doing dis to her now ？ my mum gave birth to 9 children and 7 are males , she didnt kill herself for us and every1 is hustling .
biko dont make her look like an old woman just bcoz she gave birth to u guys .
i'm a mum too ,but u can never know

Lol. This thread is making me laugh. OP you are stupid.

Op, will you stop whining and just grow up?

be blaming your parents for not doing family planning there, instead of you to be productive. you acknowledged you're a leech, what are you doing about it? you can't tell me there is no factory or small place you can work in that would pay you at least 5k per day. Even work as a cleaner sef... be there complaining.

tata...

The person that did you this thing is wicked.
We should avoid male children? All because of you and your siblings that have refused to be useful?

Haven't you seen responsible male kids?
Or irresponsible female kids?

Maybe we should just stop having kids.
Mtcheeew!

AntiBrutus:
The person that did you this thing is wicked.
We should avoid male children? All because of you and your siblings that have refused to be useful?

Haven't you seen responsible male kids?
Or irresponsible female kids?

Maybe we should just stop having kids.
Mtcheeew!

be sincere with yourself, the percentage of responsible male kids these days is small. No thanks to the agents of socialisation

ChildOfDoom:
they are too stubborn to handle. Imagine it, robbery, violence and all sorts of nefarious activities are associated with them. To avoid headaches, avoid that gender.

We are 4 boys as well and I tell u, my mum enjoys having her sons around always, even till now she always expect us for holidays so ur conclusion baffles me alot.

Tollzara:
Your life experience has fücked you up, twisted your thinking and got your "logic" horribly warped.

Your family problem is not everyone's problem, nor are all families out there like yours, or in the same situation.

Go seek help and stop spewing bullshit.

The Op is not totally wrong. If you'd avoid bias and do a lil research on this, you 'll agree with him to an extent.

I have 6 brothers and 1 sister, and if you ask my parents, they'll concur with him.

My 1 sister has added more value to my family than the 6 boys put together have ever done. Sometimes, i look at my parents and i feel so much pity for them. Too many male children, lesser gains compared to the investments so far

For me, if it's going to be one child, it has to be female. But then Op, how do we stay away from male childten? Hahaha, you killed me.

Some male children are wonderful though, lots of them are very thoughtful. Their parent's pride.

Childofdoom aka frustratedrat,when well this your whining end?

DBestDoc:


The Op is not totally wrong. If you'd avoid bias and do a lil research on this, you 'll agree with him to an extent.

I have 6 brothers and 1 sister, and if you ask my parents, they'll concur with him.

My 1 sister has added more value to my family than the 6 boys put together have ever done. Sometimes, i look at my parents and i feel so much pity for them. Too many male children, lesser gains compared to the investments so far

For me, if it's going to be one child, it has to be female. But then Op, how do we stay away from male childten? Hahaha, you killed me.

Some male children are wonderful though, lots of them are very thoughtful. Their parent's pride.

The op is totally wrong. For ALL the male children in his family to be that way, you know it is a problem of upbringing.
Girls are also wayward...sleeping around, getting pregnant, taking drugs,etc. It is what is instilled in the child that shows up whether male or female.

When parents bring up boys to feel that they are superior and should be worshipped, not teaching them how to be humble and to do basic things, what do you you expect? They become entitled and a burden to their parents, wives and society.

Tollzara:
Your life experience has fücked you up, twisted your thinking and got your "logic" horribly warped.

Your family problem is not everyone's problem, nor are all families out there like yours, or in the same situation.

Go seek help and stop spewing bullshit.

i'm doomed, i know; and it's beyond redemption (being sincere). So also are a lot of guys out there.


I just lost out again on bet9ja with money that's not mine. i'm hoping my mum will save me again.


The truth is, as long as society demands much from males and the people assigned to take care of us can't do it properly, we'll continue to be restless