Gone at the days when it was easy to have long conversations and all, phone calls is going extinct. My phone only rings when my mom and dad calls to check up on me or when my so called friends needs me. The world is busy and I'm afraid I can't keep up.
Scrolling through my whatsapp feeds, some are clubbing, others preaching. But still no messages. I initiate a chat and it goes thus
Me: hi
Friend: sup
Me: I'm good
Me;you
Friend: same here

And that's the end.

I always feel empty most times.
My girlfriend has been giving me attitude because I'm yet to get a job 2 months after service. She rubs it in my face that other guys are willingly providing for her.
The love has become toxic and I know I should gave her space but I keep running back to her and she keeps being flippant with her words.
I want to be busy, I'm trying to be busy but opportunities aren't forthcoming.
The only person who shows me care is mY mum.

Bro focus on positive things drink garri three times a day like I do and stay sharp..

There's nothing like a cup of. Garri with iced water and coconut with groundnut on the side

U need to explore like stop being mature, it time to be crazy...!

Pls.I am not saying u should smoke and drink ur life out. Nope.

whitebeard:
U need to explore like stop being mature, it time to be crazy...!

Pls.I am not saying u should smoke and drink ur life out. Nope.

You need money to explore

change career route maybe. you dont necesssarily have to practice what you studied in school. pple are been paid 30k a month to manage social media handles of companies. imagine you have 3-4 handles your are managing. thats a huge income bro. stay positive https:///rBi5wX

It'll get better, hopefully.

Pay very close attention to the people around you & how they treat you, that way you'll know who to axe when life starts looking up for you. That girlfriend of yours would be the 1st one on my shìtlist. In fact, I'd drop her now if I were you. You don't need the extra aggravation while you're still trying to lift yourself out of your current situation.

I can relate so much to the loneliness. Mine is chronic though. Find some things to do to fill up the void. Come online & have a laugh. Soon you won't feel as isolated.

kissenger:
change career route maybe. you dont necesssarily have to practice what you studied in school. pple are been paid 30k a month to manage social media handles of companies. imagine you have 3-4 handles your are managing. thats a huge income bro. stay positive https:///rBi5wX

I'm trying to, I even want to delve into digital marketing too.

Guy forget that babe and concentrate on getting something meaningful to do. Its just the way is. when u don't have, the ones you call your own will disappear. Get a job and watch things fall in place.

the world is changing bro..change with it.

the world is changing bro..change with it

vezi4real:
Guy forget that babe and concentrate on getting something meaningful to do. Its just the way is. when u don't have, the ones you call your own will disappear. Get a job and watch things fall in place.

Thank you bro, I just get tired that the world has become too materialistic. I appreciate this

I am/was in your situation too. So I can relate. But this is what I did to help myself.

Since there are no jobs forthcoming, try and learn a handwork, at least it will engage you. You will meet new people through it and your happiness will return.

XXXwhistleblowe:
Gone at the days when it was easy to have long conversations and all, phone calls is going extinct. My phone only rings when my mom and dad calls to check up on me or when my so called friends needs me. The world is busy and I'm afraid I can't keep up.
Scrolling through my whatsapp feeds, some are clubbing, others preaching. But still no messages. I initiate a chat and it goes thus
Me: hi
Friend: sup
Me: I'm good
Me;you
Friend: same here

And that's the end.

I always feel empty most times.
My girlfriend has been giving me attitude because I'm yet to get a job 2 months after service. She rubs it in my face that other guys are willingly providing for her.
The love has become toxic and I know I should gave her space but I keep running back to her and she keeps being flippant with her words.
I want to be busy, I'm trying to be busy but opportunities aren't forthcoming.
The only person who shows me care is mY mum.

Bro listen to me, nobody wants to be part of your struggle okay, but everybody wants to be part of your success. Was once in your shoes before, that even a close relative told me to go and die if I am tired of life. Friends deserted me. Girls were playing with me. But look at me today I kept my head up got a job in the factory where I would work for long hours and get payed 7k a month, then I saw that the job was too difficult I had to quit and got a job as a Potter in a hotel, there I was able to save money and do some other menial jobs, bro today am a man I have my own car that I gave to my brother to be working for me, and I can say life is easy now a bit. So keep your head up bro. If you can get any job that is not difficult go ahead and get it okay you would meet people and before you know it life would be so meaningful for you. Blessings bro.

livebynite:
Bro focus on positive things drink garri three times a day like I do and stay sharp..

There's nothing like a cup of. Garri with iced water and coconut with groundnut on the side

Atleast make un encourage am now... Please..!!! Dude its always like dat... Don't expect much from people cause at the end u might get hurt at dere actions..!!!

Uh

Perfectnumber6:
Bro listen to me, nobody wants to be part of your struggle okay, but everybody wants to be part of your success. Was once in your shoes before, that even a close relative told me to go and die if I am tired of life. Friends deserted me. Girls were playing with me. But look at me today I kept my head up got a job in the factory where I would work for long hours and get payed 7k a month, then I saw that the job was too difficult I had to quit and got a job as a Potter in a hotel, there I was able to save money and do some other menial jobs, bro today am a man I have my own car that I gave to my brother to be working for me, and I can say life is easy now a bit. So keep your head up bro. If you can get any job that is not difficult go ahead and get it okay you would meet people and before you know it life would be so meaningful for you. Blessings bro.

Bless up bro for your words... Am sure this will help him a great deal..!!!

Lipslikecandy11:


Atleast make un encourage am now... Please..!!! Dude its always like dat... Don't expect much from people cause at the end u might get hurt at dere actions..!!!

That's why I recommended ijebu garri with iced water and coconut..talk about soul food.
It cures depression

That is how my gf started showing attitude when I couldn't get a job 5 months after my nysc....I just help her in breaking the relationship....but thank God today I finally got my dream job

Perfectnumber6:
Bro listen to me, nobody wants to be part of your struggle okay, but everybody wants to be part of your success. Was once in your shoes before, that even a close relative told me to go and die if I am tired of life. Friends deserted me. Girls were playing with me. But look at me today I kept my head up got a job in the factory where I would work for long hours and get payed 7k a month, then I saw that the job was too difficult I had to quit and got a job as a Potter in a hotel, there I was able to save money and do some other menial jobs, bro today am a man I have my own car that I gave to my brother to be working for me, and I can say life is easy now a bit. So keep your head up bro. If you can get any job that is not difficult go ahead and get it okay you would meet people and before you know it life would be so meaningful for you. Blessings bro.

Thank you. This made me feel better a bit. Even though moving on seems impossible.

XXXwhistleblowe:


Thank you. This made me feel better a bit. Even though moving on seems impossible.

You welcome bro.

livebynite:


That's why I recommended ijebu garri with iced water and coconut..talk about soul food.
It cures depression

So this is ur own method of curing depression... PATHETIC..!!!

Lipslikecandy11:


So this is ur own method of curing depression... PATHETIC..!!!

you know it's not forced down anyone's throat abi?
Or is it the gala and pure water you drink that helps with your own depression?

Bro, when you don't have money, everybody tends to desert you..sometimes its only your Mum that would be standing for you...

Things will be better soon..keep your eyes up and fixed....

try not staying indoors oooo..depression will set in.


stay strong...money will come and girls will be fighting over you.....

STAY STRONG

sorry bro...reasons y is gud to have handwork..unemployment is too much...someone like me,i learnt baking and i am into also photography(standard photography)..also a student.dnt be depressed, better job is coming ur way.

roarik:
sorry bro...reasons y is gud to have handwork..unemployment is too much...someone like me,i learnt baking and i am into also photography(standard photography)..also a student.dnt be depressed, better job is coming ur way.

I have received more love and encouragement from strangers on this page than from my so-called friends. I guess it all goes down to one thing. No one wants to struggle with you, but if I eventually struggle alone and things work out. How am I supposed to embrace these same set of people that deserted me. How am I to believe any one genuinely cares? I'm on the brink of losing my humanity.

XXXwhistleblowe:


I have received more love and encouragement from strangers on this page than from my so-called friends. I guess it all goes down to one thing. No one wants to struggle with you, but if I eventually struggle alone and things work out. How am I supposed to embrace these same set of people that deserted me. How am I to believe any one genuinely cares? I'm on the brink of losing my humanity.

get d job and money first den everything else follows,ur friends and bae ll definitely show up wen u get d bar....u dnt need to desert dem,u can only give a distance.

livebynite:
Bro focus on positive things drink garri three times a day like I do and stay sharp..

There's nothing like a cup of. Garri with iced water and coconut with groundnut on the side

hehehehehehehe. Nairaland una no go kee person

roarik:
get d job and money first den everything else follows,ur friends and bae ll definitely show up wen u get d bar....u dnt need to desert dem,u can only give a distance.

Thank you all.

XXXwhistleblowe:
Gone at the days when it was easy to have long conversations and all, phone calls is going extinct. My phone only rings when my mom and dad calls to check up on me or when my so called friends needs me. The world is busy and I'm afraid I can't keep up.
Scrolling through my whatsapp feeds, some are clubbing, others preaching. But still no messages. I initiate a chat and it goes thus
Me: hi
Friend: sup
Me: I'm good
Me;you
Friend: same here

And that's the end.

I always feel empty most times.
My girlfriend has been giving me attitude because I'm yet to get a job 2 months after service. She rubs it in my face that other guys are willingly providing for her.
The love has become toxic and I know I should gave her space but I keep running back to her and she keeps being flippant with her words.
I want to be busy, I'm trying to be busy but opportunities aren't forthcoming.
The only person who shows me care is mY mum.

Its possible your gf could be showing you tough love, but let me brace your mind it gets harder, I rarely chat much with friends and there was a time id chat with everyone at this age, those things have left me. Right now just focus 2 months of unemployment after service is the norms. I don't want to recall the time I printed my CV and moved from company to company dropping my resume. I even trekked,it just takes one day for your story to change, will you prove people wrong or right ?

I understand you bro,I've been like alone forever,never had a gf really or felt what true love really is,I'm socially awkward I don't have many friends,my social meida handles are drier than the Sahara desert and I hardly go out to socialize or have interactions with people,it bothered me because my life became miserable as my parents took notice of my loneliness. I hardly get phone calls from anyone except my parents,during festive seasons I get nothing from anyone except from my family,during my birthdays only about 4 or 5 friends send me wishes even though I send a ton to others on their anniversaries I guess you don't always get what you give,i know it may sound like I'm a stuck up person who decided to cut ties with everyone and expect to get the love I don't give but NO it became evident most of the peeps around me only were after what they could benefit from me,it made me depressed but every time I tried to fit in like make friends or ask girls out it always backfired then I thought to myself maybe you're just better of alone maybe this is your destiny,so I stopped bothering myself and ever since I accepted the fact that I'm a loner I stopped expecting things from people and life's been easier,self acceptance is key bro..

pcguru1:


Its possible your gf could be showing you tough love, but let me brace your mind it gets harder, I rarely chat much with friends and there was a time id chat with everyone at this age, those things have left me. Right now just focus 2 months of unemployment after service is the norms. I don't want to recall the time I printed my CV and moved from company to company dropping my resume. I even trekked,it just takes one day for your story to change, will you prove people wrong or right ?

I appreciate this, I'm grateful. Honestly

Mandrake007:
I understand you bro,I've been like alone forever,never had a gf really or felt what true love really is,I'm socially awkward I don't have many friends,my social meida handles are drier than the Sahara desert and I hardly go out to socialize or have interactions with people,it bothered me because my life became miserable as my parents took notice of my loneliness. I hardly get phone calls from anyone except my parents,during festive seasons I get nothing from anyone except from my family,during my birthdays only about 4 or 5 friends send me wishes even though I send a ton to others on their anniversaries I guess you don't always get what you give,i know it may sound like I'm a stuck up person who decided to cut ties with everyone and expect to get the love I don't give but NO it became evident most of the peeps around me only were after what they could benefit from me,it made me depressed but every time I tried to fit in like make friends or ask girls out it always backfired then I thought to myself maybe you're just better of alone maybe this is your destiny,so I stopped bothering myself and ever since I accepted the fact that I'm a loner I stopped expecting things from people and life's been easier,self acceptance is key bro..

How has the journey been since you accepted yourself?

XXXwhistleblowe:


How has the journey been since you accepted yourself?

it's been alot easier I've taken the burden of undue pressure of socialization off my shoulders,no stress just peace and tranquility although I've alienated myself it don't mean I've totally cut people of nah,still have casual convos once in a while but I'm self sufficient and independent I know don't have to seek others approval and validation so it's been peaceful but I don't think it's everyone who's capable of maintaining this lifestyle cos from the outside it looks pretty depressing but it's the peace on the inside that matters so being alone is not for the feint hearted I wouldn't recommend it no matter how much I love being alone but as humans we need lone times from time to time.