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Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 7:45pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Sex should be a mutual and equal possessive emotional feeling that can only take place with the help of both genders(M/Female). But as a result of our African societal believe and mindset comes this rude motion against women that goes like this.... MOST WOMEN OFFERS NOTHING BUT SEX , yes, I may have used it, but loudly and logically thinking, I simply do not think a woman can only offer sex without the contribution of men, I don't think a particular gender offers sex, I maybe wrong thou. Now my questions are. -Is it proper to say "Women" offers sex when it's a two gender thing? -Can we say "MEN" offer sex aswell?, if YES, why then do they foot the bills of some women to get sex they offer? -Do women offer sex? -Do men offer sex?, if YES, can a broke man who offers only sex in a relationship be tagged "Cheap and useless"? -Who offers sex? greiboy Antibrutus MissWrite lefulefu RuthDaniels tosyne2much ubunja Any form of opinions are highly welcomed. |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 8:00pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
i dont believe women offer only sex in a relationship.there are some women who have gingered their men to success and some have served as a bedrock of success to their men.only dull empty women offer nothing but sex in a relationship.having said that let me add that if a lady collects money or some sort of gift b4 you sleep with her its prostitution . 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 8:02pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Now you are mixing two important issues together 1) It is not a crime for women to offer sex or ask for sex from their partners in romantic relationships because we all have sexual desires that must be satisfied and who is in a better place to satisfy it than your partner. It is way better than cheating 2) It is wrong when women or men offer sex to every random stranger or guy/ladies they meet. It is bad and can become a habit which may eventually wreck any present or future relationship It doesn't make them a LovePeddler/prostitutes, but it makes them promiscuous or even sluts. That single act of offering sex to random people is what gave rise to the use of the word "bitcch" among humans to qualify a woman that bleeps any random guy. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 8:05pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
lefulefu: You have a good point brO. Now, my area of confusion is, why do we say "Women" offer sex? Does a particular gender offer sex? |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 8:07pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
donstan18:guys use dat statement just to get back at a lady the same way ladies get back at us by calling us broke 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 8:11pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
greiboy: Nice point brO, applauds. But, how about men, do they aswell offer sex? Most guyz tend to get at ladies with the motion of "Women offers only sex in a relationship", but do you really think a particular gender do offer sex? If YES, do some men aswell offer sex in a relationship? |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 8:13pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
lefulefu: In other words, it's a countering motion not a logical motion 1 Like |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by mofeoluwadassah: 8:14pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Hmmm..... |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 8:17pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
kimbraa shouldn't be viewing without commenting.
Opinionate |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 8:19pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
mofeoluwadassah:How do you do? What do you have to say? |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 8:19pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
*Modified* |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Lol! The cliche "women have nothing to offer than sex" is mostly used by guys! There is a difference between a man and a guy. A man in this context is one who is matured, sane and also understands the diversity of human. He understands his counterpart, the woman. He knows how to get the best from his woman. So I will be basing any further argument on this description. Of course it takes two to mingle, two to have sex. saying one gender has nothing to offer than sex simply means the other gender has nothing to demand than sex. What will happen if Ladies start with the cliche "men wants nothing more than sex". Sounds crazy though! If I see a man who wants nothing from me aside sex, who only seek my attention only when he is Hot I wouldn't think twice to cut all ties with him. Prostitutes offers sex, Ignorant ladies who think all they can ever be to men is sex object offers sex. But I must put this.. They offer sex in return for something All said, I believe no one should offer or demand sex. Sex should come and be enjoyed naturally in a relationship by both genders without actual demand or supply. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 8:24pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
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Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 8:26pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
donstan18:ok I get your question now, I didn't pay much attention before You have asked the question from the other way round. In fact, many ladies often prioritize sex as an advantage in the African society more than men do For example, Beninoise music icon and human right activist Angelina kijo once said on an interview with CNN that women in Liberia once threatened to deny their husbands sex to blackmail them to vote the former president of Liberia Ellen Johnson Sirleaf to power because she is a woman as against Weah a man back In the early 2000s This is a mentality shared by most women in Africa, as many of them often claim that a poor guy doesn't deserve sex or relationship. So in essence, women are the one dignifying the role of sex in relationships. They see it as a bargaining chip. I.e. what they have to offer Most men use the word "offer sex" just to qualify that attribute in women 8 Likes |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 8:27pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
IMO, no gender "offers" sex except d 2nd party is just there to "accept" the sex. A woman's worth is far more than sex, sex is one of the secondary benefits u get 4rm a woman even when it's ur primary aim. 3 Likes |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 8:34pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Mynd44 what do you think about this topic. Ubunja Neyoor |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 8:35pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
RuthDaniels: Lol, I couldn't help but to concur to your smartness, your second paragraph clearly hinted to my point. I may have used the cliche, but I don't think it's logically proper if we men are to give a neutral thought in it, sex should be a "Both thing", but the motion of women offering sex left me with no other choice than to think loud about it... Could this be a countering cliche? How about men?, can you in anyway say they offer sex?, how proper is that statement. |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 8:35pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
It baffles me when men talk about women only offering sex. What else is of value to you men, apart from sex? When you idolised sex so much and put it on a pedestal, wouldn’t it be smart to take advantage of that? Why do you think women sell their virginity’s for millions of dollars? Why is the porn industry worth billions? Why does ‘sex sell’? Why do men spend their life savings/end up bankrupt for 5 mins of pleasure? Worshipping and following women just for sex Before anybody says anything about women offering only their vaginas, prioritise your life. If you put sex before everything, expect women to take advantage of it. Sex is a mutual agreement, beneficial to both. However, the desperation and crave that men have for sex, is the reason why men are at the receiving end whilst the women are givers. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Jman06(m): 8:37pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
A good woman does not only offer sex but also offers companionship, great food, some even offer money etc. In marriage they also bear children and nurse them until they grow. Many Nigerian ladies can't even offer great sex. They would lay like log of wood as the man sweats it out. They hardly even initiate sex or go on the offensive during sex and that makes them boring in bed. But we'll continue to wife the few good ones among them who can offer other things than their boring sex. 2 Likes |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 8:46pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
You always sound deep, silly deep Safiaaa: 2 Likes
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Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 8:46pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
greiboy: Lol, I'm glad you now understood me Yes, you are right concerning how women prioritize sex as an advantage over men, hence prompting men to say that's what they offer, because I can't remember seeing a woman say "Men offer sex" , when we both know that sex should be a "Two gender thing". But brO, judging from what you scribbled, are we to agree to the cliche that "Women offer sex" when we know sex shouldn't be a supply and demand thing? If YES, are they to be blamed for such cliche? If YES, can we aswell say that "men demand for sex" ? |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 8:48pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:@bolded Exactly!!! . Sex is seen as a bargaining chip amongst women, even though sex is supposed to be enjoyed by both genders. Sex is not mutual to most ladies, it is an offer they need to use to gain unfair advantages. Women in our African societies create an artificial scarcity and only present it to the most financially capable. On most occasions, this financially capable guys can have more than five options, while the less privilege may not be opportune to get one And in most cases, only what those ladies have to offer |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 8:49pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Grayjoy: Lol, cool. But, must men be the ones getting sex? Why do we say "Men get sex"? |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 8:56pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa: Lol, you made a smart comment and as well blunt and annoying to men .. That's by the way, Back to the point. In summary of what you commented, you meant that Men are the reason why women financially bargain and take advantage of sex How about men that can't be manipulated with sex, how do you think these set of ladies that bargains for sex will fit in to the society with their man? |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 8:59pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Jman06: Lol, why did you say "Women offer" sex? Do men offer as well? |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 9:00pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
donstan18:Yes sex shouldn't be a demand and supply thing It should be a commodity as free as the oxygen we breath in, but if something bad happened and the air becomes polluted with excess carbon dioxide, it becomes toxic. So we have to start valuing oxygen. Same thing applies to sex, Many ladies have decided to hoard it and add value to it. They have decided to make it an offer i.e. something special Yes, they are to blame because they created scarcity to some, while over showering some with it. just like money. Especially in the Nigerian society Yes, men demand sex in Africa because it is an offer that we work for We pay bride price We have to provide for the home In the past, in some cultures we have to beat ourselves up just to marry a wife Heloooooo bro, it is quite obvious 1 Like |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 9:01pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
donstan18:Its very rare to find men who can’t be manipulated with sex. That’s every mans weak point, and women know this and that’s why they use it to their advantage. If more men could halve self control, then women will not be able to use their pussy to get what they want from you. But unfortunately, that will never happen. Women will continue to take adantage of your weakness. And men will continue to shout that’s all they offer when indirectly that’s all you value. It’s a cycle 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 9:05pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
donstan18:We do say men get d sex due to the following reasons 4rm my point of observation. 1. Men are more outspoken about their sexually which makes the female folks to believe dat d existence of men so much depend on sex, so we all feel it's a favour 4rm d lady. 2. Some men feel like it's an achievement wen u sex d beautiful dat many guys are drooling over, although d lady herself enjoys the sex, but mentally we feel it's an achievement on d part of dis guy. 3. How will u rate a lady who speaks much about d sex and how much she enjoys it? i.e to say d society makes us to mentally picture it as a gift 4rm a lady if she agrees to sex u, although many ladies view it dat way. But in reality, sex should be enjoyed by both partners. That is wen ur involvement with her is nt d sex aspect and hers with u is nt whatever she will gain after d sex. And to crown it all, a woman's body is delicate and sacred and should be preserved 4 sum1 she loves and spend her life with, and whatever u get dat is nt meant 4 u automatically becomes a gift. HOPE MY POINTS ARE ON POINT THOUGH. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 9:09pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
donstan18:Sorry I had alot of typo errors in my reply. Was in a bit of a hurry. But one thing I knw is dis: "d gud thing about having a dick is dat u can easily share it with those who don't have, givers never lack" not d other way round. |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by swiz123(m): 9:12pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
donstan18: Haven't you heard about the term fucck boy? What do you think nwaAmaikpe offers to mama ramotu,his sugar momma ? A shoulder to lean on?? I hope this answers your question 2 Likes |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by donstan18: 9:13pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
greiboy: @Bolded, that was too raw Having generally said and known that women do the offering" while me do the "Demanding", do you think such sexual mentality can be equally reversed and mutually neutralized amongst partner? |
Re: Do Men Offer Sex? by Nobody: 9:17pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
donstan18:The society made women on the offering side when it comes satisfying sexual urges. Women are expected to give only when it is asked but must not ask, they are not allowed to express their sexual feelings. This is the Genesis of the offering mentality. Lol.. @ Countering cliche, although it sounds perfect. Some men offer sex. The world has revolved, women are getting more expressive, there are fvckboys and jigolos out there who satisfy women's need in exchange for money or other materials. They are in minority though. I would rather say, men demand sex more not offer. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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