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Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by relationship502: 5:52pm On Mar 15, 2018
It is no news that long distance relationship is not easy in contrast to its traditional counterparts. Most folks out there do think that at the start of that romantic journey things will keep getting rosy, but the reality falls on them when they are less groomed, and in the long-haul their long distance relationship fails and leads to a shipwreck.


The good news is that there are a few couples in this romantic part that are not only taking pleasure in the long distance relationship, but are also making it work. For others they are left destabilized, dumbfounded and confused. They wonder why their long distance relationship failed. If you also find yourself in this horizon, now is the time to pick up and peer into the reasons why most long distance relationship fails, and if you are currently in the long distance relationship, it makes more sense to learn from others’ mistakes.

8 Reason Why Most Long Distance Relationship Fails



Although, this article is directed to those who seeks for why their Long distance romance does not work out, yet other who is in another form of romance can pick lessons from here; because truth is, traits that leads to failure of long distance relationship are also found in other form of romance.


Negative Thinking

Negative thinking can highly lead to the reason why long distance relationship fails. Couples in a long distance relationship can be seen thinking whether things will work out eventually. Thoughts like “will I be able to cope,” “what if someone else’s come his/her way,” “do I have good reasons to wait” and more. When they are immersed in these thoughts and many others, they are digging their graves gradually. And in most cases, “impatient” can be traced to negative thinking. Rather than being filled with negative thoughts, be confident that good things do not elude those who wait.



Lack of True Love

Absence of true love alters long distance relationship. For some partners, they are opportunist. They only stay simply because of what they see to achieve and not because of the true love they have towards their partners. You lack true love when all you think of is the complexity of long distance relationship instead of piling focus on how it can work. Now is the time to cultivate qualities that will build your true love. Do not forget telling your spouse that you truly love them, and make sure that your attitude reveals that truth.


Financial Implications

Reunion dates cost some considerable amount of money, and that is another reason why long distance relationship fails. You will have to travel distances to visit your boyfriend or girlfriend. That is fine, but those travelings will drain your purse. And many people will end up deciding that they can not just keep up with the expenses, before you get to know, things falls apart. It is then vital that couple prepare for this journey and discuss how much fund will be saved for meeting at the planned date.



No Future

Most people in a long distance relationship just do not have plan for the future. Plan about what they set to achieve at the end of the journey. When they will finally settle, where, and many more why questions. This kills the relationship steadily. And then you discover that the energy, time, and money invested on the relationship have nothing to show for it. Instead of waiting for when you will discuss what you hope to accomplish in the near future, do it now; it will not get easier and better than now.



Failure to Apologize

Many couples in a long distance relationship just do not buy the idea of admitting their wrongs. This is far from low self-esteem, but shows a high level of immaturity. Couples in a long distance relationship tends to fight often, and in most cases it has to be about petty issues; something so minute. And when one of the party who is wrong cannot just say sorry and seek peace, breakup comes to live...continue

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Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by saheedrodeo: 11:29am On Mar 18, 2018
relationship502:
It is no news that long distance relationship is not easy in contrast to its traditional counterparts. Most folks out there do think that at the start of that romantic journey things will keep getting rosy, but the reality falls on them when they are less groomed, and in the long-haul their long distance relationship fails and leads to a shipwreck.


The good news is that there are a few couples in this romantic part that are not only taking pleasure in the long distance relationship, but are also making it work. For others they are left destabilized, dumbfounded and confused. They wonder why their long distance relationship failed. If you also find yourself in this horizon, now is the time to pick up and peer into the reasons why most long distance relationship fails, and if you are currently in the long distance relationship, it makes more sense to learn from others’ mistakes.

8 Reason Why Most Long Distance Relationship Fails



Although, this article is directed to those who seeks for why their Long distance romance does not work out, yet other who is in another form of romance can pick lessons from here; because truth is, traits that leads to failure of long distance relationship are also found in other form of romance.


Negative Thinking

Negative thinking can highly lead to the reason why long distance relationship fails. Couples in a long distance relationship can be seen thinking whether things will work out eventually. Thoughts like “will I be able to cope,” “what if someone else’s come his/her way,” “do I have good reasons to wait” and more. When they are immersed in these thoughts and many others, they are digging their graves gradually. And in most cases, “impatient” can be traced to negative thinking. Rather than being filled with negative thoughts, be confident that good things do not elude those who wait.



Lack of True Love

Absence of true love alters long distance relationship. For some partners, they are opportunist. They only stay simply because of what they see to achieve and not because of the true love they have towards their partners. You lack true love when all you think of is the complexity of long distance relationship instead of piling focus on how it can work. Now is the time to cultivate qualities that will build your true love. Do not forget telling your spouse that you truly love them, and make sure that your attitude reveals that truth.


Financial Implications

Reunion dates cost some considerable amount of money, and that is another reason why long distance relationship fails. You will have to travel distances to visit your boyfriend or girlfriend. That is fine, but those travelings will drain your purse. And many people will end up deciding that they can not just keep up with the expenses, before you get to know, things falls apart. It is then vital that couple prepare for this journey and discuss how much fund will be saved for meeting at the planned date.



No Future

Most people in a long distance relationship just do not have plan for the future. Plan about what they set to achieve at the end of the journey. When they will finally settle, where, and many more why questions. This kills the relationship steadily. And then you discover that the energy, time, and money invested on the relationship have nothing to show for it. Instead of waiting for when you will discuss what you hope to accomplish in the near future, do it now; it will not get easier and better than now.



Failure to Apologize

Many couples in a long distance relationship just do not buy the idea of admitting their wrongs. This is far from low self-esteem, but shows a high level of immaturity. Couples in a long distance relationship tends to fight often, and in most cases it has to be about petty issues; something so minute. And when one of the party who is wrong cannot just say sorry and seek peace, breakup comes to live...continue
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by Jointhemiltons2(m): 11:58am On Mar 18, 2018
So you want me to be in a long distance relationship with this 21st century women so that while I am far away sweating my ass off another man will be changing her oil and servicing her gear box. I’ll rather remain single than be in a long distance relationship.

Konji go just dey flog person.
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by jacyhelen(f): 6:55am On Mar 19, 2018
relationship502:
It is no news that long distance relationship is not easy in contrast to its traditional counterparts. Most folks out there do think that at the start of that romantic journey things will keep getting rosy, but the reality falls on them when they are less groomed, and in the long-haul their long distance relationship fails and leads to a shipwreck.


The good news is that there are a few couples in this romantic part that are not only taking pleasure in the long distance relationship, but are also making it work. For others they are left destabilized, dumbfounded and confused. They wonder why their long distance relationship failed. If you also find yourself in this horizon, now is the time to pick up and peer into the reasons why most long distance relationship fails, and if you are currently in the long distance relationship, it makes more sense to learn from others’ mistakes.

8 Reason Why Most Long Distance Relationship Fails



Although, this article is directed to those who seeks for why their Long distance romance does not work out, yet other who is in another form of romance can pick lessons from here; because truth is, traits that leads to failure of long distance relationship are also found in other form of romance.


Negative Thinking

Negative thinking can highly lead to the reason why long distance relationship fails. Couples in a long distance relationship can be seen thinking whether things will work out eventually. Thoughts like “will I be able to cope,” “what if someone else’s come his/her way,” “do I have good reasons to wait” and more. When they are immersed in these thoughts and many others, they are digging their graves gradually. And in most cases, “impatient” can be traced to negative thinking. Rather than being filled with negative thoughts, be confident that good things do not elude those who wait.



Lack of True Love

Absence of true love alters long distance relationship. For some partners, they are opportunist. They only stay simply because of what they see to achieve and not because of the true love they have towards their partners. You lack true love when all you think of is the complexity of long distance relationship instead of piling focus on how it can work. Now is the time to cultivate qualities that will build your true love. Do not forget telling your spouse that you truly love them, and make sure that your attitude reveals that truth.


Financial Implications

Reunion dates cost some considerable amount of money, and that is another reason why long distance relationship fails. You will have to travel distances to visit your boyfriend or girlfriend. That is fine, but those travelings will drain your purse. And many people will end up deciding that they can not just keep up with the expenses, before you get to know, things falls apart. It is then vital that couple prepare for this journey and discuss how much fund will be saved for meeting at the planned date.



No Future

Most people in a long distance relationship just do not have plan for the future. Plan about what they set to achieve at the end of the journey. When they will finally settle, where, and many more why questions. This kills the relationship steadily. And then you discover that the energy, time, and money invested on the relationship have nothing to show for it. Instead of waiting for when you will discuss what you hope to accomplish in the near future, do it now; it will not get easier and better than now.



Failure to Apologize

Many couples in a long distance relationship just do not buy the idea of admitting their wrongs. This is far from low self-esteem, but shows a high level of immaturity. Couples in a long distance relationship tends to fight often, and in most cases it has to be about petty issues; something so minute. And when one of the party who is wrong cannot just say sorry and seek peace, breakup comes to live...continue

its simple:Long Distance R/L is a situation whereby 2 people come together to deceive themselves...

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Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by jacyhelen(f): 6:57am On Mar 19, 2018
Jointhemiltons2:
So you want me to be in a long distance relationship with this 21st century women so that while I am far away sweating my ass off another man will be changing her oil and servicing her gear box. I’ll rather remain single than be in a long distance relationship.

Konji go just dey flog person.
..

Lmao
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by miracool946: 8:32am On Mar 19, 2018
y
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by marvin906(m): 8:42am On Mar 19, 2018
OP add serious konji to the list

Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by relationship502: 4:54pm On Mar 20, 2018
Jointhemiltons2:
So you want me to be in a long distance relationship with this 21st century women so that while I am far away sweating my ass off another man will be changing her oil and servicing her gear box. I’ll rather remain single than be in a long distance relationship.

Konji go just dey flog person.

haha... It's not about you bro... Post is for those who are in to it. Short distance relationship turns long distance sometimes too.
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by Nobody: 4:57pm On Mar 20, 2018
Lol.... In Maxi112's hand writing


Distant Relationship is Scam! cheesy
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by relationship502: 4:57pm On Mar 20, 2018
jacyhelen:


its simple:Long Distance R/L is a situation whereby 2 people come together to deceive themselves...


LOL... THat's what you think. Not alwys tha case
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by relationship502: 5:05pm On Mar 20, 2018
marvin906:
OP add serious konji to the list

I'll Consider this. Nice suggestion
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by heendrix(m): 6:35pm On Mar 20, 2018
marvin906:
OP add serious konji to the list
is there anything like serious konji Nigerian yoot baffles me undecided

Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by marvin906(m): 8:04am On Mar 21, 2018
heendrix:


is there anything like serious konji Nigerian yoot baffles me undecided

Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by elyna: 9:41am On Mar 21, 2018
the thought of it is even scary, it takes the grace of God, two honest people and true love, to make it work.
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by profmsboi(m): 12:32pm On Mar 21, 2018
Well, for me, long distance relationship is the best

I'm currently in one now, and there have been no problem between me and my Bae, despite not seeing each other regularly

8 months and counting...

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Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by Schoolala: 12:47pm On Mar 21, 2018
Funny enough it depend on individual, I and my wife where in a relationship for seven good years and she was schooling and living in portharcourt while I live in Lagos. It not something I will ever advice anyone to go into because I know what we both face and gone through together,but what matter most if communication and it very expensive to keep distance relationship too.
But it one of the best thing to try if u have mind ooh, but I will never allow anyone to try it. Otherwise if u know the worth of rhe woman don't allow distance to stop u from marrying her

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Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by relationship502: 1:39am On Mar 23, 2018
heendrix:


is there anything like serious konji Nigerian yoot baffles me undecided

there is bro. lmao
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by relationship502: 1:40am On Mar 23, 2018
elyna:
the thought of it is even scary, it takes the grace of God, two honest people and true love, to make it work.

Sure but no grace without effort.
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by relationship502: 1:41am On Mar 23, 2018
profmsboi:
Well, for me, long distance relationship is the best

I'm currently in one now, and there have been no problem between me and my Bae, despite not seeing each other regularly

8 months and counting...

I wish you the very best bro.
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by relationship502: 1:43am On Mar 23, 2018
Schoolala:
Funny enough it depend on individual, I and my wife where in a relationship for seven good years and she was schooling and living in portharcourt while I live in Lagos. It not something I will ever advice anyone to go into because I know what we both face and gone through together,but what matter most if communication and it very expensive to keep distance relationship too.
But it one of the best thing to try if u have mind ooh, but I will never allow anyone to try it. Otherwise if u know the worth of rhe woman don't allow distance to stop u from marrying her

Great short epistle. seems you have a lot to talk about. pls inmail directly. thanks sir.
Re: Long Distance Relationship Fails: 8 Common Reasons by profmsboi(m): 8:11am On Mar 23, 2018
relationship502:

I wish you the very best bro.
Thanks

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