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Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by RelationshipG: 1:37am On Aug 27, 2018 |
You know things are not going well for you and your spouse. Your partner did seem stern, aloof and resentful that last time you spoke to each other. Like always you expect them to come around, let go of the steam and become their normal self with time. Instead, one day, you come home to find their clothes missing from their cupboards and a piece of paper on the dinner table- a divorce notice. Do you think this scenario could transpire into your life? It’s not uncommon that couples start to fight and make up…fight and make up, until one day they fall apart for good. Don’t neglect your relationship issues, you never know, your relationship could be treading towards rocky roads too! What are the real reasons for divorce? Infidelity, lack of communication, financial troubles, sparing sessions of sex and intimacy are some of the reasons for divorce. Let’s look at the 10 most common reasons for divorce and hope that you can learn from the mistakes of others. Top 10 Reasons for Divorce: 1. Infidelity Extra-marital affairs are responsible for the breakdown of most marriages that end in divorce. This is one of the most common cause of divorce. The reasons why people cheat aren’t as cut and dry as our anger may lead us to believe. Anger and resentment are common underlying reasons for cheating, along with differences in sexual appetite and lack of emotional intimacy. Infidelity often begins as a seemingly innocent friendship, says cheating expert Ruth Houston. “It starts as an emotional affair which later becomes a physical affair”. 2. Money Money makes people funny, or so the saying goes, and it’s true. Everything from different spending habits and financial goals to one spouse making considerably more money than the other, causing a power struggle can strain a marriage to the breaking point. “Money really touches everything. It impacts people’s lives,” said Emmet Burns, brand marketing director for SunTrust. Clearly, money and stress do seem to go hand in hand for many couples. 3. Lack of communication Communication is crucial in marriage and not being able to communicate effectively quickly leads to resentment and frustration for both, impacting all aspects of a marriage. On the other hand, good communication is the foundation of a strong marriage. Yelling at your spouse, not talking enough throughout the day, making nasty comments to express yourself are all unhealthy methods of communication that need to be ditched in a marriage. Practicing mindful communication, to change age-old marriage mistakes, can be hard but it’s well worth the effort to improve and save your relationship. 4. Constant arguing From bickering about chores to arguing about the kids; incessant arguing kills many relationships. Couples who seem to keep having the same argument over again often do so because they feel they’re not being heard or appreciated. Many find it hard to see the other person’s point of view, which leads to a lot of arguments without ever coming to a resolution. 5. Weight gain It may seem awfully superficial or unfair, but weight gain is a common reason for divorce. In some cases a significant amount of weight gain causes the other spouse to become less physically attracted while for others, weight gain takes a toll on their self-esteem, which trickles into issues with intimacy. 6. Unrealistic expectations It’s easy to go into a marriage with lofty expectations; expecting your spouse and the marriage to live up to your image of what they should be. These expectations can put a lot of strain on the other person, leaving you feeling let down and setting your spouse up for failure. 7. Lack of intimacy Not feeling connected to your partner can quickly ruin a marriage because it leaves couples feeling as though they’re living with a stranger or more like roommates than spouses. This can be from a lack of physical or emotional intimacy and isn’t always about sex. If you are constantly giving your spouse the cold shoulder, then know that over time it can become the ground for divorce. Making your relationship intimate and special is the responsibility of both partners. Practice little acts of kindness, appreciation and enjoy physical intimacy as much as possible to sweeten your relationship. 8. Lack of equality When one partner feels that they take on more responsibility in the marriage, it can alter their view of the other person and lead to resentment. Every couple must negotiate through their own and unique set of challenges, and find their own way of living together as two equals who enjoy a respectful, harmonious and joyful relationship. 9. Not being prepared for marriage A surprising number of couples of all ages have blamed not being prepared for married life for the demise of their relationship. Divorce rates are highest among couples in their 20s. Almost half the divorces occur in the first 10 years of marriage, especially between the fourth and eighth anniversary. 10. Abuse Physical or emotional abuse is a sad reality for some couples. It doesn’t always stem from the abuser being a “bad” person; deep emotional issues are usually to blame. Regardless of the reason, no one should tolerate abuse and be removing yourself from the relationship safely is important. No marriage is easy. Even couples with the best intentions are sometimes unable to overcome their challenges and end up in courtrooms. That’s why it’s important to address issues in your relationship early on. Don’t wait until they are beyond fixing. Practice kindness, make intimacy a priority, go on holidays and seek marriage counseling (even when things are fine) to preserve the health and longevity of your relationship. Try your very best before you decide that things are beyond your control and it is time to give up. That way you can have the peace of knowing you tried all of the alternatives before the big step. SOURCE: http://bigcrown.com.ng/top-most-10-common-reasons-for-break-ups-and-divorce/ 22 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by RelationshipG: 1:42am On Aug 27, 2018 |
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Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by MANNABBQGRILLS: 1:56am On Aug 27, 2018 |
Number one tip to Keep your romance HOT & SPICY : Take her out for some Barbecue! Winks CriticMaestro:You got our attention today. But sorry to disappoint you boy, we don't do gutter language, try the next person. Bless you and have a great night. Hugs ......and they live happily together forever! The sweetest words at the end of a LOVE STORY! 16 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by Bruno3000(m): 8:54am On Aug 27, 2018 |
11. Lack of spiritual compactibility. This one is very deep only few can understand. 54 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by jamesblog(m): 7:51pm On Aug 27, 2018 |
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Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by Muyiwaipere(m): 9:57pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Make God number 1 in your relationship and see the outcome Always cause trouble before you leave for work each day and settle it before going to bed each night......bet it you guys relationship would be spiced up 1 Like |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by CriticMaestro: 9:57pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Women who just see marriage as a convenient way to adding weight 1 Like |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by Emmy9ite02(m): 9:57pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
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Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by SaAbbas(m): 9:58pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Yup |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by neweraomo: 9:58pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Too much s*x demand too 1 Like |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by MANNABBQGRILLS: 9:58pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
......and they live happily together forever! The sweetest words at the end of a LOVE STORY! |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by thesicilian: 9:59pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
11. Cable TV remote. 6 Likes |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by nanizle(m): 9:59pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
11. Green card. 2 Likes |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by codedpee(m): 9:59pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Refusing to keep family and friends in their normal places Let me also include wanting to perform another partner's natural role... That is to say "what a man can do, a woman can do even better". Well, am still waiting to see that. Meanwhile, The guilty ones will come barking like a mad dog! 4 Likes |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by Racoon(m): 9:59pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Lack of humility-inability to openly say "I am sorry honey". 9 Likes |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by mideactive: 9:59pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Nothing scares me more than marriage, it's like I married karashika in my last life. 3 Likes |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by CriticMaestro: 9:59pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
post=70641331:Your barbecue must be as tasteless as buhari's govt 14 Likes |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by SamOgasco(m): 10:00pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Attitude also matter most. 1 Like |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by SEONaijaExpert: 10:00pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Marriage doesn't have a particular formula. It's more than a list. But of course you can have a general theoretical opinion. What works for you may not work for another. 1 Like |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by MANNABBQGRILLS: 10:00pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
CriticMaestro:You got our attention today. But sorry to disappoint you boy, we don't do gutter language, try the next person. Bless you and have a great night. Hugs 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by gift2xl: 10:00pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
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Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by berryford: 10:01pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Who gives a Bleep about relationship? 4 Likes
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Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by BiafranBushBoy: 10:02pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
lol... one of the reasons is lack of money. Lack of money comes from lack of financial planning. In this post I have outlined some of the financial mistakes new parents make that leads to friction in their marriage. Even as singles, you too can also read ahead of time. Click here to read it. Don't forget to thank me Later. |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by Betrand3: 10:02pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Keep your marriage SPICY S piritually strong (pray together and for each other) P hysically Attractive (keep looking good, don't say 'I have delivered a baby that's why my tummy is big', work-out!!!! Stay beautiful!!!) I ntellectually Updated (that you have finished school doesn't mean you should stop reading and learning, your spouse meet smart people out there, you gotta keep up!) ... still writing 3 Likes |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by Nobody: 10:02pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Number one and major reason is lifelessness in the marriage. Anything that is LIFELESS can never be competent. It can never last. It can never stand the test of time. It will surely fade away. 8 Likes |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by BuilderDave: 10:03pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Infidelity remains no 1 |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by Nobody: 10:04pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
One reason captures all: Inordinate love of self. 3 Likes |
Re: Top Most 10 Common Reasons Couples Break-up And Divorce by Nobody: 10:05pm On Aug 29, 2018 |
Infidelity is the only ground God permits, argue with your keypads biko. 1 Like |
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