Hello LS,

Please help me post my story. You can use any name but not my name please.

I am married to a man from Middle belt in Nigeria. We met at work,we work in the same company. Its almost three years of marriage now and I am pregnant with my second baby. My husband’s elder brother came to stay with us when he was briefly deployed to Lagos. He is in the police force,I dont want to mention his rank but he is a senior officer.

This my husband’s brother began to display certain behavior that I am not comfortable with. He will just come inside my bedroom without knocking. He does anything he likes without asking. He said,in their culture ,that men are free to see any woman in the family as their wife. So if he chose to sleep with me,he has a right to do so. I thought he was joking but my husband confirmed it. I told him that can never happen with me. My husband said something unbelievable,that he has ..........

https://livelystones.com.ng/my-husbands-family-and-their-twisted-culture-of-adultery/

Cockhold culture

This is sad if actually true

its not ,if its true. It is pure true. to the extent they offer their wives to guest as a way of welcoming him.

DWJOBScom:
This is sad if actually true

z11111:
its not ,if its true. It is pure true. to the extent they offer their wives to guest as a way of welcoming him.

It's a myth I think

Such cultures were commonly practiced in Tiv land, and they are d majority in Benue state.

But I doubt if they still do such!

Some may have stopped due to Christianity but some still do it.

I have an uncle who visited benue state to check on his daughter who was in school in gboko . guess what ? They person that housed him gave him his wife to sleep with.

DWJOBScom:


It's a myth I think

Some still do it.

izaray:
Such cultures were commonly practiced in Tiv land, and they are d majority in Benue state.

But I doubt if they still do such!

This is crazy... I wouldn't dare allow my so called hubby near me talk more of the stupid elder bro... Culture can swim to abyss, I don't care...

z11111:
Hello LS,

Please help me post my story. You can use any name but not my name please.

I am married to a man from Middle belt in Nigeria. We met at work,we work in the same company. Its almost three years of marriage now and I am pregnant with my second baby. My husband’s elder brother came to stay with us when he was briefly deployed to Lagos. He is in the police force,I dont want to mention his rank but he is a senior officer.

This my husband’s brother began to display certain behavior that I am not comfortable with. He will just come inside my bedroom without knocking. He does anything he likes without asking. He said,in their culture ,that men are free to see any woman in the family as their wife. So if he chose to sleep with me,he has a right to do so. I thought he was joking but my husband confirmed it. I told him that can never happen with me. My husband said something unbelievable,that he has ..........

https://livelystones.com.ng/my-husbands-family-and-their-twisted-culture-of-adultery/

It won’t cost you a penny, stop being a pain in the azz

So much havoc culture has caused people. ehether good or bad, am not in support of any

Ginseng:
This is crazy... I wouldn't dare allow my so called hubby near me talk more of the stupid elder bro... Culture can swim to abyss, I don't care...

Samuelgr8:
So much havoc culture has caused people. ehether good or bad, am not in support of any

Same here, I abhor such cultures.

Ginseng:

Same here, I abhor such cultures.

Better person indeed... Bloody scammer

That's why you're where u are. cos u dont see good

Dani4tech:

Better person indeed... Bloody scammer

Samuelgr8:
That's why you're where u are. cos u dont see good

Yeah...I'm proud of where I am.A position where nitwits like y'all hide under different monikers struggling to feed from our leftovers...

OP you're married to the guy therefore you need to adopt his culture.

Deal with it!

Not easy to adopt other peoples culture my friend. It easier said than done

Kobicove:
OP you're married to the guy therefore you need to adopt his culture.

Deal with it!

My dear, its not easy as someone rightly said. Especially in this type of thing. A pregnant lady having sex with her inlaw.

Kobicove:
OP you're married to the guy therefore you need to adopt his culture.

Deal with it!

z11111:
Some still do it.

Abeg help me with a place 2 stay in Benue, I hv a need 2 visit there 4 business. I dnt need much in terms of comfort, just dat the wife of d house make sense.

Adasun:
Cockhold culture

Never rush into any marriage - understand your intending spouse very well first: Person, Orientations, Family snr Orientation, Culture and family stand within the Culture. If you do a good job at this UNDERSTANDING PHASE, not so much will come to you as a surprise. I know a lady that broke her engagement because the sex wasn't great, there is another that called it quit because the Guy (a bank manager at that) wont just grow up - his mum's influence on him is just too much that even lunch he will call her to ask what she advise he should eat, same with cloth etc

The key word is UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING INTO

I will cut my husband's dick off let his brother continue where he stopped. I can't take two blooded dick into my vjay what am I typing.

Hmmnnn Cut off someone's dick? men beware ooo

agbonkamen:
I will cut my husband's dick off let his brother continue where he stopped. I can't take two blooded dick into my vjay what am I typing.

cut of your husband dick? dear broda's, beware....

agbonkamen:
I will cut my husband's dick off let his brother continue where he stopped. I can't take two blooded dick into my vjay what am I typing.

What you are typing ? Loooool.
U said ,there will be a cutting of someone d**k

Samuelgr8:
cut of your husband dick? dear broda's, beware....

Condition sometimes make people do it.

BabbanBura:


Never rush into any marriage - understand your intending spouse very well first: Person, Orientations, Family snr Orientation, Culture and family stand within the Culture. If you do a good job at this UNDERSTANDING PHASE, not so much will come to you as a surprise. I know a lady that broke her engagement because the sex wasn't great, there is another that called it quit because the Guy (a bank manager at that) wont just grow up - his mum's influence on him is just too much that even lunch he will call her to ask what she advise he should eat, same with cloth etc

The key word is UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING INTO

Leave pressure aside, ladies should always shine their eyes b4 venturing into any marriage. A broken relationship they say is better than a broken marriage

z11111:

Condition sometimes make people do it.

BabbanBura:


Never rush into any marriage - understand your intending spouse very well first: Person, Orientations, Family snr Orientation, Culture and family stand within the Culture. If you do a good job at this UNDERSTANDING PHASE, not so much will come to you as a surprise. I know a lady that broke her engagement because the sex wasn't great, there is another that called it quit because the Guy (a bank manager at that) wont just grow up - his mum's influence on him is just too much that even lunch he will call her to ask what she advise he should eat, same with cloth etc

The key word is UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING INTO

whatever makes you quoat me to give me dis advice really want me to knw something.



I will heed to it bro

Adasun:
Cockhold culture

some culture are very crazyyyyyyyyy

Adasun:
Cockhold culture

Abeg foget all dis culture talk..did she not know that her husband was from the middle belt where such things are practiced?.Even if she was ignorant,she should have made adequate research abt her husband's background bfor venturing into such union..now she is saying she can't do it as if anybody forced her into the marriage..nonsense

liquidlove2018:
My dear, its not easy as someone rightly said. Especially in this type of thing. A pregnant lady having sex with her inlaw.

There's nothing wrong if it's the culture

mad culture. be careful with them please