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Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Smartii(m): 7:46am On Apr 07, 2018
It's culture, norm for a lady to go join her hubby after marriage in his house but here, what if the bride has her own house and the groom lives in a rented apartment, so would It be okay for the man to move into his bride's apartment instead Or the bride should just move into the groom's rented apartment while the bride's apartment waste off?
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by habsydiamond(m): 7:51am On Apr 07, 2018
In Naija it's not proper.....but in western world all things are possible...it diminishes the man's value and deteriorates his position as the head.....

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Burgerlomo: 7:54am On Apr 07, 2018
There is nothing wrong with it as far as the man is ready to relinquish power, give up his authority as a man to become madam of the house. cool
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by swiz123(m): 7:58am On Apr 07, 2018
This is a difficult question to answer, considering the fact that woman rarely build a house in this country .Those who succeed in building one leaves it for her parents.

If the lady built a house, then it would be foolish to move to a rented apartment with her husband.

However, the lady must always acknowledge that the man is the head of the house.

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by tosyne2much(m): 7:59am On Apr 07, 2018
There won't be problem in as much as the man is ready to relinquish power and become a wussy husband cheesy

On a very serious note, it doesn't dignify a man. Reason being that this is "NIGERIA" not England or France .. You are probably going to lose your respect as the head of the family and will most likely become tantamount to a loaf of bread in the presence of your in-laws.

Aside that, you know how women normally behave especially when they are shouldering responsibilities in the family (not to talk of moving into the house owned by a woman). Such a man will have to tolerate all sort of manners from the woman. This is just the bitter truth!

Why get married in the first place when you know you can't house your wife?

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by lifedynamics: 8:00am On Apr 07, 2018
I don't see anything wrong with it... If you like call it "westernized cultutetor mentality"... See Ehn I'm a very simple guy who lacks this toxic African masculine pride (I have pride ooo and self esteem, but not a toxic one).That being said I would even prefer moving in with her so we'll have two houses. I would even prefer a richer wife cause all I see is more money and not less submission. undecided
I don't want African submission(Slavery), I would've married a slave if that was the case... I need a partner and best friend.
Cause some of us will want to do man of the house, Iron Man... Sole provider and when you're tired and burned out you'll start pouring aggression on your wife and kids, all because you want to do superhero undecided
Why would I want a broker wife, when we can use our money for a holiday or to buy stuff at a Gucci shop.
Don't let pride( toxic pride, cause pride is good)ruin your chance at a peaceful life. It all depends on your mentality and Sense of reasoning.

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by adechi: 8:02am On Apr 07, 2018
Absolutely wrong for any man to do that...and its not right
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Nobody: 8:03am On Apr 07, 2018
lifedynamics:
I don't see anything wrong with it... If you like call it "westernized cultutetor mentality"... See Ehn I'm a very simple guy who lacks this toxic African masculine pride (I have pride ooo and self esteem, but not a toxic one).That being said I would even prefer moving in with her so we'll have two houses. I would even prefer a richer wife cause all I see is more money and not less submission. undecided
I don't want African submission(Slavery), I would've married a slave if that was the case... I need a partner and best friend.
Cause some of us will want to do man of the house, Iron Man... Sole provider and when you're tired and burned out you'll start pouring aggression on your wife and kids, all because you want to do superhero undecided
Why would I want a broker wife, when we can use our money for a holiday or to buy stuff at a Gucci shop.
Don't let pride( toxic pride, cause pride is good)ruin your chance at a peaceful life. It all depends on your mentality and Sense of reasoning.




Too many things at a time tongue
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by lifedynamics: 8:03am On Apr 07, 2018
Burgerlomo:
There is nothing wrong with it as far as the man is ready to relinquish power, give up his authority as a man to become madam of the house cool

How? undecided Omo Una like stress gan ooo... What does a man's value have to do with where he lives... We humans like to create artificial problems.
He moved in with his wife, maybe his rent was more expensive and unnecessary, or he's just keeping his house. Do you think she'll kick you out grin? These things are only artificial fears the brain creates... Just like a female thinking a guy will look down on her if she makes the first move grin(Artificial fears)

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by lifedynamics: 8:04am On Apr 07, 2018
rebirthforgoody:





Too many things at a time tongue

Ehn slow down and read grin
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 8:06am On Apr 07, 2018
You have sense preach on kiss cool
lifedynamics:
I don't see anything wrong with it... If you like call it "westernized cultutetor mentality"... See Ehn I'm a very simple guy who lacks this toxic African masculine pride (I have pride ooo and self esteem, but not a toxic one).That being said I would even prefer moving in with her so we'll have two houses. I would even prefer a richer wife cause all I see is more money and not less submission. undecided
I don't want African submission(Slavery), I would've married a slave if that was the case... I need a partner and best friend.
Cause some of us will want to do man of the house, Iron Man... Sole provider and when you're tired and burned out you'll start pouring aggression on your wife and kids, all because you want to do superhero undecided
Why would I want a broker wife, when we can use our money for a holiday or to buy stuff at a Gucci shop.
Don't let pride( toxic pride, cause pride is good)ruin your chance at a peaceful life. It all depends on your mentality and Sense of reasoning.

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Nobody: 8:07am On Apr 07, 2018
This question here is one reason, women will/should continue to marry up and men will marry down. It is good for everyone's sanity in the long run. Everyone is 'happy'.

May one man not return you to lack, all because of his ego... grin
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Burgerlomo: 8:09am On Apr 07, 2018
lifedynamics:


How? undecided Omo Una like stress gan ooo... What does a man's value have to do with where he lives... We humans like to create artificial problems.
He moved in with his wife, maybe his rent was more expensive and unnecessary, or he's just keeping his house. Do you think she'll kick you out grin? These things are only artificial fears the brain creates... Just like a female thinking a guy will look down on her if she makes the first move grin(Artificial fears)

I can see where you are going Madam Lifedynamics grin
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by tosyne2much(m): 8:10am On Apr 07, 2018
lifedynamics:


How? undecided Omo Una like stress gan ooo... What does a man's value have to do with where he lives... We humans like to create artificial problems.
He moved in with his wife, maybe his rent was more expensive and unnecessary, or he's just keeping his house. Do you think she'll kick you out grin? These things are only artificial fears the brain creates... Just like a female thinking a guy will look down on her if she makes the first move grin(Artificial fears)
Abeg forget that thing.. This is Nigeria not Yankee
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by lifedynamics: 8:15am On Apr 07, 2018
Burgerlomo:


I can see where you are going Madam Lifedynamics grin

LMAO... Check my previous comments... I'm as masculine as it gets
For ubunja to be my gee, then I must be a male
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by lifedynamics: 8:17am On Apr 07, 2018
tosyne2much:
Abeg forget that thing.. This is Nigeria not Yankee

Unfortunately, we need to stop that mentality, If it is right it doesn't matter the country it is from... That's why we dodge discipline a lot in Naij... We say "eko la wa" when breaking a law...isn't that daft?

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by lifedynamics: 8:20am On Apr 07, 2018
AntiBrutus:
This question here is one reason, women will/should continue to marry up and men will marry down. It is good for everyone's sanity in the long run. Everyone is 'happy'.

May one man not return you to lack, all because of his ego... grin
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Ahh leave them grin
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Burgerlomo: 8:20am On Apr 07, 2018
lifedynamics:


LMAO... Check my previous comments... I'm as masculine as it gets
For ubunja to be my gee, then I must be a male

Lol, I deliberately addressed you as Madam because nah only Man Madam fit pack to a woman's house.

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by bujebudanu1(m): 8:29am On Apr 07, 2018
lifedynamics:
I don't see anything wrong with it... If you like call it "westernized cultutetor mentality"... See Ehn I'm a very simple guy who lacks this toxic African masculine pride (I have pride ooo and self esteem, but not a toxic one).That being said I would even prefer moving in with her so we'll have two houses. I would even prefer a richer wife cause all I see is more money and not less submission. undecided
I don't want African submission(Slavery), I would've married a slave if that was the case... I need a partner and best friend.
Cause some of us will want to do man of the house, Iron Man... Sole provider and when you're tired and burned out you'll start pouring aggression on your wife and kids, all because you want to do superhero undecided
Why would I want a broker wife, when we can use our money for a holiday or to buy stuff at a Gucci shop.
Don't let pride( toxic pride, cause pride is good)ruin your chance at a peaceful life. It all depends on your mentality and Sense of reasoning.


See my brother here.
Same thinking mentality and character

Wa gbayi and one platinum label for u

Who cares about your Nigerian culture.how many Nigerians practice wat d cultures says?

I know of married cousins. The families knew. D couple are abroad enjoying their life
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Cadec007(m): 8:35am On Apr 07, 2018
lifedynamics:
I don't see anything wrong with it... If you like call it "westernized cultutetor mentality"... See Ehn I'm a very simple guy who lacks this toxic African masculine pride (I have pride ooo and self esteem, but not a toxic one).That being said I would even prefer moving in with her so we'll have two houses. I would even prefer a richer wife cause all I see is more money and not less submission. undecided
I don't want African submission(Slavery), I would've married a slave if that was the case... I need a partner and best friend.
Cause some of us will want to do man of the house, Iron Man... Sole provider and when you're tired and burned out you'll start pouring aggression on your wife and kids, all because you want to do superhero undecided
Why would I want a broker wife, when we can use our money for a holiday or to buy stuff at a Gucci shop.
Don't let pride( toxic pride, cause pride is good)ruin your chance at a peaceful life. It all depends on your mentality and Sense of reasoning.
its been long i saw one with reasoning on NL......i am with u bro!

Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Cadec007(m): 8:38am On Apr 07, 2018
hey! Lifedynamics.......i am with ya!

Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by kazyhm(m): 8:39am On Apr 07, 2018
Smartii:
It's culture, norm for a lady to go join her hubby after marriage in his house but here, what if the bride has her own house and the groom lives in a rented apartment, so would It be okay for the man to move into his bride's apartment instead Or the bride should just move into the groom's rented apartment while the bride's apartment waste off?

Was it bride price or groom price that was paid ?
as in you won't even stay one year in you own rented apartment but move majestically to your wife's house from the wedding reception
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Cadec007(m): 8:40am On Apr 07, 2018
Burgerlomo:

I can see where you are going Madam Lifedynamics grin

Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Cadec007(m): 8:41am On Apr 07, 2018
kazyhm:


Was it bride price or groom price that was paid ?
as you you won't even stay one year in you own rented apartment but move majestically to your wife's house from the wedding reception
ur point?
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by kazyhm(m): 8:43am On Apr 07, 2018
Cadec007:
ur point?

Go stay in your house first with your wife and observe her character carefully before you jumb into depression with your two legs

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Cadec007(m): 8:56am On Apr 07, 2018
kazyhm:


Go stay in your house first with your wife and observe her character carefully before you jumb into depression with your two legs
ok
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by Mcy56(f): 9:13am On Apr 07, 2018
Not advisable going by African culture.
Not a bad thing if the wife has a house of her own but the most dignifying thing is to move in with her husby after marriage.

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by lifedynamics: 9:55am On Apr 07, 2018
Burgerlomo:


Lol, I deliberately addressed you as Madam because nah only Man Madam fit pack to a woman's house.

Haha... You're so funny undecided
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by tosyne2much(m): 9:58am On Apr 07, 2018
lifedynamics:


Unfortunately, we need to stop that mentality, If it is right it doesn't matter the country it is from... That's why we dodge discipline a lot in Naij... We say "eko la wa" when breaking a law...isn't that daft?
Forget this thing you are saying here on Nairaland.. You only hear things like this on Nairaland.

I'm sure you will not want marry a man that will pack into your house cheesy
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by TheUpsetGirl(m): 10:20am On Apr 07, 2018
OK
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by TheUpsetGirl(m): 10:21am On Apr 07, 2018
tosyne2much:
Forget this thing you are saying here on Nairaland.. You only hear things like this on Nairaland.

I'm sure you will not want marry a man that will pack into your house cheesy

what's wrong with that?
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Pack Into A Lady's Own House After Marriage by lifedynamics: 11:34am On Apr 07, 2018
tosyne2much:
Forget this thing you are saying here on Nairaland.. You only hear things like this on Nairaland.

I'm sure you will not want marry a man that will pack into your house cheesy

Am I a woman? undecided

Tosyne no try me ooo grin...you be my boss but I won't like to argue with you

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