Hi Nlanders

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And am not a writer and my English may not be good 'insult is allowed.


There is this issue that has been going on between me and my a married lady (my shop Neighbor)

It all started last year November when a man was looking for shop to rent and fortunately their was an empty shop next ours, so after meeting the care taker within a week or so we were amazed to see a 40ft container full of various goods, different types of auto spare parts and five cars that brought my the man, he is an importer based in Taiwan, so after the offloading and so he packed all the tocubo tires among in the shop he just rented is a very big shop Warehouse size it was filled with the tire and sold other goods wholesale to people both car.

''long story shot''

So next day work started the man begged me to help him to arrange the tires, i did as far am not not busy we worked that day, it wasn't an easy work and the man was amazed on how i worked tirelessly.

So from that day we became close and when my brother who owns the shop am staying came back from travel they became friends as the man was jovial and relating with us.

As the shop is in street plaza not inside market so we are not always busy and my brother will even encourage me to help the man in removing and packing tires which we did a lot of work that period and from then we got to know that he is a very rich business man that has been in so many Country ''importer''

Few days later he came to shop with his new wife, she is so beautiful tall and light skin she looks so young like late 20's or early 30's and the husband is in his early 50's he been married with a Taiwan lady and they has a son over there, but the Nigeria wife never give birth just married few years now.

So the problem now is after the man traveled back in February this year is only the wife that is coming to shop selling the tire and for me i keep on helping her to bring out tire or arrange it anytime am less busy as usual so from then we keep on coming closer and closer, she confide in me will tell me about every thing But i was careful not to step cross boundary being with a married lady because i have seen her wrecking in loneliness.

I have heard and read how women married to abroad based men used to mess around and have seen how possible it is and for me it's the most sinful act in this world to indulging in sexual activity with a married woman.

My observations with her that confuses me.

This lady since her husband travel back she started feeling lonely always craving to be around me, always like to gist with me and our closeness became strong because am this kind of funny guy always like to make her laugh but recently i noticed that we are more like lovers and people around start looking at us somehow, then i realized it on time started avoiding her like us to trek together for long before i enter bus to go my house when we have closed for the day, she started begging me to come to teach her how to drive with a car that her husband left for i lied to her that i don't know how to drive' in fact i become uncomfortable with her behavior she always shower me with gifts which i refused to use because of what people will say.
It got to a time that she tried to give the key for the shop, i know she trusted me but i am not just comfortable with every thing, she gave me the shop key reason that she will not come shop on time that she will be to the hospital the next day ( have seen pregnant sign in her) i reluctantly collected the key and open the shop next morning to her before she came but it happened that she didn't go anywhere and trough out that week she left the key to me wanted me to be holding it.
Then i have to call her attention that i can't hold the key that it will make people around suspecting us that day we talked about many thing that we are doing that am not comfortable with but she assured me that she have noting in mind doing what she is doing to me, i had some relief within my self, but she never changed always free with me she seems like don't care what people will say but i care if not for noting i care for what people will say because i respect her husband so much and he trust me.


So my problem now is i don't know how to keep my distance or make her understand my fears that we cant be close to certain level or make her understand how people see a married woman that her husband lives abroad, because all that i told her how people see us she still offer me ride from time to time which i reject, always want to be bringing me food which i reject or when she wanna buy food will ask to buy for mine too.

But the truth be told, this lady don't like to appear attractive she don't apply makeups (although she beautiful even without makeups) she don't wear expensive cloth, upon all the money her husband has all the things he bought for which she refused to use' reason is that guys disturb her a lot and i have tried to discover the types of person she is and seen that this lady don't live a social live, she live alone but she don't go out even in the shop self am the only one she can talk to freely.

Please i need your advice on how to go about this, don't want to carry curse rolling with a married lady
i have seen that if i dont take care of this seriously now i don't know where we going to land tomorrow as in body no be firewood.

Meanwhile how much will you pay me for reading this very long epistle, because i drank almost 6 sachets of pure water, just to be able to digest your story.

OP you sound upright and sincere, you just have to limit your relations with her, do this diplomatically so she doesn't feel offended, always try to seem busy

With this ur ugly english, she stil wana Bleep

someone shud summarize the epistle for me, but to my understanding the lady is just generous some people are like that actually, just set some boundary like you did May God continue to guide you.

weting this guy dey talk.....


abeg guy summarize it
I no get time to read all the story

Pick up a fight with her

Maybe I Should Tell Her Husband To Sell You As Spare Parts...



Beautiful Light Skin Woman, all The Multi Coloured Lights she Has Been Giving You Yet No Sense Of Acceptance..


You Are Very Wicked To Starve Her Of What She wants. Be A Good Man By Doing The Needful... Even Her Husband Will Thank You For Servicing his Wife, since You Are Very Close To Him...


Be Wise

U are one in a million guy,my advice don't do any stupid move toward her,@ bold,any sexual move toward her is stupid just b careful nd keep ur emotional in check bro woman her weak,she will tink she is in her normal sense until dey fall flat God help u

DeadRat:




Maybe I Should Tell Her Husband To Sell You As Spare Parts...



Beautiful Light Skin Woman, all The Multi Coloured Lights she Has Been Giving You Yet No Sense Of Acceptance..


You Are Very Wicked To Starve Her Of What She wants. Be A Good Man By Doing The Needful... Even Her Husband Will Thank You For Servicing his Wife, since You Are Very Close To Him...


Be Wise

Cant u gv reasonable advice for once

Pierohandsome:
With this ur ugly english, she stil wana Bleep

Does anyone have to speak fluently before bleeping .. Nawa for you ....

Olalan:
OP you sound upright and sincere, you just have to limit your relations with her, do this diplomatically so she doesn't feel offended, always try to seem busy

Than you guy am always trying to limit it

if not i wouldn't be here talking to you guys

Dude u av done the right thing.. Since u av noticed you getting too attached to her.. You only need to reduce ur rapport with her.. But at the same time don't make her feel she is making u unease..

Don't make a mistake you will forever regret.
Don't you ever have it in mind to touch her.
She is another man's wife. Don't let anything whatsoever happen between you and her because no matter what, people you're so afraid of will find out and report you to her husband and you know what that means? A permanently damaged reputation.
A good name is better than gold and silver.
Don't try it.

Pierohandsome:
With this ur ugly english, she stil wana Bleep

Bros.... Why do you think his English is relevant to this story?

Guy you need reorientation. Remove your mind from sex and have a clear conscience.

I strongly believe your village people are after you, if not you would have realised that you've just met your destiny helpers. But here you are avoiding her. Why not hear her out then make a wise decision?

From your point of view, you seem an upright young man, with high morals, decent and with some sense of self worth and self control. You have a reputation to protect even in the face of daunting temptation. Stay tuned, don't change the channel.

The lady's perspective, like you said, she's a young woman, attractive and above all lonely. She's vulnerable now especially when she's exposed to a probably handsome, well behaved and God fearing young man, she's tempted to think she's in love, who wouldn't be?

Her husband now, he's an international business man, he's provided his young, beautiful wife with all he thinks she needs. He's busy chasing more money. Now he's quick to trust you because you've been helpful to him in the past. He could trust you even with his woman.

Now it's two against one. You obviously don't want it and the man too wouldn't want you boning his wife. Even the wife, we really can't conclude she wants to be shagged by you. She may not just know how to balance the relationship without suggesting anything. So Mr. Man, maintain status quo. Keep being her friend, you said she doesn't socialise. You must have really put up a Mr. Nice guy attitude for her to so much trust you even with the shop in so short a period of time. Whatever you do, don't sleep with her. A good name is better than a world of riches

Brother learn to summarise
Back to your problem she knows about the other woman and soccer is ruthless when it comes to women who are childless so you are her salvation( in her mind)

The problem you face is if you tell her that you are uncomfortable it may backfire and she could tell she husband all manner of things . Don’t do anything yoi will regret. Stay away from her. The fact that you have noticed every single aspect of her body makes me feel less hopeful.

Pierohandsome:
With this ur ugly english, she stil wana Bleep

According to the great Fela: "Teacher, teacher, abi na lecturer be your name, make you no teach me again"

I detest comments like this. You have the effrontery to criticize someone else's use of English, yet, I have identified 4 critical issues with your incomplete sentence.

The OP has expressed himself to the best of his ability about an issue he needs help with. If you have nothing relevant to contribute to the topic of discourse, you can kindly move on.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i99w2T8nQB4

Set ur boundaries and for real,its not easy but from what i read(red), she just needs a friend and a confidant who is true and honest like u

Tell her something that can scare the life outa her

too long to read

not that it is too long, but I couldn't cope. the grammar was off colour. although you did apologize, I never knew it would be this bad.
anyways, stop giving her the attention she craves, before "people" will assume that you impregnated her.
it seems you like her. hope you didn't fūck her sha.

In a nutshell, remember the story of joseph in portiphar's house. Jah be with you

only spoke my mind