GuntersChain:
it is probably that she is single with no boyfriend and no job at hand. so no one is missing her neither is she missing anyone. just bear with her she will soon leave.

alimaa:
I know i am supposed to post this in the family section but i always get better response from the Romance section. I don't know whether any of you has been in a situation where an in-law comes for a short visit and finally settles in your home without any sign of leaving anytime soon.

My wife's elder sister who is single came to visit us in January but up till now she has not made any move to go and it's not as if we live in a big apartment so there is no much privacy. We got married in 2015 so our union is still young.

This kind of situation puts one in a dilemma because you just don't know what to say and you will be termed "a bad person". She lies on our matrimonial bed even in my presence.

Before now i never knew someone would feel comfortable staying with a younger sister in her matrimonial home. If it is as a result of accommodation problem or maybe you went to a distant location to do one or two things and you now spend sometime in your younger sister's home, that is understandable.

Please what advice do you have for me?

GuntersChain:
it is probably that she is single with no boyfriend and no job at hand. so no one is missing her neither is she missing anyone. just bear with her she will soon leave.

Lalas247:
my dear are you the bill payer?
if yes! and solely pay for rent and up keep of the home .. while her single older sister is leeching off both of you..that is WRONG but some siblings have no shame and don't know where yo draw the line ..
my dear for happy home tell her yo leave .. its your house!
if your Mrs pays half the bills then you will need to consult her and come to a joint decision ...

her sister will be angry for sure but she will get over it ..
never let people over stay their welcome... family or not a visit should be a visit .

Paulpaulpaul:
@Kennyprince, you are wicked, how could you occupy my place?



Leave her with your wife and sleep in a hotel once in a while, when your wife asks, tell her your want her to enjoy gist with her sister.



She will swiftly respond if she's wise

Paulpaulpaul:
@Kennyprince, you are wicked, how could you occupy my place?



Leave her with your wife and sleep in a hotel once in a while, when your wife asks, tell her your want her to enjoy gist with her sister.



She will swiftly respond if she's wise

babeosisi:


Is she the main breadwinner in the house?
Please answer this question
This is not uncommon when the woman is the one bringing home the bacon. Shouldn't be so but the saying that he who pays the piper dictates the tune is so true.

Was this your wife's apartment before you got married and you moved in with her.
I suspect that could be the case
I can't explain what else would poses an older sister to lay down in her sister''s matrimonial bed besides stupidity and over familiarity .

Even if you are not pulling your weight financially ,I don't believe you should be disrespected in this manner.
Your wife is unreasonable for not coming to an agreement with you on how long her sister is there for and I am shocked you've not even mentioned it to her.
This make me suspect strongly that she may be the main provider for the family.
I feel for you
You must have a conversation with your wife about this
You're not scared of her are you?

seyigiggle:
oga na promo oo.
marry one, get another one free. you made her comfortable.

let me teach you my strategies.
1. don't say anything to her or your wife about her stay
2. always frown your face
3. form financial crisis. as in cut down on your home expenses, and whenever food stuff finishes, complain bitterly!

i refuse to teach you bad things

truthstands12:
Please man up and tell your wife to ask her to leave. If she doesn't do so, tell her to leave and nothing will happen. If they like, let them term you bad person, you need space in your house. Its high time we men stand up and stop all these forming to be a good person to everybody.

ImaIma1:
Is there any of their family member that is reasonable and you can talk to? Please explain to that person.

It is wrong for her to come and stay and refuse to go.

And if you have money for an extra mouth, bring one of your family members that she is not fond of to come and stay.

awwfar:
hmmm...so u get sense like this ..
my advice is that you start walking around your house naked henceforth with your stick pointing forward like a battled ready soldier that's about to pull the trigger in the middle of a war, its sha your house.

gazilion:




Based on the above statements, You are a coward!
If you remain this cowardly, you'll become foolish!!

gazilion:




Based on the above statements, You are a coward!
If you remain this cowardly, you'll become foolish!!

Lloydfolarin:
I just pity some lowlives called sissy men who are scared to call anybody’s bluff including their wives.

The day you become that no-nonsense person who could call any woman’s bluff is the day you are ready for marriage cos women ll throw a lot of shit to your face along with her family but Mr no nonsense ll stand up and ready at all time to send the woman back to her family.

Once the family of any woman know that you are Mr no-nonsense man, trust me, both your wife and family ll behave themselves.

Honestly, put me in this situation for just 2 days, either the elder sister or both ll leave my house the same day. Life is too short to suffer in silence cos of pussy.

The moment you put your heart in the hands of a woman in that institution called marriage, you are finished.

A real man/ No nonsense man dictate how his home is runned while lowlives are scare to call the bluff of their wives so as not to get her and family upset.

If you want a peaceful marriage, be in charge as the manager not the houseboy.

hope4nigeria:
Tell your wife you are in love with her sister, trust me, you will not see the sister the following day.

alimaa:
I know i am supposed to post this in the family section but i always get better response from the Romance section. I don't know whether any of you has been in a situation where an in-law comes for a short visit and finally settles in your home without any sign of leaving anytime soon.

My wife's elder sister who is single came to visit us in January but up till now she has not made any move to go and it's not as if we live in a big apartment so there is no much privacy. We got married in 2015 so our union is still young.

This kind of situation puts one in a dilemma because you just don't know what to say and you will be termed "a bad person". She lies on our matrimonial bed even in my presence.

Before now i never knew someone would feel comfortable staying with a younger sister in her matrimonial home. If it is as a result of accommodation problem or maybe you went to a distant location to do one or two things and you now spend sometime in your younger sister's home, that is understandable.

Please what advice do you have for me?

alimaa:
I know i am supposed to post this in the family section but i always get better response from the Romance section. I don't know whether any of you has been in a situation where an in-law comes for a short visit and finally settles in your home without any sign of leaving anytime soon.

My wife's elder sister who is single came to visit us in January but up till now she has not made any move to go and it's not as if we live in a big apartment so there is no much privacy. We got married in 2015 so our union is still young.

This kind of situation puts one in a dilemma because you just don't know what to say and you will be termed "a bad person". She lies on our matrimonial bed even in my presence.

Before now i never knew someone would feel comfortable staying with a younger sister in her matrimonial home. If it is as a result of accommodation problem or maybe you went to a distant location to do one or two things and you now spend sometime in your younger sister's home, that is understandable.

Please what advice do you have for me?

kimbraa:
If you ask her to leave, you become an enemy, and if your wife who happens to be her younger sister should ask her to leave, she'd assume your wife is being disrespectful to her because she's married and she's not. Tell your wife to explain the situation to her mother or someone older to call her back and give you guys space.

kimbraa:
If you ask her to leave, you become an enemy, and if your wife who happens to be her younger sister should ask her to leave, she'd assume your wife is being disrespectful to her because she's married and she's not. Tell your wife to explain the situation to her mother or someone older to call her back and give you guys space.

Immorttal:
it has happened before in my street and they are both living together as first and second wife, the man has money sha and both sisters looks happy in the marriage.

babeosisi:


Is she the main breadwinner in the house?
Please answer this question
This is not uncommon when the woman is the one bringing home the bacon. Shouldn't be so but the saying that he who pays the piper dictates the tune is so true.

Was this your wife's apartment before you got married and you moved in with her.
I suspect that could be the case
I can't explain what else would poses an older sister to lay down in her sister''s matrimonial bed besides stupidity and over familiarity .

Even if you are not pulling your weight financially ,I don't believe you should be disrespected in this manner.
Your wife is unreasonable for not coming to an agreement with you on how long her sister is there for and I am shocked you've not even mentioned it to her.
This make me suspect strongly that she may be the main provider for the family.
I feel for you
You must have a conversation with your wife about this
You're not scared of her are you?

Afec1000givers:
remember life is turn by turn...that lady most of u guys kept saying send her away might become their bread winner tomorrow. they are blood sisters emotion is involved

seyigiggle:
oga na promo oo.
marry one, get another one free. you made her comfortable.

let me teach you my strategies.
1. don't say anything to her or your wife about her stay
2. always frown your face
3. form financial crisis. as in cut down on your home expenses, and whenever food stuff finishes, complain bitterly!

i refuse to teach you bad things

seyigiggle:
oga na promo oo.
marry one, get another one free. you made her comfortable.

let me teach you my strategies.
1. don't say anything to her or your wife about her stay
2. always frown your face
3. form financial crisis. as in cut down on your home expenses, and whenever food stuff finishes, complain bitterly!

i refuse to teach you bad things