This is no joke because before you know it the yeye people will be here with all sorts of talk and this is my son I'm talking about.

I have a two year old son that I think is mean. Here is the break down: When he was younger he seldom smiles  with anybody (like his mum ) ,  But then I hope things will be better and try as much as possible to be his best friend in the house. The only time he enjoys with me is when we wrestle (fighting wrestling)  on the bed and all sought of tough play; i.e I slam him on bed gbish, give him upper cut etc (I get tired first); even his elder brother can't handle this type of play. Now we are good buddies but this guy is easy to offend and he's just two years old!!!

1. You cant correct him. Or advice him on his choice. i.e when he wants to select cloths. Or when he says he wants something. He always tries to find his way and doesn't get tired of crying ,  he can't loop is cry for hours.

2. He's kinda bully in school ; nobody messes with him in class. i.e the day we forgot to have his juice in food pack his class mates saw hell . And his class teacher warned us not to ever do that again 

3. Yeah lets say someone hurt him in the house he keeps it on his mind till he releases vengeance on any unsuspecting person or original offender (vengeance could be simple kick but  you will see he'll be happy he did it and leave the scene)

4. He got energy and sleeps late. Very restless he wont allow himself to be belted when in the car . And can't stand staying in one place for too long. Yeah is body will start hitching him; and he'll do something.  His fingers must touch something or break it. Will wander the whole house at night when he's suppose to be tired and asleep. Then hates early morning wake up for school bus.

I'm not sure smacking him all the time like his mom does will work (though they resemble in character; I don't know why she beats him even when she herself is mean and can't take corrections)

lol the funny part this boy always have boil I think its because his mean . Like how Pinocchio nose grows longer when he lies. Boil comes up on his face when he's mean at someone.

I'm making this post just now because he codedly was stepping on his elder brother loose shoe laces either to make him fall or something :

His elder brother his the opposite, very gentle; obedient; once corrected wont do the same thing again etc

Anybody have experience with mean kids? Or advices on how to help him get softer or maybe he's just a kid and will outgrow this?

He will most likely outgrow it. . . . some of us were possessed as young children, fighting every 5 minutes. . .

Yeah fighting , but I wasn't like that. Though my younger ones fought a lot but I taught it was because they where twins back then and wont respect each other

Maybe he takes after the other side of the family. . . . the description you gave there could well apply to me as a youngster. . . . I used to fight everyday without fail. . . . even at church, I used to bet my shoes on fight. . . I once threw a table knife across the table at my friend when our family was having lunch. . . . this is cos he won a fight we had earlier that afternoon. . . . I must have been 6 years old at the time. . . . but by the time I reached about 8 years old, I had calmed down. . . .

Hi.

I was thinking that my own 4 year old son ist stubborn.I am very sorry.
The stress is so much,that you might be close to madness.

My son also like to fight like Bruce Lee.Mostly with the father.But when it is enough,he understands.

When he sees a toy at the shopping-mall it will turn to war.If i will tell him,that i am not going to buy it,then he starts to cry and throw himself on the ground.If i explain slowly to him he does not want to understand it.when i continue my walking,then he will get up and follow me crying.I will tell him,that his father will buy it for him tomorrow.He will keep quiet and forget about it later.
I avoid taking him to stores.I know when he gets a bit older,he will not do all this nonsens.

But the funniest thing is,when my husband is around,our son never do all this silly things.

But in short.Your son's behavior is out of controll.Could it be that he is hyperactive?
Did you took him to a Doctor?I mean a speciallist?And some kids have an allergy against some foodstuffs.Anytime after eating it,they get agressive.
Just try to be consequent.When you want to take him somewhere and he missbehaves,you will not take him out again.If he starts crying for something,send him to his room until he stops crying.A no is a no.Do not discuse with him.


Do not overpamper him.Show love and be consequent.He should eat always to the same times and he should go to bed at least by latest 8 o'clock.

Take him to a doctor and always keep an eye on him.You have to controll your child,not your child will controll you.
Good luck

Chi-chi

I think this is typical of most boys his age (note that I said "Most" and he will outgrow it. My younger brother was worse. At around 3 or 4 years, he jumped from the top of a storey building and broke his teeth.
Now he is a very cool guy.

@poster i think chi-chi34 gave important point about allergy,which side-effects sometimes causes hyperactivity. In children, it could be worse due to the fact that they don't know when,and when not to be aggressive. Seek professional help,and also spiritual help,if you believe in God.

lol your son is just being a boy! I must tell you though that you have spoilt him, correcting him will be easy, i hope you dont beat him, but if you do it might just work . No1 you need to stop feeding him all the rubbish you are feeding him and dont let him stay up late, 8 oclock is bedtime even if his eyes are wide open his butt must be on the bed!!! Dont give him sugary food, no chocolate no junk, african food is very good for a childs digestive system to grow on, absolutely no FIZZY DRINKS! and dont feed him late into th enight or less than 3hrs before bedtime. no2 i think you need to get them both a hobby, maybe tennis or golf or something for them to do daily in the house (maybe you can tutor them some extra work or employ someone) let the brother do it with him so he enjoys it more. no3 if he shows spiteful behavoir let him know its WRONG! tell him to STOP, punish him how you normally do, its not good for kids to hold grudges (they turn into vindictive adults!) Let the boy fall into a pattern, when to eat when to play when to sleep, pls dont forget he is a boy they are generally stubborn but they dont have to be out of control!

ps i have no kids but i grew up in a fuji madhouse! i kind of know every trick in the book!

Beat that child asss,

My 23 months old boy is like your son but my wife knows how to handle him .

terrible twos , he will outgrow it

The boy is simply spoilt. You have not shown him who is in charge, and you let him have his way too often. Remember, starting from age 2 upwards, children begin to develop very clear personalities. They also develop strong opinions on what they like/don't like, what they want/don't want, and they will be quite manipulative in getting it. This is why it is called "terrible twos".
However, this is the time time to show that a parent is in charge and not the child. There are ways to do this, and it is more subtle than simply foisting your will upon your child, or smacking. I will explain this at the bottom of the post. In the meantime, let us look at where you, as the parent is going wrong - 

You[b] cant[/b] correct him. Or advice him on his choice. i.e when he wants to select cloths. Or when he says he wants something. He always tries to find his way and doesn't get tired of crying Sad,  he can't loop is cry for hours.

Of course you CAN correct him, but it seems you have already decided otherwise - and he knows.

He's kinda bully in school ; nobody messes with him in class. i.e the day we forgot to have his juice in food pack his class mates saw hell

I detect a hint of pride from you in this statement. There is nothing proud about a child's inability to socialise adequately with his peers.

lets say someone hurt him in the house he keeps it on his mind till he releases vengeance on any unsuspecting person or original offender (vengeance could be simple kick but  you will see he'll be happy he did it and leave the scene)

Clearly, he does this because you let him. There seems to be no consequence to any of his actions.

He got energy and sleeps late.

Again, bad parenting. The parent decides when the child goes to bed, not the child. It is important to get children into a specific bedtime routine. This means bedtime at a specific time - everyday, with maybe the weekends as a late bedtime treat. Also watch his diet of sugary foods or drinks

Very restless he wont allow himself to be belted when in the car

Why should he allow himself when he does not want to? This is not a choice to him - and you have not made that clear yet.

And can't stand staying in one place for too long. Yeah is body will start hitching him; and he'll do something.  His fingers must touch something or break it. Will wander the whole house at night when he's suppose to be tired and asleep. Then hates early morning wake up for school bus.

All these shows there have been no boundaries put in place - And why should he like getting up early, when he goes to bed late? He is simply exercising his own preference, and doing what HE wants. It is important to understand this in order to rectify the behaviour pattern.

I'm not sure smacking him all the time like his mom does will work

Whilst this may have a place in the discipline procedure, its is by no means effective on its own, and should be used in a discretionary manner.

OK, now to the solution. As i said, at this age, children develop an understanding of what they want, and try to exercise that right. Unfortunately these things are usually at odds with what the parent wants, or what is good for the child. Remember, no one likes being controlled and being told what to do all the time - least of all your child. The solution is to offer them choices, supported by the option of a stricter punishment.

E.g: Get him to agree to put  his seat belt on by (1) Explaining to him why it is necessary, (2) Tell him it is the only way he can come with you.
(3) Give him the choice of choosing to stay at home if he does not want to wear the seat belt.
Basically, you are giving him control over his decisions - making him choose what YOU want him to do, rather than forcing your will upon him. You can apply this strategy to everything you want your child to do. With the clothes, choose 3 outfits, and give him a choice on which one he wants/prefers.

I remember when my daughter always wanted to tie her shoe laces herself. Problem was she could not do it properly, and always took a lot of time, thereby causing us to be late. If we forcefully did it for her, it would be crying for the whole afternoon. After a couple of incidents, i gave her the choice of making sure if she tied it herself, she MUST be ready by the time i was leaving, otherwise, she would be left behind. Result: After a couple of unsuccessful attempts, she would frustratingly come to me to do it for her.

I think you missed the part where the elder brother is not "spoilt". Every child is different.

spikedcylinder:

One more reason not to have kids. I don't have the patience for all this.
Poster, pele o.

oh you will

@ topic
he will outgrow it, kids especially boys are like that, few girls are like that as well.

tEsLim:

This is no joke because before you know it the yeye people will be here with all sorts of talk and this is my son I'm talking about.

I have a two year old son that I think is mean. Here is the break down: When he was younger he seldom smiles  with anybody (like his mum ) ,  But then I hope things will be better and try as much as possible to be his best friend in the house. The only time he enjoys with me is when we wrestle (fighting wrestling)  on the bed and all sought of tough play; i.e I slam him on bed gbish, give him upper cut etc (I get tired first); even his elder brother can't handle this type of play. Now we are good buddies but this guy is easy to offend and he's just two years old!!!

1. You cant correct him. Or advice him on his choice. i.e when he wants to select cloths. Or when he says he wants something. He always tries to find his way and doesn't get tired of crying ,  he can't loop is cry for hours.

2. He's kinda bully in school ; nobody messes with him in class. i.e the day we forgot to have his juice in food pack his class mates saw hell . And his class teacher warned us not to ever do that again 

3. Yeah lets say someone hurt him in the house he keeps it on his mind till he releases vengeance on any unsuspecting person or original offender (vengeance could be simple kick but  you will see he'll be happy he did it and leave the scene)

4. He got energy and sleeps late. Very restless he wont allow himself to be belted when in the car . And can't stand staying in one place for too long. Yeah is body will start hitching him; and he'll do something.  His fingers must touch something or break it. Will wander the whole house at night when he's suppose to be tired and asleep. Then hates early morning wake up for school bus.

I'm not sure smacking him all the time like his mom does will work (though they resemble in character; I don't know why she beats him even when she herself is mean and can't take corrections)
lol the funny part this boy always have boil I think its because his mean . Like how Pinocchio nose grows longer when he lies. Boil comes up on his face when he's mean at someone.

I'm making this post just now because he codedly was stepping on his elder brother loose shoe laces either to make him fall or something :

His elder brother his the opposite, very gentle; obedient; once corrected wont do the same thing again etc

Anybody have experience with mean kids? Or advices on how to help him get softer or maybe he's just a kid and will outgrow this?

Maybe it's just me but a 2yr old taking school bus?

I did WORSTER but i outgrow it all and sometimes i said MOM i'm sorry about those years and we laugh it out, but u know what? I PRAY i don't have a child that will do the same to me and my wife, but in other things I pray my male child/children take after me, So, don't worry rather pray and endure, stil let em know u love him and care but wants him to change.

in as much as he ain't into stealing stuff.

please don't think that this is ok for a 2 yr old boy, i'm sorry but it's not. boys do have that strenght and energy to burn, you'll be surprised that some girls even have more.
the age is called "terrible 2s" and if you don't get a hang of it now ,wait till he gets to 3 and the worst is 4. cos by 4 you expect some things to be done, and some not too, that's when they really start doing things to get into your skin.
Pray about the situation, even the bible says that you should pray, and then give them the rod of correction. it's what yo do today that will affect them and you tomorrow. it's not all about beating the child all the time, if you know what he likes and dislikes, that where you get him, if he likes something and he misbehave,s and others are getting a cookie or so, don't give him and tell him the reason why he's not getting one, YES he'll fight his way, cry, do everything break this and that, but you have to stand as the head of the house, he's pretty much controlling you all, and if this continues i'm sorry if there's anyone telling you he'll grow out of it, not at all. it will be his only way of handling things, even when he's older. the sooner you stop him from all this the better. don't give up it's going to be a lot of work on both your paths and pls don't blame it on ur wife's side and so. just pray for him and take a stand

Oga poster,
Your son needs serious deliverance.
Are you sure the boy is really yours? Reason very well,
Get closer to your wife and ask her something about the source and how comes the boy. Think.
You need a serious prayer over his life. I don't know how he often react you always tell him 'let's go to church or wheresoever'?
Act fast.

Was he breast fed in the 1st 6months as a baby? findout if not this could be the cause

i think a nann y would be an option,

He will surely outgrow this stage, but keep close eyes on him in order for him not to injure himself during one of his hard play. I suggest you visit www.babycenter.co.uk for more on child developmental stages.

pray!!! i think he'd grow past it. but dont encourage him by playing rough with him. be gentle with him no matter what in time he'll take on that gentle disposition you show towards him. still pray!!!

What do you mean by MEAN for two years old boy misterman? This boy is just a complete infant for God sake and he will outgrow it.

He is an infant he might just need your attention more that is all.

Like most replies say, he`ll outgrow it. But I`ll add- don`t give up on training him yet, he`s just two, still malleable. Just do it prayerfully, in the way of God. When he grows he won`t depart from it. Also, watch ur words to him, no matter how provoked u are. Our words carry tremendous power.

@spikedcylinder did u read wat u posted, may God change ur mind.
@poater my younger brother is 8 and he behaves like dat, I love him very much and at times I enjoy his lifestyle.
He is fun 2 be wit but wen he is angry, no body calms him down other dan me. lets pray for a change.

@poster. . .please find out from your parents if there are any similarities between your son's behaviour & yours when you were younger.

Their response will give you a fair idea of how to handle this delicate situation 

spikedcylinder:

One more reason not to have kids. I don't have the patience for all this.
Poster, pele o.

poster. . .please find out from your parents if there are any similarities between your son's behaviour & yours when you were younger.

Their response will give you a fair idea of how to handle this delicate situation

^^ thank you.

kufreabasi:

Oga poster,
Your son needs serious deliverance.
Are you sure the boy is really yours? Reason very well,
Get closer to your wife and ask her something about the source and how comes the boy. Think.
You need a serious prayer over his life. I don't know how he often react you always tell him 'let's go to church or wheresoever'?
Act fast.

lol, funny maybe excorcism?  

put him in after school now.

spike, eh? lol for me it is why i plan on having fewer kids  

Your kid most likely has ADHD. Amazing no one has mentioned this. Must say, be wary of family and friends that are quick to atune his behavour to 'demons/evil spirits', they could cause harm to your child.

ADHD is quite common amongst growing boys about that age, my neighbour's kid is one hell of an example! It ain't a disease but a condition. You need to see a specialist.

Please click on the link below for symptoms.
http://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/features/adhd-symptoms-in-girls-and-boys

take him to see a doctor,those could be early autism signs or hyperactivity