buh make we talk true OO. . . We men, shebi una know say na men cheat pass?  

b'cos we'r never tyred of wetin dey under skirt buh all the same, na wetin pleasure dey cause!

Looking at most of the posts here, it is clear that this is really an immoral generation. The generation that run after the inclination of their evil minds,Hell is the end point for all immoral fellows.Even thought the ratio of men to women is 1:100 ,is not enough reason to be unfaithful to your partner.Do you even know that it is the abnormal mind set of men  that is prompting God to unleash curses on the earth hence so much evils befalling the world.Repent today and be Heavenly minded.What shall profit you if you enjoy all the beautiful ladies on earth and perish in hell fire. Be wise

infidelity is not love,wether in courtship or marriage, if u cheat on me,u dont love,and no reason whatsoever justifies infidelity.

d bigrod:

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no one actually plans to cheat,a man cheats when he sees something that is too tempting to resist.

sincerely,if  a babe cheats on me,i`ll leave her and will never have anything to do with such babe.

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Yes, men are always cheat when they see new face that is cute under skirt

The SECURITY of a COUPLE depends on their FIDELITY.
Anyone who cheats on you can as well kill you.

Let me be very blunt, because if anyone truly loves you he or she will never cheat on you.

Infidelity is an act of betrayal.
Adultery is treachery.

Imagine a young woman who was homeless and starving and a single man took her in to provide for her.
Then she met another man and slept with him within 48 hours without even asking for a drink. Whilst she was sleeping with the new man, the boyfriend was waiting for her, because she lcoked the door to their flat and went away with the keys to sleep with another man.
I was dumb founded when I saw her telling lies to her boyfriend.
She was one of my models and I dismissed her on that very day for cheating on her boyfriend.

A young woman once called that she wanted to see me at my place at 10 pm.
"Have you told your boyfriend?"
The boyfriend is a good friend.
"No," she replied.
"Please, tell him and let him escort you," I said.
She did not come again and she never tried again.

Another young woman asked for money to register for a contest and I told her to let her boyfriend know.
"I don't want him to know, because he would not allow me to go for the contest," she said.
"Well, I cannot give you any money without his knowledge," I replied.
She left and stopped talking to me for a while.
Two months later she returned and wanted to flirt. But I showed her the photograph of my woman and told her how much I loved my sweetheart.
She sighed and left.

Temptations will come. But you can turn your back on cheating and lying.

Your life is worth saving than some temporary pleasures of sexual intercourse.

If you know you cannot be faithful to your partner, please make it clear and be free in an open relationship of free love.
Love is not by force.


Infidelity kills.

Yes it is a good enough reason, both biblically. Or if u would like to play the devil`s advocate, do your own too! Or dont u have other admirers?

chrisja:

as much as we are entitled to free will we nd to learn to control our mouth n oppinion, INFIDELITY IS ENOUGH REASON TO END A RELATIONSHIP MOST EXPECIALLY THESE WILLFUL GUYS WHO GO ABOUT JUMPING FROM ONE GIRL TO ANODA. ANY LADY WHO IS NOT BOLD ENOUGH TO DUMP AN INFIDEL GUY IS INSECURE AND LACK SELF ESTEEM. LADIES FOR CHRIST SAKE BELIEVE IN YOURSELVES AND HOLD YOURSELVES IN HIGH ESTEEM. STOP DEFINING YOURSELVES BY A GUY OR GUYS OPPINION.

I totally agree wit u, We women are the architects of our own perils.

offtopic - how is it that women forget their undies in a guys place, or are they simply marking their territory?

^^^ Maybe they r just leaving it behind so they won't bother coming with another one when next they visit!

Love is a Scam. Simple

@ topic,

Infidelity- The quality of being unfaithful by either s.ex. A man cheats because of another woman, a woman cheats because of another man. For me it isn't a question of who does it more_{''bad tin na bad tin''} cos one will find a companion who shares similar promiscuous ideals along the divide. My question has always been this: why can't the seemingly disadvantaged women_{man's world some say} refuse or stop in their tracks when they discover the cheating trait of the wooing suitor?
I can't excuse any man for cheating neither a supposedly civilised_{as we like to claim} chap who partakes in precambrian acts of the Neandertal era. Nevertheless, if women who in coming together see fit to condenm as abominable such lascivious act then the other woman partaker_{it takes two for infidelity to thrive} as much as culpable.
An unwitting single lady gets chased by a married man, gets led through the stages and then she discovers, game changer(think about all the necessary outcomes). It is in the hands of this lady to move on, keep her self esteem and tell the man to go to his wife_{what will most do?}

Imagine a world where cheating men are told to their faces when discovered, '' go to your wife''. Until women begin to respect themselves and put the other woman in the man's house first then and only then will cheating men begin have no leverage to cheat.

Just say NO and you'll have men in check.

Orikinla:

The SECURITY of a COUPLE depends on their FIDELITY.
Anyone who cheats on you can as well kill you.

This is a lie from hell.

With all the actions going on you will expect to see bodies everywhere but you dont. Where do you dream up all these from bro?

Some mistresses actually believe this kind of thing- that they can breach a secured marriage or relationship to earn themselves a place.It hardly happens and when it does it is not always because of intimacy with a third. Check it out there is always other reason

Se.x is a purely physical activity. Affection is emotional. It is wrong to assume they are always mutually inclusive of each other.

Ujujoan:

Na wa oh!

Cheating is now a normal thing?

I think say na only me dey think am o

@topic,

Yes, infidelity is enough to end a relationship. If it isn't, then what is?

This is like the most stupid question I have seen on Nairaland. It made frontpage too, beyond shocking!

infidelity is not enough reason to end a relationship.

everything depends on what the parties involved can tolerate.

to some infidelity is a norm and accepted while to some its a taboo

it all depends on the individual,

of course yes. it's a very good reason to a relationship no matter how many years the relationship has lasted

in as much as i understand the feeling of the partner that feels cheated, can he be truthful about some actions or in actions as serious as cheating on his/her partner that he/she may have engaged in? or is it the 11th commandment 'do not be caught'. if we understand that we are in an imperfect r/ship,can't we find other reasons ( desirable characters the culprit has) that can help wipe away this tot of ending a r/ship.just as one might have been unfaithful sometime, a partner may fall into the pit of unfaithfullness. can you think of some factors that forced one into this unpalatable act? no excuses for the serial cheats though

Are they married?

Maybe Kevin runs a secret underwear dry cleaning service and those panties were just work he brought home cos he couldn't finish at the office?

Ok seriously, what's she complaining about? Are they married? Is she not doing the same thing with him the other girls are doing? What legal rights does she have to his manhood and what right does he have to his?

Humans we no dey hear word. She never near to cruy and no be her go cry last.

For a relationship (dating, courtship) YES Sad Sad

The only place when you can forgive and give another chance is in marriage, but if he continues then we head to court Angry Angry cos I can't share my man with another, never Lips sealed Lips sealed Lips sealed.

Agreed, persistently unrepentant wf/hsb shld b dropped.

princekevo:

Please you might as well provide a link for the above facts.

my number was the 2006 stats. as of 2009 there is 56 million more men then women.
2009 global population statisics show 3,442,850,573men vs 3,386,509,865women. differnce of 56,340,708

nigeria stats show 77,547,502 men vs 77,181,390 women difference of 366,112

http://www.geohive.com/earth/pop_gender.aspx

Its not enough reason to break up

@topic
hell yesssssssssss

what is all this blah blah blah talk these guys are voicing out
wtf!!! what makes you think women cant do without men?
why do we even have F.W.B.(friends with benefit)
if you dont want commitment get down do ya thing and fu/ck off
anyway i thank God for the men in my lives

DatNiggaAk:

when you talk about cheating. men are the only one's allowed to cheat.
women are not allowed to cheat unless of course you married a ho,

what century do you think we are living in?

If it will give you tears and you are not married , Yes. But if you are married, abstain from sex but keep the person around. He or she will understand the message

DatNiggaAk:

gals that sleep around indiscriminately are ho's
we men love ho's, but as snoop and the dog pound said, "you can't make a ho a house wife"
take them to the club, the movies, the pub, the carribeans, but don't wife them.
we love dem ho's but we don't wife dem b4 they start cheating on us,

^^^^Ând what makes you think the women loves gigolos
them gigolos are to be taken to the club, the movies, the pub but not to hussy them
them women love them gigolos,they spend their cash on them and walk out like they are piece of sh·it
what is good for the goose is good for the gander

any relationship without faithfulnes is dead cos is d foundation is built on dat their mariage must surely hav probs bt what pains me is dat dey dnt know.

YES !!!!!! YES!!!!!!! AND CAPITAL********** YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!****** VERILLY VERILLY I  SAID UNTO  U UNLESS SHE IS FAITHFUL .SHE CAN NEVER ENTER INTO RELATIONSHIP WITH ME
IT WILL ONLY TAKES GRACE OF GOD TO ALLOW  HER

she said ''it's Kelvin again. I found several female undies at his place last weekend''

Kelvin wetin you dey take  dem do? LMAO 

she should leave immediately. its not healthy at all.
if a boyfriend can do this before marriage, what will he not do afterwards (if they get married)

Yeah, infidelity is enough reason to end a relationship. Wat is good for the goose is also good for gander, the men will not tolerate there women cheat on them with another man, yet they enjoy doing it, it isnt fair.if you can cheat on ur spouse, it also implies u can kill him or her. cheating makes u vunerable to alot of external influences. know exactly wat u want and go for it. so that u dont searching for complimenting qualities elsewhere.

Of course it's reason enough to end a relationship! How many female undies at your man's home would it take you to get smart?

@poster: obviously from the look of things (views from NL)
Your friend is the only one in Nigeria with a cheating spouse (my pontificate opinion)

based on the comment from here, it shows dat most NL's relationship's are free from infidelity.

so maybe you sud rephrase your question to read.

" Has anyone in this forum experienced infidelity in their current relationship?"

What step have they taken or they probably have not found out yet