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I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 7:22am On Jul 08, 2018
Please try and read to the end. I am a young guy early twenties. I have been playing virtual since 2014. I was never this useless and unpurposeful. My life changed when i entered university. It all started in 2014 when i walked into a nairabet close to my school and saw people playing virtual. I decided to play, as i remember i won that period. I never knew the day i started was the day i gave the devil the key to my life. In 2014, i spent my school fees on virtual, lost everything. Sold my phones, my feeding money and everything. All went to virtual. So i was not able to continue my education, though i remained in school not letting my parents know till this year. Dear reader, from 2014 to date have been the worst years of my life. I stole to play virtual, sold my properties, my clothes, shoes. I became an addict. Even not being a formal student, i still collected money from my parents, school fees and allowance. Everything ends up in virtual house. I could not even buy good clothes.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 7:23am On Jul 08, 2018
I started wearing my friends clothes. Hunger and pains never departed from me. But i kept on playing virtual wasting my life. I sold all my properties to the state where i had just one jeans and few old shirts. Even when i won big amounts, instead of using the money for myself. The next day i will go back to bet shop and loose everything again. All these while, i still go home to take food stuff and money even though i was not a registered student. I was scared to tell my parents of the happenings in my life. My life became useless. I started visiting brothels and going out with my friends to smoke. Dear reader, i have suffered in this life. Some of my friends abandoned me because of the way my life became. I became a laughing stock and deemed worthless. Still i kept on playing. Its like my brain was locked in a bottle. I stole, borrowed money all to gamble in virtual. I spent people's money to gamble. I became a vagabond. All the money being sent to me in school, virtual took

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 7:24am On Jul 08, 2018
The day my life become glaring was in 2017, my friend gave me 30000 to hold for him. He was going for a party. Deep in my mind, i was happy. Before he came back the next day, i rushed to bet shop to play virtual. Dear reader, i lost 20000 out of the money. I didnt sleep in the hostel for two days. I slept at the bus stop at my school maingate. I went back the next day with my remaining 10000 thinking of wining everything back and that was the end. All the money wiped away. Out of shame and embarrassment, i sneaked into the hostel at night few days later after being tired of running. I received the insult of my life that day, but still i never stopped, i continued playing and selling properties. The way i got the money to pay back, only God will forgive me of that. I had to do what i did because my friend threatened to call my parents. I could not stand that. I wish my parents were informed then maybe my life would have been much better now.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 7:25am On Jul 08, 2018
My friends, i became useless. No good clothes, no property, no certificate to hold in the end. While my mates left for class, i go to the virtual store to watch others play. From 2014 till now i stayed in school, 3 years of it was allocated to virtual gambling. 1 year was to hang around chasing girls. I became unpurposeful. I lied to everybody that i was in school while i was not. If i should continue writing, nairaland would not be enough to write what virtual has done to me. My life is useless now, my mates are graduating. All my friends have left the school. So last year, i could not hold on to the lies much longer because final year was fast approaching. What will i say then. So i took the courage and broke the sad news. I am from a very responsible home. I was accepted back in the family. My mother cried so much. She could not believe 4 years of my life wasted. My friend, i almost developed high blood pressure. I started masturbating to relieve my stress but never helped.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by dingbang(m): 7:25am On Jul 08, 2018
Go to opm, doctor Jesus in action will heal you



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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by MANNABBQGRILLS: 7:25am On Jul 08, 2018
Firstly, ignore all negative comments you read here and only take to the ones that will help you.

We want to tell you initially to let your family know.
Good to know to have done that already. 
So after passing your jamb exam, after all the tears from you and mom you still went back to it?
We thought it was going to stop there. 
You are the only one that can help your self here.
Gambling is very very addictive.
Your life is really wasting away as you said.
When you really make up your mind and say I WILL NEVER PLAY VIRTUAL AGAIN or I WILL NEVER ENTER ANY VIRTUAL SHOP AGAIN and you keep to it.
That will be the beginning of you being a new person.
TO STOP IT REALLY DEPEND ON YOU.


GO through this website, it will help you.

https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellor-articles/the-10-most-successful-ways-of-overcoming-gambling-urges


We are glad you have made the decision to quit already.
Anyways, forget about all you have lost in the past, that is the NUMBER ONE thing gambling does to you, (it says, let me recover the money I have lost and I will stop) then the losing streak goes on and on.
Forget all that you have lost in the past and concentrate on the future.
Wish you all the very best.


Once more , MAKE UP YOUR MIND FINALLY AND SAY I WILL.NEVER STEP INTO ANY VIRTUAL SHOP ANYMORE.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 7:26am On Jul 08, 2018
Well, i took last jamb, i passed very
well to the joy of everybody. They thought i was back to being
normal but secretly i was still playing
virtual. Virtual has eaten deep in my blood. All the money i managed to save
before the jamb period while at home
still ended up in virtual. I want to stop but i cant. Fast forward everything to today the
7th of july. I took the money for my
post utme form to play virtual. My heartbeat was felt by the person
close to me when i lost the last kobo i
came with. Till now i have not
stopped thinking, nobody knows. now
i am thinking how to get the money
back. I am a dead man alive. Gambling has eaten deep into my
soul. i am finished. I AM TIRED AND FRUSTRATED,
SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME. I
WANT TO STOP. I WANT TO HAVE MY LIFE BACK
TOGETHER. PLEASE HELP ME IF
YOU HAVE HAD SIMILAR
EXPERIENCE. I AM DYING SLOWLY. I NEED
HELP. TODAY I HAVE PUT A
STOP TO IT. GOD HELP ME.
PLEASE
HOW CAN I QUIT FOREVER

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Nobody: 7:28am On Jul 08, 2018
Very bad of you tongue

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Xtine22(m): 7:31am On Jul 08, 2018
dingbang:
Go to opm, doctor Jesus in action will heal you cheesy
bro, don't give up! continue playing as you may chop 50m one day to recover ur losses.... always play sure game

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by nosiebaba(m): 7:33am On Jul 08, 2018
My guy your life self na virtual. Get close to God since you have realized the damage done. Study your Bible more than regularly so your mindset will reset and you will form new habits.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Tolax17: 7:34am On Jul 08, 2018
It's alarming how many young men are wasting their dear life, resources and time on gambling. You want to earn what you didn't work for. You're a fraud.
Thousands of young men play bets, how many have become millionaires- red flag
I can never pity someone like you. What you planted, you're ripping!

You need rehab

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Nobody: 7:35am On Jul 08, 2018
Gambling is addictive and draining too. Just like drugs .
You could still pull your life back together, it's not the end of the world bro. cry

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Nobody: 7:38am On Jul 08, 2018
You must be a stupid gambler. I gamble in Vegas whenever I spend a weekend there but I stick to my limits.

Anyway why am I wasting my time when you might just be a random scammer. undecided

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Nobody: 7:40am On Jul 08, 2018
Xtine22:

bro, don't give up! continue playing as you may chop 50m one day to recover ur losses.... always play sure game

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 7:40am On Jul 08, 2018
CaptJeffry:
You must be a stupid gambler. I gamble in Vegas whenever I spend a weekend there but I stick to my limits.

Anyway why am I wasting my time when you might just be a random scammer. undecided


seriously bro. You think i am joking. Did i beg you for money. All i need are the recovery processes to get my life back. I am frustrated. Thank you for your understanding

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Nobody: 7:40am On Jul 08, 2018
Cool story cool

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Tonnexy: 7:41am On Jul 08, 2018
You are not alone. The best time to stop is now.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by PamaB(m): 7:42am On Jul 08, 2018
O don't believe this story.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 7:47am On Jul 08, 2018
PLEASE I KNOW ALOT WILL NOT BELIEVE MY STORY. PLEASE IF YOU HAVE BEEN ADDICTED TO VIRTUAL GAMBLING. ONLY THEN WILL YOU UNDERSTAND.

ANYONE WITH SIMILAR EXPERIENCE. PLEASE HOW DID YOU QUIT. WHAT WERE THE RECORVERY PROCESSES YOU USED. I AM FRUSTRATED. I WANT TO QUIT. BUT I KEEP ON CHASING MY LOSSES. PLEASE HELP ME. I WANT TO GET MY LIFE BACK TOGETHER AGAIN. I AM TIRED. PLEASE HELP ME sad SOMEONE ONCE TOLD ME THAT LOSING MONEY WAS NOT THE PROBLEM I THINK I HAVE. THE WAY MY SUBCONSCIOUS MIND AND BRAIN HAS BEEN REWIRED IS THE BIG PROBLEM. TRUTH BE TOLD, I FEEL RESTLESS WHEN I DONT HAVE MONEY TO PLAY.

WHENEVER I AM PLAYING, I GET THIS HIGH LEVEL PEOPLE GET WHEN THEY SMOKE WEED. I FEEL FUELED. THE BIGGER THE AMOUNT I STAKE, THE BIGGER THE THRILLS I GET. HOW CAN THIS BE POSSIBLE. COULD THIS BE THE REAL REASON I AM ADDICTED AND NOT BECAUSE OF MY LOSSES sad

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 7:50am On Jul 08, 2018
DJHANDSOME:
Gambling is addictive and draining too. Just like drugs .
You could still pull your life back together, it's not the end of the world bro. cry
please were you addicted to virtual before. How did you overcome it. I cant stay a minute without thinking about my life and money i have lost. Right now, my heartbeat is above normal. I am so frustrated. Please help me.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by BeingFrank(m): 7:51am On Jul 08, 2018
I understand you very well, you need to pray personally for yourself. Ask your God to help you out that you are weak and falling. Then work on your mindset, start believing that getting N1000 everyday from a sure and more noble way is better than hoping for 50million from a source that has almost ended up ruining your life. Find a skill around you and acquire, be it barbing, IT skills, etc. Put yourself together and realize that what ever choice you make today, will reflect on you tomorrow, and you will be person to bear the consequences most. Pray, work on your mentality, find a skill, discipline yourself. Stop Pitying Yourself, Take Charge.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 7:55am On Jul 08, 2018
Tolax17:
It's alarming how many young men are wasting their dear life, resources and time on gambling. You want to earn what you didn't work for. You're a fraud.
Thousands of young men play bets, how many have become millionaires- red flag
I can never pity someone like you. What you planted, you're ripping!

You need rehab
i deserve all the insults on earth i know sad but i want to quit. I need help. I need recovery processes. I am tired and frustrated. The deed has already been done. I want to get my life back.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by kiddoiLL(m): 7:56am On Jul 08, 2018
stop having money with you, especially big amounts. let any of your family members hold it, yes it looks dumb for an adult but you caused it so be ready to do stuffs...when the thoughts of virtual comes, tell mom or any of your elder ones at home so they'd restrict and hold u back,maybe even lock u up in your room till the thoughts goes down... Remember you're doing everything to be a better man.
Pray a lot, and I don't mean hypocritical prayers or prayers of war, take time out to pour out your soul to God, ask for strength and while doing that make sure to keep reminding yourself all the evil stuffs virtual has made you done, cry if you will.. in that moment of solitude and quietness, you'll come to see that you've really done stuffs and you need to forgive yourself. when d thoughts of virtual comes, ogbeni start discussing with friends or siblings.
U need rehab also, but most of all, teach yourself to always walk past that betting shop when walking and FIND A JOB TO KEEP YOU AWAY FROM HOME AND ALWAYS BUSY!!!

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by latexxbro(m): 8:01am On Jul 08, 2018
I seriously don't know how this becoming addictive to something like this happens but I believe I have control over my life,First of the you have passed the first stage ehichbis to admit you have a problem and the second stage that u want to stop and now the last stage is just simple ,TO STOP.
well maybe whenever you want to goto a virtual house ,Go with a little amount of money,and also really try avoiding going there, Actually most people reason of gambling is for money but tour case seems different because ur parents do give u money...try going there three times a week and reduce the amount of time u spend there....Actually I have a a lot to say but reading advice on line like this doesn't really work on people that are addictive....Maybe try to tell a good friend you trust or make friend with your pastor,I'm sure he will give a better advice....

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Nobody: 8:03am On Jul 08, 2018
At our area...it's called "baby"

It's pronounced "bae-bi"

I have a friend who worked in a bet outlet, he played into debts, he began to use he's bosses sales money.

Loss and debt accumulated to bout 156grand if I'm correct.

From the shop, he took what was left off the money...didn't go home, he went straight to the bus park. Imo state.

He's back in lagos, things be hard for him so bad.

There's a saying amongst them
They'll say "Bae-bi wise pass 3wise men, baebi weh deh 5045(calender year).

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 8:09am On Jul 08, 2018
Xtine22:

bro, don't give up! continue playing as you may chop 50m one day to recover ur losses.... always play sure game
thank you but i am done. Virtual has put my life 5 years behind. I want a new life. I want to quit.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 8:11am On Jul 08, 2018
latexxbro:
I seriously don't know how this becoming addictive to something like this happens but I believe I have control over my life,First of the you have passed the first stage ehichbis to admit you have a problem and the second stage that u want to stop and now the last stage is just simple ,TO STOP.
well maybe whenever you want to goto a virtual house ,Go with a little amount of money,and also really try avoiding going there, Actually most people reason of gambling is for money but tour case seems different because ur parents do give u money...try going there three times a week and reduce the amount of time u spend there....Actually I have a a lot to say but reading advice on line like this doesn't really work on people that are addictive....Maybe try to tell a good friend you trust or make friend with your pastor,I'm sure he will give a better advice....
i cant even tell anybody my situation. I cant stand The look of disappointment on their faces but i want to quit.

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Amthol(m): 8:12am On Jul 08, 2018
Since you are here to tell us your ordeal then you have started the recovery process Congratulations.. I belief you now realized the cost to your Life and you need no one to make you see this. From your comment OP it is obvious you are no longer in control of yourself and hence you need SUPERVISION as you have taken the courage to share your story with Now try and share it with someone that can supervise you may be your parent or anybody you listen to in fact if you leave alone I will recommend you relocate to stay with this person tell the person everything and ensure you also listen to him and every means to access this Virtual betting try and avoid. I wish you the very best in your recovery journey so you can come back here to share your success story. ..... Peace

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Nobody: 8:12am On Jul 08, 2018
The gamble industry is complex but easy.
I live on it belive it or not.


What's the key?

"Know when to walk away"

A bad day is a bad day, the next bet or win won't change it. Walk!

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Fuckyoumod: 8:12am On Jul 08, 2018
Something wey me I see run.....
Na weytin you enter?

Sorry... Better flee oh...

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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by LexngtonSteele: 8:13am On Jul 08, 2018
Gambling and most other forms of addiction are often self-inflicted.

Don't even start otherwise it's a downward spiral.

I know i have bad self-control so i don't even indulge / taste.

Wish you the best in recovering the pieces of your life

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