eyinjuege:


There is a higher purpose to your life than marriage.
Explore that.

Ziggylady:



Dude you are a talkative and a nag

who specialises in blind and silly arguements.

Perhaps to ease off some plethora of frustrations consumming you...

Go buy yourself some brains

and do better things

[quote] with your self instead of withering

ssssaway on this thread.. It is only acute imbecility and mega joblessness that will make a grown-ass male adult like you spend hours

and days replying

and quoting every single stranger on something he is too stuppid to realise is a futile effort...

1)because his points are baseless and lacks the minimal intelligence,just pure incoherent rants like a lunatic because of gender bias

2)Clearly a minority opinion.

I have no problem with jobless trolls on a faceless forum constituting nuisance in the name of 'educating' their ancestors when they are clearly in need of education themselves..it is the sane minds here replying jobless and idle trolls like you i blame.

You can continue with your shameless dance of the absurd here,but i have made my point...Adios!

Yagazie2016:

Are you the op?
If not, then you threw the first stones. Check well oga.

Gloriagee:
Please be specific on if it was the client or co worker or both u hugged? That must have been some hug? Or maybe, just maybe it was your friend with benefit?

I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

Rocktation:
This your true story reinstates your wife's version. You really do have pride for Africa. 10 bucks says you really would've kicked her to the curb, if the property wasn't in her name. Your vexation is too much. You want to Transfer and Separate at the same time...only you.. and for what? Because her retort hurt your pride, when you think your asking her to leave her marital home, is like bird humming in summer, abi? Calm down, Sir, collect yourself. Forget all those quotations from God knows who, insinuating that women maketh a home, solely. Both partners are accountable for whatever goes on. Be a good husband now and be really open for peace. Persuade your wife to include your name in the documents, which is more than fair, as your money was not used and NEVER make such disparaging requests again like asking your wife to leave your house, ever again...no matter how ticklish your funny bone gets.

LaudableXX:

That 11 year old lacks good manners, and has been badly trained. How can you speak to your own mother like that? If his dad falls ill tomorrow, or looses his wealth, and the mother turns into the breadwinner of the family, what would the child say? Someone has been filling that child's ears with rubbish talk, and he deserves to be punished. When elders are talking, 11 year olds are not allowed to put their mouths in it. Nansense!

GoodFaith:
She is just 11 year old smart little girl
That try to make it clear to her mom that money is not everything

LaudableXX:

No sir. She is not smart. She is just rude & insolent. Children need to be taught good manners and discretion from a very early age, so that they do not put their parents to shame.

GoodFaith:
She has great manner, and she is culture to speak up
That is part of her parents values

LaudableXX:

For her to have used such words to address her mother, it shows she does NOT have great manners. No child with great manners would say such things to their parents, or to elders. And yes, children can be 'cultured' to speak up, but they must be taught to speak politely and respectfully, and not just speak rudely or utter garbage to those older than them.

GoodFaith:
You need to know that the parents will not take nonsense from her
she can always feel free to speak her mind respectfully
Good and loving little girl

LaudableXX:

Oga, you are free to continue defending her bad behaviour. But in my own book, any 11 year old girl, who tells her mother "nobody cares about your money," is rude, insolent and ungrateful. The mother must have worked hard to earn whatever little amount she gets, and the daughter cannot appreciate her hardwork and efforts. If the parents continue to indulge her thoughtless, mannerless comments, thinking she is 'smart,' they will have themselves to blame. Bad behaviour in children should not be excused under any guise. But it is your call. You are free to continue making excuses for her lack of respect.

GoodFaith:
The little girl know how the parents work hard for their money
The little girl one told the father, Dad you work too hard go buy yourself a BMW or mercedes benz Dad
her mom drive a Porsche
she is not ungrateful but bless

GoodFaith:
In life money is not everything that was what she was trying to say to her mom

GoodFaith:
You have your views and I have my views
we can agree to disagree respectfully
without calling names
You talk about being respectfully
Now you are getting disrespectful
Go play

spongeisback:

Of course! How can he even say "he didn't know the property wasn't in his name" did he sign any documents?
He was looking for a free ride since he believes women are responsible for building 99% of the home, I wonder why his mother or sisters didn't build his father's house.

MIKOLOWISKA:
you better confess if prick de hungry you

Na wa o

Na me dem de investigate like dis

Dem no get argument so na to sidetrack go off point

appsdope:
Oh extra extra so she just started insulting you. She said the same thing as you. You both had an argument and you asked her to leave. although she didn't go into details. Bad mouth is the nearest synonym to women and I knew from the onset that she said a lot of nasty things. My ex girlfriend insulted me to the extent that she told me that my father was born out of wedlock. I never told her that o and I didnt know but Somehow she knew.
By the way since when did get the hell out of my house become a joke? How will we know if you meant it? She bought the land and started the project so how on earth are you supposed to own the property? The house shouldn't be in your name in the first place. The property is hers. Rent an apartment and move your family that's if you still want the marriage. As for the house, it belongs to her. Go and build your own. As for me, I cant stay in a house where a woman bought even the spoon. Because when you use that spoon to eat and there is an issue, she will tell you how that spoon she bought has been saving your life forgetting that you bought every other thing.

Rocktation:
This your true story reinstates your wife's version. You really do have pride for Africa. 10 bucks says you really would've kicked her to the curb, if the property wasn't in her name. Your vexation is too much. You want to Transfer and Separate at the same time...only you.. and for what? Because her retort hurt your pride, when you think your asking her to leave her marital home, is like bird humming in summer, abi? Calm down, Sir, collect yourself. Forget all those quotations from God knows who, insinuating that women maketh a home, solely. Both partners are accountable for whatever goes on. Be a good husband now and be really open for peace. Persuade your wife to include your name in the documents, which is more than fair, as your money was not used and NEVER make such disparaging requests again like asking your wife to leave your house, ever again...no matter how ticklish your funny bone gets.

HEseesall:
The property only is in my name but we built it together

ExtraExtra:
back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank. .

yettymuse:
.you must think the next woman is made in heaven yea?? If you think there is any fish remaining in life's ocean, Oga na abolo fish remain. Drop your bleeping ego and go back to your woman! Your kind of man makes it difficult for a woman to thrive and be successful staying married!..

Who jokes with "pack your bags and get out of my house"? [b]Your balls were crushed and splashed all over the place [/b]when you got the shocker of your life...when the damn table was turned.

Tueh!!! Double Tueh on you! Look at you coming here to counter a thread! You need this woman to fix a lotta ish in your life mehn! You have a woman that understands what owning a property means and you want to let her go because of your stupid selfish interests I pity you because you go pay
rent till you die!... You think say one hand dey clap make anybody hear? Olorigbigbe!

Nonsense and stupid pride... Arggghhhhhh!

MIKOLOWISKA:
your mates have husband. You have money and unhappy life

appsdope:
Oh extra extra so she just started insulting you. She said the same thing as you. You both had an argument and you asked her to leave. although she didn't go into details. Bad mouth is the nearest synonym to women and I knew from the onset that she said a lot of nasty things. My ex girlfriend insulted me to the extent that she told me that my father was born out of wedlock. I never told her that o and I didnt know but Somehow she knew.
By the way since when did get the hell out of my house become a joke? How will we know if you meant it? She bought the land and started the project so how on earth are you supposed to own the property? The house shouldn't be in your name in the first place. The property is hers. Rent an apartment and move your family that's if you still want the marriage. As for the house, it belongs to her. Go and build your own. As for me, I cant stay in a house where a woman bought even the spoon. Because when you use that spoon to eat and there is an issue, she will tell you how that spoon she bought has been saving your life forgetting that you bought every other thing.

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

biterkola:
@ujujoan2

Just to say that as long as your name isn't on the deeds,you have no claim to the property in a court of law.This is nigeria

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.