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When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Toks2008(m): 10:50pm On Jul 21
There is nothing as painful and as embarrassing as rejection especially from someone you strongly desire...some find it difficult to cope with rejection and they tend to see themselves as inferior to whoever rejects them....some will start asking themselves questions like "was it my behaviour?,or what i said..could it be because I'm not fluent or the way I dress...but it has nothing to do with all these....that person may still reject you even at your best.

But as painful as it may appear I believe this is perfectly normal and should not be a reason for anyone to feel bad or insecure in anyway.

The truth of the matter is that everyone out there has a preference and this does not mean you are less better than who they want.

Some ladies can't stand a short guy,And some don't mind at all...some ladies love dark guys and some can do anything to be with a fair complexioned guy...some ladies only date men with very wide age gap while some can't date any guy beyond their age group.ladies just love crazy things about guys like beards,bow leg,pink lips,six pack,stammering,shyness,financial stability and so on and if you don't fit in there is absolutely nothing you can do than to try your luck somewhere else rather than making it a do or die thing.

As a lady,You are beautiful in your own unique way but that guy you so much desire might not even bother his head about you just because you are not what he wants...

Some guys love booty while some love tits...some love them big while some can die for a petite lady...some don't mind single mums while some guys can't date such....and the list goes on...

The epitome of this write up is to let you know that no matter how you look,no matter your condition or situation,you are not just going to be what some people want and at the same time,you are exactly what some people out there are praying and hoping for and the fact that you are rejected by someone does not mean thousands out there don't want someone like you.

It's all about preference....


Hope this makes sense.

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by victorian(f): 11:00pm On Jul 21
Exactly! Just lick your wounds and move on. There is always someone out there praying, even fasting on top sef and hoping to cross paths with the rejected guy or lady.
Such is life.

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by joyberry(f): 11:02pm On Jul 21
Nice write up,i just hope some vain,insecure people will adhere to it.You see some guys or ladies go beserk ,whenever someone turns them down bases on their preference ,forgetting we all have individual preferences and wants.

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Nobody: 11:11pm On Jul 21
Toks2008 please I will borrow your first and second paragraph for twitter.

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Toks2008(m): 11:16pm On Jul 21
DonPiiko:
Toks2008 please I will borrow your first and second paragraph for twitter.

You are free.

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by ibkayee(f): 11:23pm On Jul 21
Lol uncle Toks

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by purem(m): 11:23pm On Jul 21
It's would've make sense only if you tell us what really happened

I think someone just rejected you simply because you're ugly

Or maybe becauseyou have a short diick

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by kimbraa(f): 11:25pm On Jul 21
Please, is there any man/woman above 18 who doesn't know what op just said already? If yes, then you need some growing up to do. grin

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by donstan18(m): 11:26pm On Jul 21
D

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by donstan18(m): 11:27pm On Jul 21
cheesy
Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by babyfaceafrica: 11:38pm On Jul 21
what will be will be

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Toks2008(m): 11:39pm On Jul 21
purem:
It's would've make sense only if you tell us what really happened

I think someone just rejected you simply because you're ugly

Or maybe becauseyou have a short diick

Actually it's the other way round.. And they usually get so pissed with me...

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Toks2008(m): 11:41pm On Jul 21
kimbraa:
Please, is there any man/woman above 18 who doesn't know what op just said already? If yes, then you need some growing up to do. grin

Oversabi...I T K...olodo

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by purem(m): 11:43pm On Jul 21
Toks2008:


Actually it's the other way round.. And they usually get so pissed with me...


Kuku tell us, u cannot perform Wella in bed.....

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by youcanmakeit: 11:45pm On Jul 21
Nice writeup. When interacting with a guy or lady you are interested in, it's advisable to be your real self. If you display any fake ass behaviour in order to impress her/him, you'll regret it on the long-run..

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Toks2008(m): 11:45pm On Jul 21
purem:



Kuku tell us, u cannot perform Wella in bed.....

So that is all there is to life abi...omode n se e.

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by purem(m): 11:48pm On Jul 21
kimbraa:
Please, is there any man/woman above 18 who doesn't know what op just said already? If yes, then you need some growing up to do. grin

Someone just crushed the OP's self esteem and instead of him to share the story and laugh it off and get some advice, he decided to advise us

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by kimbraa(f): 11:51pm On Jul 21
Toks2008:


Oversabi...I T K...olodo
SHM, modify your comment again. Just maybe one will get to me. tongue
Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by purem(m): 11:52pm On Jul 21
Toks2008:


So that is all there is to life abi...omode n se e.


Bro I tell u it is

If someone crushed your sex life it is like telling you're broke

Life is MONEY and SEX

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Toks2008(m): 11:53pm On Jul 21
purem:


Someone just crushed the OP's self esteem and instead of him to share the story and laugh it off and get some advice, he decided to advise us

You still have some growing up to do...im a creative free lance writer and 99% of what I write has no correlation with my persona or life experience...

Apparently every movie writer writes about their lives...odensin.

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Toks2008(m): 11:57pm On Jul 21
kimbraa:
SHM, modify your comment again. Just maybe one will get to me. tongue

Lol! Actually I'm in a jolly mood so I chose to respond to you cos I don't waste time responding such comments so don't start feeling too important.

Go to bed dearie.you will get the likes you want tomorrow.

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by purem(m): 11:59pm On Jul 21
Toks2008:


You still have some growing up to do...im a creative free lance writer and 99% of what I write has no correlation with my persona or life experience...

Apparently every movie writer writes about their lives...odensin.


Of course you're a freelance writer as you've claim to be but to every story and every movie or deep song there's a reason behind it

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by kimbraa(f): 12:01am On Jul 22
Toks2008:


Lol! Actually I'm in a jolly mood so I chose to respond to you cos I don't waste time responding such comments so don't start feeling too important.

Go to bed dearie.you will get the likes you want tomorrow.
LMAO. cheesy grin
Will the "Likes" increase my bank account? I just felt that evey adult should know what you wrote of, and if any needed to be told, then that person is probably immature. Goodnight.

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Betakeshi: 3:40am On Jul 22
Ok
Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by pansophist(m): 6:47am On Jul 22
youcanmakeit:
Nice writeup. When interacting with a guy or lady you are interested in, it's advisable to be your real self. If you display any fake ass behaviour in order to impress her/him, you'll regret it on the long-run..

Actually, to impress a lady, you should be taller than her, handsome, nicely built, less than 12% body fat, well-trimmed and the best version you can achieve with your looks. It also helps if you are above her in social status cool

Ever heard of the ''halo effect''? I will tell you a secret. People (specifically women), do not say you are nice because you truly are, but because they like you and needs to project a good personality on you. Attracting a partner is something doable. Evolutionary biology has predefined guidelines on what is deemed attractive, try to learn, understand and achieve it. Being confident, nice shoes, positive are all complimentary but ultimately, the guy that embodies what I describe above get the girls. Go be handsome grin

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Toks2008(m): 10:36am On Jul 22
pansophist:


Actually, to impress a lady, you should be taller than her, handsome, nicely built, less than 12% body fat, well-trimmed and the best version you can achieve with your looks. It also helps if you are above her in social status cool

Ever heard of the ''halo effect''? I will tell you a secret. People (specifically women), do not say you are nice because you truly are, but because they like you and needs to project a good personality on you. Attracting a partner is something doable. Evolutionary biology has predefined guidelines on what is deemed attractive, try to learn, understand and achieve it. Being confident, nice shoes, positive are all complimentary but ultimately, the guy that embodies what I describe above get the girls. Go be handsome grin

This is exactly the point im driving at...do you know that some ladies will still find a guy with the aforementioned qualities unattractive?...but if such a guy is rejected he may start acting cocky because to him,he has all it takes to make any lady fall so why da fvk should any lady reject him......


Same goes for a lady...have you ever heard a supposedly hot lady rant about rejection before?...you will hear words like..."what again is he looking for,..im hot..i have front and back...im pretty but it is that stupid shapeless lady he is running after...bla bla bla"

But as I wrote,it's all about preference.

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by pansophist(m): 10:50am On Jul 22
Toks2008:


This is exactly the point im driving at...do you know that some ladies will still find a guy with the aforementioned qualities unattractive?...but if such a guy is rejected he may start acting cocky because to him,he has all it takes to make any lady fall so why da fvk should any lady reject him......


Same goes for a lady...have you ever heard a supposedly hot lady rant about rejection before?...you will hear words like..."what again is he looking for,..im hot..i have front and back...im pretty but it is that stupid shapeless lady he is running after...bla bla bla"

But as I wrote,it's all about preference.

True. Additionally to the aforementioned, it is necessary to spotlight that our preferences to good looking partners have an evolutionary basis. Imagine a world where the ugliest, shortest, poorest get the girls. It simply means that such genes will be passed down the next generation and the human race will just get weaker and withers away.

Beautiful parents produce beautiful children. A billionaire is more likely to be produce from Dangote’s testicles than from a shoe cobbler. Humans tend to ignore our harsh biological predisposition but it’s what it is. Survival of the fittest baby cool

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Toks2008(m): 11:02am On Jul 22
pansophist:


True. Additionally to the aforementioned, it is necessary to spotlight that our preferences to good looking partners have an evolutionary basis. Imagine a world where the ugliest, shortest, poorest get the girls. It simply means that such genes will be passed down the next generation and the human race will just get weaker and withers away.

Beautiful parents produce beautiful children. A billionaire is more likely to be produce from Dangote’s testicles than from a shoe cobbler. Humans tend to ignore our harsh biological predisposition but it’s what it is. Survival of the fittest baby cool

Nevertheless a lady whose preference is wealth will rather be with an ugly fat short guy with enough money to give her than be with a super drop dead gorgeous broke guy...nah still preference...

For me I find it weired that I don't care if a lady is pretty or not...just have that curve I want and im all yours even if your face is very ugly...that is a preference so you can imagine how a very pretty lady with pako body will feel if I reject her...

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by pansophist(m): 11:21am On Jul 22
Toks2008:


Nevertheless a lady whose preference is wealth will rather be with an ugly fat short guy with enough money to give her than be with a super drop dead gorgeous broke guy...nah still preference...

For me I find it weired that I don't care if a lady is pretty or not...just have that curve I want and im all yours even if your face is very ugly...that is a preference so you can imagine how a very pretty lady with pako body will feel if I reject her...

Of course, and the reason is simple.

Women wants security, protection and a provider. In the olden days, the warriors, strong hunters etc gets the best girls. It was a right of passage for men at those times. Right now, things have changed. A rich man will easily buy all of the above, and given the hypergamous nature of the female, such men are attractive in her eyes regardless of how he looks. To be able to fulfill a woman infinite material desires is something most men can’t meet hence, it’s difficult to ignore a rich unattractive man. There is no such thing as an unattractive rich man.

Furthermore, the reason why you’re attracted to women with curves is because attraction for men is based on youthfulness and fertility. A curvaceous woman are biological clue for fertility and youthful woman gives clue that she can conceive healthy children. That’s also a reason why people consider a woman above 30 a cargo.

So there you are, you’re obviously expressing your evolutionary hardwiring

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Re: When Who You Want Does Not Want You. by Toks2008(m): 11:28am On Jul 22
pansophist:


Of course, and the reason is simple.

Women wants security, protection and a provider. In the olden days, the warriors, strong hunters etc gets the best girls. It was a right of passage for men at those times. Right now, things have changed. A rich man will easily buy all of the above, and given the hypergamous nature of the female, such men are attractive in her eyes regardless of how he looks. To be able to fulfill a woman infinite material desires is something most men can’t meet hence, it’s difficult to ignore a rich unattractive man. There is no such thing as an unattractive rich man.

Furthermore, the reason why you’re attracted to women with curves is because attraction for men is based on youthfulness and fertility. A curvaceous woman are biological clue for fertility and youthful woman gives clue that she can conceive healthy children. That’s also a reason why people consider a woman above 30 a cargo.

So there you are, you’re obviously expressing your evolutionary hardwiring

Bobo yii ma se iwe...see analysis Lol! You try...

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