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Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by beinstein(m): 12:03am On Aug 07, 2018 |
Jamean:I'll quote you until you start thinking rationally. The girl was bundled out of her father's house and handed over to the mother in church, hence she was rejected. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by beinstein(m): 12:06am On Aug 07, 2018 |
revolt:But you're sure op is buoyant enough to take care of her right? Nice logic. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by karika2018: 12:24am On Aug 07, 2018 |
that child could become great tomorrow...pls take her |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 12:52am On Aug 07, 2018 |
remioshy:Beautiful! What an inspiring testimony...I salute you, sister! They don't make good men like your husband, anymore. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 12:54am On Aug 07, 2018 |
Elder001:Where did you hear that one?? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 12:57am On Aug 07, 2018 |
perfectedmee:Correct guy! Abeg, chop knuckle my man! 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 1:04am On Aug 07, 2018 |
Elder001: Which truer words? If a man has children outside wedlock before he got married, and he is upfront about it during courtship, most women would accept the child. In fact, a wise man would wait to see how his kids interact with his new babe, before he proposes marriage to her. The only time most women have a problem accepting a man's kids, is if he goes outside to play an away match after they are married, and that affair resulted in a child, whose existence he concealed from his wife, despite the fact that they both stay under the same roof! By the time the wife eventually finds out and the shiit hits the fan, trust me - she would refuse to let the man's away kids into her house out of anger, simply because he cheated on her. Women who grew up in polygamous homes, (or in a muslim setting however), seem to be able to cope better with such things. In the North, a lot of women will accept a man's kids who were born, before they got married to such a man. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 1:06am On Aug 07, 2018 |
revolt:He did not enter one chance. He knew about the woman's child, long before he married her. He could have chosen to walk away from her then, if he did not want anything to do with her past baggage. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by baby124: 3:43am On Aug 07, 2018 |
foolbuster:I advocate for all children to be with their mums when they are still really young. The boys should be raised by their fathers when they are teenagers. Trust me it’s very difficult for a woman to raise a boy child without a good fatherly influence. It’s only the grace of God! I also advocate that girls should stay with their mothers when they approach puberty. So many changes in a female child’s body that only a mother or a caring female family member can help her through! I did not marry a baby daddy, in fact I consciously avoided it because that life was not for me. If I married one I would love his kids because I knew what I was getting into like the OP. If they need a place to stay, I cannot turn them away. The fact is OP’s wife is an irresponsible mother. She abandoned her child with the father so that she can get married. In fact she married a man that did not want to see her child or love her child! 7yrs! A mother left her child with the father for 7yrs! Not even a holiday with her child. She had had 7yrs of not being bothered by the child’s presence in her matrimonial home. Don’t you think her baby daddy also deserves that courtesy she enjoyed as well as a newly married man? Or you think his wife did not observe that her own mother saw her as an inconvenience and is enjoying her life like the daughter does not exist. Why blame New wifey for putting her foot down and also demanding the freedom in her new home that the OP and wife enjoyed for 7yrs? The OP must carry his cross. He married her mum, the little girl is a packaged deal. He cannot wish her away, neither can he adopt her. He should meet her father for proper agreements on financial decisions on the child. They should also leave grandma out of this. Grandma did not ask all of them to enter the situation they found themselves. Grandma should be living out her last days in peace and enjoying her life on her own terms. Not cleaning up the mess of 4 idiots who think marriage and bring a parent is a fairytale. How can someone suffer to raise their kids in their young age then suffer in old age to raise a baby! They should take care of their responsibilities. Marriage is not a joke and should not be entered into with crazy expectations as expecting your spouse to abandon their family and children for you! It should also never be entered into with assumptions or beliefs that you can handle something that clearly is not for you! 4 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by kapelvej: 6:15am On Aug 07, 2018 |
revolt:I feel you bro, trust me. This is one side of the story. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 6:28am On Aug 07, 2018 |
beinstein:no i clearly stated here op has no biz caring for another mans child. He probably doesn't even know if his wife had been telling the truth all the while ie the child had been wth the dad for 7 yrs. Tke note ..the child is 7. So the man's been wt the child from birth. Ive nvr hrd tht b4 |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 6:29am On Aug 07, 2018 |
karika2018:the child could equally become a torn on their flesh...so 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 6:30am On Aug 07, 2018 |
LaudableXX:mtchweee fke story. Well wizkid get private jet.. its social media |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 6:37am On Aug 07, 2018 |
LaudableXX:stop spewing wt u dnt know maam. Women hardly accept the mans kid except theyre big..they only manage because they cnt do nyfin. After all the mans paying the bills. Show me a woman tht can spnd on anoda womans child. If the mans broke. Never. Even to spend on her man hell pay 3 folds in future tlkless of a child she no born |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by zolajpower: 8:11am On Aug 07, 2018 |
freddaboh:Spokesman ,show ur boss this.......maybe this will soften his heart a bit.
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Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 9:00am On Aug 07, 2018 |
LaudableXX: In the matrimonial causes act only people who were formerly married can ask for child support. A baby mama can't sue for child support in Nigeria because there's no evidence of marriage. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 9:01am On Aug 07, 2018 |
revolt: Stop replying that individual. He/she lacks foresight. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by beinstein(m): 9:10am On Aug 07, 2018 |
revolt:OK cool. Only baby mamas, jambites and unemployed folks that know nothing about responsibilities that are trying to force the girl down op's throat. Believe me, this is the end of this marriage. I'm sure he now understand why his family were against him marrying her in the first place. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 10:20am On Aug 07, 2018 |
beinstein:true talk. Unfortunate her past is destroying the home. Very unfortunate situation. The father shd simpky tke care of his child. Dead beat guy 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by SexytorresE(f): 10:49am On Aug 07, 2018 |
Only in Nigeria people sees it as big deal. Once u married a woman with a child, it means u are now the step dad. If it were A celebrity u got married to wit a child, u won't mind all this. SMH |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 11:52am On Aug 07, 2018 |
SexytorresE:which celebrity babymama don marry with the pikin? Abeggy |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Moji12(f): 1:17pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
True talk as simple as ABC......
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Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by lielbree: 1:22pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
revolt: Your comments is distorted pls! The man entered one chance ? How?? Was he not aware of the child?? He owes the child no obligation?? What?? Is he not married to her mother?? Why can't the child live with her mother? Especially when she is to cater for her? The man is heartless! I'm a step mother! So I know exactly what's I'm talking about! Imagine if I asked my husband to send his child away!!! God forbid evil. For your information there is no such thing as an illegitimate child in Nigeria family law! All child whether in or out of wedlock are equal. But you sef, where do u want the child to live |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by perfectedmee: 1:31pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
revolt:The poor child doesn't deserve what coming 4 him? Seriously? Do you prefer he grows up in grand parents home or a home with n actual family and a father figure? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by SexytorresE(f): 1:32pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
revolt:close up there |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 1:33pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
lielbree: If you can blame the OP for rejecting the child then what will you say about the idiot who rejected his own blood? and probably his wife who deceived him into returning the child? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by perfectedmee: 1:33pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
lielbree:Am crushing on you right now. Gud one there. 2gether we can make this backward Africa a better place. Kudos 2 u. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 3:47pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
lielbree:all you liberals and politicaly correct people.....face reality. Youre a stepmum suddenly...na so. Just to buttress this scenario. Anyways he who comes to equity must come with clean hands. The childs father should be compelled to care for the child. The poor guy has no biz in her past. When he got married he made vows to his wife and vice versa...he ddnt make vows to she and her child. She should either find a way to beg him or lure him to accept the child but if his happiness is shattered then the marriage is wrecked. So uts either she moves on. Wheres the fathers parents. Relatives etc sef? This story has too many loopholes. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by pweetyphola(f): 3:49pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
Aquariann: Hell no! She definitely had a choice. The world does not start and ends with having a husband. Its African mentality that your success depends on having a husband at play here. I don't care what the father does, he's a man after all with society given entitlements whether misplaced or not. I repeat she should have waited to het |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 3:53pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
perfectedmee:science is wht makes societiesbetter not men training other kids. Matter of fact thats what destroys societies. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 3:55pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
perfectedmee:a father figure that doesnt want to play that role is worse for the child. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 3:59pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
pweetyphola:u ppl make it look like its african ...abegggy.. why are oyibo women descending so low to marry poor men from 3rd world countries (70%) of them get conned but the trend still increases. Please spare me that bs. Woman naturally want a committed relationship..somehow its very important for every woman. |
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