sunshineyellow:

I don't like commenting o. I got angry when I saw the after one comment. But your comment calmed me down.
Chai. Africans o, you marry you no quick get belle, they call u barren and names, you carry belle born out of wedluck b4 marriage even born for your husband, they still call you after one.
Useless mentality aswear.
99.9% of ladies av gotten preg in one or two occasion but na who born her own we know.
How can a person hate a woman cox she has a child outside b4 marriage.? Honestly it baffles me.
And Op is falling for such shit.
Chai.

Elder001:


Under Nigerian law only married couples who got divorced can ask for child support.

remioshy:


Yoruba proverbs says “ Eni to bini, ko to Enito wo ni dagba ”

busayo2uk:
This is really a complicated issue as some people said you should adopt the child. How can you adopt a child that is not thrown away? Did the father said he does not want the child again? so what will be the basis for adoption?

You have only two options:
(1) Accept the child and be ready to be fair and you should know that it will involve school fees. And be ready to tolerate the fact that the father will always request to see the child once in a while.

(2) If you know that you may not be fair or you wont be able to take the burden of school fees when the need arises, please reject. It is better than keep a child that will grow up to hate u.

baby124:



The fact is OP’s wife is an irresponsible mother. She abandoned her child with the father so that she can get married. In fact she married a man that did not want to see her child or love her child! 7yrs! A mother left her child with the father for 7yrs! Not even a holiday with her child. She had had 7yrs of not being bothered by the child’s presence in her matrimonial home. Don’t you think her baby daddy also deserves that courtesy she enjoyed as well as a newly married man? Or you think his wife did not observe that her own mother saw her as an inconvenience and is enjoying her life like the daughter does not exist.

revolt:
mtchweee fke story. Well wizkid get private jet.. its social media

TheCongo2:


Com'on...
From op' s post, op's wife left the child with the biological father. This doesn't neccessary mean op's wife never saw or spent time with the child again. Where did you get that from? How did you come to the conclusion she never spent a holiday with the child?

baby124:

Has that child ever spent a day in the OP’s house since he married her mother? So where will the child find the time to spend holiday with her mum and younger siblings genius? OP has been married to the woman for at least 4yrs. A mother that can leave her toddler and agree to the OP’s terms is no angel.

revolt:
all you liberals and politicaly correct people.....face reality. Youre a stepmum suddenly...na so. Just to buttress this scenario. Anyways he who comes to equity must come with clean hands. The childs father should be compelled to care for the child. The poor guy has no biz in her past. When he got married he made vows to his wife and vice versa...he ddnt make vows to she and her child. She should either find a way to beg him or lure him to accept the child but if his happiness is shattered then the marriage is wrecked. So uts either she moves on. Wheres the fathers parents. Relatives etc sef? This story has too many loopholes.

dingbang:
the man who has abandoned his child doesn't need blame again but his punishment awaits him in heaven.

BiggyB242:


The truth is bitter, when they are of age they will always want to be with their real father. Blood is thicker than water.

funmisticqueen:
that happens mostly with boys

sunshineyellow:

I don't like commenting o. I got angry when I saw the after one comment. But your comment calmed me down.
Chai. Africans o, you marry you no quick get belle, they call u barren and names, you carry belle born out of wedluck b4 marriage even born for your husband, they still call you after one.
Useless mentality aswear.
99.9% of ladies av gotten preg in one or two occasion but na who born her own we know.
How can a person hate a woman cox she has a child outside b4 marriage.? Honestly it baffles me.
And Op is falling for such shit.
Chai.

revolt:
For those abusing the op ....u can contact op n adopt tge child. Bloody hypocrites. Even the ladies advising bs here wnt evn let their brodas msrry single parents.....mtchweee

foolbuster:


Oga did you say 99.9% please where did you get that data from. So because some women give birth before marriage does that make it right? Or the fact that all the women you know have bastards therefore you generalise. Please stop encouraging moral decadence with this type of stupid comment. You are better off not commenting.

GraceBestowed:
Wow!! I know I’m late to the party but I had to just say this. I don’t understand how parents can toss their child to and fro for the sake of ‘convenience’. I also think it’s super selfish that you said ‘don’t bring a child that’s not mine to my house’. Really??

I pray that little child doesn’t grow up with feelings of rejection and resentment towards her parents. You have the opportunity to affect a young child’s life positively. A wise man would jump at that opportunity.

MizMyColi:


It is well o.

My simple question for him is...

Oga, if na you, nko?

MizMyColi:


It is well o.

My simple question for him is...

Oga, if na you, nko?

Whobedatte:

Aunty, where have you been?
Missed your inputs on this forum
Your mental sagacity is TUALE

revolt:
For those abusing the op ....u can contact op n adopt tge child. Bloody hypocrites. Even the ladies advising bs here wnt evn let their brodas msrry single parents.....mtchweee

dominique:



It's this kind of generalization that I hate, you don't know someone from Adam yet you'll be drawing ridiculous conclusions about them. Single parenthood is not a disease neither is it a crime. The single parents deserve to find love too. However, if a person gets into a relationship with a single parent yet wants nothing to do with the child(ren), then he should never have entered such relationship.


If I marry my husband fully aware that he has a child somewhere then he offers to bring in the child at some point but i start resisting. I'm not only evil, I'm stupid as well. In a situation where a child's parents are no longer together, joint custody of the child should be put in place. The Op's wife has not had custody of her daughter in at least five years and he expects it to continue like that? He's not only heartless, he's incredibly stupid as well.

abdabass:
My dear brother,
Please, allow the lady into your home for the sake of your wife considering all the remarks you've given her. The lady is going to be of immense assistance to your wife (her mother) and your twin children. You may at the end of the day like/love her just as you love your children.
You may want to streamline your spending on her with a concrete agreement if that is your fear. That is make a note that her father must take care of her school fees and clothing 100% and without any stress to you and your home.
Best regards.

revolt:
stop spewing wt u dnt know maam. Women hardly accept the mans kid except theyre big..they only manage because they cnt do nyfin. After all the mans paying the bills. Show me a woman tht can spnd on anoda womans child. If the mans broke. Never. Even to spend on her man hell pay 3 folds in future tlkless of a child she no born

revolt:
mtchweee fke story. Well wizkid get private jet.. its social media

GraceBestowed:
Wow!! I know I’m late to the party but I had to just say this. I don’t understand how parents can toss their child to and fro for the sake of ‘convenience’. I also think it’s super selfish that you said ‘don’t bring a child that’s not mine to my house’. Really??

I pray that little child doesn’t grow up with feelings of rejection and resentment towards her parents. You have the opportunity to affect a young child’s life positively. A wise man would jump at that opportunity.

InvertedHammer:

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I believe that you are naturally wicked.

Are you telling me that you cannot train another person's child? But in this case, a child of your present wife. I cannot believe what I just read. A girl needs her mother to guide her through teenage years. I guess you already know what the future holds for you. You think you are better than those families that get wiped out in a single accident? I wish there is a way around it because I will advise your wife not to bring the girl close to a devil like you because you fit the profile of someone who will kill or maim a step-child with the level of hatred in your soul.

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