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Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Humblesam(m): 4:33pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
sunshineyellow: Abeg no vex...calm down please. It's quite unfortunate that some of us grow up living our lives to please others. Personally, I don't care what people think or like about me,I only think about what is right and is worth doing as long as am comfortable with it. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by TheCongo2: 4:42pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
Elder001: Seriously ? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by TheCongo2: 4:46pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
remioshy: What does it mean? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by TheCongo2: 4:58pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
busayo2uk: One of the best advises on the thread. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by TheCongo2: 5:23pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
baby124: Com'on... From op' s post, op's wife left the child with the biological father. This doesn't neccessary mean op's wife never saw or spent time with the child again. Where did you get that from? How did you come to the conclusion she never spent a holiday with the child? 4 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by TheCongo2: 5:26pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
revolt: And how do you know the story is fake? Is it because this is social media that every story should be deemed fake? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by baby124: 5:29pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
TheCongo2:Has that child ever spent a day in the OP’s house since he married her mother? So where will the child find the time to spend holiday with her mum and younger siblings genius? OP has been married to the woman for at least 4yrs. A mother that can leave her toddler and agree to the OP’s terms is no angel. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by TheCongo2: 5:55pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
baby124: Nothing in his post indicates whether or not the child has never spent time in Op's house. In essence I can summarize op's post as follows: When op first met his wife, she had already a child. And op was aware of the existence of the child who was living with the biological father. The biological father is now married. Given this fact, the biological father wants op's wife to have custody of the child who is now 7 to op's objection. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by lielbree: 6:32pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
revolt:What has the fathers parents and relatives got to do with it? Marriage is between a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others. This man is heartless if he can't accept the wives daughter. Nigerian men and double standards. If it were a woman rejecting her step child like this you would call her all sorts of names! And yes, I am a step mother and I used myself as an illustration to buttress my point. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Afamed: 6:38pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
dingbang:So its the man who knew nothing when the girl was conceived that should be crucified 5 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by duduade: 7:18pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
People should stop wasting their time on the OP... All he does is Betting... Why will he not want to take her into his home when all he does is waste the little he has 4 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 9:46pm On Aug 07, 2018 |
For those abusing the op ....u can contact op n adopt tge child. Bloody hypocrites. Even the ladies advising bs here wnt evn let their brodas msrry single parents.....mtchweee 3 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 7:12am On Aug 08, 2018 |
BiggyB242:that happens mostly with boys |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 8:05am On Aug 08, 2018 |
funmisticqueen: Both boys and girls my friend, reason I won't get married to a single mother. I won't have the stomach to neglect the child but I will be hurt if he/she goes back to his father after I have done all the work, though everyone will say you did it for God, but definitely will avoid such situation. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by foolbuster: 9:25am On Aug 08, 2018 |
sunshineyellow: Oga did you say 99.9% please where did you get that data from. So because some women give birth before marriage does that make it right? Or the fact that all the women you know have bastards therefore you generalise. Please stop encouraging moral decadence with this type of stupid comment. You are better off not commenting. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Sterope(f): 9:40am On Aug 08, 2018 |
But he has married her knowing she has a child. What exactly is your point? revolt: 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by sunshineyellow: 6:15pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
foolbuster:So we have psychopaths even on NL... Chai. I don't av time for you. Quote me again if you have HIV. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by adontcare(f): 10:44am On Aug 09, 2018 |
The simple truth with some Nigerian men is that, they feel dia wives are their footstool. They don't like d idea of the woman's family nor relatives to come close to their home but they( men) will want their family members to come and go a as freely as they want. Even if they have children outside, they will want the wife to accept without being polite about it. This mindset is bad. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by GraceBestowed(f): 12:15pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
Wow!! I know I’m late to the party but I had to just say this. I don’t understand how parents can toss their child to and fro for the sake of ‘convenience’. I also think it’s super selfish that you said ‘don’t bring a child that’s not mine to my house’. Really?? I pray that little child doesn’t grow up with feelings of rejection and resentment towards her parents. You have the opportunity to affect a young child’s life positively. A wise man would jump at that opportunity. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 8:45pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
GraceBestowed:na so |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Whobedatte(m): 10:17pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
MizMyColi:Aunty, where have you been? Missed your inputs on this forum Your mental sagacity is TUALE |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Whobedatte(m): 10:18pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
MizMyColi:Aunty, where have you been? Missed your inputs on this forum Your mental sagacity is TUALE |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by MizMyColi(f): 12:33am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Whobedatte: Oshey! Mental Sagacity I'm honored 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by abdabass: 5:35am On Aug 10, 2018 |
My dear brother, Please, allow the lady into your home for the sake of your wife considering all the remarks you've given her. The lady is going to be of immense assistance to your wife (her mother) and your twin children. You may at the end of the day like/love her just as you love your children. You may want to streamline your spending on her with a concrete agreement if that is your fear. That is make a note that her father must take care of her school fees and clothing 100% and without any stress to you and your home. Best regards. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by dominique(f): 7:32am On Aug 10, 2018 |
revolt: It's this kind of generalization that I hate, you don't know someone from Adam yet you'll be drawing ridiculous conclusions about them. Single parenthood is not a disease neither is it a crime. The single parents deserve to find love too. However, if a person gets into a relationship with a single parent yet wants nothing to do with the child(ren), then he should never have entered such relationship. If I marry my husband fully aware that he has a child somewhere then he offers to bring in the child at some point but i start resisting. I'm not only evil, I'm stupid as well. In a situation where a child's parents are no longer together, joint custody of the child should be put in place. The Op's wife has not had custody of her daughter in at least five years and he expects it to continue like that? He's not only heartless, he's incredibly stupid as well. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 10:44am On Aug 10, 2018 |
dominique:well lets face reality most women usually pressure men into marriage. (Hopefilly youd not dispute this), now if the guy wad pressured into marriage and shed assured him certain conditions would need to be met for him to marry her then after the marriage she now reneges on the agreement, whats the man expected to do. The day she chose to marry was the day she chose a new path and start a new family. Now if ahes echooses her child over the marriage its simple she shud let the guy go find another woman tht knows what marriage is. Which still boils dpen to the foundation..... do not gve birth for just anybody cause ure vacillating emotionally . Once that happens , the child can never have a normal life. If she still wants to keep the home then shed better indulge the husband and mitigate all fears of him playing second fiddle. That way hell mot feel threatened or cheated. Abusing him ror not accepting a child he jas no biz or obligation for is very irritating. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 11:12am On Aug 10, 2018 |
abdabass:what ure not responsible for you have no control of. Ok check this scenario..once the father takes care of her bills suddenly he develops a sense of priviledge thus can dictate how his child is treated which we know will be unrealistic. The step father would have to be walking on egg shells all the time cos if he innocently tries to discipline the child ehen shes erring and the mum would jump in defense or be suspicious..etc as children we constituted serious nuisance to our parents and in certain cases destroyed their valued properties, the only reason we got away without scars was in the long run blood thicker than water. Feminists shd stop peddling the utopian idea of mixed families. In the real world someone always gets hurt. Either the man wife or the child. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 12:30pm On Aug 10, 2018 |
revolt:You are the one saying crap. Go to the Middle-Belt and the North, where polygamy is very common due to religious reasons, and see how many step-mothers have to accept their husband's children. There is NO woman who knows that a man had kids before his marriage, that will now tell him send those kids packing. What will be the woman's excuse? Afterall, she knew fully well, that he had other children before meeting her, and they were living inside his house with him. Only men who are totally useless and lacking in common sense, will allow a new wife to dictate such terms to him, or allow that rubbish to happen. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by LaudableXX: 12:31pm On Aug 10, 2018 |
revolt:
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Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by foolbuster: 6:42pm On Aug 12, 2018 |
GraceBestowed: Lolz, don't worry your future husband will bring a child he fathered outside of marriage for you to raise in your matrimonial home. When it happens, remember your advice jump on it and be wise ooo |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by grafixdon: 8:06am On Aug 13, 2018 |
InvertedHammer: You're calling him devil because he refused to take what's not belong to him. I don't know how folks like u reason. Have u ever been married? Do you have ur own kids? Do you think is that easy to pay bills, take care of your wife and kids? Now they want to put another burden on him again. The child's father is still alive, he should be responsible for the kid upbringing. If you're calling him names, for what exactly? I pray your find yourself in his shoes someday. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by teemy(m): 12:20pm On Aug 13, 2018 |
@ NairalandFAYOSE A little thought. Assuming a close relative dies and to take care of the kids' upbringing would taking in those kids be hard for you to do. Surely you would want your wife to 'understand'. Now this is her own flesh and blood. I hope this guides you. Cheers |
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