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Poll: How do you guard your heart?If I trust someone, I will let them in, I think they deserve to know how I'm feeling.: 41% (15 votes)If I trust someone, I will let them know how I feel but never let them sway me, I rarely like to show my emotions.: 41% (15 votes) If I trust someone, I will make it very difficult for them to get in. I don't like to show my emotions.: 5% (2 votes) I let nobody in.: 11% (4 votes) This poll has ended |
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Men Who Are Sweet by topup: 3:41am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Hey House!! I hold the opinion that the best man for me is a sweetheart, strong in decision making, financial and career wise, but very soft when it comes to matters of the heart. I'm not talking about a momma's boy or a cry baby - there is a difference!! I am talking about a man who is in control of his emotions, but has emotions to control in the first place However I am not sure if any men want to be like this at all. Check out the poll. |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Faher(m): 3:43am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Haha, you're in the minority. Most ladies like 'em tough Am I wrong, ladies? |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by topup: 3:45am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Faher: What would be your definition of tough? I know a lot of my friends have a no - tear rule, not crying - TEAR!! Not now, not ever, not on the wedding day, not ever. They believe men shouldn't have tears. But I. . lol, want a human being not a robot, and I want the truth, and not a man who straightens himself and puts on a front just to address me. There is something very fascinating and alluring about a man who is composed, but on rare occasions, you see him be human, and feel the way I do. If he never cried, I would not be able to differentiate between levels of pain, and I prefer implosive than explosive. I don't like men who shout "I SAID I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT!!" - not a good point for me. I would prefer the strong silent type (I wish to modify the poll to make option 2 and 3 the same option - but I guess the totals will just be added together - they are basically the same idea). 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by madlady(f): 3:50am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Faher: Correct, your wrong. I hate tough guys. Give me a soft hearted guy any day. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Faher(m): 3:52am On Jun 22, 2010 |
topup: madlady: Well, it's nice to see your type for a change. I'm not bashing you, I'm just stating the norm. There are still many soft guys around though, so you'll find one for sure. Me, I've been hardened by my experiences in life and with women. I'd love to shed a tear every now and then but I simply can't cry no matter the situation (except in extreme physical pain). |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Carolece(f): 3:53am On Jun 22, 2010 |
I like a guy who is not afraid to show his emotions. If I laugh, he laughs with me. If I cry, he crys with me. I want a man who is not afraid to express by words and back it up with actions. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Faher(m): 3:57am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Wow, this is turning out to be one of those threads where ladies claim one thing and do the opposite in the real world. It's common to hear ladies say that a soft guy is a no-no because they want a guy who is tough and can make them feel secure. so why all the forming here? |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by madlady(f): 3:58am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Faher: I understand your stance and at least you do not pretend to be soft. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Faher(m): 3:59am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Carolece: Haha, really? Ladies like guys to cry with them? This is a first. |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Carolece(f): 4:02am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Faher:So you dont cry? What if there's a situation where you had to be there for your wife/gf and it is so solemn that she's crying you would laugh while she's crying? |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Faher(m): 4:07am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Carolece: Honestly, this is beginning to crack me up, haha. Of course, I won't laugh at her. I'll just say sweet words to her and soothe her so she feels comfortable to cry and let everything out. But cry with her? no f3king way!!! |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Carolece(f): 4:13am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Faher:Quite interesting! That is why I PICK, CHOOSE AND REFUSE! Good and compatible men are very very very very very rare. Did I say very? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Faher(m): 4:14am On Jun 22, 2010 |
^^^ fantastic. Good for you My type of women are very very rare too Btw, the type of men you described are not rare at all |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by stilphunky: 4:17am On Jun 22, 2010 |
a soft hearted guy in issues of the heart tends to be soft hearted to certain degree in other areas. |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Carolece(f): 4:21am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Faher:Why did you change your post. See, you have alot of issues. Coward. Stay in your make belief world. I am over in the real world, one day you will get over here, hope it wont be too late though. You need to wake up and smell the damn coffee. |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Faher(m): 4:24am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Carolece: This is what happens when one argues with an immature person. They start attacking you personally, Haha. |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by topup: 4:26am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Faher: No we're not forming!! Typically, with no insult intended, the louder more brash ladies, need more agressive and louder and macho guys, whilst more sensitive ladies, find a deep and strong type very attractive. You will find in my group of friends, my most insecure friends shouting that they want macho guys, whilst my quieter mroe reserved friends saying that they like sensitive guys, but beware, a lot of insecure ladies like gentle guys too, because they'll be gentle with them. Do not believe that there is just ONE view. I'm tired of guys saying being BIG and BULKY is what women want. Find what you're woman wants, but most of all be what you want!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Faher(m): 4:28am On Jun 22, 2010 |
^^^ Nice analysis |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Carolece(f): 4:30am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Faher:Heard that punchline already, try something else buddy. Thats all you had? Coward! |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by topup: 4:31am On Jun 22, 2010 |
stilphunky: Aaah and that's were particular preference comes in, and also complexity. Don't mistake issues of the heart, with anything that could casually make a guy feel something. Issues of the heart mean deep, important, issues, not just "Honey the car ran out of petrol" *sob* But like deaths, if *God forbid* a child of yours died, and you cried by yourself, or if you almost died. I am not saying buckets of tears, but we have tears, I have a younger brother, he has mastered the art of masking his emotions, and finding out where I stand with him and what I do that really gets to him is a lot more difficult. It seems these days men suffer more consequences for shedding a tear or two. But for me, there is nothing more honest than a tear, especially from a sincere guy. On my wedding day, if my guy does shed a tear from the happiest day of his (and my) life, believe me I will not punish him!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Carolece(f): 4:32am On Jun 22, 2010 |
topup:I think it would serve them best if they be what they really [B]ARE[/B] |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Faher(m): 4:32am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Carolece: Well 'coward' is the most overused word by ladies when they want to attack guys. Why am i not surprised? |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by topup: 4:33am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Carolece: Sorry but yes, this is off-topic - though I did not read the initial post that was supposedly changed. |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by topup: 4:34am On Jun 22, 2010 |
No derailing please!! |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by topup: 4:35am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Carolece: Where's the challenge in that?? Not a lot of people are where they want to be, leaving many women the false hope of 'changing a guy into a better man'. I get what you mean though - if you're referring to people pretending, but I'm talking about aiming for better. |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Carolece(f): 4:39am On Jun 22, 2010 |
topup:Sorry re: derailing. My bad. I get you on your last statement, but most times, if one doesnt know who they are, its difficult for them to know what they want. |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Faher(m): 4:44am On Jun 22, 2010 |
Glad to see we're back on track |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Nobody: 4:46am On Jun 22, 2010 |
I like a tough guy who handles me softly when I need a shoulder. In other words, a manly guy with feelings. |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Pweety4me(f): 4:47am On Jun 22, 2010 |
rokiatu:Amen. . .hehe |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by topup: 4:58am On Jun 22, 2010 |
rokiatu: Hmmm, hit it right on the head of the nail!! |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Pweety4me(f): 5:02am On Jun 22, 2010 |
@topup i totally get yu. . .but many guys don't know how 2 work wif women i dunno whether it's there upbringing or they r just nieve But me o i no like crying guy sha. . . 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men Who Are Sweet by Faher(m): 5:05am On Jun 22, 2010 |
^^^ Well, that has been my point all along A guy needs to be tough and caring. But to cry? No-no |
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